Tamara: I think your fabulous girl,

your a very strong woman,and I love it, I remember when the season just started and you invited Bratty Gretchen for your little gathering. I thought it showed that you are a way bigger woman of you because your trying to mend the past or what not. It also shows how ignorant Gretchen is by not accepting a simple apology. I dont like that lady at all. She's to opposite of me while I can connect myself with you. I love tequila as well:D

I am not married, or never have been married, but i think your a strong woman because you dont let Simon tell you what to do anymore or put you down. I have a sister who is kinda in that situation and it makes me angry because men and women should treat each other equally no one is above anyone besides God.

Bath tub scene: Personally idc. I thought it was pretty damn HOT! you have a nice man and like you say you were in the moment.

I love girl:)
P.S Tell Gretchen to just kiss your ass bc she has none

Tamara i think you r the most real Housewife now that Bethany is gone. I`ve always been a fan of yours b/c you just live your life and not care what others think. those on here who r hating on you r jealous insecure litllle girls or boys period! I respect a woman who can own up to her mistakes instead of blaming others. I`m so happy for you!

Have as much fun as you can girl just be aware of the camera's because you don't want your kids getting nasty comments!...

i would really like to know where you got your braceletts you wore when you were filling the tub up with bubbles.

Tamra,
I am glad you supposedly are embarrassed by what you did in the tub, but then you go on to say there were 5 people with cameras and audio in your bathroom. How does one get caught up in THAT moment and forget they are there? Not to mention, if Eddie loved you, he would have stopped you. PLEASE THINK ABOUT THAT. HE DOESN'T HAVE YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART. I don't agree with the slime that Gretchen hangs out with, but at least she sneaks around and she doesn't have kids to see her mistakes. Please STOP the selfish adolescent behavior!!!!!!!

Why can't everyone see that all of your onscreen antics (including the tub scene) are not "mistakes" - - it's in your best interest to remain interesting on this show. This is your bread and butter and you're simply doing your job. If you were to become boring, then you're Bravo income would be threatened.

I could not believe that Bravo showed that bathtub scene and you actually let them in the bathroom to film that. Once again alcohol was the culprit in a bad decision. Personally, I am fed up with the old I drank too much alcohol excuse. It's not a free pass to or for bad behavior or taste.

As for Gretchen, you made your peace with her so any nonsense and jibberish she goes on and on about is really not your problem. I mean what does she want you to do sky write it that your sorry? All you can do is either ignore her if your at the same social gathering or just be nice and not get into a war of words with her.

Tamara, I am so proud of you for finding yourself, but realizing that the children have to be protected. What you do when the children are with their father is your business. Having been married for nearly 30 years before being divorced from a very controlling husband, I know you will be much happier. Good luck, and my prayers are with you.

Im sorry Tamra, I love you on the show, but girl, Eddie, is by far goodlooking. IMO...I have seen many men that would take the cake......

I'm a huge fan! I love how outgoing, and fun you seem to be. I have to ask where you get your tops. You have worn a few that are awesome. The halters with the big flowers, love it! You must share:)

Tamra, you remind me a lot of myself. I am also 40, with kids, and a marraige that fell apart. Because of incidents from my past, I have trust issues with people, therefore I don't have many close friends and the ones I do have I value and cherish very much.
As far as Gretchen, and anyone else for that matter, I can't understand why it's so hard for people to comprehend that we are all human and we all make mistakes. I'm willing to bet money that not one person on your show and not on of your critics has led a perfect life. Everyone tells a lie at some point. Everyone says something they shouldn't about another. Everyone has done something sneaky or dishonest. Not to say that anyone does these things intentionally, but at some point in their lives where they had a moment of poor judgement. It doesn't make them bad, or evil. It makes them human. I saw where you and Gretchen BOTH acted poorly in someway but I don't see why you can't both just admit your fault, apologise to each other, and make the most out of life. You are both beautiful, smart, fun, great women and the good times you could have together would far outweigh this past silliness. I hope you two can work it out.
As far as the bathtub scene, maybe not the best thing to do, but it's your life and you don't owe anyone any explanations. Again, we have all practices poor judgement and will again in our lives and I laugh hysterically at anyone who tries to pretend they haven't!
I think your great!

Where I come from if someone tells lies about you, it's harder to move past it, if however you were telling the truth she'd move forward hoping the subject never comes up again. Thats just my take on it

TAMRA, WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK. OBVIOSLY U SHOULD KNOW THIS BY NOW;) THE TUB SCENE PROB NOT THE BEST FOR THE KIDDOS TO SEE. BUT IM SURE U LEARNED FROM IT. I FIND MYSELF MAKING MISTAKES DAILY AND ''LEARNING FROM THEM". LOL I LOVE WATCHING THE OC HSWIVES. WITH NO DRAMA....NO SHOW! CANT WAIT FOR THE NEW ONE TOMORROW!PS....EDDIE IS HOTT.... XOXO

Tamra, you provide a good lesson in what not to do.

