First off I want to say that the Texas trip looked like a blast. I'm a jeans and T-shirt type of girl with five pairs of cowboy boots that I never get to wear. I personally would rather be at a BBQ restaurant than at any fancy restaurant or hotel. The food looked so yummy and that cobbler...OMG! I felt bad for Alexis when she talked about her eating disorder, because now I can really see signs of it in her personality. Alexis was my daughter Sidney's age when her parents divorced, and I kept thinking about Sidney and wondering how she is internally processing everything. We had the kids in therapy for a while, but Alexis' comment made think it was time to go back and see how they are doing a year later. I talk with them once a week about how they are feeling and what they thinking. But sometimes a therapist can get them to say so much more. I make a lot of smart a-- comments in my interviews, and I think the comment about Alexis being anorexic was in bad taste, especially now that I know what she has gone through.
I would not feel right not saying something about Alexis' comments on gay marriage, so here I go. Considering a huge number of our very loyal fans and followers come from the gay community, I am shocked to hear her comments and opinions about gay marriage and same-sex partnerships. This is 2011 and the majority of this amazing free country we are blessed to live in is rooting for equality and peace among all races, backgrounds, and sexual orientations. I sure hope she can educate herself and find room in her heart to be more understanding about what true love means.
This was a hard episode for me to watch. It brought me back to a very dark place in my life that still seems to bring me to tears. Before I moved out of my apartment, we shared custody of our dog, Bella. The house I moved into did not allow dogs. I had looked at many houses, and I could not pass up this house. It was on a great street close to the kids school, less than a mile from Simon's house, and it was the right price. So I told Simon that Bella would have to be with him full time after I moved. He had no problem with it at first. We agreed I would help out when I had the kids, and we would pick up Bella for a couple hours and take her for a walk or go to the park.
That night something must of happened with the dog, and he was mad. I was in the kitchen, the girls were in their room, and Spencer was downstairs In the living room. It was about 9:00 at night, and I heard a pounding on the front door. Spencer jumped up to get it, and I was yelling, "Don't open the door," as he was opening it. I had no idea who would be pounding on the door that late. Spencer opened the door, and the rest is history. I called my attorney, and he told me to file a report. This was not the first time something like this had happened, and I needed it on paper. I didn't call 911, I called the local police station and told them what happened and asked if I could come down the next morning and file a report. They said they could send an officer over in twenty minutes who could help me.
My biggest fear was getting the kids in the middle of this mess. I went to their rooms and told them a little white lie. I said that the landlord was mad at me, because the dog was not supposed to be there, and that he was sending a cop over to talk to me so they had to stay in their rooms.
Hang in there Tamra. you r an awesome person and dont let the bitch Jeana get to u and as far as Simon he is the biggest ass . thank God u finally left him. he was so controlling. holer from Escanaba, MI.
Wow...how hard it must be to do this on TV. Thanks for explaining what happened. Let me just say this...YOU WERE RIGHT TO DO WHAT YOU DID. Nobody should get things thrown at them for someone else's temper. Gina should mind her own business too. She is a door mat for men AND her kids. Who cares if you are ever friends with Simon again as long as he is civil to you. And yeah...what the heck is Gretchen's problem? It must be that she is jealous of you having Eddie and all she has is Slade (yuk). lol
You'll be fine... just be a little nicer to Jeana... she was not taking sides.. she was just trying to help all in this situation. Peace. W
Tamra, Divorce is not easy on anyone, specially when there are children involved. People should not get involved in something that does not concern them (Jeanna). I watched her on Andy's show and Lauri told her "butt out" in a nice way. Regarding Eddie it is good that you try to keep him out of the divorce business he supports you 100%
I think what you did took guts. Even if it seemed minor, the fact was that Simon did throw a heavy item at you in front of your child(and my understanding from what you said is that it almost hit Spencer as well).
Gina needs to stay out of it. I don't know what her deal is.
You are lucky to have Eddie.
Wow Tamara Your conversation with Jeana...you said "OTHER PEOPLES BUSINESS IS NONE OF YOU BUSINESS." Do you listen to yourself...because you are always in other peoples business...just saying.
After this episode it completely changed my opinions on you. I respect you more as a person and really think you are a sweet girl, you're just going through a tough time. Stay strong for you and your babies.
