This week's episode caught you up on what everyone is doing. Seems like a lot has changed in everyone's life in a year.
Fernanda has really been a great friend to me during my divorce. When I met Fernanda two years ago in Laguna Beach we instantly clicked. After we started talking, we found out that we both share the same best friend (Marcos) but had never met each other, which was very strange. I heard Macros talk about Fernanda but had never met her. As you all know by now, Fernanda and I joke around a lot, which I find out in the future is really not fair to her since she is a lesbian and I am not... Keep watching!
It was great to see Vicki in Seattle with "her people." She really shines when she is working. You can tell she loves her job and her kids very much. Briana was cracking me up with all her comments.
After eight months in a small two bedroom apartment, my lease was up and it was time to find something bigger. I'm sure you all remember Marcos, my real estate partner and dear friend from past seasons. He agreed to go with me and help me out. It was important to find something close to the kids' school and their dad's house in a neighborhood where they can play with other kids. What was not important was to break the bank getting something big and fancy. As a single mother and the sole supporter of my family, the fancy things have to take a back seat.
Moving into my boyfriend's old house was not even an option for me, just to weird! I think Macros took me there just to be funny and get my reaction on camera. Eddie thought it was pretty cool to see the first house he bought on TV. He also agreed it would have been too weird to have me living in the house he shared with his ex-wife.
Watch out your dishin comments and you are really not in a position to speak ill, after all you have been through please stop while your ahead. First Gretchen now Alexis slow down you are going to be mad at yourself in the end when it all comes out. Focus on your new life find peace and give respect thats the only way you will survive!
Tamra-Ouch girlfriend! Those were fighting words when you said Alexis and Jim's marriage will never last. Not a good thing to say to anyone...EVER. Just a FYI.......
I totally support Tamra. You are hot chica and don't forget it. You were right about Alexis husband being like Simon.
I really didn't like you at first and now you are my favourite . And yes, you are still THE HOTTEST HOUSEWIFE!
You need to stop projecting your feelings on other people. Every time that happens you run your mouth and trash talk a castmate. Not a good combination.
I have seen the two episodes of the Housewives of Orange County. So, you just have divorced from Simon, have a boyfriend and kiss in front of the cameras with your friend, Fernanda? Have you ever thought that what you are doing embarass your children and your family? It was good that you divorced a person who wanted to control you and was driving you insane, but divorce is one thing, and disrespect yourself and your children is other. You are a beautiful woman. You do not need to do certain things that does not leave you in a good place. I hope you undersand that you should need to respect yourself first of all, so that other human beings respect and appreciate you too.
God Bless you, and your children,
Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico
Tamra I really believe that you were coming from a good place when you told Alexis your opinion about Jim's controlling ways. I was kind of surprised that you were that honest with her, because I knew it would come back to haunt you. I think maybe you got carried away when you were talking to the camera, though, and were a little too honest for your own good. But let's face it, Jim has been a rude jerk to Alexis on several occasions. He IS controlling. But, you'll never win in this situation - she's got at least 10 more years of justifying his obnoxious behavior before she wakes up, and then another 2 or 3 before she can say, "You know...Tamra was right."
TAMRA, YOU ARE GOING THROUGH A TOUGH TIME IN YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW, WE UNDERSTAND, BUT YOU NEED TO SMOOTH OUT THE ROUGH EDGES A LITTLE BIT. SOME OF THE COMMENTS THAT YOU MAKE ARE A LITTLE HARSH. WHEN PEOPLE GET DIVORCED, THE GOAL IS TO END WHAT DOESN'T WORK AND FIND SOMETHING THAT DOES WORK. YOU ARE SENSATIVE RIGHT NOW AND THAT IS UNDERSTANDABLE. SLOW DOWN AND DON'T JUMP INTO ANYTHING WITHOUT THINKING THINGS THROUGH A LITTLE BIT. BE THE CONFIDENT PERSON THAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN AND YOU'LL COME OUT ON TOP, I PROMISE!!!!!!!