Tamera, you say Gretchen blames you for her mistakes? You blame Simon for yours!!

Good for you Tamara. It doesn't matter what Simon thinks of the hot tub scene.You are divorced, its your love life! Don't even feel bad. And as for Gretchen, i am surprised. I liked you both, but this season she is really showing an ugly side of herself that isn't classy or sweet. I give you props for being the bigger person and taking what she said to you at your party like a lady. Keep being yourself and being happy, you deserve it. If she can't move on and wants to hold a grudge, let her lose the sleep over it. Good luck with everything!

Tamra-I enjoy watching you this season! Stay strong and don't listen to Gretchen's comments! She's not happy with her life and you can totally tell. Glad you're enjoying your life and I hope things work out with Eddie!

Hi Tamara, I hope you read this as you are my Favorite Orange Co. Housewife! And then Vicki. However, you are honest with your faults, true to yourself and tried desperately to protect your older son from Simon. I feel for you. My kids are my kids are my kids and they have my blood but husband does not have my blood. I saw Simon's controlling, manipulative ways all the way to the Midwest! I'm not bashing Simon as he'll find the perfect someone for him but it wasn't you! Honey, take life slow and don't jump into anything too soon! I would hate to see you get hurt on tv again. As for Gretchen; let's face it--is she really a housewife; not at this time and she's young. Enough said. Love you Tamara; tell Vicki hi!!

Hi Tamra, Just wanted to say how happy I am that you have found a new man that treats you right and that you can have fun with. Who cares about the bathtub scene, you guys are in love.

I just cant beieve that you Tamra think that life is so great now that you have Eddie in your life. Shouldn't it be that you have 4 beautiful children in your life? I hate the fact that you think that the man makes the woman. It's sad, I am fighting for my daughter right now that wants to die because she feels like she has nothing to live for. God is something to live for and MY children are the reason I live for along with my husband of 23 years of hard work. I wish you luck and yes you owe ALL the women an apology on the show! ALL OF THEM!! Think about it

I thought the bath tub scene was VERY romantic!

You may feel the need to second guess yourself about the bath scene because you have young children. I understand that. However, that brief part of the show was to illustrate a romantic part of your life and relationship. Soft core porn?!?! Your critics have got to be kidding!!!

Forget those people, really. I think they would be much better served taking a good look at their own lives and the violence and crime on the television shows they let their children watch during family hour viewing.

Best wishes to you and Eddie!!!

Tamra divorce looks good on you. the bath was steamy.becareful not to put it all out there look before you leap.your great ,i would be upset to see you get hurt.Simon look how a real man takes care of a lady.tamra gretchen is not the bad. imagine if you had to live with slate (pure slime) .gretchen you need a man like Eddie maybe you will be nice again. i love the show!

Umm, didn't Lisa on Atlanta have a tub scene with her man...did everyone freak out when that was shown???? Not saying I would do it but everyone should give it a rest. btw, porn has nudity in it, this did not.

5 crewpeople with cameras and you still get naked? I'm sorry, the apology doesn't ring true. Who does this?

Seriously, you were one of my favorites last year, even though you had your moments, your pain was real and made you human.

Glad you are happier, just wish you were more genuine and not so attention hungry this year.

I wonder if Vicki speaks to Eddie the way she did to the hard working construction worker. "No scratchy the woody". And Tamra you are not starting your life at 40 you are not 40. The bathtub scene was gross.

Tamra,

I think what you are going through must be so difficult right now. Congrats on the new man! Don't listen to any of the negativity, you are awesome! Keep being classy. Gretchen is immature and absolutely ridiculous (you trying to "steal" her employee... really?)

I think Tamra never really had a chance to have fun when she was a teenager. Becoming a mother so young robbed her of a lot of fun and she may be trying to make up for it now. I just hope she doesn't wake up one day and regret her decisions.

Tamra,
We all do things we look back upon and cringe. It's so nice seeing a different side of you with a man. It is so obvious how smitten you are and how happy you really are because of it. Try not to get sucked into Vicki too much. Last season she felt like the underdog (you know, the way she loves to have everyone else feel). Vicki is kissing some maja you know what, so she can feel like she is on top again, and everyone else is below her. I liked you a lot last season when you were having fun with all the girls, and not just sticking with Vicki and that mean girl attitude. Anyways, glad to see your so happy.

You should really apologize to Gretchen so you both can move on. You were very mean to her when she first started the show, she has obviously never gotten over It, be a big girl and just say you're sorry. And no one wants to see some old people naked In a bathtub, please don't do that again, thanks.

Please Tamara, you don't have anything to apologise with "the Gretchen" I don't understand why she refuses to LET-IT-GO with you. Perhaps, she 's coming to terms with herself, and all the court proceeding's etc. and you calling her out on-it, is the catalyst for her whining: Gretchen's in DENIAL!