Tamra I am so sorry for your divorce. And how could jeanna out of all people give her opinion on your divorce. She was definitely a door mat with her ex husband and clearly does not know the meaning of abuse. Her husband verbally abused her over and over on national tv and She has the audacity to get in your business. Jeanna obviously needs a dictionary and perhaps a book on abuse. Your happy now and people clearly dont understand. Eddy seems like a wonderful man, I'm very happy for you!
You need to stop talking about your situtation with Simon. I'm not saying he was right i'm saying your giving this to much attenton i mean seriously we just watched it on tv and thats all u talked then u turn around and give us a play by play about what happened again this is personal u should keep it that way for your kids sake. It's gonna make u look bad if it already hasn't in the court. I like you on the show but you are started to be a bit dramatic.....
Props to you Tamra for calling out Jeana for sticking her nose in your divorce drama. She had NO business defending Simon!
Tamra, I don't agree with your cattiness with the girls but you are still a person. Obviously calling the police was a difficult decision. I don't think you wanted him to be arrested or for the news trucks to come, but he could have hurt the kids. Jeana is definitely brainwashed from her marriage. Saying that you ruined his life is ridiculous! What about your own life that is in shambles? You matter too. You could say that he ruined your life, but in reality it was a mutual decision that was unforseen. Unfortunately, life isn't fair and 2 people aren't always meant to be together even if they both try hard. I would avoid people like Jeana and stay off her profile, and deal with yourself instead. Best of luck!
You are my favorite this season! Keep living you life with love and happiness! I can see that Eddie makes you happy, I'm glad that he is in your life right now.
Stay Strong Tamra & Keep doing you cause this is your time to shine! Thanks Eddie for being LadyTs Rock!!!
lol I love it Tamra!!! "By the way G, I was not the bull with the big horns, I was the bull with the big balls. Get it right, girl!!" You are a great person you speaks your mind and there is nothing wrong with that!! Sorry for the things you are going through but remember you have your kids and a sexy @ss man that is there for you!!! :) Get it Girl!!!!!
Tamra, you are great. I really like you,your alot like myself, a no BS kinda girl. Like you said,Simon was hurting and acting out. You don't have to be in the hospital before you involve the police,you did the right thing because of your children. I have a 7 year old son and I would have done the same thing. Watching you and Jeana talk at the park,I wanted to reach thru the tv screen and shake her. I do believe she has a weird fascination for other people's husbands and the "underdog". I feel she needs to stay out of your business because she is only trying to create more drama that YOU DO NOT NEED!! You keep it up you awesome Mom you! You look so much happier now......I think Eddie may have something to do with that ;) As soon as this season started I could sooo relate to you as I saw a change in you. For the good of course. I am happy for you and wish you the best with your life and your children. Remember you are a strong woman but sometimes it's ok to feel weak and have a shoulder to cry on. People will never mistake your kindness for weakness. Love ya girl and hope one day I run into you over here in SW Florida :) ~Renee R.~
awww Tamra. Don't feel bad. People need to take responsibility for their own actions - simple as that x
Tamra, It cracked me up when you told Jeana not to talk about other people's personal lives. Please take your own advice and STOP talking about Slade and Gretchen.
Why open up about Simon at all? It seems as of late he has kept his head down and focused on his kids. You make more money than him..big deal..he supported your lavish lifestyle for years. Now you are dating someone with money so you can go back to being supported. Your shallowness shows through loud and clear!
Tamra---You deserve everything you get. You have badmouthed everyone on the show---you made every kind of snide remark about Gretchen to the press when the man she loved was dying. You slam Slade when his child is fighting cancer. You make every kind of below the belt comments about other people and are so happy when harmful things happen to the other girls. You are a real piece of work and what you has sown will come back on you and you deserve every bit of it. I only pity your children.
I feel bad that you have to explain every detail of life for the sake of some big mouth attention seeker. Stay strong girl! I don't think I am the only one who thinks you are handling your situation in the best possible way. Good luck!
Jeana is one weird chick. I don't get it. She is all about the men which is strange given that she is alone all the time. It looks to me like she needs to get her own life. If she had something going on she would not be so obsessed with relationships that do not feature her. Tamara, you are right about Gretchen. For her to dislike you so much she sure spends a lot of time thinking about you and talking about you.
Good for you for sticking up for yourself! NO on has any business judging or placing their opinions on situations involving others lives. Opinions are like a*%$#@&! everyone has them.
