Tamra Barney

Tamra wishes she handled the situation with Jeana differently.

on Jun 6, 20110

When Peggy and Ricky went up to Jeana, they were only trying to help me out. She did exactly what she always does when she gets cornered -- denied and lied! Prior to me throwing the letter at her, the letter dropped to the ground as she refused to accept it. As it was picked up, she pushed me, which is what prompted me to throw it at her. I have never been so mad and heated in my life. After I threw the wine, I was shaking so badly that I ran out of there as fast as I could. I was so disappointed in myself for going down to her level that it haunted me for months, and now I have to relive it all over again. I did send Jeana a text telling her that I was sorry for throwing the wine in her face and will pay for any damages. As I walked away things got even crazier. Jeana threw wine on Michelle, and Michelle pushed Jeana into the bar. I think about five glasses got thrown that night. 

I had to laugh when Jeana walked home and was totally fine calling me all kinds of names, but as soon as she got on the phone she started fake crying to Simon. It almost makes me wonder if she is trying to hook up with Simon like everyone is telling me? 

The letter did stop Jeana from talking about my divorce and my children to the media. However, she has now taken to social media claiming me and Eddie were yelling racial slurs and gay bashing her friend Ben, which is a total lie. First off, half our friends are gay, and why would race play a part of anything? This 55-year-old woman has nothing better to do?         

Then in the other corner of the party Alexis and Peggy are fighting over whose lips are bigger. Well, we all know that was not what they were truly fighting about. Obviously there is way more to their history than we all know. Only they know if their friendship is worth saving. 

It was nice that all the girls came to me to see if I was okay, but of course Gretchen had to compare my situation with Jeana to ours. That is like comparing oranges to apples. We all know the nature of this show is to sit in the interview chair and answer questions about our cast members. Gretchen accused me of dating Simon's best friend and being a bad mom this season. I really don't care what she thinks or says about me to be honest. She has taken up talking about me on and off camera like a new career. There is a reason I kept me kids off the show this season, and that was to not have them be a part of this circus. I knew my divorce was going to be a big part of my story line. So when Jeana brought attention to my divorce and my kids, I was furious. For goodness sake, she is not even on the show anymore! I can't take back how I reacted to Jeana, but what I can do is learn from this mistake. I will never allow my anger to bring me down to some else's level. I am learning to think before I react while upset. It is something that I have always had an issue with.

334 comments
ladiva12
ladiva12

Tamra. I think you are great. Not afraid to speak your mind. You love to have fun and your clothes are awesome. I love your hair and would love some tips on how you keep it so shiny. All of the housewives shows I have watched, here in Australia, have all had their fair share of bitchiness. Don't LISTEN TO ANYONE,just keep being you and I wish you all the best in your new relationship. Looking forward to another season. You ARE going to do another one I hope?

laura creasey
laura creasey

Tamara the two wana-bs are just sickly jealous of you and Vicki! YOU GO GIRL YOU ARE FOR REAL and they need to get rid of Gretchen and Alexis , someone got confused and forgot this is a reality show and put them in some cartoon! Give them hell I don't think they would allow a bitch slap but sooner or later they will learn what that is . Keep being you girlfriend!!!!

Healing Anne
Healing Anne

DEAR TAMRA, WE'VE JUST WATCHED THE END OF THIS LAST SERIES OVER HERE IN SUNNY LONDON AND IT WAS GREAT. YOU'RE A BALLSY WOMAN AND NOT AFRAID TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND THAT'S GREAT. HOW CAN JEANNA HAVE AN OPINION ABOUT YOU AND SIMON, WAS SHE THERE?? NO, END OF STORY! TELL HER BYE AND DON'T LOOK BACK IN ANY SENSE OF THE WORD. YOU, VICKI AND PEGGY ARE COOL WOMEN JUST KEEP LOOKING AHEAD AND NOT READ ANY NEGATIVE AND CRUEL COMMENTS, HALF OF THESE WOMEN WOULDN'T HAVE THE BALLS TO GO ON A PROGRAMME LIKE THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE! EDDIE'S GREAT. POOR ALEXIS, I THINK SHE'S SAD DEEP DOWN BY HIDES IT ALL, SHE'LL LEARN. GRETCHEN IS INSECURE AND NEEDS HER BANK SECURITY, SLADE WILL NEED TO STEP UP FINANCIALLY IF HE CAN. ITS ALWAYS EASY IN ALL SITUATIONS TO CRITICISE, WE ALL DO THAT AT SOME TIME IN OUR LIVES. ALSO, WHY IS IT THAT THERE IS ONLY A SMUG MALE PRESENTER AT THE REUNION AND NOT A FEMALE PRESENTER AS WELL?? DOESN'T HE JUST LOVE WINDING YOU ALL UP. GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR FUTURE AND KEEP LOOKING STRAIGHT AHEAD, JEANNA HAS HER OWN DEMONS AS WELL - THAT IS VERY OBVIOUS AND YOU'RE RIGHT, SHE IS SAD. SEND HEALING TO ALL. TAKE CARE AND HUGS FROM LONDON.

