Peggy Tanous

Peggy explains her struggle with postpartum and why she wanted to include it in the show.

on Mar 27, 20110

Another week has flown by and here we are again hopefully making your Sunday night interesting and fun!

This was a very hard episode for me to watch. The past three and a half years of living with postpartum depression has been the toughest thing in my life to get through. When I was asked by my actress friend Tanya to take part in a documentary about postpartum, I immediately accepted with the hope that my experiences could help other women out there. Make sure to look for the documentary. Hopefully it will be out in the next few months! It is called When The Bough Breaks. I knew making it a part of the show could help bring more much needed attention to a serious problem that easily gets ignored and not treated with proper care. I had some really dark days, and watching myself describe these days made me feel like I was crazy at times and made me hurt for my children that I was so angry, short tempered, easily overwhelmed, and depressed. At times I had drastic thoughts of not being here for for my family and that they would be better off without me.

It was so tough on Micah as well. When I heard his comments about what I went through, it made me so sad, because he is such an amazing husband and Dad, and he felt there was nothing he could do to help me and even felt like he could never make me happy. I'm so lucky that he never gave up hope on us working through this! The first year I was going through it I was in complete denial and looking back it was like I was in a fog. I finally had everything I had wanted, a great husband and amazing children, but I felt as if nothing was ever enough to make me happy. It was as if I never had enough of anything, but now being healthier I realize it isn't about getting enough of something, but rather having a different frame of mind! Now that I've come out of the fog, I am focusing on taking each day as it comes and realizing every moment is a gift. I am also putting my energy into now developing healthy, meaningful friendships that are not competitive or superficial, but supportive and sharing of similar interests and paths for the future! Stay tuned to my website at www.peggytanous.com for my tips on battling postpartum without prescription medication.

Watching Tamra and Vicki in Cabo was hilarious! Loved the scene of them trying to figure out what they do first, lick the salt or suck the tequila! Can you say blonds! It was great they healed their friendship while whooping it up! Vicki was milking the whole apology thing a bit, but it was funny! I couldn't believe how much the guy at the pool looked like Vicki's husband Donn! He could have been his brother! Watching Tamra do the body shot was more proof that being with Eddie really allows her to be herself and not feel guilty about it.

63 comments
amiew
amiew

Peggy, I want to thank you for sharing you're story, when I was watching the show I was and still go through postpartum. My baby girl is now 5 months old and I have good days and bad days. I felt like I was a bad mom. My postpartum isn't wanting to hurt myself or my baby it is just a constant worry. I always worry about the wierdest thing, and I though I was loosing my mind. I would wake up freaking out that a bullet would come through my wall and kill my daughter. It is a day by day struggle and It helps to know that I am not the only one. Thank you so much. God bless amie

Brooke Haun
Brooke Haun

I was just watching re runs of the show since I don't have time to watch when the shows air i make sure to spend thursdays catching up. Just a few minutes ago I was watching this episode and want to commend you for your courage to admit in front of the whole world! I think you are an amazing woman by you struggled through it and made it better (even though as u said it is a "take it day-by-day" kinda illness). I had my son, who is now 6, at the innocent age of 16. Within a week of having him home I lost my mind and fell into a deep dark place in my life. I tried various medications for post partum but @ the time we couldnt find one to help. I felt awful that I didnt just walk out of the hospital and nothing came natural! (partially bcuz I was soo young. I mean I went from picking out prom dresses.. to being married shortly after I found out and then having a little baby boy who solely depended on me! Since none of the doc's could help with medication, and all i could think about was killing myself or maybe me and the baby.. and that scared me to no end because i knew that wasnt me and I wanted to make it better but just had no clue how to do it. With no guidance and me feeling so quilty that I didnt walk out of the hospital a stepford wife that could handle it all. Then when Kyler was 6 months old I was given a RX for Lortab for an abcess tooth and thats when I found not only did the pain pills help my tooth but it numbed me enough to THINK FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE I HAD GIVEN BIRTH i finally felt like "ok I can do this"! This led me down the drug path from May 2005 and quit on my own cold turkey 4/1/2011 and now that I am out of the fog of dugs and clear headed I feel exstatic to get to live again! and I wish you lots of luck with your beautiful family =) and if you have any tips to help with the post partum day to day struggles feel free to email me if you can see it brooke32566@yahoo.com Thank you Brooke

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

I'm glad that you choose to speak out about post pardum depression. I think it's not talked about enough. I applaud your courage to talk about something so personal and run the risk of being judged for the things you said. Micah seems like a really cool dude and he balances you well.

