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Peggy Tanous

Dinner Party Drama

Peggy expresses her disappointment with Alexis and Jim.

May 1, 2011

As you could see, we had a very romantic setting. Most everyone was coupled up, and I had live, beautiful music, so I get that Alexis missed Jim, but to leave the table throughout the entire five courses served was ridiculous. Gretchen didn't have Slade with her, but she didn't cause a ridiculous scene. There was obviously something more going on. You don't cry and freak out like that unless something really bad is going on. In my opinion they had a major fight earlier in the night. It was rude and selfish for Alexis to behave that way. If I was upset with Micah and having a hard time being without him, I would excuse myself and go home. She said I didn't have her back, and that I kicked her while she is down. How is that? Maybe if she explained to me what really was going on, I could have been more empathetic, but I was hosting a party and couldn't spend all my time in the bathroom making her feel better. I nicely went to the bathroom door after she had been gone from the table over thirty minutes to ask her if we should start dinner without her and tell her she should pull it together or go home to Jim. She was holding up the entire party. Perhaps this was her way to cause drama or get a lot of camera time that night. Funny it was during my event. Our friendship had already changed just before we started filming, but I kept thinking it would go back to normal. Alexis made a comment that I should have been happy she was there and not care about Jim. I was happy she was there until she got out of hand and disrupted my entire party. And I was upset about Jim, because I kept telling her I felt they changed since I joined the show, and when he blew off our party, Micah and I both felt it was another sign of them blowing off the friendship.

As for all the other drama occurring during the night, I thought it was very rude for Gretchen's assistant to say Tamra found Eddie off an escort site. And I was sad to see Donn and Vicki getting upset with each other about not having kids. It appears they had problems when they got married, and now they blame each other. I did feel bad for Donn, because he was trying to apologize.

As for the amazing music during my dinner party, my dear friend and two time cancer survivor, Jessy Kyle, flew out from Philadelphia to entertain us for the evening. She is such a beautiful person inside and out, and her music radiates that! I truly feel she can be the next Sade! You can check out her music at www.jessykyle.com.

Thanks for all your continued support! And as promised, I finally have the products I personally take for my baby blues (among my other supplements) available on www.peggytanous.com! Don't forget to also follow me on Twitter @peggytanous and like my fan page on Facebook
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Make sure to tune in next week when I do a very sexy photo shoot to surprise my honey for his birthday. Make it a great week! Health, happiness, light, and love!

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You throw the bomb of parties!! Wow...I haven't seen a party that nice on ANY of the housewives. Way to party! Too bad that the immature little brats that you invited tried to ruin it. They all were so rude to you and your husband, the singer and the chef. These housewives were brought up in barns and have NO manners at all.

I feel horrible for you that your dinner party went South, I guess pun intended.

You put together a beautiful evening and all of your guest behaved poorly!

Wow, All i could think tonight was poor Peggy. Could all of your guests have been any more disrespectful? Even the men let the women bring them down to there level of cattiness.

Peggy your lucky the mean girls so far are nice to you. The digs were ridiculous. Gretchen is being smart by not marrying Slade right now...but all Tamra does is dig at her. She is working. Jim has every right to say no...I am not going to listen to their venom. My hubby would say no too.

Peggy, your dinner party looked amazing! Being able to enjoy a small private meal cooked by world-renown chefs is an incredible experience you offer to your friends! Next time Alex throws a fit, give me a call and I'll gladly take her place :)

You were a wonderful and gracious hostess. I felt so badly for you when Alexis acted nasty. Her behavior was bizarre, but you handled it really well!

Yes, it was very beautiful, but maybe the majority of your guests would have preferred balloons and a clown, since the majority of them behaved like they were 5 years old. What a waste of great food, and beautiful music. Invite me next time, I promise you there won't be any drama. I know how to conduct myself as a guest in someone's home.

