Hey tamra, I am a huge fan of yours and have enjoyed watching you from the beggining. I think you have a great heart and are a great mom. When I watched this episode and saw gretchen behave like the way she did it made me sad. I thought, wow gretchen is still really hurt and angry. To be perfectly honest I dont blame her. You did say some horrible things to her and I dont think it would to be too far of a stretch to say that you both owe eachother some apologies. I love ya both. Wish you both happiness and peace in your lives.

Cassb

Tamara, just want to share that I absolutely loved the moment you came on the show:) Everything happens for a reason even when we know and try to hang in there for what ever reasons, children, security etc... Things will only be good for you because you are a great person and good one on keeping the kids out this year, with all the drama of divorce and Simon and the proximity they need to just heal and become another statistic in American households
(unfortunately)...

How is your oldest son doing? Keep reminding him that you LOVE him no matter what, although you may disagree with things he does in life. On a brighter note you and I have identical personalities, similar pasts and the funny thing is friends and family have nicknamed me Tamara in your honor! The weird part is that my sister (she's not blond) is just like Vicky! With one exception, at least Vicky lets loose and party's some of the time!!

Gretchen is so annoying, get her out of my TV screen I cant deal with her or Slade pleaseeeeee put Lynn Back on.... I dont want to hear about it nor care about it.... I love you Tamra, I love how you have managed to break out of your shell and stand up for your self and kick Simon to the curb....... so looking forward to this season.....

Hi T - I hope this year is better for you than last year. Everyone deserves to be happy. So far I am liking you better this year, but to let you know ahead of time, I saw the preview where you throw a drink in Jeanna's face. Just a for warning, I think you will be alot of bad comments on that. Even though you have started on a good foot, I can only assume, it will go down hill from here. I have not idea what Jeanna said to make you upset, but I shows me you will be returning to your mean girl ways. NO ONE is allowed to act like that. How old are you??? Didn't you learn anything in kindergarten???? I do hope things go well for you....but I am not holding my breath.

Tamara....
Gretchen is with. Slade isn't that enough karma.

Tamra!
You are my favorite house wife, by far the most "real" of them all. I believe you are honest, whether the truth is good or bad. I think Gretchen is obnoxious and just ridiculous. I cannot see why anyone would be on Gretchen's side of this mess... She has just proved time and time again how immature she really is. Yes, as a woman, we all have tendencies to be a little catty, stir up a little drama, and say things we shouldn't but that's the beauty of being a female. I really admirer you for being a strong woman, even in these hardest times! I'm so happy you found the love of your life, whether the divore is finalized or not! Happiness is key, I can't wait to see how this season plays out. Keep your head up!

I think an apology to Gretchen would be a waste of time. She is not going to forgive and forget, she's going to milk this for all it's worth. She knows she would lose a ton of fans if she weren't the victim. Stay strong Tamra and focus on people that matter!!

Please quit blaming Simon for how you acted in the past...YOU have to own what you did, it's funny how you deflect your reposibility for your past actions.

Tamra, I like you a lot. In fact, I like all of you ladies. You each have your good and bad moments but overall you are a great group of women have been enjoyable to watch these past years.

I have one important comment that I hope you consider. You keep refering to yourself as a "Bitch". "I'm a free bitch", I'm a single bitch" I know it's slang and ladies often call eachother & themselves bitches in jest.

However, you are a Woman! A newly single, independent, beautiful, intelligent WOMAN. Calling your self a bitch over and over is unessesary and it's bad for Women as a whole.

Please realize that through this medium of TRHW's you have the opportunity to set an example & be a role model for women of all ages. Call yourself a Woman, not a Bitch (even if you only mean it as a joke) Somehow, I feel it is a subconscious indication of your somewhat broken self esteem since your divorce. (which is totally normal - I am not judging you)

Keep smiling and enjoy your single life. You deserve all good things. All of you ladies do!!!

You said so many awful things about Gretchen last year and then you think that just because you're having a party she should be nice to you? Not even an applogy came from your mouth. I think that if you truly wanted to be a nicer person you should call Gretchen and ask herto meet you in a mutual place. Then really give her a sincere true apology for the mean and terrible things you said to her. What Gretchen does in her personal life is her business and not yours. I didn't hear her say one bad thing about you and Simon but yet you can't wait to trash her. She also never said one bad thing about your kids either. I also do not see her as a gold digger and so what if Jeff left her some money. I truly hope that you mean what you say about being a changed person. Give Gretchen that apology and if she doesn't accept it then give her time. Quit saying bad things and she will probably come around. If you don't make the effort then it's true, you are the same evil person that I see on this show and you haven't changed at all. I know that there has to be a certain amount of drama on a show but you have been excesively mean toward Gretchen.

