I'm writing with regard to the episode that aired on Sunday, May 8. Tamra, you're quite proud of your efforts with the NoH8 campaign. I'm not sure why you and Fernanda were photographed, photographed together, or photographed topless. But I'm happy to have all the support this campaign can, so...great! Good for you! But I was very surprised when, during your meet up with Fernanda to discuss the bathroom kiss, you said "gay girls don't look like you!" to her. I'm sorry, what's that now? Stereotypical much? Again, it's great that you support equality. But those kinds of hurtful comments hurt just as much coming from an ally.

Tamara,just want to say I have watched the show from the beginning,wasn't sure what I thought about you not that you would care ,but as a viewer you did a total turn around GO GIRL I hate to think a man could change someone that much but you are totally different relaxed and having fun take it for what it is attitude.my my what a man youv'e got know.Keep us laughing it's great to watch a much nicer and mischevious Tamara.

Tamra you are my favorite on the OC show and I love you and Eddie. Eddie is very handsome and intelligent man. You two should keep up the good love and do not messy it up because happiness is the key to any relationship and when you are happy, everything around blossom including your business, health etc. so do not involve yourself with negative people be supportive as always and if Gretchen thinks saying or making some unhappy will get anywhere she has not it what she is in with her man and even her dad is not in support for her to marry or sign a marriage contract/lease as she claims it. Gretchen man does not seem sincere but time will tell.

Tamra, if Eddie wants a child of his own support him because God will reward you and your life will be well lived. I also like your friend Vicki but she takes life very serious and ingores her husband after all Liz Taylor passed away and all her wealth still on this planet............I will keep watching OC housewife but latelly I have missed three - four shows because I lost my job and I could not pay my cable bill so it was caught off.

Fernanda never should have been on the show in the first place. It's obvious she is wanting camera time and filming her, her lover and Lynne seemed out of place.
Tamara, for being nervous about the catwalk, you walked like a pro. You were the best non-professional on the walk. I was a little embarrassed for Peggy with her weird walk in such a short dress for an older women. It just didn't look right. That arm swing took the cake too! ha.
I didn't like you in the first couple seasons. It goes to show that it does take some time for people's true nature to show-just like in real life. Now the people I used to like (Gretchen, Jeana), are now the people I dislike for one reason or another. It's amazing how it takes time and events to really get to know people and how they face certain situations.

You are ridiculous. You changed? Yeah, maybe for the worse. Jealousy of Gretchen is getting really old...like you.

Tamra, you (ROCK) you are my favorite house wife of them all.and Vicki this year last year I could not stand her but you as her friend has made her alot nicer.I love that you all ways say it how it is please don't ever change... and I'am so happy you got rid of that husband of yours he was a jerk.why did you ever marry him? he never let you be you.and I hope you will never be friends with Alexis or Gretchen they both are little girls I hope they grow up soon.it is great to see you happy this year you did great with your new man.I have been with my husband for 20 years and he is ten years younger than me I love it.so keep on being you and I hope you never leave the show.thanks for making me laugh.Dyana

looooove you!!!!

You are amazing and awesome...and you keep the show HOT! I love the freedom you have found...and the person you have became. I would love to live in your shoes for a day! I am your NUMBER 1 FAN! But, Tamra, it killed me and broke my heart when I heard you say "retard". I really felt sick. My grandson was born with cCMV. It is a virus that causes brain calcifications. He is 4 years old and this little angel has been through hell. If we take him to the park, he is picked on and pointed at. If we are shopping, people stare....Not because he looks different, because he is 4 yrs old and still on a bottle due to severe feeding issues...also, he has Cortical Visual impaired,...(diagnosed legally blind), hearing impaired, Mild Cerebral Palsy, Eating disorder, sleep disorder, Non verbal, severe eczema, oral aversion and the list goes on. I have had to quit my job to help with his care while my daughter is in college. Every penny we get, my husband and I spend it on things he needs. I haven't been able to even buy myself shoes or clothes in 2 years...Everything is about getting Gavin to the point where he is as independant as possible...We are far from rich...but the love and the joy and the lessons that my grandson, Gavin, has given me is immeasurable..
I live through you I guess you can say...You have brought me such laughter and enjoyment that sometimes, it takes me away from all the worries and the stress here.... Even if for an hour. I dont think I have ever turned my tv from Bravo except to let my grandson watch Dora!
Please try not to use that word again. I fight so hard for my grandson to get better and for people to treat him normal...that when you said 'retard' ...it leterally made me sick and broke my heart. I will not stop watching you because I feel that we all make mistakes. What is the most important lesson is that we learn from those mistakes. I still adore you and wish you the best always.
God Bless you ....In Oklahoma and always your fan!
Lisa

Tamra, you and Vicki are the only reason I watch Housewives of the O.C.
You are the only two that have real jobs and take care of their own children which is very important. Oh yeah and one more thing you both tell it how it is and that is why the rest of the wives dislike you both...but it is better to be yourself than a "Fake"

Enjoy your new life!!!