Lovely,lovely, lovely all around. If you wanted to have no drama, you don't invite the guests you did.....they are always a mix for major drama.

P.S. skip the microphone....really

Peggy - you are like a breath of fresh air! You should have thrown Alexis & Gretchen out of your party - they were over the top rude. Tamra's not my fav, but she seems like she has really been trying to make amends this season & that moron Gretchen keeps shutting her down...Eddie seems like he's a really positive influence on her & she seems to be genuinely happy. You seem to be good with her also. Can't say the same for Alexis & Gretchen - they're like high school...good luck!

You are going to call out Gretchens guest being rude and also Alexis but say nothing about Tamra,Vicki, and Donn's comments?? Not to mention what Micah said to Alexis' friend, I am shocked that you would point out that one little comment

you didn't find it rude as well that Tamra acted like a little girl & was listening at the bathroom door? thats so immature and childish & if I was you, I would of been mad that she was just adding to the childish little games.

Peggy, You and Micha remind me of me and my husband!! I love watching you two. As for your dinner party, it was beautiful and amazing, I just wish the ladies behavior would've mirrored the kind of event they were attending. A lot of childish activities transpired from this event you hosted, I wish as a viewer we got to see a lot more of the planning and coordination that went into it, rather then what the ladies were trying to one-up each other about. It was beautiful and great to see nonetheless, and I am really looking forward to seeing your role the rest of the season, you're definitely a fresh breath of air amidst the drama!!! Thanks for the positivity!!

You, my sweet girl... are my favorite !! Thank the Lord above for a sane person..locked in a mental ward with all those other women....geegad. xxoo

Peggy,

Your dinner party was absolutely beautiful and I'm sure you and your husband put a great deal of thought and effort into it. Too bad some of your guests acted so childishly. You and Micah deserved so much more.

Peggy, I think that you were too concerned about your party being perfect. There's no such thing as a perfect party. All that really matters is that you and your guests have fun. The thing I found shocking was when Alexis was crying and you didn't even try to console her or cheer her up. I get that you're the host, but when a friend is in need (for whatever reason) you should be there for them. I'm surprised Alexis didn't walk out when you said "You need to either get yourself together or leave." You came off looking very selfish.

You obviously put a lot of work into your dinner party and it was a shame the drama had to put a damper on things. I can understand you being concerned that Gretchen and Alexis came with different people, but given the dynamic between everyone, I understand the choices they made. Gretchen knew Tamara would be there w/Eddie and knowing how much Tamara and Vickie talk bad about Slade, I would not bring him either. Alexis was clearly upset and maybe she did not handle things the best way, but again I'm not sure I understand how it was ok with you for Vickie and Tamara to make fun of her. I also don't understand why you had no problem with Tamara listening through the door on the conversation between Gretchen and Alexis. You found fault with what Gretchen's friend said but yet it was find for Tamara and Vicki to say mean things about Gretchen and Alexis??? What's up with that???

Nice party Peggy. Everything looked beautiful and delicious.It's obvious that Alexis was fighting with her husband. If he was at home pouting or with a client working, Alexis wouldn't be on the phone crying because she was upset to be alone at your party. She sure goes shopping without hubby alot. Besides she brought someone with her. I agree, how rude. Also Alexis said on Andys show last night that she was upset because she lied to you about her husband not being there. And then later she said that Jim called you earlier in the week and told you he wouldn't be coming to your party. Well if he called why the lie in the first place. i guess her Jesus says its alright?

My dear sweet Peggy!!! I have worked at a high end Private Dinner club for 10 years, and NEVER have I seen people act the way those BROADS did at your party!!!They did not know how to act "PROPERLY" at all!!!SOOOO Disrespectful, it was discusting!!! They should stop bitching about what they dont have and be happy with what they do have!!! You have so much CLASSS ooozing out you & your husband!!!You are my favorite by far!!