Its two little words, Im sorry. Then this mess will be over. Move your pride aside. People just cant do the simple things. They hang onto words, and its just silly. I personally disagree with how you have been. I think you like the drama and start most of it. You and Vicki constantly feel the need to talk down to everyone. Is that what money does to a person, cause if so, Ill remain poor. Rather have my dignity then act like an ass. Gretchen has been through a lot, which I understand. Lost my first husband myself. You dont undestand the pain unless you have been through it. So again, for Vicki and Tamra....just remember if you cant say anything nice, dont say it at all. You are both far from perfect.

While I did not agree with the comment that Gretchen made, I did feel you had it coming after how mean you've been to her in the past. Gretchen took it for a very long time and it seems, she has finally lashed out at you. She should have done it privately, but I do have to say you deserved it. Sorry.

Word up my girl simon at first he was allright but then he started to change when you would hang out with the ladies and that includes vicki! I am glad and happy that you did what you had to do. Your chidren are adorable and cute keep up the good work tamara love! Your friend fernanda she is wonderful! Much luck to you! God Bless!

Wow. Real Housewives of OC has always been my favorite and was the first season of Housewives I've ever watched. Since the beginning, and throughout every season I've watched, you're STILL my favorite housewife. I think the people that are all about Gretchen need to get over it! You handled yourself like a grown mature woman at your party and she acted like an immature high school girl. Does not matter what happened in the past, it does not excuse her behaving like a child the way she did. I LOVE YOU!!! Keep it up with the great attitude and enjoy being a free b****!!!!
LOVE YOU!!!

Love Ya Tamra.
This will be your year!!!!!!
Gretchen decided that she will be the Danielle of this season, so let her. You just keep being you!!!!

Tamara...I agree with you! you Go Girl!!! Stay Strong and Happy!!!

I also feel that until a public apology is made to Gretchen, there will be no peace in OC. The angry climate affects everyone and you and Gretchen are looking for others to choose sides.

When I watched the show I saw Gretchen make a comment about the Evil Eye hat...it was Tamra who used the B word. Tamara wanted to keep it going. She doesn't look mature to me.

Tamra,

Glad to hear you are turning over a new leaf this year! Last year things got a bit catty. However, you are completely justified in not offering up yet another apology to Gretchen. She loves to play the victim, and seems fairly good at it. Don't let her bring you down. Stay true to you and best of luck starting over as a single woman!

Two wrongs don"t make a right. Gretchen was so much classier before. I loved her but now not so much. She just needs to take the high road. I think Tamara was at fault for stirring up a lot of the trouble between her and a lot of people, but she obliviously wasn't happy and took it out on everyone else. I like you two when you get along and have fun, because I think all of you can be hilarious! Hopefully this year is not full of drama or I will stop tuning in.

Gretchen is all about Gretchen and will whatever to pump up herself over other people. I say good riddance.

Well, personally, I think its terrible to call someone's ex husband a "loser and a dork." Their children may read that and it's hurtful.
I had little exposure to this show last yr, so am not familiar with the relationship btwn you and Gretchen.
I tuned in and saw you furious over a pink motorcycle that was a gift for Gretchen...you were so angry, and I turned to another show. This particular show isn't what I thought it would be. But, a lot of folks seem to enjoy it. It's too petty and immature. You're all very pretty women but so ridiculously catty. There are so many opportunities you all have to spread good deedsand volunteer for charity events. If you do then I wish bravo would share more of that side of your lives.

Tamra,
I used to really despise you. Now, not so much. But please, apologize to Gretchen. You were wrong from the start. If your life is really great now and you are trying to be a better person, just bite the bullet. Believe me, it will be worth it in the long run.

Here in NZ you and Simon are still together, glad you got rid of the control freak. I really don't know why you all hang out together, do you actually like each other? It doesn't look like it.

Team Tamara. Nuff said.

Please bring Simon back and his new Lady Love. Bet she is classy and behaves as a lady should.

I just want to say how much I admire your strength and the classy way you have represented yourself. I cannot believe how Gretchen treated you at your own party! She is unbelieveable and I think she is showing her true colors.
I can relate to you in so many ways. I am torn on what decision I should make regarding my marriage. I swear, Simon and my husband must be related...lol
I even did the stupid tattoo on the finger when our problems started arising thinking maybe it would make him happy and treat me differently. Yeah right!
I have two children and I just want to experience that freedom you describe. I love it, "I'm a free bitch". Anyways, any advice would be great. Can't wait to see more episodes!

"If you tell the truth it becomes part of your past, but if you lie it will haunt your future."

You hit the nail right on the head with that one! People can get over the truth. If Gretchen did indeed lie to your face, you will probably never have any kind of meaningful relationship with her. (until she comes clean.)

In regards to your behavior last year, you were in a bad situation... your -marriage- was ending! Most people tend to act poorly towards others when there is heavy turmoil in their life. You're excused in my book-- really hope you keep moving forward and try to be a better person.

Can't wait to see how the season unfolds!

I think it's HILARIOUS how Gretchen thinks working is creating bags and makeup! Sorry sweetie reality check!

