Hi everybody, it's been over a year since we were last in your homes. I hope you missed us as much as we missed you! So much has happened in my life, and I cant wait to share it with you. Well, maybe not all of it...
My kids are doing great after a very hard year. Both Simon and I thought it would be best to keep them off the show this year. The divorce has been very difficult on all of us, and they didn't need the added stress. Sophia started kindergarten and loves it. Spencer is ten and a computer wiz, Sidney is twelve and started junior high and has made honor roll ever semester. Simon and I share custody and live one mile from each other, which makes it very convenient and easy on the kids.
I hope you all enjoyed the first episode as much as I did. There was no shortage of drama this week... Let the games begin!
I was determined to start this season off on a good note. I thought having a shopping party with all the ladies would be the perfect way to get us all together. Gee, what was I thinking?
I went all out with the food from Infusion Martini Bar (www.infusionladera.com), a hot, half-naked bartender, and clothes from Royal Plush. All good ingredients for... disaster?
I was a very shocked at Gretchen and the way she acted, from the phone call to her vulgar hand jerking. I was not expecting that at all. I had several email conversations with her about moving forward and not dwelling on the past. If I didn't think we were in a good place, I would have never invited her. And if she did not like me, why did she go? I did not attend her party last year, because we were not in a good place and I wouldn't feel comfortable in her home. Saying we were best friends would be a stretch, but I thought we were headed in a positive direction.
As we all saw, she walked in the party with her Gretchen Christine bag filled with anger, attitude, and bitterness. I am convinced now that she will continue to blame me for her past mistakes. If you tell the truth it becomes part of your past, but if you lie it will haunt your future. We all make mistakes in life, and I know it's hard to be exposed and deal with them publicly. But when you're on a reality show it's hard to hide from the camera. You should never blame others for your actions. I never asked to get involved!
Hi Tamra - I'm trying to figure you out. I know you've been through a lot with Simon and the divorce. I appreciated your revelation to Vicki about how your marriage unhappiness affected your relationships with others. But, I think you know how to give as good as you get. You are pretty aggressive and know how to fight dirty. I hope to see a more mature you this season. All the best!
love u tamara! You are someone who seems like a good friend whenu need one. Keep being who u r--u rock, girlfriend!
Wow. Definitely interesting show tonight. I had no clue that you & Simon were actually 'in' divorce proceedings. I saw last season the road you 2 were headed down, but didn't think it would come. Silly me, right? It was so obvious. I am in the same boat. Stuck in a marriage w/ an overbaring husband. The kids are my stepchildren, not mine, but Lord knows they need some of my guidance. I'm stuck. Nowhere to go. Pastry chef w/out an official degree, & I can't pursue it b/c of my marriage. Ugh! I want to leave so badly. But where would I go? 4 1/2 years ago I was SO independant and now.....SO stuck & scared. How are you dealing with this T? Please prepare me for what divorce holds..
Tamra, i never used to really enjoy watching you on RH but in this episode i feel like i was finally seeing the real you! I must say that you held your own at the party and hosted a great event! Its sad that gretchen had to ruin the party if only those hats worked! Congrats on your new life you seem so happy and secure dont let the haters bring you down!
Last season..I didn't like your behavior..but I have always liked you..just the same..I get for the most part..I totally agree with you on the incident regarding Gretchen. Unhappy people do unhappy things..and I don't think Gretchen truly has her happiness. Needs to drop that "slimey' dude..but when people do get bullied as you have..I don't know why she even came to your party..if she was going to be nasty and "speak her mind"..Isn't there a time and place for that? ...Season looks good..Always a Fan.
Tamra, you owed Gretchen an apology, and if you had done the right thing and given it up front, none of this silliness would have happened. She was being dumb with the evil eye, She shouldn't have done that. But at least she's sees you as you are.