Great party, the food looked delicious, Alexis "ruined" a pleasant evening with her drama. Doesn't she think that you would see the episode? You were right in asking her to compose herself or go home to her husband, if her husband does not want to film with you guys then Bravo should take note and not film him at all.

You did nothing wrong! Be wary of Tamra though or be ready to hear crap she says about you!

Peggy,

Your party was beautiful and it shows that you and Micah took a lot of time to make it great. I know that for me I had a hard time watching the show last night, not because of your party persay but because of how ugly everyone was being. Not just Gretchen and her friend, but also Tamara, Eddie, Vickie, and Don. I can understand if you do not get along with everyone, but you do not know what is going on in everyones life and sometimes you just have to be the grown up and take the high road and I feel that there was very little of that at your party. I am sorry for that. I hope that your party goes better next year.

Pegggyyy!!! I really kind of like your style.... anxiety disorder or not....we're all a little crazy. Love to watch you! :-)

Peggy, you are so right to be upset with Alexis, her behavior was so rude. She acts at times like a teenager. I mean who does that. She seemed to like having everyones attention on her instead of the wonderful food and atmospere you had worked so hard to create. I thought you handled yourself with alot of CLASS good for you.

Your dinner party looked great and the table was beautiful. I love the fish. What a great idea. Next time invite me and my husband because we would love to come with no fighting from us!

Oh Peggy, Isn't it good to be the normal person? I wouldn't waist any energy on Alexis, she is extremely simple minded and obviously doesn't know any better.

Your party was fantastic and elegant, and you and your husband are very blessed with all of the success and beautiful gifts you have in your life. Alexis is ridiculous. She has been for some time, even before you joined the show. Don't worry; she didn't ruin your party. She only made herself look like a character in a bad novel about controlling husbands and wives with no identity of their own. Although I am obvioulsy not privy to what goes on behind the scenes, my guess would be that Jim doesn't want to be on film anymore now that his financial mistakes have been made public and most likely doesn't want her to continue, either. They probably fought about it before she went to the party. As for the other two couples and Gretchen, they need a class in class. You don't go to someone's home, invited to a wonderful evening which is a gift to the guests, and act like 13-year-old girls at the table. They should have taken their own advice to Alexis...if you can't behave properly, stay home. Rock on, Peggy!

If you are going to be angry over the comment that the assistant made twards tamra they you should have the same feeling abt the other so called adults as well Don, Vucky , Tamra and Eddie were all doing the same thing! I do agree that Alexis may have had some other problems going on at home that made her act the way she did but everyone's behavior way nasty including your husbands when he made they joke abt Alexis assistant being a stunt double for Jim if you want other to take the high road then do so your self!!

I would love to attend a PARTY like that. FANTASTIC!

What a generous person you are! From your thoughtful interviews to your shout-outs on the blog to the people who helped created your party. It is like a breath of fresh air (as fresh as you can get in So. Cal). Love the new housewife.

Hi Peggy,

I saw the show last night. Your dinner looked fantastic. Also, I saw What Happens with Alexis. I understood from Alexis was, that you knew days before, that Jim would not be at your party. She explains that Jim does not want to be where, those women are (maybe it is Vicky and Tamra)? I think that Alexis should not have gone to your dinner if she was so upset. At the same time,Tamra and Vicky laughing and making fun of Alexis and hearing on a closed door what Alexis was saying to Gretchen. Peggy, you need to be very careful with those women. I have seen the show for years. In my opinion, both of these women are not to be trusted, especially Tamra.

God Bless you, Micah and your children,

Regards from San Juan, Puerto Rico Yolanda Garcia Berdecia

I heard you say in your interview portion it wasn't your job to make sure Alexis had a good time; however, the job of a hostess, as you said you were, is to make sure her guests have a good time. While Alexis was a bit of a drama queen, it wasn't as big of a deal that she wasn't at the table as everyone made it to be. As the hostess you could have redirected the conversation, but that never happened.

What a beautiful and classy party, Peggy! If only the guests could have acted in the same manner....