KatieDE
KatieDE

Thank you so much for sharing your story so openly and honestly! My hope for you is that each day gets better than the one before it! You seem to be SUCH a good mommy to those 2 beautiful girls, thank God you have such a wonderful support system around you!!!

God bless!

lala77
lala77

I am actually watching this episode before I watch tonight's episode. I am a week behind, because my little sister was in town with her baby. She is suffering from Postpartum depression, and she was here to get some 'good girl-sister' time. She just flew home this morning, and while I am catching up on the housewives, I can't tell you how much it meant to me for you to share your experience. I am praying for my sister like crazy, and I am hoping she gets through this dark time in her life. Thank you again.

Meagan Kemp
Meagan Kemp

Peggy,

I just watched the episode where you were interviewed about your post pardum experience. It was obviously very hard for you to express. I want to thank you for going through that difficulty. I want to thank you for being open about what you've been through. I want to tell you that I know it has helped more mother's than just me.

My children are also very close together (15 months apart, a boy and a girl). My post pardum experience is so similar to yours I literally was in tears as I listened to you. Then when your little Capri cut her finger and you started to get anxious, my anxiety kicked in as I pictured my little girl in that situation. I completely understand.

I also want to applaud your husband for being so supportive and understanding. I am blessed with a very similar man, who adores me and our children and knows that post pardum is a process for me. We are also a very naturalistic and homeopathic family, and we know with time and the right homeopathy I will get back to healthy on a more permanent level.

Thank you Peggy, from the sincerest place in my heart, thank you for showing me that I'm not alone, that other women struggle and that there is light at the end of this very dark tunnel.

Thanks for sharing this!
Thanks for sharing this!

Peggy, Thank you so much for sharing this! It's something that people sometimes feel ashamed to talk about. I know I have felt that way. It can make you feel like a bad parent and it's truly not true. I as well am struggling with and have struggled with PPD. I have wonderful 2 children and 1 on the way and with all three of my pregnancies I have had PPD. I too have wreslted with taking meds or not. Everyone is different and we cant say if one should or shouldn't take mediation. Thank you so much for talking about this so publicly. I believe you helped a lot of women.

PemaInSanDiego
PemaInSanDiego

Hi Peggy, Your a welcome addition to RHOC! Opening up took courage, you are not only brave, you are kind. I have bouts of anxiety, I so empathize with you. mine are less and less as time goes on. meditation has helped, acupuncture and even diet which I believe your mother in law, I am for a more holistic approach for health, so it is wonderful to see this being shown. You're husband is dreamy and the girls adorable with a capital A. happiness, Pema

walrusjmr
walrusjmr

thank you so much for sharing. You are so brave for sharing. I have always dealt with babyblues and that was hard. made me question everything i did with my daughter-whatever i did i thought would hurt her. she is 15 now and we have a great relationship & she is a great kid who is kind and helpful and gets A's. so even though i didn't breast feed (couldn't) or didn't make her food from scratch at first--she turned out fine--more than fine

DA in NY
DA in NY

I had very bad depression after both of my children were born more than 20 yrs ago, no one discussed PPD I thought I was going crazy! Had no time to even worry about myself had to keep going, no one ever gave me a break to even take care of just me. Sometimes I wonder how I managed to deal, I guess because I was never allowed to take time for myself, I came from the world of just deal with it and get over it! One other thing that bothers me with you is why didn't you go to the hospital with your baby girl? I never let anyone take care of my children expecially if I was so freaked out like you acted, I did everything with my kids and worked 2 jobs!

KDB
KDB

Peggy, stay strong and trust in GOD, you have a beautiful family.Take care of yourself.

mom of two
mom of two

Peggy, You are a breathe of fresh air for the show not to mention extremely brave for talking about your postpartum. I went through it myself this past year and know how terrifying/ irrational the thoughts that run through your mind can be. I have friends that have also gone through postpartum but find it hard to even share with them how sad I truly was at times. Praise God for carrying me through because without him I would still be lost. You seem to be a great mom and have been blessed with an amazingly supportive husband. Please continue to tell your story. May God Bless you today and always.

Kallie
Kallie

Peggy, I was so incredibly refreshed and touched to see you share your experience with postpartum depression. I can imagine how living somewhere like Orange County could make you want to always project a particular image, and I think that is so incredible and brave of you to share such an intimate and personal journey on a national platform.

