Tamra Barney

Tamra talks about her bathroom faux-pas and Alexis' breakdown.

on May 1, 20110

I would like to start off saying that Peggy and Micah did an amazing job putting together the dinner party. There was so much thought put into every little detail. The food was delicious, and the singer really set the mood for a very romantic night. Too bad nobody could behave!

I knew Vicki would love Eddie the minute she met him. He has the most amazing energy, a giant smile, and the biggest heart. It didn't take them long to start talking about business. Eddie is a lot like Vicki with his business and appreciates anyone that works hard. Donn and I on the other hand were cracking jokes all night long.

When we arrived at the house everything and everybody looked amazing. It was nice to finally introduce Eddie to everyone. Well almost everyone. I overheard Gretchen and her friend talking about Eddie the second we walked in. I thought it was extremely rude of Gretchen to be cracking jokes about a guy she had never met. If she wanted to rip on me, then that's another story. When the signer started to perform, it was so romantic and Eddie took me to the dance floor. Eddie is Latin, and now I know where the term Latin lover comes from. He is over the top touchy-feely and romantic all the time, and I love it! If Gretchen had a problem with it, then she shouldn't have been staring. We continued dancing as she stared at us and made fun of us. Eddie had said to me several times, "Who cares what she says, just ignore her," and he was right. But as we sat down and they continued to talk about us at the dinner table, I couldn't hold back so I looked at them and said, "I can hear you." Then they finally quit it.

It was no surprise that Slade didn't show up after his court appearance. I'm sorry if I sounded rude about his child support issues. But, I have no respect for a guy that chooses not to work for years and then doesn't have to pay his child support. I would get a job at Burger King if I had to. It breaks my heart what Michelle and their son are going through. Being a single mom is hard enough, especially with all the medical issues on top of it. When Gretchen said we should not comment because we don't know, I'm here to tell you I do know the truth, and if she wants to know how I know, I will be happy to tell her. Vicki said it best when she said let's see what Gretchen has to say about it when it happens to her one day.

140 comments
Debbie Lynn
Debbie Lynn

Tamara After my husband passed from a 10 year battle with brain cancer, I watch every episode now. I have watched you grow, as I, from a lady with a lot on her shoulders, to finding her way into a "new world". I deeply wish you were my friend that I could just speak to. Your outgoing, positive, sensitive and caring personality, have helped me see there is a life after a painful ending to a marriage. I wish you the very best in every venture YOU choose to be involved with. Thank you for making me smile, laugh, cry and see there is a life for the second half...after 40. Best of luck and God Bless. Debbie

Beverly in MS
Beverly in MS

Tamara,

I love you! You seem really happy now. Good for you! Simon did seem controlling. I dont understand when men marry you and get controlling. Im glad my husband isnt like that. Eddie is into you and treats you nice. Thats wonderful. I cant wait to watch tonights episode!

meggomatic
meggomatic

my daughter has some major things going on with her and her father is not a good person. Just because ones child is sick - - that makes someone a good person? i dont think so. She would have stepped over the line if she were talking about the child.

Lexi D
Lexi D

Really? Lighten up! "He couldn't even get a job @ McDonalds" implies getting a job @ McDonalds isn't that difficult which is an obvious statement but due to his lazy deadbeat ways he wouldn't even be hired there.There's not much offensive about that. Have you been there lately I don't see the execs handing me my coffee in the AM? I think you referring to hard working McDonald's employees as burger flippers is more offensive ') I'm sure Tamara is going to take you up on your advise to browse McDonalds website...

SOBE
SOBE

j-nice I concur with your comment !!

SLL
SLL

I LOOVE YOU!!!!! people who write on these blogs saying negative things are dumb.

Bambieyes
Bambieyes

Tamara, when someone shows you who they really are, believe them. If you already know how Gretchen and Alexis are, then why buy into whatever they say, or do, in your pressence. Practice basic civility and you won't be distracted by them.

Bambieyes
Bambieyes

Thank you for saying this. I thought the very same thing, too. If Simon lost his job and struggled finding a new one, I'm sure she'd want a little empathy without being judged, too.

sparkly
sparkly

*sighs with dreaminess* eddie and you dancing, was just beautiful to watch. gretchen was clearly jealous and has a voice that makes nails on a blackboard seem like birds singing. Alexis - children cry less at parental separation anxiety or first day at school...grrrrrrow up alexis!

Love to Tamra and Eddie - i'm a fan 100% and more.