You and your hysterical comments are the reason I watch the show! Your humor balances out all the drama and keeps things fun. It's what's missing from NY now that Bethenny's gone. Keep it up, your great.
Tamra sweetie, you've been from relationship to relationship so quickly that you haven't taken time for yourself. It's as if you go with whatever the guy in your life wants at the time. You're a great woman and I know you mean well. Please take some time out on your own so you can get to know yourself and know what YOU really want.
WOW Jeana has no right to get into your business, she knows nothing about your relationship...Well she was brought into it kinda like the way YOU were brought into it with Gretchen and you did the exact same! You judged Gretchen without knowing ANYTHING about her realtionship with Jeff.....remember? Ya it's called Karma :)
Tamra, I have not been a fan of your at all this season. However, when you were talking with Jeana I did see some realness to you. You make a lot of mean comments about people and you don't seem very tolerant of others flaws, but I just think you've been so unhappy for so long that that tends to happen after years of being down. However, I hope you see that you have a good thing with Eddie, who obviously hates the drama of all the women, and he really seems sincere in his love towards you. Hang on to him girl.
I'm not normally a fan of Tamra but I felt very bad for her in last night's episode. Jeanna had no right to insert herself into their situation and force her opinion. Divorce is so complicated and painful. No one but the two people in the ruined relationship truly knows what happened to get them to that point.
I hope Tamra is in a better place now and has some peace.
Tamra, I can comfortably say that I have walked in your shoes with my ex-husband, with whom I have two wonderful children with, and I can absolutely relate to every word you say. I swear it's like living my life all over again. Just know that it gets better and better. It's not wonderful, but it works now. And I'm sure you and Simon will find that common ground someday. Until then, use your friend, your man and above all, your children to help you through the hard times. Oh, but one thing I didn't have is a Jeana and I can't say I'm disappointed! My best to you and your situation. Stay strong! It gets better. And I love love love your sense of humor, don't lose it no matter how much flack you take from the lessor funny women! a.k.a. G, A, J.
Tamra you r so awesome. Gina should mind her own damn business! You did the right thing! You need to protect your self and kids. I so glad to see you happy, Eddie seems like a great guy!
Tamra you are the whole reason I watch the show! I feel like I can relate to you. I have also been through a rough marriage and got into a new relationship fairly quickly. You are so right when you said that you didn't allow yourself enough time to heal...I'm right there. But it is great to have that one person you know can make all the bad go away and when it's the right one you just know. You are helping me through my bad times and I only wish great things for your future. I'm praying for you, girl! You're my inspiration!
Jeana had no right to stick her nose in your business. Maybe you should think about that before you stick your nose in others business next time.
You are so beautiful! I like that you tell it how it is and don't act for the cameras. I'm so sorry for what you and your family is going through, but I believe your strength can overcome anything! If I could spend a day with any of the housewives it would be you!
Tamra, I really like watching you this year!! It seems that since you are not with Simon any more your true personality has come out!! I love it! You remind me of me! And what a cutie your boyfriend is!! Kudos to you!!
You ROCK! And i hope you and Eddie are together for the long haul. He seems really great. He is supportive without getting into the drama. He seems to really balance you out. Love that you stood up to Simon. And i love that you always say what everyone else is thinking but won't say. The part about Donn has crossed my mind too.
Tamra, you're the only reason I still watch this show! You are a very smart and beautiful woman. Hang in there!
I agree that you were right to report the incident. Watching the show last season, I kept noticing how Simon was constantly putting you down and trying to keep you away from your friends. I've been through a similar incident where I had someone telling me I wasn't "really" abused. Just because the scars aren't visible doesn't mean they don't cut as deep or hurt as much.
Thank you for sharing your story on camera. Hopefully your story will empower women who are in similar relationships to get help.
I ended a 12 year relationship 1 year ago, and in watching this episode, I could relate to everything that you were feeling and going through. Like you, i have this overwhelming feeling to want 'him' to just be okay, to not be suffering from the hurt, to move on from the anger. And I feel responsible for causing him pain after ending the relationship. In the end, i know it's for the best and i've been able to move on, but it's an odd thing to still mourn the loss of one relationship, while moving forward with a new one. Stay strong. We can only hope that it gets better with time and one day, the relationship can maybe get back to a friendship. Best of luck!