My mom experienced postpartum the first few years of my sister and I's lives, but she found a great therapist and regimen that helped her manage it, and my only memories of her are as a wonderful, loving mom. I'm confident that you will find the same peace, with such an amazing husband and the willingness to be so vulnerable and honest.

I think your decision to share your story has completely changed the landscape of the Housewives, in the best possible way. Thank you for being so honest and genuine, and I will be rooting for you from this point forward!

Best, Kallie

monakaykay
monakaykay

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm concerned that it is unhealthy to have the stress of filming, when you are already dealing with mental health issues from postpartum depression. The housewife fans can be brutal with their comments. Please don't take the negative comments to heart as Gretchen has done, as she is stewing in resentment.

Heather Q
Heather Q

Peggy... I love the housewives... it is my guilty pleasure... :) That being said, I was so glad to see you discuss your PPD issue on the show. I'm sure it was a very difficult thing to talk about, but it seems to be considered such a taboo topic that it needs to be brought to the forefront so women know they are not alone or "crazy" when they experience similar feelings after giving birth. I too suffer from PPD (brought on after the birth of my 2nd beuatiful daughter)... 2 1/2 yrs after giving birth, I still maintain treatment to make sure I stay a calm and good mommy. The judgements from people asking why I'm still taking medication and "shouldn't I be over it by now" are harsh, but until they have experienced something like this, I know they will never understand. I especially found your MIL's comment about how your polarity had flipped very interesting. That is something I had never considered before and plan to look into!! Anyway, thanks again for sharing a serious piece of your life!!

rsuzanne
rsuzanne

wow...I'm not alone. I have been suffering with depression for a few years now after the birth of my twin girls. This year has been the worst for me. I have had help with prescription medication but it seems to level off. I feel good for a few weeks & then the depression comes back. The doctors just up my dosage which works for a while but as I said, the dark days come back. I feel worthless, useless, sad, angry, unhappy...I feel like I can't do anything right, like I'm a bad mom. I have so much but it never feels good enough. I am lucky to have the husband I do...he is my rock. I pray that like your husband, he doesn't give up on me....because if I were him, I may have given up a long time ago. Thank you for sharing your story. I don't feel as alone & as guilty for feeling the way I do & it also makes me see that even all the money in the world doesn't make the sadness go away. I will be researching your website to natural solutions to postpartum depression as I don't think the medicine thing is working for me, nor is it healthy. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

JMR
JMR

Thank you for your openness about postpartum depression. I am a survivor of severe postpartum depression, anxiety, and panic disorder with a darling 16 month old son. Many people do not realize that 1 in 5 women will suffer from a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder. It is a real illness - not just something a person can 'tough out'. I applaud your efforts for being open and honest. As I always say about my struggle, honesty breaks down stigma. From one surviving and thriving mama to another - bravo! Your story just may be the catalyst to save a woman's life or repair a family that is reeling from the havoc that ppd can reek. Also, please be open to the thought of medication. I do not mean for you, every woman's road to recovery is her own and should be respected, but for the legions of women out there who do need medication to survive and thrive. I feel that whatever treatment method is decided upon by a woman, her family, and medical professionals should be applauded - be it therapy (CBT/EMDR/interpersonal, etc.), meds, accupuncture, homrone therapy, light therapy, nutrtitional supplements, yoga, excercise, weaning from breastfeeding, etc. The road to recovery is bumpy enough - as women we need to support the journey that feels best for that particular person. Thanks again! Joan from MN - Happy, Healthy, Surviving and Thriving, Proud Mama to a beautiful 16 month old boy

pfeiffersvu
pfeiffersvu

Peggy, You truly need to seek the help of a true physican! I believe in some things holistic,but this could develop,if it already hasn't into serious depression!

KBK
KBK

Peggy,

I would love it if you could tell me where you got the black top with gold metal hoop details ??? I loved it :)

thanks

Robyn :)
Robyn :)

Thanks for being so willing to share your struggle with postpartum depression. That is one of the things I worry will happen if I ever have a baby. I have anxiety and I also suspect mild depression and take a prescription drug for it. I think you mentioned something about also having anxiety and I am curious to know how you control it without prescription meds. Maybe you will include that on your website ?

I was a little baffled at to why you didn't take your daughter to the ER and instead had Micah do it, but I guess it was probably better to have him there as he was calmer. I can understand why you didn't want to take your other daughter along. Glad it wasn't serious!!

Natasha D.
Natasha D.