Agree 110% with sparkle freak!
Couldn't have articulated that any clearer.
But, I don't generalize ALL California women into this group. I know far too many that don't fit this mold.
This is an odd group of angry women who say vicious things (hopefully for ratings). Maybe you have to be a long time viewer to get it...which I am not.
I tuned out already. I miss classy Lisa and Adrienne already!

I just want to say I thought you handeled yourself so well at the shopping party. It trully takes a mature person not to respond to Gretchens behavior. I think she is finally showing her true colors. I wish you all the best with your new life and your children. Life is to short to spend it with someone that doesn't truly make you happy. Looking forward to this season!!!

i love ya on show! i think gretchen is cool but yes she did act like a beotch! your boyfriend looks hot! mexican men rock!

You were very mean to Gretchen at a very lowest point in her life. Lets face it she didn't need your help to dig herself a hole of misery she was already there and need a friend to help her out of it. You could have been a shoulder to cry on but instead you stepped on her and she is owed a real apoligy. She shouldn't have said anything at the party but you did get what you deserved after all you said about Jeff and her even after his death you couldn't get enough. Think back to the party were you helped get her stinking drunk. You made fun of her and helped put her in a bad situation with your son. You are to self centered to even think that any of this is your fault. Lady you need to get over yourself and start thinking about other people.You are not a nice person and it's a shame because I used to like you.

You did act very classy at your party and it must have been embarrassing to be spoken to that way in front of everyone. However, you yourself have been no angel and you did say some hurtful things behind Gretchen's back. I believe everything you said about the whole Jay fiasco, BUT big big BUT, that has now cost her some money and dings in her reputation and she is angry and resentful. Add to that the fact that she is with SLIME (oops i meant to say SLADE) and he is probably having the exact same effect on her behavior that Simon had on yours. She does seem to be coming from an aggressive somewhat negative place. I won't say anything about your divorce because of your precious children other than, good luck...I do think you made the right choice, however sad and painful that choice was. Good luck with your 6th season.

I have a feeling that one day in the future you will regret your split with Simon.
What was shown to the viewers as controlling behavior seemed like a man who was doing his best to keep his wife grounded. Unfortunately you sold your soul for the fame. I wish the best to your children who will carry this hurt for the rest of their lives. Take care.

Tamra, the people are right, you should give Gretchen an "official" apology. Just to be free and clear and done w/the whole thing. She's obviously waiting on one and wont forgive u until thats done, apparently. However, i really want to commend your change of lifestyle. You've changed. I can see it. You really can tell your happy and you WONT let anything drag u down, no matter how rude ,cruel, and distracting 'haters' try to do that to you. (simon, fans , Gretchen, whomever hatin on u that second) I applaud how 'grown-up' u acted when she back to back slammed u w/rudeness. You were soooo pretty how u just 'turned the other cheek" and showed the public ,life is just to short for ridiculous waste of energy ,distracting, false crap being flung at you. Your children are lucky your taking this Positive road to recovery (simon and your broken heart) . I think your doing great and i'm soooo proud of you. Good luck and God Bless you! Mrs.C

why not

Hi Tamara,

I think what Grechen did was immature and disrespectful... I'm not sure who she has been getting advice from but if she had issues with you treating her with disrespect in the past, the last thing you do is lower yourself to act the same way to someone in the same breath as yo are holding out for an apology for the same thing. You were wrong in the past, and I believe you should apologize to Gretchen. You judged her actions and decisions harshly, rudely and openly and that was not right and your responsibility in this is to apologize for that, however how Gretchen acted in someone else's home as a guest was worse considering she had the motive to attack you and knows how awful it feels on the back end of those things and should have known better. Tequila is not her friend, and she acted an unclassy, immatre fool at your party,while you handled yourself with grace and class. It seems obvious who the person is that is self reflecting and trying to move on in a positive way and who is not.
Forget anyone who judges your choices who hasn't stepped a day in your shoes; you are a beautiful person inside and out. On a side note-you should not hold Vickie in such a high regard as you do, she is a bad influence, and looks down on people with a superiority complex that she is not entitled to have. She is what you use to be and seems her karma is catching up with her this season. While she "works for her money" first and foremost, other housewives she critsized were nurturing their husbands/family first and foremost and perhaps her karma is catching up to her this season.

Loving Vicki and Tamara, seriously telling it like it is. Vicki's monogram bracelet can be purchased at www.theblackflamingo.com the stylist for the girl...Get the dresses, earring and much more on the site.

tamra..you are the pot calling the kettle black. of course we don't know what goes on the editing floor but all along you have been mean and vicious to gretchen. give it a rest and stop feeling because you have decided to be a nicer person that everyone has to forget how you treated them. give it some time and stop talking behind people's backs. i think you like to create drama and i think you like to be in the middle of it all....but then you act like it's everyone else and not you that is creating all the problems. i think you all need to take a good look in the mirror. for those of us that are struggling because of the economy take into consideration how trivial your drama really is.