Have fun Tamara you are a very hot house wife have fun people always have something to say long as your happy an can look in the back not feel bad for what you have said and done you good with yourself people that tell you not to do what you want an what you should do only wish they had the BALLS to do it live your life
One minute you are crying over how hard your divorce is, and the next minute we are watching a preview of you in the hot tub with "the love of your life". Amazes me how you can criticize Gretchen over ANYTHING she says or does. Get a mirror!!!
I actually don't find any of these friendships real-not a bit! You all say such hurtful things to one another, and unless it's for the sake of the camera and ratings...it's just not what friendship is about. Talking behind one another's backs, making awful predicitions about the future of other marriages, horrible accusations about the morality of others.... Why isn't this show more fun? Why aren't you embracing one another (even the differences) and just loving life? Seriously, it's just like Seinfeld-a show about nothing. Seinfield just happened to be hysterical and a positive distraction from everyday life. Your show is NOT a reflection of friendships...it's just a downer!
What happened to the "new" Tamra? the one that was happy and wanted to spread happiness to others? You are exactly the same as last season. You say really mean and hurtful things and then turn around and act like a victim. It is YOU who owes Gretchen an apology and now you can add Alexis to that list. Even Vicki, who you claim to love, was a victim of your knife weilding back stabbing. I think you should be single for a while and really do some self reflection.
I like who you are this season but you definitely should not talk with Alexis about her marriage to Jim (even though everyone sees him as a control freak) its best to keep in neutral territory with her if you wish to remain friends.
I think you are really pretty. You are by far prettier than Gretchen and you have had four kids!!! WOW!! Amazing!!! I think she wears too much makeup with launching that new line. Less is more in my opinon.
I get that you are good friends with your trainer, but don't you think kissing her on the lips is a little inappropriate considering she is gay and might like you more than a friend? Your kids will see this one day as well so I'm curious why you would invite the cameras into your bathroom on next week's episode.
Tamra, You need to stop running your mouth so much about Gretchen. Okay, you guys don't get along, so what!!! Pray for her and move on. If she has an assistant, that not your problem. Also, you need to really evaluate yourself and be more active in building your career and being a great mother.
Peach, Georgia Peach
Your my new favorite!! I'm loving you this season. Getting rid of Simon was definitely good for you. You seem a lot happier:-)
Tamra, you are still a mean girl (heard your tweet you sent to Andy on Watch What Happens) and comments about Alexis.... that makes you ugly inside and out! I don't think you will ever change because that is your personality, to be petty and jealous!
You said exactly what I was going to say. I just want to add that when Tamara is truly herself, she is my favorite. I love you. I just hate when you get so wrapped up in everything else. I agree that Gretchen started this fight. You extended the olive branch and she slapped you with it. I think she should have declined or asked to speak with you and the two of you try to clear the air. She is fun and you are fun. I think that if you two could patch what's been said and done, you could end up being better friends than anybody on the show. Vikki deserves better from you. You should be doing whatever you can to show her what she means to you because she is a good friend and those are hard to come by. Please for all your fans, try to be YOU. Just do you and try to stay away from the drama. Gretchen is a good person and so are you, you both have a lot in common and I think that you should give it another shot, a real shot and you both should apologize.
Please read 'Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men' by Lundy Bancroft.
This is a must read for all women but especially women that must deal with a controlling man. This book will give you the understanding needed to move forward with your life, for you and your children.
Tamara' please, don't worry about the who said and she said, let it go with Gretchen and Alexis. The Older the wiser-- I too, see similarities between Jim and Simon, however Alexis sees herself as Jim's Queen. You have been there and done that. Rise above-it into the "NEW YOU" and you know that old saying about --give them enough rope? Gretchen is clearly unhappy, the lust stage for her and Slade is over. She seems bored with him, in-full toleration mode and once again, is focusing, reflecting "ON THE PAST" with the big brew ha' ha with all her "playing around" and "you" calling her out for-it!!! Gretchen's problem, and Gretchen's not fooling anyone. Divorce is very difficult and so far, you have made good choice's with your kid's, trying to be fair with Simon and keeping your personal interest's separate above all else. So' far, I'm seeing a better you, please keep that going-- just remember to think about what your saying first',,,! The softer the tongue, the better the language. Oh' BTW: Fernanda, project's a gentle soul, and seems very kind. Rare' to find people like her. Her being a lesbian has nothing to do with having a genuine friendship.
with warm re-gards,,, :) A Lynn
Tamara ~ I think you're a wonderful person who is very strong and trying to provide for your family. Watching you gives hope to any woman who is going through difficult times. Breathe in the good and breathe out the bad.
