it is nice to c greichn getn on with tamra now and vicki needs to get rid of her new boy freind hes just out to get wot he can and he looks a lot like don

What the heck is the problem with you? Let it go with Tamara and Vicki. Get rid of that bum and move ahead.

Gretchen... you ALWAYS make me smile... you are so much fun. Always love watching you and your life. Thank you for being you. A gay fan.

Well said..... I think!

Okay already you and Tamara don't like each other; why do you always have to bring up her name in everything stop giving her the power. It looks like you and the other ladies were having a great time. Also did you design that necklace you had on during your side interview it was pretty.

What a great trip!!!

I think Eddie was just sick of hearing the story about what happened with Simon and so he went to the bathroom. He knew Tamra had her friends at the table to support her. But when it was just him and her he knew she needed support and he was there.

I think you are a great support to Slade :)

agreed!

You are def the reason why watch this show! You are my favorite! I hope the negativity that the other "ladies" blast at you will be repelled by your awesome personality and your posituve outlook on life!

Sending positive light from dearborn, michigan! =)

Gretchen-this whole episode neither Vicki OR Tamra mentioned you, AT ALL yet you just had to get in a dig on them in the scene with the bulls. Get over yourself.

not classy to "name" the bulls after tamra and vicki. also not classy to devote so much time talking about tamra if you dont care about her and want her to leave you alone. gretchen, this doesnt seem like you.

Dear Gretchen, good luck with all your endeavors. I'm sorry you were so hurt by Tamra in the past. I hope you will be able to move on and have a happy life. I wish you and Eddie, the "soap star", who has it going on emotionally & financially, were an item. Don't knock it 'til you've tried it! Good luck!

You girls did have fun and yes it helped Tamra was not there. All she would do was make rude comments about you and the other girls so best you left her at home. Tamra can dish it out but she can't take it. Oh and yes Tamra and Eddie were so cheesy in the kitchen - he is kind of creepy -- perfect for her!

Again glad to see you have some fun on a the trip with the girls -- nice change of pace for OC Housewives.

Why is it so hard to be friends with any of you on FB ? Out of all the girls, you have the best personality. You are smart, and I know you said you love Slade but, you could get any guy you want. Lots of jealous women out there.!! Keep doing what you are doing and the world will be yours!!

Hi Gretchen,

I enjoy watching you on the show because your so genuine and awesome! But... I do feel sometimes you may be a little hard on your boyfriend "Slade." But it's understandable.... I think you both make a great pair. Slade, has a bad name with the other women, but who cares. If you love him, don't hold back in showing him how much. Because he's showing you how much he loves you. I think you both are great together.... Enjoy eachother.

Rena

Would you stop with the Tamra thing, you don't seem to be happy unless you can be putting her or Vicki in the ground. It is very unattractive!

Where was this picture taken??? And you looked beautiful. And btw what was the name of the restaurant you went to in Texas it looked AMAZING!!

I want to like you but please quit judging Tamara, have some compassion. What Tamara does and is different that Jeanna is she doesn't talk to the press. I don't like to ever talk behind someones back so neither is perfect. I do think you need to let it go, your life is working out just drop it already.

Gretchen-you used to be funny with your one or two liners, but now your referrals to sex are a bit too much. It just isn't funny anymore. Tone it down a little.

You're my fav. OC housewife because you have wit and a great sense of humor, unlike the gory Vicki and Tamra. I also like Gina and Fernanda. I think Fernanda is the most civil of all of you guys. Alexis is just like you describe. She just cracks you up with her oddities but I think her nature is much better than Tamra. Alexis just needs to refine her thinking and talking, listening more, and don't jump to any presumptious statements.

Gretchen - I liked you better on the show before you dated Slade. He brings you down. You should hang out more with Vicki and Tamra as they are better people. Peggy's ok.... Some of my favorites from OC are gone...Laurie, Jenna, Lynn......

Gretchen, Really? Tamra should take into consideration how her actions affect others? Simon is the one who threw the dog leash, don't you think Simon should take into consideration HIS actions? It also seems that YOU can say comments without thinking about how it can affect people in the long run, you like to point out others mistakes while you should be looking at your own!!!