Peggy this episode was so touching and I am glad you opened up about it . You seem like the most honest and down to earth house wife. Keep it up and I hope you are soon 100% free of your postpartum depression. All the best and much love

sleek
sleek

Peggy Your So Brave!!! I love you on the show I cant wait til we get know you a little better.I am glad your blog isn't about bashing someone else. You are so real keep it up!!!:>

germangirl
germangirl

omg. i thought i didnt like you, until this episode. i went through the same thing, got on an anti depressent for a few months and all better! please consider speaking with an MD. i promise you, u wont need it forever and it will help with all the anxiety issues u have. God bless and keep you, and thank you SO MUCH for putting yourself out there to help other women. best HW episode ever!!!!!

FlamencoFalana
FlamencoFalana

Thanks for sharing your struggle. There is nothing wrong if you need prescription medication. You'd give a diabetic insulin, some people need medications.

lease don't count it out as a solution for someone in this situation.

SunRae
SunRae

Thanks so much for opening up about this topic. You've already made such an impact! Sunday's episode really hit close to home being a mom myself. I'm not going to lie, I shed a few tears! I'm so glad you included your website. I was going to ask where I could find more information on homeopathics. I think it's awesome that you guys use these practices and are informing others. Way to go!!

Thanks Peggy!
Thanks Peggy!

Thanks Peggy! I've gone through the exact same thing and thought that I was loosing my mind, even my family didn't know what was wrong with me. You've made it okay for women all everywhere who are experiencing post pardum depression to not be ashamed when speaking of it! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!

littlecountess
littlecountess

Thank you for sharing your story of depression. I appreciate the holistic attitude but sometimes you need different meds prescribed by a medical doctor after extensive testing. Please consider this as a supplement. God Bless you and your family. You probably don't realize it but you may have saved someone's life with your story. I wish Bravo would show this side more than the tacky & trashy stories. Good Luck, may the stars shine down upon you

FanFare57
FanFare57

Wow! I never knew that postpartum depression could last 3 years. That's unbelievable. After my second child was born, I experienced "baby blues" for a few months only. It was very mild compared to what you've been going through. Hopefully, things continue to improve for you.

Kathryn in Michigan
Kathryn in Michigan

I'm single and in my mid-20s, but would like a family someday. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your struggles with the world. Women in general can put so much pressue on themselves to do EVERYTHING in life, and then are expected to be 100 percent happy at all times. I found your story and struggles to find your balance as a new mom touching, and will keep a mental note of it all. These are the kind of things we all wish people WOULD have shared with others before having kids, and you went and educated the masses! BRAVO for being so brave! Best wishes towards health for you and your family!

LaineyLainey
LaineyLainey

I think it should be mandatory that all pregnant women should undergo some sort of training/awareness class so that they will know what the signs of post partum depression are so that they don't have to be eaten up with guilt and unhappiness when/if they experience it. I admire you for having the courage to speak on this topic.

WA
WA

I really commend you for sharing your story of post partum depression. The thing that made me truly sad is that you have suffered for so long with this illness. I understand that you want(ed) to try a holistic approach. I just wonder that if you had tried an anti-depressant, that are well researched and studied, you could have possibly felt better a long time ago. To suffer for so long is heartbreaking. I think women (and men) should not be embarrassed to try an anti-depressant. It can truly help. Please make sure that on your website you do not shame women who try anti-depressants for post partum depression. This will only set women back and keep them in hiding with their illness. If holistic works - Great! If it doesn't, please try other things. I use Reiki, massage, nutrition, exercise and an antidepressant to keep me feeling like myself and it works for me. Everyone is different and should keep all options available to them. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best.

holistic nurse
holistic nurse

I applaud your approach to no antibiotics if not necessary, but if you are going to give your children supplements you need to know the side effects. Fish oil being a blood thinner means excessive bleeding! A multivitamin is a wonderful intervention to anyone's life but a child on fish oil the benefits do not outweigh the risks. Chances at being injured are greater as a child and fish oil is not beneficial to their health. I am sure your kids are active enough and eat well to live without fish oil! I am not being critical of you think that you are a wonderful momma!

jude1234
jude1234

It is wonderful to see a reality show deal with real issues that affect so much of us in real life and watch it unfold in daily routines. Depression and other mental illness affects so many and yet it is never dealt with as a part of our reality. It is as heartbreaking as finding out someone has a physical illness such as cancer. Thank you Peggy for introducing an emotional issue into a program that centers on so much idealism and letting us see that many people suffer from real life issues.