In the second episode of this season where you're sitting down talking to Fernanda about your divorce, you're wearing this awesome black kinda of off the shoulder top that i absolutley LOVE. I was just wondering where you got it? xoxo
Tamara...you are so right about Jim being so much like Simon, Alexis is just in denial. She wants to pretend like it's a perfect marriage...too bad she doesn't get it. I really admire you for having the courage to step out on your own. You are happier now and it shows.
I think you really need to stop talking about Gretchen. It's making you look petty and immature. Texting the stupid comment or tweet to Slade when they were on Whatch What Happens really made you look like a snotty brat. She didn't bring you up, why do you keep doing that to her? I think you need to take some responsibility for your relationship with her for the things you have said about her in the past. Obviously you're not trying to "move on" because your actions clearly show something different. Please don't use a "Camille defense" later by saying you were going through a rough time and that caused you to treat people in a certain manner. I know the episodes have all been taped so you can't go back, but stop with the pettiness that is coming out now. You should be the bigger person. Why should the fact that she has an assistant even provoke a comment from you? I think you have more more going on in your life, maybe you should concentrate on that.
Tamara, You wrote that you were sad on what would have been your 12 year anniversary and hearing that your ex is now dating someone. Just wondering something - how come you dated someone so quickly if your divorce was so painful. Doesn't make sense to me.
I have to say I agreed with you completely when you were telling Alexis that you see similarities between Simon and Jim. I've seen that all along! I admire you for being brave enough to state those things to her. She got all defensive but that's to be expected from someone who is in a bad situation and isn't ready to acknowledge it yet. I think it's great to see you so happy this season, Tamara. You truly seem so much more relaxed and at ease and I'm so happy for you! It hurt me to see you hurting so much last season. I know a lot of people give you crap about being the "mean girl" but I could see past that stuff and see that you were just in a bad place. I hope you are on a road to true happiness now. I'm rooting for you!
Sorry but your wrong- Gretchen is way out of line. If she said that in my house I would have showed her the door. Don't go to someone's home if you feel like you need to be aggressive and drink too much. Make a lunch date and hash it out already!
My opiniion is that you re an independent woman who was in love with man that was dominating and controllling and the more independent you got the more threatened he became.. The too do not work
Alexis husband is like Simon but for now she is content to be in taken care of and believes her husband is the head of the household, literally.. their religion teaches that as well. so that what she believes..until and if she becomes more independent then her marriage will work too.
I also believe the show gives housewives a stage and confidence and that upsets the marriages. Comes with the territory .. When one becomes a celebritiy the other feels left out// Lots of divorce on all of the housewives shows.
I think as I have thought for the past few years that you are very jealous of Gretchen and now Alexis can't wait to see how you act when Peggy comes around, they are younger and get more attention than you I got news for you we all get older and there will always be someone younger than you and better looking it is a fact. If Alexis is happy with her husband and their marriage works for them then stay out of it like Vickie should have yours.
Tamra, You said that Simon was so negative, I find you just as negative. Saying Jim and Alexis's marriage will never last is pretty darn negative. Whining to Vicki about Gretchen being so mean while wearing the evil eye hat was negative. Sending that text to Andy about Slade was petty also. To this viewer you make many negative comments about things that aren't really any of your business. Try thinking positive thoughts about people for a change.
Im watching the show from last week and i say i have a great appreciation for you. Your conversation with your trainer about how you keep your life with the kids separate from your love life. That is very refreshing to hear that there is women out there that do the same thing i do. I have first hand seen the damage it has caused with my kids when my ex-husband flanted his new lovers in front of them among other things. A lot of people dont realize that the kids take it the hardest since the only thing they have seen is mommy and daddy together. I know what is like to go through divorce and it took a toll on me but everyday i seen my kids it made me feel better. I can honestly say divorce isnt the end of life only a new beginning or fresh start. I have very much grown as a person mentally and emotionally to know what to look for in a life parnter. I wish you all the best and keep your head up high.