Bye bye to sulky simon

Lynn Robinson
Lynn Robinson

Tamara. You definitely need to release the party girl and get it out of your system. It is understandable that you are that way because you had a child at a young age and went from relationship to relationship. I watched my sister go through the same thing. I somewhat did myself. I wish that you had gotten it out of your system before you met Simon because the times you thought he was being "controlling" (that we say, anyway) were really times where you were out of line as a married women. Regarding Gretchen talking about your boyfriend, well, all of you make comments about one another. No one is perfect. I do agree that you could tone down the "affection" in public. You can be affectionate and a little sexual in public, but it really should be kept somewhat private. I think you just have some living to do that you didn't get to experience when you were younger. Do it and stay out of any serious relationship. I will say, at least you were smart enough not to move in with Eddie, so kudos for that! I don't want to be hard on you, but you do need to grow a little before entering another relationship.

Fan of OC
Fan of OC

Tamara - I've always been a fan, but was really disappointed to hear you say that Slade couldn't even get a job at McDonald's. Please educate yourself on the opportunities at McDonald's before making statements that could be demeaning to people who work there. Many of the company executives started off flipping burgers or making frys... so understand the truth about this company. Over 50% of franchise owners started in the restaurants. Just an FYI... hopefully this will open your eyes. Please check out the McDonald's webpage to learn more about the successful executives that started off in the restaurants. Still a fan!

CSS
CSS

Tamra, I think you are so much more fun without Simon! It was so sad to see you have to act a certain way to please him. I'm enjoying seeing your true personality come out this season. I should say that I don't think Simon is a bad person, it just seemed like your personalities were so different! Keep smiling...you are adorable and my favorite houswife!

Tinaroubou
Tinaroubou

you are a real woman. you got yourself a hot young sweet and nice man, it alot better than the ass hole you were married to. he was always unhappy and you have to baby him. he had no confidence or charm. i am going to do the same i am divorced and my ex keeps coming around,trying to come back. he's just like your ex. control freak i could never please him or make him happy. i really got encouraged to find some nice guy that would treat me good at all time. the most juicy part is when you got in a bubble bath tub and your man came over to join you with a big smile in his face.(i think you did it just for your ex how much fun you re having :-) while having a good time. maybe your ex you learned a thing or two about how to treat you around your friends and stop been a bitch. now you are so happy, you are with the right man. he's good to you, respect you and loves you. enjoy it you re so young and full of life and deserve to be happy. i wish you the best

MonkiePants
MonkiePants

Better watch the episode again...the FIRST ugly comments came from Gretchen and her escort.

Sandyb3
Sandyb3

Tamra ~ loved your outfit in this episode ~ where did you get that beautiful necklace? I want one.

CAP in NewOrleans
CAP in NewOrleans

You better watch the show again.............Gretchen was the first to say how beautiful everything was and thanked her for inviting her!

M.S
M.S

You go girl!!!! Alexis and Gretchen are such babies about everything and they need to grow up and move on!

BONCAST
BONCAST

It's sooooo rude that Gretchen was talking about Eddie especially since Eddie has not provoked it. You sound like Eddie brings out the best in you.

Sad for Slade
Sad for Slade

I think everyone needs to lay off Slade right now, do you all get it, his son has cancer, this is a time to put the bitterness aside and instead find time to prey together instead. I hope this child never reads these terrible blogs people bashing his father. Think!!!

Lore Dio
Lore Dio

You cracked me up with your comments that night. I like how you say it how it is, you go girl!

malibu42083453
malibu42083453

Tamra- I am a huge fan of yours. you act immature at times but you own it and i am so happy to see you this season so happy. Alexis acted ridiculous and Gretchen always does - I think it's time for you to rise above the Gretchen stuff wholeheartedly though. I hope to see that eventually in this season and maybe Gretchen might actually grow up too then. I am upset that such a wonderful meal was ruined as Peggy seemed to be such a gracious hostess and Susan and Mary Sue are incredible chefs. It was uncomfortable to watch such a level of disrespect all round but I think you and and Vicki were definitely in the right here - and listen to Eddie when he tells you to ignore it! Sometimes the men who love you can be very wise :)

J-Nice
J-Nice

I agree with Gretchen. You can't be happy. Someone who is happy does not feed off of others misfortune like you do. I think you are putting up a front because you are so desperate to have someone in your life. You use to be my FAV and now I am really starting to dislike you...

greenwichgirl
greenwichgirl

Tamra, I have to say that you and Eddie are so cute and you deserve a really nice guy. You can see the love between you both and it is really refreshing. Other than Peggy, I think all the girls are jealous of your relationship with Eddie and how real it is.