Elayna
Elayna

I WISH YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY WELL. I am sorry for your postpartum depression. You are lucky to have a wonderful husband, great mother-in-law, and two adorable daughters. Your love for them shows.

Maribel
Maribel

Dear Peggy,

My heart cried out for you. I too know what it's like to battle depression. I heard you talking and it was as if I heard myself. I'm so glad you are doing better and I will pray for that to continue.

Lots of hugs! Maribel

Kelly Van
Kelly Van

Peggy,

I really have a new-found respect for you after watching last night's episode. I have an 11-week old daughter and am currently experiencing Post-Partum Anxiety. I have horrible thoughts of throwing her down the stairs and it's terrifying. I am getting help for it. Thank you for being so open!

hsn
hsn

God bless you. Restore your friendship with Alexis. Tamra says in her blog thatvu both have become like sisters????? Watch your back girl, that's all I am going to say.

Sachambe
Sachambe

Thank you for being so open about your experience with postpartum depression. It is people like you who are shedding light, and removing the stigma, around this very prevalent condition. I just love your relationship with your husband Micah! He is such a sweet, understanding husband. What a catch! I wish you and your beautiful family all the best! Thank you for bringing such a wonderful, positive presence to the show (:

Dani5050
Dani5050

Peggy.......I was both shocked and inspired by you sharing your story with the world. I too experienced (and at times feel I am still) PPD after the birth of my second son 7 months ago (I also have an 18 month old). On the outside it seems like I have it all.....great husband, gorgeous house, healthy beautiful children, I get to be a stay at home mom yet I often can't shake these feelings of sadness and there are lots of days I don't want to get out of bed and do not know why. Please continue to share your story......I am hoping to learn some new ways of coping through your sharing. xoxoxo

EliseR
EliseR

Peggy thank you for sharing your story about postpartum depression. I too suffered the same and it really is an illness and it's hard for others to understand that are not experiencing it. I also love how in to astrology you are! I am a leo so I am a fellow fire sign :) The part that cracked me up the most was when you said Micah was a libra so he would have a calming effect so true, as I am dating a libra and they are very well balanced and easy going :) You have a beautiful family! Glad you joined this season.

susie q.
susie q.

You are SO LUCKY w ur husband! I am sure he is not perfect - who is......but he seems GREAT! Good luck to you all!

Lovethe OC
Lovethe OC

Peggy,

Thanks for opening up to us this episode! I think that there are so many women that will appreciate knowing someone like you went through something like that and that they are not alone.

I really like you as an addition to the cast! You are refreshing because you seem genuianlly kind. A lot of the other women have gotten so catty. Hope that you stay sweet!!

NYMOMcanrelate
NYMOMcanrelate

Thanks for sharing - we need more awareness - we need people not to be embarrassed or ashamed and get good help - I do not take the medical but a more holistic approach to my depression struggles - I will look up your website. I have done some natural stuff that has help but I am limited on what I personally can take so it becomes difficult on the bad days. You and Vicki are the ones I love so far this season - your mother in law was a hoot - your husband is a gem, keeping you on my prayer list.

tam. e.
tam. e.

Thank you for addressing depression. I think you are awesome & I wish you all that is beautiful & happy!

Kelsie
Kelsie

Thank you for sharing your post-partum story...I don't feel so alone or ashamed now.

HousewifeHYSTERIA
HousewifeHYSTERIA

Thank you for sharing your poignant story. I am so sorry for your postpartum depression, and find it incredibly brave and strong of you, with the support of your husband, to open the window of this disease to your viewers. Best of luck in all things. You are a lovely person.

natalia412
natalia412

You and Micah seem like wonderful parents. Love the team-work!

laulau
laulau

Peggy, I simply think you'e terrific!

MeTime
MeTime

Postpartum for me was awful and the sad thing is, I didn't even realize how horrible I was feeling. I kept blaming it on my hormones getting back on track. I was crying all the time and felt guilty because this is supposed to be the happiest time in a woman's life (aside from getting married). I would look at my son and cry and cry. I was trying to breastfeed and it wasn't working out. My husband finally said it is okay for you to feed him formula. Stop doing this to yourself and speak to your doctor. Your mental health comes first.

I got the help I needed, and there is NOTHING wrong with having "ME" time. We all need it. For me, exercise and lots of walks around the block when I was feeling overwhelmed worked wonders!

Don't ever feel guilty! You are and always will be a great Mom!!