Its so sad you dedicated so much of your blog interpreting tamra's scene...if you're so happy then why even mention her? And I do believe you were the one that called Tamra and Vicki bulls in this episode!

Oh how I loved this episode...I live in Texas about 25 minutes from Texas Pride BBQ joint...and we LOVE it! It was so exciting for you all to see the beautiful town I am so fortunate to live in! Orignally from Chicago the military has moved us around A LOT and SA has been the closest to home! Sadly, my family has to leave San Antonio next month for Colorado...I know could be worse places!

Tamara, let me tell you that when I met my husband we were both poor college students and our parents were working class/union workers...we fell in love and worked our way through college, dental school, and residency...I had no idea my boyfriend (now husband of 22 years) would be successful but I had faith! Faith that I had choosen the right mate for me...I just knew he would work hard no matter what and make a good life for me as well as for his family. You live in a world where women marry men already successful...the thought of actually working together to make a home is foreign to them...just because Slade doesn't have money now doesn't mean he won't work hard in the future...the economy has taken a toll on everyone! I think you already know he is the one for you but the romantic idea that a man must already have money is clouding your judgement....Don't use the other women as a measure of love because money can come and go in a heart beat and in the end you will only have each other to rely on ...that should be your yard stick!

Gretchen your so right about Tamra !!! You hit the nail on the bull a$$

So now your starting on Eddie ? Give it a rest !!!!!

Dear Gretchen, I can answer that question for you, the one you asked about how do you know if he's the one, or is love enough. The answer is....when you dont ask. If you have been with him more than six months, and you are still asking, then he isnt the one. You will understand what I am talking about someday when you meet the right one.

If you let your heart outweight what your mind knows to expect you're doomed. Sometimes love is not enough.

i think eddie just was tired of hearing "the story", it must be really tough on him, and his tune may have changed later because his girlfriend seemed to be on the brink of a nervous breakdown!! I think you are deliberately misunderstanding the situation, if it was Jeana or Alexis, you may have had a different opinion. And did you need to write a whole paragraph about her? cmon...

Whiskey River and a NASCAR event.....tell #88 Dale Jr. a big hello from all his TEXAS fans!!!! Now there is a catch for you!

i really like you gretchen but i think its time to move on from bad mouthing tamra. its getting to the point of obsessive. i think you and tamra would like each other if you gave it a chance. shes much better than alexis.. ughh!!

Gretchen, I really enjoy your blogs and that you try to focus on the positive parts of the show. I also like how you try to look at both sides of the story. I have to say, I totally agree with you about the scene with Eddie and Tamra in the kitchen! I feel so bad for Tamra because she was in so much pain during the scene. It was so awkward when Eddie seemed to be giving her the cliche and cheesy lines, "I am there for you, babe." Ew. Anyhow, your TX trip seemed like a lot of fun. Throughout all the seasons, you have come across as the most loyal and trustworthy friend out of all the ladies. Your friends are fortunate to have you!

SO funny what you said about Eddie auditioning for a soap! That is EXACTLY what I was thinking!! So awkward to watch I actually had to leave the room for a minute! You are great! Keep doing what you are doing, sister!

Gretchen, I understand your anger toward Tamra. That being said, you cannot judge what she's going through. I've been there. I had a Simon of my own and even though you are so unhappy in your marriage and you know that the best thing for everyone involved (including the kids) is divorce, divorce is one of the hardest things a person can go through when there are minor children involved being dragged through it. Every single thing I see in Tamra that involves her divorce is completely genuine. I know because I've lived it. You find yourself wanting to never speak of it again, however, you can't stop talking about it. You want nothing more than to be on a friendly basis for the kids sake, but have so much hatred in your heart, it's nearly impossible to do. You want to be able to hold a normal conversation that ends up in a terrible argument. You laugh about it, you cry about it, you can't stop thinking about it. It's all genuine and the fact that she has somewhat of a support system in Eddie is huge. It's like having animosity between you and Tamra and Vicki and being able to talk to Slade about it (only a million times amplified). So stop knocking her about that. It's not fair for Ms. Gretchen, the fun-loving single girl with her wonderful life to judge someone going through a tough time with her ex and the kids. And for the record, what she did when she filed the report is exactly what she was supposed to do and had she done that the first time he acted out, it may not have happened again. So go sit and play with all your pretty make up while real life goes on around you. I usually like you, you're one of my favorites, but this week, I'm really pissed that you are playing God with your judgemental words.