Tamra, Every season you say you are going to bury the hatchett and play nice with everyone. It only takes hours before that is thrown out the door. I think Gretchen is a little insure (you would be too if people thought you were only with one man because he was on his death bed and now the man she's with nobody likes.) I think you play on that. I've heard that Jeana sticks up for Simon which I assume is the reason for your obnoxious behavior towards her. So should Gretchen have done the same to you when you accused her of wanting nothing more than a Sugar Daddy in Jeff? If you want to get over it, apologize FOR REAL and go from there. Stop listening to Vicki, she is an instigator and thrives off everyone else's drama then sits back and says, I don't want to get involved in any of this!! Grow up, that will be the best lesson you can give your young children.
I love you Tamra!!!! I have been looking forward to OC Housewives forever! Definitely my favorite Housewives on Bravo and you are my favorite OC housewife! I feel silly for blogging but I just love ya! I think you've been mature through all your seasons and handled yourself very classy throughout it all! However this is coming from a twenty year old...oh well thought I'd say hello and I can't wait for this interesting season!
Tamra, you are one classy woman. If g.r. (makes me sick to even spell her name ;D) was at my party and spoke to me the way she did to you... as Vicki said "Have some balls and tell g.r. to leave". You handled it so well. I on the other hand do not believe that I would allow her to act the way she does. I am so happy for you and hope you continue to excell in all that you wish for! Stay strong! *Peace & Love*
I wish you would have told Gretchen to leave. She had some nerve co I g to your event and doing that. She shouldn't have come. She was out of line. It wasn't the place or time.
You did nothing wrong. You were trying to let things go. She was out of line. It was your event. She should have stood home. I wish you would have told her to leave!
I am team Gretchen all the way. You owe Gretchen an apology. Please accept responsibility of your actions. You were very cruel to Gretchen.
I am very sorry about your divorce. I hope you are mature enough to be respectful about the father of your young children. Also remember it takes two to tangle.
If divorcing Simon was the right thing to do for both of you, I am happy for you.
i think the last few seasons were such a negative time for you because of your marriage with simon. but now i can see clearly that you have grown, matured, and you just want to live a positive and happy life. i went through something quite similar. it just sucks that everyone remembers the bad things, never the good. to prove them wrong, just keep staying classy, like the way you handled G at your party. G's true colors are gonna come out, and they don't look so good. show that you move FORWARD
just wanted to tell you that i'm on your side girl! gretchen was being so immature and ridiculous! good luck on your path of positivity and good energy!
Just apologize and move on. Why is it you acknowledge saying and doing hurtful things when it comes to Vicki but not Gretchen? She had every right to let you have it and you should have just said "I am sorry for anything I said or did in the past that was out of line." But then there would be no show I guess- right? Can't wait to hear how you are going to rationalize pushing Jeana which was shown in a clip.
Please can somewhere tell me where I can watch series 6 real housewives from Orange Country, I love it and have it in my diary for over two months to watch it and noticed Sky does not show Bravo now, so where do I get to see last night eposide? Please help me desperate
I am so sorry to hear that you and simon are not together anymore. You 2 make or made a good and nice couple. But I didn't like his attitude towards you at all. He is or was supposed to you advice you with nice words or say something appropriate. You have a wonderful family no doubt about that at all. Gretchen she is just mrs or miss class! I didnt like that she believed slade instead of lauri. welcome back to the show! luv ya!
Tamra, the housewives of OC wouldn't be a show without you!!! You really spice it up. As for you and Simon, I saw you two as completely different people. You are just way to social, fun and outgoing and he is just more quiet, reserved and steadfast. You will both find your new path, all you have to do is be respectful and honorable due to your children which I think you will do. Enjoy your new life every day girlfriend!!!!!
apologize to Gretchen, u owe her an apology that y she came to our party with her guards up. good 4 u, u got a little taste of your own medicine.
Simon is in a league by himself. I think Vickie hit things right on the head when she told Tamra that he was trying to control her. My bad opinion of him and his classlessness was sealed when he ruined Tamra's Birthday dinner and then said that Hiter had a good side too. What an @$$hole. He needs therapy and perhaps he would be able to get a better view of things if he would pull his head out of his self righteous rectal crevice.