Were you as upset about Donn's comments about Gretchen's appearance? How about Donn laughing about Slade being with his boys? Did you feel badly when Tamra and Vicki were making their jabs about Slade's employment or lack thereof? How about Tamra standing next to the bathroom door with her ear glued trying to eavesdrop? Seems that everything Tamra says is a calculated move to hurt or insult Gretchen. If you don't see that, I am guessing you soon will. Your double-standard is obvious because your alliance is currently with Tamra. Just keep your eyes and ears open. You seem like a kind, decent person as does your husband. I'm thinking you're both going to get burned.

Peggy, as I have said every week you rise above the rest. Your dinner party was beyond fabulous. Who knows what Alexis goal was and you will never get the truth. Even Gretchen and Tamra didn't bother with each other. It would've been fine. I'm sorry you felt stressed out because you and your husband did a wonderful job! Keep on being you.

Peggy you handled your disastrous guests with such class, I was very impressed! I never even thought about how rude it was for Gretchen and Alexis to bring random people that you had never met before, and especially since Gretchen's friend was loudly ridiculing Tamra and Eddie, how RUDE! And the way both Alexis and Gretchen were behaving during the singer's performance was completely immature! It was made so obvious that Alexis does not want you to have any attention whatsoever, so clearly she was trying to steal the spotlight with her antics...fortunately most of us can see right through it! You are incredibly patient with her and obviously you try to understand and be forgiving, but you are better off without a friend like that!

PEGGY, YOUR HOME AND TABLE LOOKED BEAUTIFUL! IT'S SUCH A SHAME THAT IT PANNED OUT THE WAY IT DID. PERHAPS THERE WAS A FIGHT BETWEEN ALEXIS/JIM...WHO KNOWS? SHE IS EXTREMELY INSECURE WITHOUT HIM-THAT WE FOUND OUT!!! JUST A SHAME FOR YOU TO GO TO ALL THAT TROUBLE AND THEN LOOK UP TO SEE HALF YOUR GUESTS GONE FOR SO LONG! I THINK ALEXIS IS GOING THROUGH A LOT OF THINGS NONE OF US KNOW (OR SHOULD KNOW) ABOUT. SHE'S MARRIED TO ONE TOUGH COOKIE AND PERHAPS SHE'S FEELING THE STRAIN OF THAT. YET, ALEXIS PROBABLY SHOULD HAVE STAYED HOME. SHE DID SAY SHE PHONED YOU THAT PREVIOUS WEEK TO TELL YOU JIM WASN'T ATTENDING. I THINK JIM GOT UNCOMFORTABLE FROM DAY ONE WITH THOSE LADIES AND PULLED BACK ALMOST COMPLETELY NOW FROM BEING FILMED. YES, GRETCHEN'S ASSISTANT NEVER SHOULD HAVE JOKED ABOUT EDDIE-THAT'S JUST PLAIN HURTFUL. BUT, THAT'S GRETCHEN'S GOAL--TO HURT TAMRA AND VICE VERSA...IT'S SOOOOO OLD! WHAT I FOUND SO ODD WAS HOW HAPPY ALEXIS THEN BECAME IMMEDIATELY AFTER THE OTHER 2 LEFT. THIS GROUP OF WOMEN ISN'T COHESIVE ANYMORE AND IF IT DOESN'T CHANGE AROUND, I WONDER IF VIEWERS WILL TUNE OUT.

Many people at your party behaved rudely but so did your husband. When he asked the man who attended with Alexis (her assistant?) if he was Jim's stunt double, it was very rude of him to put a guest on the spot like that. That guest was just trying to get along and make the best of the situation. There was no reason for your husband to ridicule him. He had nothing to do with the bad behavior of anybody there.

I felt so bad for you and your husband last night during the show. I am glad you took the high road and stayed out of all the drama. I can't believe the childishness from these so called ladies. All of them acted badly, not just one. Maybe next time you will only invite those who will actually appreciate the hard work you put into a party.