I think your fun and so silly and I love that. But just because you laugh after every negative comment you make doesn't make it ok. I'm finding myself fast forwarding through your interviews because I can't handle all the giggles after all of your hurtful comments.

So true!

Hi Gretchen, I must come out to one of your fun outings!! The time in San Antonio looked like a blast!!

And you had the best people with you.. Peggy needs to lighten up a bit.. I didn't think Alexis said anything that seemed like she was in a "contest" with Peggy, as peggy claimed.

Take care and stay true!!

Gretchen Thanks for going to Texas. My husband is in the military and I haven't been home to Texas since we left years ago. With that said. I do adore you honey. You should find yourself a sexy cowboy who is going to hold you in high regard as you deserve.

gretchen, please move on from the Tamra issue. you definitely dont have to like her, but your comments are making you seem petty.

Really? Bagging on Eddie? You get what you give....

Leave Tamra alone!

You are the best! I wish you all the best!

Gretchen please check your website we want to buy purses but almost eveything is sold out

Gretchen let it go with the Tamra thing. By continuing to talk about it, you continue the cycle, which makes you no better than what you say Tamra did. She was wrong, you are wrong. Move on!

Its really sad that you spend so much time on Tamara- Just concentrate on your own life. It just makes you look small devoting so much of your conversation about her and making jabs at her every chance you get. You say your are happy with Slade right? All this just makes you look jealous of Tamara and Eddie.

Hi,

I'm really glad you had a great time in Texas. It looked super fun. I kind of wish you would stop referring to Tamra and Vicki in rude ways,though. I understand there was drama in the past, and there were alot of angry words and hurt feelings, but you all are adults. Tamra barely mentions you in the show, yet you are always sliding in a comment or two about her. Yes, it's no secret that she doesn't like Slade. There are alot of viewers that think you are better off without him. And if you don't trash-talk those people, why her? I think you'd be alot happier if you took a higher road and didn't walk about her.

You were one of my fav housewives, but now your behavior is causing me not to enjoy your scenes. I hope everyone can get along and be happy!

I think it's great that you seem happy with Slade and not focused on $$ only, best of luck to you both! It is interesting though that even with Vicki/Tamara not around at all you make sure to get a rude comment in (about the big, mean bull being named Tamra)...probably just should let it go if you really don't care about her.

I admire you for sticking up for character over wealth. Good for you.

Gretchen, I really, really like you. I think that you are hilarious and pretty insightful. I do agree, step back from commenting on Tamara. She's just really not worth your energy. I'm sorry about her divorce, but I think she will get through it. Just let her be and continue to have fun and grow your business. Congrats on that. Also, BTW, I'm rooting for you and Slade. It looks like you really love each other. Day to day life can be difficult, but I think you two make a great team. (tell Slade I think he is darn handsome!)

Hey Tamra! Damn girlfriend! I just checked out your handbag line and I cannot believe you are already sold out!! Good for you Gretchen!! I just wanted to write and let you know that I've always admired you....for your business sense and your ability to come out on top but lately I've noticed you making more and more negative comments regarding Vicki and Tamra. It seems like you started out this season with a "Hit them first!" type of attitude. I was so sad because every season you have always stayed on top of the drama by not saying too much. I really admired that quality in you. Please try to refrain from on the negative comments on camera. It's making you look like the bad guy....especially since Vicki and Tamra are going through horrible times in their personal lives. Just rise above it and move on. It's funny to look in from the outside as us viewers can. You and Tamra would probably be great friends if you both could stop the ridiculous behavior. Ask her to lunch and start fresh girl! Life is too short. Besides, after the launch of your handbag line you're going to be so rich you can BUY some new friends!!!! LOL Best wishes to you and God Bless! BTW, love your parents! My parents have been together for 60 yrs and it's a wonderful thing to see. My hubby and I have been married 11 yrs now and if I haven't killed him yet, then we might just make it to 60!!! lmao

You always put a smile on my face - you are sweet and funny. Yeah, the kitchen scene was most def a bad soap scene!