LIVE, LEARN, LAUGH, LOVE. But remember the most important part is to learn. Loving is easy, it's the learning that trips people up! Take your time. Relax. Don't be so dang concerned about other people, their relationships, their lying cheating ways, how their dressed, who they sleep with, who pays their bills, or if the dig for gold... just concentrate on growing into the next phase of YOU. It's chrysalis time. Become the new you.
Your blog says you are the sole supporter of the family? Simon doesn't pay child support or help with the kids at all?
While I applaud your ability to move on, I don't think you have learned anything from the failure of your marriage. You seem to still be focused on being a "mean girl". I know you have gone through alot, but remember what's important..your children. What kind of example are you setting with your behavior. Learn from the past and be a better person.. that doesn't necessarily involve flaunting your independence.
Time will heal but until then surround yourself with family and friends. Smile and keep your head up.
Tamra, as I once really enjoyed watching you, I now leave the room when it's about you and wait till another is on. You are a train wreck waiting to happen.
Tamara, don't let the haters get too you. change is always hard an honesty harder yet. Keep focused on the things in your life that have meaning, enjoy your beautiful kids, share your heart with only those that are worthy of the gift. All things work out for the greater good. Stay Strong.
i have to agree with you on this one. And a little advice that little evil eye thing from Gretchen you deserved you had no hard evidence that she did all those things you said she did you where trash talking and karma is hard to deal with now you have yours
If you cant take it dont dish it out. You had it coming from Gretchen. And the only person who needs to accept responsibility for their actions is you. Leave other people's marriages alone as well - maybe if you would have focused on yours you wouldnt have torn your family apart. And stop blaming Simon for everything - put on your big girl pants.
Hang in tamra, and i totally agree Simon and Jim are a lot alike both like to keep things "under control", we'll see what happens in 5 years.
TAMARA I AM SO PROUD OF YOU GIRL. I WAS IN A HORRIBLE MARRIAGE JUST LIKE YOURS. MY X WAS JUST LIKE SIMON TO THE T. DONT EVER THINK YOU DIDNT DO THE RIGHT THING YOU DID. ''STELLA GET YOUR GROVE BACK '' AND GO ON WITCHA BAD SELF IM REMARRIED TO A GUY 11 YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME AND LIFE IS GOOD . EVERY EPISODE I WATCHED GIRL I FELT YOUR PAIN . DONT LOOK BACK YOULL BE JUST FINE , A BIG FAN
You do have a tendency to be snarky and you're not really very good at apologizing, but then, who is perfect? The person I really feel sorry for is Simon. When he got married he was obviously under the impression that his opinion and needs were more important than yours. Silly man - they still want to believe they deserve worship! It seems that he thought he married someone who would be happy walking two steps behind (like Alexis) with her head down, just waiting for the next command from her king and master. And what he got was a smart, sassy, AMERICAN WOMAN! Poor Guy! If you ask me, seeing Alexis kow-tow to her husband's every whim and whimper made him envy Jim's powerful position and I bet he wanted you to "act" more like Alexis. No wonder he hated Vicki - she runs her own life with no apologies to anyone. Glad you seem to have found some happiness - hope it continues and the hurt recedes. Warmest wishes to you; hang in there!
Honestly, I think you love all and any attention Tamara. Nothing wrong with that! However, really, I don't think you are a 'true' friend to anyone, expecially Vicki, who desperately wants to think that you are a true friend, but really, it's only when it's convenient to you.
You flirting with that gal, another attention ploy...if you are not gay, and have no intentions with her, why lead her on. You say yourself you shouldn't have.
I don't think your divorce makes you sad, I think that having less money makes you sad. I hope you find happiness with your new guy and put your life in order. You seem like you can be a really nice person, but are caught up in your own circumstances.