Eddie is adorable, and you look very happy, but' I hope we don't have a repeat of the TUB scene. I'm not going say, it was one of your best moment's-- but' it's one more thing you need to work on. Please just remember you cannot make everyone happy, and you don't always need to be right.

Try not to fight with Simon, be the bigger parent, and keep-it positive for the kid's-- don't play that game. If he wants to make you look bad, it's all on him,,," You need to stay neutral and always put the kid's first.

{{{big hug}}} and regards: A.LYNN :)

I can already see it, another season with Tamra and Vicky being the mean girls. It's getting old.

Tamera.........Congrats to you!!!!!....You look a lot happier with life! I'm sure this will mend some of the hurt that your son has went through with your relationship with Simon. Look forward and don't play into the ridiculous comments by Gretchen. Her and Slade are a joke!!! Rise above the Katy comments and allow it to fall on her. All I can say is you look happier. Don't have to walk on eggshells any more. Live Life..And Love Every Minute of it !!!!!!

Tamera.........Congrats to you!!!!!....You look a lot happier with life! I'm sure this will mend some of the hurt that your son has went through with your relationship with Simon. Look forward and don't play into the ridiculous comments by Gretchen. Her and Slade are a joke!!! Rise above the Katy comments and allow it to fall on her. All I can say is you look happier. Don't have to walk on eggshells any more. Live Life..And Love Every Minute of it !!!!!!

wow gretchen is obsessed with you, you should post all the proof pics of her

People make mistakes all the time. They key is to learn from them. I highly doubt you have as you are more concerned with your "image' being tarnished. I couldn't phathom getting that carried away with cameras and crew around. Now you announce that you will probably marry sometime in the next year. You don't like to work, you need to rely on a man to support you. Instead of taking time to figure out why you past two marriages failed, what role Ryan plays in hurting your relationships, considering your younger children (just because you haven't introduced them doesn't mean they haven't figured out Mom has a new man). We haven't hear Simon's side of the marriage. Maybe he was too controlling but you were out of control (just like your son).
I am sure BRAVO won't post this because it seems they what to avoid any negativity with their wives.
It is time for you to take stock, own up to your mistakes, think of your children, and get off the show!

I'm so happy for you Tamra! You've always been my favorite housewife. You're real, fun, a great mom and absolutely gorgeous! Gretchen is so jealous and envious of you - that's where the hostility comes from. Just ignore her. She could never and will never be you - not even close - and for this she hates you.

Have fun with Eddie - you deserve it!! I hope you get all that you deserve and I'm rooting for you! Here's to happiness girl . . . you only live once!

Hey Tamra! I think both you and Vicki are great! I love that you both are HONEST and tell it like it is. Bathtub scene...girl you are crazy! We all do crazy things and think "oh crap maybe I shouldnt have done that". But life is about having fun and not having to live by someone else's standard. Everyone judges, you just cant take them personally. I love you personality and your new outlook on life. Keep up your head up! Much love from Austin, TX!

I am so happy for you in your new love and life. Simon was not the one for you throughout your life and I can see how you shine.
What I don't get is why the camera guys stayed and filmed. They should have had the decency to leave when you got in the tub at least. They shouldn't have shown the scene.
Andy was wrong to let them. Better watch the booze in the bathroom scenes from now on. But, don't worry as we still love you Tamra!

I THINK YOU NEED TO SAY SORRY TO GRETCHEN BECAUSE IT WAS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS TO SAY CRAP ABOUT HER PAST AND YOU GAVE HER SUCH A HARD TIME ...........NOW THAT YOUR IN A DIFFERENT LIGHT SO MANY PEOPLE ARE QUICK TO JUDGE AND IM SURE YOU CAN PUT YOURSELF HER SHOES NOW..... I AM HAPPY FOR YOU AND UR FREEDOM BUT U DO NEED TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON

Tamara, Don't beat yourself up over the fact that you did the hot tub scene we all do make mistakes, that being said I do hope the best for you and Eddie and I'm looking forward to the rest of this season. I'm really sorry for the breakup of Don & Vickie but I do think that Don is better off, Vickie was so jealous of the rest of you that she had to act as though she was superior because she makes her own money, but the fact that she and Don have broken their ties speaks volumes for her jealousy that the rest of you are single and can mingle. Good luck and l do hope that you and Gretchen can work things out amongst yourselves.

All these haters are SOO annoying. Yeah the bathtub seen was a little sketch, but you learned and i believe that your on a good track. Tamra I'm your biggest fan. I love you and I'm glad to see that your being the bigger person.

You know what, you are right, Simon was SO controling that he would have NEVER let you film a bath tub scene. Sorry, that's protective.....Alex and Jim work. It's a quality that they need in their marriage.
You and Gretchen just should not be in a 10 mile radius of each other. It's getting old.

I switched channels when your bathrub scene came on. Yes, Tamra, it was tacky.