TAMRA, YOU ROCK! =) You tell it like it is! I hope you watch your distance from Alexis and Gretchen because they are haters! They always talk bad about you, and it bothers me because they always want to make themselves look good. They never own what they say! I relate to you the most out of all the housewives! You and Peggy make the show more ALIVE and FUN to watch! I hope you and Peggy become great friends in the years to come! I love watchin' scenes of you making jokes! HAHAHA! You crack me up, girl! You are too funny! KEEP IT UP! You are still THE HOTTEST HOUSEWIFE! You put all of them to SHAME! LoL. Hahaha! Jk Jk... TAMRA, YOU NEED TO HAVE YOUR OWN SHOW! I would be such a fan! LoL. Good luck with you and your kids, and I hope your relationship with Eddie keeps you happy because you certainly deserve it! You are a wonderful mother, and I hope Simon will maybe start being softer towards you as the years go by... Good luck, sweetheart!

Tamra - you are my all time favorite Housewife! I love that you don't hold back and you speak your mind. You aren't scared to be you and I admire that! You are an inspiration, just last week I bought a bottle of mace and made out with my best friend, LOL! Keep on being you - it's great and you are the only reason I watch the show! Kudos!

A group of us will be in Vegas that same Friday - Monday! Have fun girl! You deserve it!

PS Eddie is one hot tamale! LOL!

Tamera,

I have said it before and I will say it again....you are a woman to be admired!!!!

You don't take money from Simon...you moved into a smaller house without complaining...you are smart enough to not involve your kids in your relationship until you think they are ready...I honestly can't say enough good about you!!!!

I hope you don't think you are the only one who kisses their friends when you are drunk....cause so many people do stuff like that when they are drinking and having a good time...I know there have been times I had to say I was sorry to my friends and ask them "I didn't give you tounge did I?"...but if you are with good friends then they should take care of you not talk about you behind your back!!!!!

I think Fernanda wants more from you and is feeling left out and she is gonna start some kind of trouble whenever she can...

Please stay just as you are...I look forward to watching you grow without Simon...

You are my Favorite

Wow!! Tamara got the nerve to say that Jeanna asked too many questions, really? NO, TAMARA!!! You are forgetting that you did the same thing to Gretchen, you asked so many questions, you may Gretchen feel like shyt with all your questions with all your dirty looks and snide remarks about her and getting with a man with lots of money, yeah you seem to think that we the Viewers are stupid and didn't see what happened before, nah man, WE ARE SMART VIEWERS!! We saw what you did to Gretchen, I don't have any pity for you because you had caused all this, you, yourself talk about people give dirty looks to people smile in their face and then backstab them in the back, it is all you. You just keep thinking that you had nothing to do with all the nonsenses that has been said about you, but how nice for you to forget what you did to Gretchen, you treated her like shyt because you hated the fact that she is pretty very pretty and she was no doubt down to earth, she truly love Jeff, but you saw an opportunity to bash a woman, you bash a woman who has everything in control so you thought, not realizing that you, Tamara were the one who is very insecure, insecure in your marriage, your marriage that sucks big time. Hey, I get it, I was with a man who is controlling, who tells me what to wear how to be how not to talk how to talk right how to make my face look a certain way how not to talk to my friends of any problems only go to him how not to tell my family anything how I have to ask for money, MONEY that I earned from working at a job for over 25 years, and guess what, I have nothing he took everything from me I have no savings, so yeah I know about MEN BEING CONTROLLING BASTERDS, but I never treated my friends like shyt like you did with Vicki, with Gretchen, with Lynne and Jeanne, you were such a bitch and you still are, you haven't learned anything, you are nothing but a mean evil ugly person, you think the world revolved around you only as if you are the one and only who is, what? A nothing!!! Why don't you try to be a nice person, stop blaming everyone like Simon does with you, because you are acting like Simon when you pick on someone, when you talk trash to everyone, you are not a friend you are not a good friend to Vicki, only when you need something from her, you were never a friend to Jeanna, and it's not about her asking too many questions, it is because she is speaking the truth, if she wasn't why get mad especially if you know the truth, only liars get upset on what the other is saying because they know it's true and it's being brought to light. You are nothing but arrognant selfish evil ugly person, you are turning like your ex-spouse, SIMON A CONTROLLED FREAK. Why don't you just sit awhile and think about what you did, and please stop talking about everybody, you act as if it is only Jeanna, PLEASE. It is you, you talk alot you talk behind people's back you are the one that likes to stir up trouble, so please stop acting like you are an angel.