Tamra, you look fabulous this season! I am a die-hard OC watcher-and you and Vicki are definitely my favorites to follow. I'm thrilled that you two are friends again; I have the same situation you once did- husband jealous of my fantastic bff because he flat out could not understand or comprehend that kind of friendship. Jealousy, pure and simple. No one should be so insecure that they make you chose them over a dear friend. And regarding Gretchen...she has her moments, that's for sure, but one day I think I really could see you guys becoming friends. She was wrong on last night's episode, but I think maybe one day she will get over whatever it is that makes her so catty to you. You two could really shake some things up in the OC, if that were to happen. =) Looking forward to this season!
Trying to be a better person and watch what you say......Can't help remembering the scene of you with Jeana and think this is all a line of BS....if you wanted to put your best foot forward as you say in your blog...it's too late. You look so ugly during that scene as well. Too bad - your starting off the season, I'm thrilled to see the show back, but your actions at the already shown after party makes this and any other blogs you post unreadable and untrue.
You are my favorite housewife and I can't wait to watch you kick some ass this season!
All the best for the future!
Tamra, Love the clothes you wear on the show. I was wondering if you could tell me where you get your clothes from so I can purchase some of the same outfits. Also do you work? How do you make a living if you don't mine me asking! Love the show! Hope you will be one of the nice girls this season. You girls have to much drama!!! LOL Stay away from Vicki, she is very negative and jealous of the other girls. LOL Good Luck!
Tamra , you are my favorite housewife but my other favorite is jeana, what's up with the way you was treating her, you have always had a bad attitude towards her, I heard it was over something about her defending Simon , well get over it. She is the most kindest housewife that's ever been on. I must say it almost made me look at you different when I seen the preview of you treating her like that, but we will see. My family tells me all the time that I look and act like you, so I hope you don't disappoint me with your behavior toward jeana.
Tamra may have done "nothing wrong" this time, but she has done plenty in the past. To expect her to just "move on" and let it go is extremely hard when Gretchen never confronted her for all the hurtful things Tamra accused her of and the mean things she said about her. Gretchen needs to vent and then move on. But, remember Tamra made some awful and hurtful claims that she could not back up with proof. It is like being in court and lying, once it is out of your mouth, you can't take it back and the public remembers it. Gretchen definitely needs to find a peaceful place so she can move on, but Tamra needs to own that she had no right to say Gretchen got "millions" when that is not true or that she was using Jeff, if that were true she would have married him while he was so ill. All Tamra has to do is say that she is truly sorry for the hurtful things she said. They may not be friends but they can at least be cordial to each other.
Gretchen should not have come to your party carrying all of the animosity. However, you were wrong with all of the gossiping you did about her. If you don't like her...then why talk about her? The first season that you were on the show I liked you and thought you were a class act....that opinion has now drastically changed. Review some past seasons footage to see why! You have been mean and back biting to Jeana, Vicki and mostly Gretchen. Who's next?
YOU my girl are the best!!! Too bad about Gretchen. Sad when someone who says they want to move on still has to be that way. Oh well. Honestly, I am kind of over the fight betweet you two. I want to see you and your new boytoy have fun and see you be happy for once. Forget all the other stuff. You make the show. Everyone knows it. I think peeps are a little over the Gretch and Slade thing. LOVE YOU GIRL!!!!!!
I was shocked when I saw "Watch what happens live" when you didn't win with a landslide over Gretchen. I mean what show were these people watching that voted. You definitely handled yourself with class versus Gretchen. She has become arrogant and cocky which will come back to bite her because viewers don't like that attitude. She was totally obnoxious and Slade is just creepy. The only thing I could think of is Bravo keeps airing that commercial of you throwing the drink at Jeanna so maybe people have negative opinion of you without knowing the circumstances. Anyway, I like "this" Tamra and Vicki too. Hopefully you can keep ignoring Gretchen. You really don't have to say anything, she will turn the fans off all on her own.
hey tamra, you're my favorite housewives. I love when you are positive but when you're not it can be draining to watch...but not as draining as watching Gretchen whenever she speaks.
