Tamra Barney

Tamra dishes on her disappointment with Gretchen's behavior.

on Mar 6, 2011

Hi everybody, it's been over a year since we were last in your homes. I hope you missed us as much as we missed you! So much has happened in my life, and I cant wait to share it with you. Well, maybe not all of it...

My kids are doing great after a very hard year. Both Simon and I thought it would be best to keep them off the show this year. The divorce has been very difficult on all of us, and they didn't need the added stress. Sophia started kindergarten and loves it. Spencer is ten and a computer wiz, Sidney is twelve and started junior high and has made honor roll ever semester. Simon and I share custody and live one mile from each other, which makes it very convenient and easy on the kids.

I hope you all enjoyed the first episode as much as I did. There was no shortage of drama this week... Let the games begin!

I was determined to start this season off on a good note. I thought having a shopping party with all the ladies would be the perfect way to get us all together. Gee, what was I thinking?

I went all out with the food from Infusion Martini Bar (www.infusionladera.com), a hot, half-naked bartender, and clothes from Royal Plush. All good ingredients for... disaster?

I was a very shocked at Gretchen and the way she acted, from the phone call to her vulgar hand jerking. I was not expecting that at all. I had several email conversations with her about moving forward and not dwelling on the past. If I didn't think we were in a good place, I would have never invited her. And if she did not like me, why did she go? I did not attend her party last year, because we were not in a good place and I wouldn't feel comfortable in her home. Saying we were best friends would be a stretch, but I thought we were headed in a positive direction.

As we all saw, she walked in the party with her Gretchen Christine bag filled with anger, attitude, and bitterness. I am convinced now that she will continue to blame me for her past mistakes. If you tell the truth it becomes part of your past, but if you lie it will haunt your future. We all make mistakes in life, and I know it's hard to be exposed and deal with them publicly. But when you're on a reality show it's hard to hide from the camera. You should never blame others for your actions. I never asked to get involved!