Lizzie2
Lizzie2

I love you, I love you, I love you........not. What kind of person who is a mother trashes a sick little boys father. Regardless of what you think of his father you have stepped over the line.

Miss Alabama
Miss Alabama

You started off the season very well, talking about your happiness and how you are in a better place, but I am not seeing that. You are back to the trash talking and criticism that you are known for. Eddie seemed like a great guy, but I hope that he does not buy into the drama with you because that would be dissappointing.

klogfo
klogfo

Agreed to much PDA -

sohocharms
sohocharms

Hi Tamra, it's Tamara(pronounced the same). I love your humor and wit. You always call it like you see it and that's what I like about you. Your not mean, you just don't sugar coat things, neither does Vicki. Keep being funny. Eddie is so cute!

pdaugereau
pdaugereau

You seem to enjoy throwing alot of stones! Tamara has no reason to be ashamed of her actions! Actually I think she handled herself very well especially when the racial slurrs were being said about Eddie by Gretchen, Alexis should have removed herself from this very CLASSY party, Alexis had the nerve to say Tamara and Vicki disrespected her "spa" party--Really??? What she did cant touch what Tamara did,

sdmeier
sdmeier

Tamra wants to let her hair down after being married to stuffy Simon,however, at times, she is coming off as very immature. Putting her ear to the door was wrong and childish-there was a reason that Vicki wouldn't go near the door. Your new love seems like a very nice guy but he may get tired of your behavior. There are times you should take the high road.

BAILEY310
BAILEY310

Thank you Tamra! I have made comments on all blogs on how everyone but Peggy acted disrespectful at Micah and Peggy's dinner party and you were the only person that has admitted to your faults! Wait, I have not read Vicki's yet though! Also you are the only one that thanked Peggy and Micah for the nice dinner party!

Eddie is write though about his comment "Who cares what she says, just ignore her," and he was right. Eddie is a wise and good man for you!

By accepting your faults from the show I commend you! Just know you have a great boyfriend and a good friendship with Vicki and now Peggy! It also seems like Micah, Eddie and Donn all get along really well so that was nice to see! I just wish for Vicki and Donn that they are able to work things out!

txgirl567
txgirl567

I thought the last episode was the funniest so far. You and Donn had me cracking up.When he said Gretchen looked like someone from the Munsters I about died laughing. I did feel bad for Peggy but that had to be one of the best parties she had ever thrown. When Alexis started crying I thought "this is one crazy girl". If someone is that lost without their husband they have no business breeding. Girl, you talk a lot of mess but everything you say is true and what most of us are thinking. So don't stop. If Gretchen acknowledges that she is dating a dead beat dad (Slade) but expects others not to comment on it she isn't very bright. The same runs true for someone not paying their mortgage .(King Jim) Everyone has problems and one way or another they will work themselves out. Your behavior is childish at times but whose isn't.

Jessica, AZ
Jessica, AZ

You're my favorite Tamra. You do act immature sometimes but I think its healthy! I'm so happy for you and Eddie. He seems so down to Earth and actually good for you. I'm also happy Vicky approves although it's not her relationship, it's yours. Keep up the happiness because I believe that is what really is getting under Gretchen's skin more than you jabbing her...you can tell from her response when you and Eddie were dancing. Good luck!

Alicia373
Alicia373

I thought you listening outside the door was hilarious! The situation that Alexis created certainly needed some comic relief. I think you're a hoot!

vinogirl
vinogirl

Tamra you ROCK!! I love that your having fun in this stage of your life! You deserve it, enjoy it! :)

The holding your ear to the door! I couldnt stop laughing, who ever said it was childish need to look at Gretchen and Alexis at the end of the dinner party!

ms. florida
ms. florida

WE ARE NOT JUDGES, GOD IS THE JUDGE. WE ARE TO LOVE ONE OTHER. BE HAPPY FOR TAMRA. TAMRA YOUR BEAUTIFUL, SMART , AND HAVE A HOT BOYFRIEND. DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAY. IT COULD BE JEALOUSY.

Vicki H.
Vicki H.