Boydy382
Boydy382

Just finished watching in the UK and OMG you looked so full of hate and attitude on the sofa. I really wish Jeana had thrown you into the pool... now that would have been SOOOOOOOOOOO FUNNY and maybe brought you down a peg or two!!

erind60
erind60

I am only after watching the first one of the new seris 6 and am loving you Tamra .When u organised that shopping party you showed class when you rung Gretchen and when she turned up at your party she jus made herself look so low i think she is the fakest i just wish she could forget about the past and MOVE ON and hes just jelous of u im jus want to meet her and tell her to grow up and give over and stop trying to make eveyone look like a fool but reli shes the only one making her self look like a fool saying that to alexia i think u viki and alexia and lynn was the realest im happy to watch this and i will always stand by u just ingnore them jelous one in the group or else jus t sit everyone down tell them to forget about the past and that ur over the bit of caring :) good luck in future

#aimee
#aimee

i think everybody should remember the programme is only a fraction of what has happened between these ladies, so either sit down shut up& watch it or shut up, sit down & turn it off! you should also remember that whatever you say about them they have alot more than you & they may only be famous for being on a reality show but hey, at least they're famous for being themselves!

Catred1963
Catred1963

Tamara, If I was Jena I would charge you with assault, you threw the paper first, don't be surprised at her response. Get a job, get busy and maybe get out of your own head and volunteer with women who have truly been abused and have the black eyes and bruises to prove it. You need a reality check. Comments are comments, you have sat in judgement of so many other women, doesn't feel good does it when the tables are turned. Karma sucks so maybe take care of how you treat others and realize that what you say about them, they can say about you.

Catred1963
Catred1963

Ok. Hang on a second. I just saw the episode about your party. Karma sucks and is coming to bite you. You have shown no mercy in judging everyone else's life and relationship and marriage. How dare you. You have been cruel to Alexis and Gretchen about how much time their men spend with them but you who travel alone, spend most of your time working and don't even consider your partner when you travel are now the one sitting in the position of divorce. These other women, right.... they still go home to their partner because it is important to them to include them, consider them and listen to them. Something to think about. Don't be so quick to judge. Be careful of your comments because they will turn back at you. I wish you well and caution to accept rather than judge others. If it works for them... leave them alone and keep your comments to yourself or a journal.

jmwest
jmwest

It just goes to show you that where you live and how much money you have cannot buy you class. Tamera needs to concentrate on her relationship and family and not what others do or think. She is in a limo headed to spain with Edie who clearly does not care about or want to hear about her HS drama and she goes on and on about her texts. Its sad really..

blessyou
blessyou

Brooks Ayers there is more about Brooks everyone needs to know..

Dorothy KennedyViewer
Dorothy KennedyViewer

can't keep watching this show, tammy and Vicky are just too darn nasty. Both women should lay off the alochol and have their doctors adjust their medications. They are having difficult times with menopause and the younger lovers won't really solve any problems, especially when they move on ...as they inevitably will. Now there is a show I would watch.!

soprano/lady
soprano/lady

Tamra, thank you! You are the only one who had the class to end their blog on a positive note! That alone speaks volumes!!!!

Charlotte Redfearn
Charlotte Redfearn

Hi Tamra, just wanted to say keep your chin & ignore mean mean Gretchen, she is very clearly a spolit little brat, who is used to getting her own way, 100% Princess! As for Alexis, boy is she naive & deluded!! You're best off without them & there self centred dramas. Love Tamra & Love Vicky, you keep it real & have good sense of humours! From Charlotte in the U.K. xxx

scisha
scisha

if I was in your position, Jeana would have gotten more than a glass of wine thrown in her face..

elocin
elocin

I am glad to see that you regret the way you handled things at the party and I hope that you can learn from it. Having been through a divorce myself, I know what an emotional struggle it is and how difficult it is to find your place in the world again. We all make mistakes and have done or said things that we aren't proud of, but you should focus more on being a rolemodel to your children than being the hottest housewife. Hopefully, after watching the footage from this season you can recognize how much you have changed and inapporpiate you have been. Let's get back to the Tamra we saw in the last few years and leave this classless person behind.