Tamra needs her own show!

Tamra, i c u got out of ur shell but sometimes its better 2 keep ur month shut & u won't get into so much trouble...truth is 1 thing blabbling is another stop confusing the 2 things

Of ALL the different housewives' wives. I must confess, that you are the one, with which, I most relate. Especially, when I mix fun with alcohol. You get more loveable (as do I). How fun. I'm not a mean drunk. Like you, I'll hug and suck face with......fill in the blank. I'm a quick wit with a bite-ing, sense of humor. Just a short sh*t, with a killer body and great sense of self. When I divorced my husband, (more controlling than Simone), because he is a Colonel in the U.S. Army. It occured to me, that I would tell "inquiring minds", that I was a widow. When folks would ask how he died, I'd say, "my husbands wasn't dead, my marriage was". Or if someone asked if I had a dog, my response, "no, I divorced him". After 27 years of marriage, he left me, after my breasts left me. Which is to say, after my bi-lateral masectomy, the Colonel advised me that he couldn't stay in our marriage, if I didn't have implants. I chose not to have that type of breasts or that type of person. I almost wrote "man, instead of person". Oops. Just a work in progress. My life is so full. I'm still hot sh*t. The difference? Tube Sock's. hahahaha

Tamra,

You were only nervous walking the runway because simons voice is in your ear saying "you aren't classy"
I seen how nervous you were and i felt bad knowing someone made you feel so bad that you lost your confidence.
You're classy, you're just a smart ass. Don't let the words Simon used to say stick with you. You are the hottest housewife!

I think the telling of the kiss was awesome drama but somewhat unethical. Regardless of the intensity and intension of your Katy Perry moment, no one should be "outed" by anyone else in public. Especially because it could compromise your current relationships. But I understand Fernanda being upset. She seems she had a crush on you and it is never fun being rejected, even when you also know that it won't work out. I think it is awesome if you are open-minded enough to feel something for someone regardless of their gender. But it should be your decision what to make of it and when, if at all, to inform others. I think Fernanda was just speaking out of hurt. I hope you both have become friends again. You look like you have a lot of fun together.

Tamra:

I absolutely love you! Stay true to you, you're just fabulous :)

Tamra I love you! I'm 21 years old and I wanted you to know that I seriously aspire to be like you "when I grow up" haha. You're freakin hot and I love that you still know how to party and have a good time wherever you go. Please don't ever change!

WTF. Is Jeana writing a book? What is with all the questions? Stay clear of her Tamara. Next time tell her it's none of her biz. You're a great mom....I'm sure your kids know that & that's all that matters! Best of luck to you & Eddie. God Bless you all.

P.s. to the person who asked why her kids are not on the show...probably Simon is behind that one.

Jeana was out of line to comment on your marriage. Anytime a relationship goes sour, it is rarely one persons fault. However, I don't think that she has a nasty soal. I think she was perhaps overzealous in her desire to be a support system for Simon (and I'm sure a gossip like you said).
Great job at the fashion show:)

Tamra..
I love you...please don't use the "retard" reference. I found that offensive. My 2-year-old grandson has Angelman Syndrome, and it really hurt me to hear my favorite housewife speak like that. You have great humor, you are successful and beautiful...but could you have a heart?

I am a huge fan, and grandmother in New Hampshire. Please be more careful.

You are such a different person this year!! You're ex was snuffing out a candle....with him gone, you really glow!! So much more relaxed, forgiving and fun!! I can relate to the position you were in with him. It's great to see someone pull themselves together and really become the person they were meant to be. I don't know you at all, but think you are an inspiration and you seem like the kind of person I'd like to be and be with. Keep your head up always and be proud of who you are.

I have always been a real big fan of Tamera and I can relate with what she went through with Simon cause I myself have been there, but Am wondering whats going on with her this season? She has become really mean at times, but I have to say I am really happy that she has found love again with a wonderful guy. Sometimes the love of your life is there when you are not looking.