All I have to say if TEAM TAMRA! I was really on the fence with how I felt about you but I think you splitting with Simon has really turned a new leaf for you and has caused me to appreciate you even more. I thought Gretchen was completely out of line in the way she acted at your party. That is no way to treat a host at their own party and I'm sure she would've been just as hurt if you had acted that way at a party of hers. I'm glad to see you took the high road and didn't try to keep drumming up drama with her. I agree you should've asked her to leave, however. I truly hope you stay on this positive mindset and keep looking at the positive things in life.
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You handled yourself very well on last night's episode. You should have kicked Gretchen out. She has no class and should not have come to the party if she didn't want to behave. Why would someone go to a party and trash the host? Also, she needs to learn to hold her liquor better. I am glad you are in such a great place in your life. I wish you the best of luck!
Tamara, you are sooo sensitive!!! I think you read into things way too much and you're a better person then Gretchon. From watching the clip, I just thought Gretchon did what she did out of fun and you could of just laughed of her slick comments. Instead you dug deeper by instigating it to Vicki and what not. Chill out a little!!!!
Love the OC. Even love you. Glad you left that tyrant, Simon. However, you said horrible things about Gretchen that aren't true. You said them publicly. You need to own that you did this, that they were inaccurate and that they hurt Gretchen. You need to sincerely apologize to Gretchen in the same public forum and manner you cast these horrendous dispersions. It isn't about whether you had nice emails between the two of you, that doesn't absolve you of owning this or fixing it. Gretchen came to your party to give you an opportunity to make it right and you didn't, worse you didn't even recognize the opportunity or that you need to apologize. Get on with it Tamra, it is the right thing to do and is a good example for you to set for your children.
Tamra, I love watching you and all the other girls but I agree with many others. All the drama at your party could have been avoided if you had offered Gretchen a sincere apology, either before your party or at the party. You treated her badly in the past and if you really want to move on and be friends, apologise to her.
Hey Tamra, It was so cool for you to be the bigger person when Gretchen was clearly out of line. I like watching you so much more with your new attitude. You, Alexis and Vicky are my favorite. I really can't stand Gretchens attitude at all. It just makes you look way better anyways. So happy for you and the new place you are in your life! Stay positive girl, it just attracts all the good things your way!
Gretchen's behavior was ridiculous but have you watched your behavior on past episodes? Look who's calling the kettle black!
Tamra, I have to be honest, in the past you've always been my least favorite. But I just wanted to say I was so proud of you for not acting like an obnoxious housewife when Gretchen tried to start a fight with you. It was totally out of line of her and you handled yourself very well. A far cry from what I am used to. I always think of you and Vicki as the mean girls that gang up on people. You stick together until one of you pisses the other off then you backstab each other. It's really sad to see. I hope you surprise me more this season. It was so nice to see you acting like a lady for a change. May your pond have less ripples in it this season. Good Luck to you!
Tamra, you have so much to say about Gretchen but you really need to take a good long look in the mirror. I agree Simon wasn't the best person for you to be with but you seemed to be more than happy as long as his paycheck provided you with the good life, once that was gone all of a sudden you were not so happy. Now, you find some young boy toy who it appears HAS PLENTY OF MONEY and you are all happy again. Also, attacking someone like Jeanna who actually has morals is not the way to have people change their opinion of you. So what if she defended Simon, Hell she will probably defend Don and lord knows that man put upn with a WHOLE lot of BS with Vicki but get over it she is entitled to her opinion just like you have your opinion of Gretchen. As for Don would Luv, Luv, Luv to see him and Jeanna hook up now they would make one great couple.
Gretchen was out of line. You invite her to your house and then she's rude to you, that is uncalled for
Tamara out of all the housewives I think you talk the most negative. If I were Gretchen I don't think I could ever forgive you. You started the fight and Gretchen is ready to fight the war.
could someone tell what color nail polish, Tamara had one last night I know she said opi???? on "Watch what happen live" thanks!