Albelvin
Albelvin

First of all, who are you to speak for me? In the last episode you told Jeana that "nobody even likes you". You're most definitely wrong. I happen to admire Jeana and would be proud to call her a friend. I think she shows class; something that, unfortunately, you know nothing about. Like previous bloggers on this site have said, watch out for KARMA - it will (and deservingly) kick you in the rear. How can you be so ignorant to talk about everyone and everything that others are doing and not think karma will come back around? If I were Jeana, Gretchen, Slade, Alexis, or just about everyone else in the country - I would take out a cease & desist order against you. You talk about people frequently but are indignant if anyone talks badly about you. WHAT A HYPOCRITE!!! The only good thing I can say about you is ..... you are a perfect example of what NOTto be as a woman, friend or mother!

taye
taye

Its amazing how you seem so genuine with who your friends are and where they belong you say that your clasy and respectful of those around you yet you ALWAYS seem to be the start of DRAMA i understand what Jeanna did was unbelievable wrong but to start a fight in the middle of a party the say shepushed you and have you POOR mother attack her apple dont fall far from the tree a little more class could help with keeping your friends

Denise S
Denise S

Tamra, you let your anger and frustration get the best of you and you know darn good and well that you started the whole thing with Jeana, as you tried to do earlier in the season at Alexis' party with the mace.Then to justify your anger, you accused her of trying to throw you in the pool and throw a drink at you, you looked like a fool lying like that....You used to be my favorite housewife, but feel you have lost your class. Are you upset that Simon is happy in another relationship so soon and he isn't pining away for you???? I miss the old Tamra. Run Eddie, run, as fast as you can, she'll be stabbing you in the back soon enough, we all remember what you said about Vicki last season. When it doesn't suit Tamra, then all others be damned, straighten up and act like a lady please.

Jorey
Jorey

Tamara; You are a beautiful girl and I have always been partial to virgo's but you are by far the meanest virgo I have ever seen,, Seriously on the reunion show you sat there the entire time leg swinging and shooting glaring looks at anyone who dared to defend themselves against you,,,it wasn't that they had even attacked you which would have given you some reason for your actions YOU were the attacker and got mad when they tried to defend themselves,,,,, the eye rolling is so comical though,,,

sahagun
sahagun

DON'T FEEL BAD TAMARA I THINK JEANA NEEDS TO GET A LIFE AND STAY OUT OF PEOPLES BUSINESS " I THINK SHE LIKES SIMON" LOL

Julia K
Julia K

How can anyone be your fan?!? You're a hypocrite and a liar. You walking around screeching about how Jeana was trying to push you into the pool just to justify your ridiculously immature and trashy behavior. Disgusting. I'm not a fan of any housewife on this show anymore but you're the worst. You and Vicky are just seriously vile.

Southern Belle
Southern Belle

OMG!! Seriously? The tears come easily, the f-bomb comes easily, the husbands go running with their tails between their legs!! Please remove Tamra from the next season!! She's so fake and so crazy. Soap operas are better! Watch out Bravo tv....you'll be next. The ratings go dowwwwwnnnn when you've got someone like this on your show. Get real. It's reality tv for God's sake!

A.C.
A.C.

EDDIE IS DENSE!!! This guy is void of a personality!!!

mom28
mom28

Tamra---I also enjoy you! You are so fun! You always want to joke around! Also sdont let Gretchen get to you. Obviously she is inscure with herself when she keeps using Jeff in all of her defenses so people feel sorry for her. Also when it comes to Alexis she just talks to talk! Keep it going you rock :)

NowImaBigG
NowImaBigG

@gobill I am so glad that I am not the only one who sees the parallels between Tamra and Jeanna: 1) Jeanna takes her opinion on what happened with Tamra and Simon even though she was not present vs Tamra states her opinion on Gretchen's relationship and Slade's child support 2) Jeanna called Tamra's ex after she had a altercation with Tamra vs Tamra called Slade's ex after she had an altercation with Slade. YES, Tamra owns her stuff but what good is that if she just keeps doing the same things over and over, eventually "sorry" loses its meaning. Tamra AND Vickie have different rules for themselves and the behavior of others. Remember in past seasons when Vickie was a nasty, mean person towards others and then was so sensitive when several of her castmates aired their grievances against her?

lleven
lleven

Tamara It is sad to see a grown women be so mean spirited, gossipy and cruel to other women (ones she calls her friends). At times watching the show is like a trip back to highschool. When you watch your behavior are you proud? You say you dont have regrets that you learn from everything. It seems you are a slow learner.

min
min

Tamra, you should relax and not take everything so personally. You came to the reunion ready to attack and blame. Just go off with your Bf and work on some peace.