Tamara, I have loved you sence day one. You seem so happy, and comfortable where your at. It's been a very hard road, you have shown alot of woman that they don't have to stay where they are! I'm a mother of 5 teenagers, and I know how hard it is. I also had a controling husband, and had to do everything by myself. I think you give alot of encouragement to see that it's not the way. Like you I say what I think, do as I want, and no one is holding me back anymore! I wish nothing but the best for you , and your family. And yes Eddie seems like a great match for you! Enjoy life, take your time. Best wishes!

cool person
cool person

i love the new you and you look so happy now that your with somebody new thank god you left idiot Simon i could not stand him ....

Dezi
Dezi

You Rock! Love that you are doing you this season! As for the "Gretchen" wow she is full of herself, it's ok for her to talk about you and Eddie, but how dare you speak of her lil Slate~ does she forget how long Slate has been around the "Housewives" He has earned his reputation! Keep it up, you are def. entertaining to watch! PS as for the ear to the door, really who could have resisted!

Viewer 351
Viewer 351

You are hilarious! I literally laughed out loud twice watching this week's episode.

ochwly
ochwly

Wretchen is so jealous of you......be happy and enjoy your life.

VALLY BUTTERFLY
VALLY BUTTERFLY

Tamera, I just wish you could all just get along already. You all seem like nice enough women who have one huge thing in common. THE SHOW. For the most part this year all Ive seen from you is a positive change. You're in love. When you're in love nothing else seems to matter. I would have liked to see you and Vicky take the high road and check on Lexis to make sure she's ok. Something could have been seriously wrong.The five of you are on a show together. Remember the original show? All the girls were genuine friends there was never any cattiness or drama, Vicky was a part of that show. I think it's this down economy has everyone uptight. Back then, you would have liked Slade. He was a good Dad he shared custody of his children, they collected really cool costumes, his kids praised their Dad. Slade had a great job in real estate he lived on Coto De Caza he was friends with all the girls on the show he has known Gretchen for years.Look at her? Do you really think he's using her? The rug has been pulled from under all of us living in Cali. It sucks! I know you have it in you to be compassionate. I guarantee if it had been you crying in the bathroom. Lexis would have checked on you. Maybe even Gretchen. Live by the golden rule your life will be very peaceful. I'm not saying you don't. I'm just saying no one likes to be talked poorly about. Including you. Live you life and treat people how you want to be treated. The dinner looked marvelous, Peggy and Micah went over and above. I feel bad their party didnt go as planned. I felt you and Vicky could have put the kibosh on Lexis's mood five minutes is all it would have taken to give her a little moral boost. Show your compassionate side. If it hadn't worked. At least you could say you tried. This was Peggy's party. Better to take off the camera attention off Alexis and put the cameras where they belonged the well thought of dinner party.

J7787
J7787

Tamra, I love you and although you may act irrationally sometimes I think it may be more speaking before you think or a timing issue. I think Alexis was just looking for an excuse to stop being friends with you and that is why she made such a big deal about the pepper spray. If I were Alexis I don't think that I would have gotten offended at a most of the things that you said that night I mean honestly she shouldn't have been so dramatic if she didn't want people to talk about it...I mean I took a lot of your comments as sarcasm not as being mean or digs. I don't think that there needs to be all the digs at Slade or Gretchen but I mean...I don't see why Gretchen cares so much and not to mention it just seems like a back and forth motion between the two of you anyway. She says mean things and you say mean things but I do respect the fact that you were actually trying to be nice and reach out to her and be her friend in the beginning of the season. I also think that Gretchen and Slade look for any reason to talk about you and now Eddie. Keep being yourself I love your honesty and sarcastic yet sometimes truthful remarks!!

Oye!
Oye!

I have twin nieces aged five. When they can't get along we make them stand in the corner and hug and say two nice things about the other. Maybe you and Gretchen should give it a try. You both act five anyway.

Couldn't hurt.

Kvammer9
Kvammer9

You are so funny! I loved you with your ear to the door, if they didn't want you to do that, they should have taken the cry baby home! Eddie is so cute. A little too much PDA for my liking, but you deserve as we all do to be in love and have a good time.

georgie girl
georgie girl

Tamra, you Eddie, Vicki and Donn started trash talking about Gretchen and Slade almost the minute you got to Vicki's house. Do you not have anything to talk about with each other?

Bradenton FLorida
Bradenton FLorida

The ear to the door was so silly. You must be so ashamed! What do your children think! What would a judge think in a child custody hearing. You act more immature than my high schooler. GROW UP!!!!