Tamra Barney

Tamra admits that she regrets the bathtub scene.

on Mar 20, 2011

The one thing about me is I will always own my mistakes, which leads me to the bathtub scene. I knew the next day after filming it that I made a big mistake. It was me getting caught up int he moment, drinking wine, and forgetting the cameras were there. I have been dreading this episode for eight months. As a mother, this was not one of my smartest moments on TV. Even thought I do not allow my children to watch the show, it doesn't mean their friends don't. This was one of those moments that I had to sit my kids down and tell them that mommy made a mistake and did something on TV that was in bad taste. I have a great communication line with my kids and have taught them that everyone makes mistakes, and as long as you own up to your mistakes, you will learn from them.

You finally got to see Eddie in more ways than your probably wanted too. He didn't say much and was extremely nervous in front of the camera. The first night we filmed I looked over at him and he started to turn white and said, "I cant do this." So that was the reason for the shot of tequila, it calmed his nerves. The bathtub scene was about five shots of tequila for him, and when he walked in the bathroom he was caught totally off guard. He looked at me and said, "You're naked," while there were about five people with cameras and audio looking on. It was uncomfortable for him, but he jumped right in.

Eddie is an amazing man, and I am so lucky to have him in my life. He has been with me through this divorce process and has been so understanding and not judgmental. I am sure it has been hard for him at times, but he has helped me heal along the way, when most guys would have ran. I am the first to agree that getting involved with someone so soon is not a good choice. Although in the beginning it helps with the pain, it also stops you from dealing with the issue at hand. Everybody deals with divorce differently and I am not sure there is a right way or a wrong way to deal with your emotions.

Eddie has meet my kids a few times, but we are not pushing anything on them. He knows the importance of giving the kids the time they need. I think they still have a long road of healing. My kids know that he makes me happy and will never take the place of their father. Simon is a very hands-on dad, and we share equal custody. So the time that I have the kids I spend with them, and the time he has them I am able to spend time with Eddie and my friends. At first glance you would think Eddie is a another good looking Orange County player. This is a perfect example of how you cannot judge a book by its cover. You will learn a lot about him and how this once poor boy from Mexico made a good life for himself and his family around him. He really is a true inspiration to a lot of people.

I was dying laughing at Jim in his car when he was trying to use the voice activated phone book. Eddie just recently bought that exact same car, and it happens to him every time! Since seeing this episode, I yell out "Dan!" whenever Eddie is trying to call someone from his car, and he looks at me like, "Can you please just grow up?" I don't know why I think it is the funniest thing ever. In the time it takes to get the voice activated thing to work, you could have just dialed it.