The singer at your party was AMAZING! I thought it was incredibly rude of your guests to scream and act like animals while she was singing, but what a proffessional she is to smile and keep on!

Peggy, I was on the fence about you when you joined the housewives. After this dinner party, I have to admit you are one classy lady! Your party was outstanding and the decor was so beautiful! I wished I had been invited. I felt SO bad for you and Micah. All that money and preparation and it was ruined due to ridiculously immature and disrespectful behavior. Gretchen and Alexis SHOULD have come together instead of bringing complete strangers. Maybe you and Micah can host another dinner, sans the other 'wives', and enjoy yourselves.

I would have done the same thing at the party - asked her to leave. She was acting very innapropriate with the crying and then after with the dancing. I think Alexis feels competitive with you and was trying to steal the spotlight. She has said before she is a very competitive person and after finding out you previously dated Jim and seeing how she almost got in a fist fight last season with a woman who "flirted" with Jim, I just think there is some major insecurity issues going on there which is sad for her but still doesn't justify her actions. Congrats to you though - You put on a beautiful party and were a wonderful hostess :)

hmmmm.... did you watch the after show?? Peg ya knew Jim wasnt going to be there on TUESDAY before your party so the asking wasnt needed. You should have just greeted your pal at the door and been polite. Secondly you dont mention your husbands rude comments- and if ya wanted a better party dont invite the group as a whole.

Last night on Watch What Happens Live Alexis stated that she did tell you before hand that her husband was not coming. Was this true?

You appear to be a gracious and lovely hostess, I love Susan and loved watching her on Top Chef Masters, she is truly a great chef.

I find it interesting that the two that kicked up all the dust haven't blogged making excuses for their bad behavior. I definitely expect this from Alexis but surprised with Gretchen, she seems to be alovely person inside and out and a smart cookie. Alexis, well, she is nothing to speak of, just bad manners.

Peggy,

What a beautiful dinner party. I believe that both Alexis and Gretchen both acted very poorly and forgot proper etiquette when behaving in that type of setting. You and Micah obviously went to a tremendous amount of trouble to throw this dinner; the least they could've done was return the favor and held it together for one night. Not everything is about them; not to mention the way Alexis did a 180 once the party was over. What a slap in the face ... TEAM PEGGY!

I could not believe that when she was on WWHL Alexis told Andy you used to date Jim before he and Alexis got married. I guess you dodged that bullet did'nt you!! I can't see you putting up with the nonsense Alexis puts up with from Jim. At your lovely dinner party she was acting like a 2 year old who did'nt have her blankie, crying and carrying on because her "honey" was not there, how silly for an adult woman to act that way!

Peggy - all of your guests are childish and selfish. Apalling and ugly is what they are. You threw a beautiful party. I really despise the "mean girls" Tamra and Vicki. Tamra's trying to change??? Really, a leopard does not chage it's spots. Stay away from them.

It is sad that your beautiful party was ruined, but to put the blame on one person is ridiculous. Tamra and Vicki were awful, and your husband wasn't much better. You were both terrible hosts.

Peggy, your party was gorgeous. Loved all the details & glad Micah was educated that fine cuisine expands past steakhouse fare.

While I understand many people interpret their friend's attendance at events you host as a sign of support & caring, no one really owes anyone an excuse as to why they can't attend an event. We should just be able to say "I'm not available" with no guilt or pressure. On the show & in your blog, you express that Jim isn't a good friend for not attending. Alexis definitely made an unneccessary scene, but would you have criticized her for not being a good friend for leaving or not attending?

You speculate Jim & Alexis got into an argument. What if they did? We've all been there & not proud to announce that at a social event. If you were feeling a bout of the baby blues, do you feel proud to explain yourself? Don't judge a person's response, real friends accept & consider that others may have things going on in their lives & it's not all about you.