Dude, you rocked the runway like no other. You had a slight bounce to your walk and that's what professional models do. It cracked me up when Peggy strutted her stuff. She didn't look natural.
Again Tamera you looked really good modeling the clothes. You could be a petite sized model . It seems clothes fit your frame like a glove. Here you were so nervous. You worked it girl.

It doesn't matter if it was an innocent kiss, why would you do that if you were married??

I AM NOT YOUR BIGGEST FAN-YET, YOU'VE GOT SOME FUNNY ONE-LINERS AND CAN MAKE ME LAUGH. YOU SHOULD TONE DOWN THE PROFANITY A BIT, BECAUSE I THINK IT DEMEANS YOU.
I ONLY RECENTLY STARTED WATCHING THIS SHOW B/C I LOVED TRHWBH'S.
SO, I DON'T KNOW WHAT WENT ON BETWEEN YOU AND JEANA. YET, SHE'S LOST A LOT OF WEIGHT AND LOOKS SO WONDERFUL! YOU REALLY DIDN'T HAVE TO MAKE THE COMMENT ABOUT NOT BEING ABLE TO PICK HER UP OR THROW HER...THAT'S SO HURTFUL!
IF YOU CAN RISE ABOVE THAT STUFF, I THINK YOU'D BE MUCH MORE FUN!!!! I DO MISS RHWBH...THERE WAS MUCH MORE CLASS ON THAT SHOW THAN THIS ONE.

Tamra-When are you getting your own show, it would be great!!

i feel like fernanda is trying to get more air time by stirring things up. she doesn't act like the friend she expects you to be.

Tamra you always make me laugh. Forget about Alexix and Gretchen, they have their own issues they are taking out of you.

Tamra you ROCK! Is it just me or does anyone else think that Tamra looks a lot like Coco Ice-T's wife but way hotter and not hoochie like her????...

Didn't use to like you but this year you are a different person. You are fun, funny and although can be a little out of control, you seem happy. I like that you are a good mother. I respect that you have not thrown your kids into this new relation ship. It shows real caring about your kids. Glad Simon is out, he treated you awful. I also love that you owe you actions. No BS, if you do it you say "yeah I did it" Love the comment about Alexia being stupid. Yay howdy. Where did they find her, I'll bet not in church.

So i really have a question for you Tamara, you always talk about your kids is there a reason that you never ever have them on the show...im sure there is but i was just wondering?

Tamra, I love you! You're beautiful, classy, and I'm glad to see you finally happy. Both you and Vicki are my ALL TIME FAVORITES of all the RH. You'd be a blast to hang out with! :D

Thank you Tamra for pointing out Alexis's behavior toward her seamstress was indeed abusive! Her comment "Next Time You Will Listen to Me" was especially controlling and I thought hurtful. You know having lived with Simon when people want to make you feel small they put you down and control you and it's AWESOME that you can spot out an abuser when you see one. I am so glad you are free of that controlling man and do wish you every happiness.

It was also nice to see you write some positive comments about Gretchen this week on your blog. I know you two will never be close friends, but maybe it's time to just let all that energy go. You probably don't see it but you and Gretchen have been through very similar circumstances - she had a lot of sadness from the death of her husband and you had a lot of sadness from the end of your marriage. I hate to see any more pain between the two of you, you've both been through too much. Have a great summer and enjoy those kids, you are a great mom!

This might be overly dramatic, but even an innocent kiss with a member of the same sex can be blown way out of proportion by an ex-spouse with a grudge if there are child custody issues and his/her attorney is looking for an edge. I'd be more careful in the future, Tamra. People like Fernanda who are hungry for camera-time can cause an amazing amount of grief.

Yep, we loyal viewers remember when Simon slapped you with the divorce papers. Jeana makes no sense and seems to be just stirring the pot.

Love you, Tamra! You rocked the runway and it was great to see Eddie there cheering you on! Keep on keepin' on!