Viewer12357
Viewer12357

Oh ya and you need to lay of this "in the press" stuff! You're way too consumed by it!

robynkk
robynkk

Keep holding your head high! You, Vicki and Peggy stick together and let's get Gretchen and Alexis off the show, they only bring negativity.

chica!
chica!

love you Tamra! you and vicki r my favorit.. you guys say whats on your mind! and jeana, well she deserved a drink in her face! I the other 2 house wife's there just jealous! cause they dont have someone young and there husbands R OLD...wish you all the best luck

Real-Housewife
Real-Housewife

TAMRA I KOVE YOU YOU AND VICKI AND PEGGY ARE THE BEST TEAM!! YOU GUYS ARE FUN A FIERCE. JUST KEEP BEING YOU AND STAND UP TO THOSE WHO TRY TO BRING YOU DOWN!! i love you your the best!! eddie is hot! better than slade, thats why gretchen is so mean, she is jealous!

Housewife Heidi
Housewife Heidi

Not so sure about you after this season. You seem like a spiteful person. Please try to take the high road more often. I think you will be happier down the road.

Erica Norton
Erica Norton

Tamra I as I watched this past season I really saw a completely loved from season one. I just don't understand how you can be so involved in so many people's business when the only thing you should be worried about is your divorce and your children and your blossoming relationship. I wish you the best but sweetie did you even watch the past two or three seasons. Maybe it is a coping mechanism to deal with your own problems but gosh girl to go out of your way to make others look bad? Can we say High School?

LGurl
LGurl

I struggle to understand Tamra. She is very judgmental of Slade's situation and doesn't seem to recognize that she's doing exactly what she's accusing Jeanna of doing to her. I don't understand why Slade is her business. If his ex wife called Tamra a decent person would have said "I don't want to get involved in something that's none of my business". Instead she decided to GET INVOLVED. Her reasoning on the finale show was that she feels bad for his kids but given her actions I find that hard to believe.

She wonders why Gretchen is defensive about Slade but fails to remember that she trashed Gretchen last season and seems to think it's okay for her to trash others but NOT for others to talk about her. That is the definition of 'hypocrite'.

I also find it interesting that her and Vicki's marriages fell apart and NOT the others. I think part of the reason for this is that they are somewhat selfish rather than selfless. Their marriages deserved more commitment, loyalty, and determination. So sad that they weren't able to give that enough to keep it together. I don't enjoy Simon very much but, I understood where he was coming from. My husband and have differences but, we do our best to respect each others feelings and honor them. I don't think Tamra was willing to respect his feelings. A friend (Vicki) should not come above a spouse (Simon).

I honestly think Vicki put her job and friendship with Tamra before Don - she doesn't deserve him. They will both struggle in any relationship until they are able to give more of themselves and COMMIT to their spouse ABOVE ALL!!!

april lopez
april lopez

Tamara you need to grow up. i cant belive the way you acted at vickis party you knew that vicki was very upset over the end of her marriage to don insted of waiting for a better time to confront jeana. you threw a letter in her face and when she said she would throw you in the pool you THROW A DRINK.why didnt you wait to talk to her in private. you then went on a rampage you need to control YOUR ACTIONS AND GROW UP and be there for your friend [vivki].you have alot to say about slade and gretchen. you are talking to his ex getting into there problems. yet when jeana talks to simon and gets in your personal life with simon you go crazy on her.you can dish it out but you cant take it. IF YOU ARE SO HAPPY WITH EDDIE THEN MOVE ON AND LEAVE GRETCHEN AND SLADE ALONE.THEY ARE NOT HURTING YOU SO GROW UP AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE .STOP THE MEAN GIRL ACT IT JUST MAKES YOU LOOK SO UGLY