FL Viewer

Tamra,
All though you are a beautiful lady and have a lot going on I think you are a little out there at times. Understandable coming from a controlled relationship. Just be careful not to run so far the other direction just because you are finally free. One is just as bad as the other. Oh one more thing. When you drink and kiss your female friends, I am sure that most of them are straight like you but when you kiss someone who is gay its the same as kissing a guy. They read the same thing into it. It not just for "drunk fun" its for real. just sayin

Hahaha...so you kissed a friend. Big deal. As you said already, you kissed Andy too. I have got to say that gays have an attention/media whore gene. You need to drop Fernanda. Boring.
Wow you and Eddy are hot. He sure keeps a smile on your face and vice versa.

tamara your amazing

I agree with what someone else told you. While you may have thought it to be innocent-she may be deeply in love with you and took it as a sign that it wasn't. When she found out it wasn't going anywhere she may have felt confused and angry and thats why she lashed out! I think you may be bi-curious and just haven't totally discovered it yet. I love you on all seasons. Take care of yourself and the kids and screw everyone else ;)

I just have to say I think you are right on with Jeana. Jeana tries to act like the sweet, caring person but I really think that deep down she is nasty. She acts like her feelings get hurt so easily, but then attacks others like nothing. I think is is absolutely insane of her to place blame for the demise and YOUR marriage all on you. First of all, she is hearing one side of the story. Does she just trust everything that is told to her? Second, she did not live with you guys. She is entitled to her opinion, but I really think on something like this she should have kept it to herself. I haven't like Jeana since she attacked Lynn when she was the new housewife. Ever since then she started throwing digs in here and there, but saying them with a smile so you couldn't get mad at her. I think because of the way her marriage went, Jeana is so used to being controlled by men that she just always takes the man's side of things. I honestly do not know what happened between you and Simon, but your decisions are exactly that - YOURS. I am not going to pass judgment either way when I didn't live through it. You would think Jeana would feel a little pity for you since she had a controlling marriage. But again, she believes everything a man tells her over a woman. Oh and while she looks good, are your sizes different in that part of the country? A Size Small/6 my butt!

Tamra, I spent the last two years hating on you and this year I can't get enough of you! I feel like the true you finally is showing! Please get rid of the toxic friendship with Fernanda if you have not already. She is using you. Stay close to Vicki, Peggy, and Lynn. Eddie is great for you and I just love him. You guys should get your own show! I love how real you are and not wrapped up in the fame and money! You're a good mom, smart, beautiful, funny, you are the total package! Please stay who you are this season!

Tamra: You are by far the hottest housewife! It's not even close. You come across as a very real person on the show. You get into everything you do with so much passion. I admire you leaving Simon. It's gotta be crazy tough with 3 little kids. Dont let any of the other housewives get you down with their petty jealousies. I love the show. and I love watching you! Keep up the good work.

I thought you were so pretty and darling on the runway! I'm a petite girl like you and I was amazed at how well you held your own amongst the tall gals!! Bravo!

I was sad to see how badly Jeanna treated you. She is a treacherous woman; please stay far from her, Tamra!! Please don't ever again feel obligated to answer her questions!! Don't talk to her, stay far away from her, and let her say what she will about you. Jeanna is not fooling anyone!!

Yes I kiss girls too when I'm drunk lol as does about 90% of women, they probably wake up and say "I don't remember" so that means they didn't do it? nope, they did lol

Tamara stay away from Fernanda! She wants to have a relationship with you it's obvious! It seems she might me a jelly bean of Eddie. She was really taking some shots at you! Thats sick! So what you kissed your friend on your birthday! Your straight she don't get it! Luckily Lynn stuck up for you!! She's your real friend keep her around. Please get her back on the show we miss her!! Dump fernanda bring back Lynn. I love you and Peggy are becoming friends. She see like a good friend to you! You and Eddie are so cute together!!

Tamra I love you this season. I used to be a Gretchen fan but no longer. She had shown her true colors by being so nitpicky about every cast member. I am so glad that you have freed yourself from mean comments, being told what to do, what to wear and what to think. I think Eddie is a great guy and in time since both you and Simon are dating both of you will have to introduce the children to the partners in your lives that you are really serious about. I am impressed with how you have handled dating since your seperation. You have remained the wonderful mother that we have always seen on Real Housewives. Keep your chin up and don't let the Gretchen's, Alexis's and Jeana's get you down. I used to like Jeana alot but for someone who lived with a husband like Simon I can't believe that she supports him in the divorce and says you should of given him a chance when he refused to work on the marriage in any way when you requested a short seperation. I am shocked by her judgmental attitude she used to be my favorate of all the shows, then she left and she became mean. Now they all gang up when you decided to empower yourself and free yourself from verbal and emotional abuse. I love you girl. Take the high road. I'll pray for you and your success.

I think it depends on what type of kiss it was. It really isn't ok to give more than a quick kiss on the lips to another person. Especially if you were married at the time and the woman is a lesbian who has the hots for you. Don't be cruel and lead her on. She seems sweet to me. We'll see what happens like you said-more to come.