V Smith
V Smith

I'm reading comments and just wondering if we were all watching the same show! Tamra, you and Vicky are buried in contradiction and hypocrisy at every turn. If you speak negatively about someone else, expect to get it back in return. If you can dish it out, you need to be able to take it when it comes your way. If you are interviewed and you share your opinion about someone else's life but state it as fact, be prepared when that happens to you as well. All of you welcomed cameras into your lives, you are now public figures and no matter when you leave the show (ie Jeana), some media will want to interview you. If you're so happy now with Eddie, why do you continue to be such a mean person? I just think, she can't possibly be that hurtful, judgemental, and intolerant of other women as a female herself. Perhaps you'll show that softer side next season, but somehow I doubt it.

gigi13
gigi13

Tamra the situation with Jeana and the situation with Gretchen are EXACTLY the same ...you want Jeana and anyone else who doesn't agree with you to not talk about you.............HELLO are you STUPID? Gretchen and Slade want the same thing from YOU!!!! GET IT???????????????????

cfranco
cfranco

WOW Tamra ! you really have changed from bad to horrible . You should really focus on you and your children before bashing on other peoples life .Use that same energy with your family.

Casey-Gainesville Fl
Casey-Gainesville Fl

I LOVE YOU!!! STAY TRUE TO YOUR SELF ABOUT GRETCHEN AND HER NEW BEST FRIEND (JIM'S SLAVE).....DON'T LISTEN TO THERE NASTY WORDS. YOUR THE BEST AND THE REASON THEY DONT LIKE THE BATHROOM SEENE IS BECAUSE THEY COULDNT DO IT AND LOOK AS HOT AS YOU DID! JEALOUS IS WHAT I CALL IT. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND STAY FAR AWAY FROM THOSE FAKE GIRLS. I WISH YOU THE BEST.

hawaiilk
hawaiilk

Tamra, If you had any common sense or actual class, when Grayson's mother "reached out" to you, you would have said I'm not involving myself in this. But, no instead you befriend her just to try to get dirt on Slade and Gretchen. Girl, grow up already. Your really are such a hypocrite!!!!!

MRzcolon
MRzcolon

Please stop being a hypocrite! The things you say to others are ridiculous and insensitive! You had financial troubles but mock Alexis, you talked about Gretchen moving on and then quickly dated Eddie and decided to have a bath with him on tv! You act like you have something to prove. If your life was so great you would sit back and enjoy it as opposed to attempt to shove EVERYTHING in others faces! Seriously grow up you have young children who would be disgusted at your behavior.

MIMI*
MIMI*

the ONLY part of your blog that i read was the title! I just finished watching the reunion part 2 and you have nothing to be sorry for!!!!! Jeana may be friends with your ex but that doesn't give her the right to do what she did!!! She should mind her own business

SOOO know
SOOO know

I hope this didn't come through twice but please contact me only because I SOOOOO couldn't stand you and now I need you to know why I wish you nothing but the best

Tormom6
Tormom6

It's really hard for anyone to feel compassion for you. You are experiencing from Jeana exactly what you have been doing to Gretchen and Slade. Too bad you are too stupid to understand that.

Lena072
Lena072

Tamra I love your fire and aspire to be like you. Keep doing you girl and be happy! Get em girl!

believing viewer
believing viewer

I hope you get the help you need. You have serious problems and you are nothing less than a mean girl.

Viewer of Olathe, KS
Viewer of Olathe, KS

Tamra I love you! I love that you are such a strong person and I appreciate your friendship with Vicki. You guys are so great and reminds me a lot of my best friend and I. I'm actually glad about what you did to Jeana, throwing your drink in her face! I don't like her at all. She lets her husband and kids walk all over her. She needs to mind her business and be taught a lesson, if you weren't going to throw your drink in her face, someone else would have! But I laughed when she was crying to simon about the whole incident. I mean, come on! Grow up! I'm so glad you divorced Simon. On the show, he seemed like a real jerk and seeing you with Eddie and being happy, proves you made the right decision. If everyone is picking sides, I'm most definitely on yours! Love you Tamra! Keep being yourself and best wishes!

benthere_doneit
benthere_doneit

You have definitely crossed the line Tamra. Really, you have NO business getting involved with Slade and his child support. It's fine to be an advocate for children and their being supported, but who do you think you are that you get to decide to speak that way to Slade and in public no less. On the other side, you are blasting Jeana for doing the same thing? You are becoming a mean spirited person who's low class behaviour is marking you for unhappy memories. Don't you see what your doing? Gretchen said it best, "can't you just see that you're hurting people?" Take a look at yourself Tamra, then look again.

brickhouse69
brickhouse69

Tamra you were my favorite but no more! You are the classic mean girl ! I wish you could see it because deep down I think you are a good person! You hurt people with your mean spirited comments. Please change!