After watching the reunion show, I laid in bed that night thinking for hours about how sad all the women appeared when discussing what happened this season. So many things went through my head, and the one thing that stood out most was how the truth has always, and will always, prevail.
Looking at each one of us, we all had so much stress on our faces that some of us were almost unrecognizable. I know that no one wanted to be there that day. The relationship between us girls has become so toxic, and we have resorted to saying things we would never say about people we call friends. The truth is most of us are not friends.
It's obvious that no one should be in anyone's personal business, and it makes me sick that we all have stooped to that level. I know in my heart that Slade's child support issues are not my business, but I am not about to sit there and listen to Slade and Gretchen accuse me of cheating on Simon, claiming Eddie was Simon's best friend, that I have no regard for my kids, or creating unfounded rumors about Eddie without even knowing him.
So I think to myself, "Why do they think it's OK for them to bash me about my personal life? Is it for the sole purpose of getting attention? Is it to get so much attention that the lie becomes a twisted truth? Perhaps it's to take the attention off of him and make me look like I am the only one talking about him?"
I realy don't like, Trama that much,I mean,like she,is always in every body's business,she needs to back off of slide,and Gretchen.
The reason they think its okay to talk about you is that you talk about EVERYONE else..so stop whining when people hand you back what you hand them..its called reaping what you sow..
i find it so ironic that you want Jeana to stay out of your personal business, but you can't stay of out of Slade's or Gretchen's. What's with that?
After watching all of this play out on national TV, don't you think it's about time you worry about yourself and the image you are portraying? If you spent even a portion of the energy you use on fighting, attacking, cursing and making scenes, i guarantee you'll be a happier person.
Good luck Tamra, i think you need it.
In regards to the know infamous "bath tub scene": 1. Shame on Bravo for taping (much less airing!) such a private/intimate moment. 2. You should have asked them to leave.
Love you Tamra, can't stand Gretchen. I tolerate Alexis. Love Vicki and Peggy too. Hope to see you next season.
I love you and Eddie together....and for the record, I do believe you're a good mom (what was all that harping about the bath tub scene? Jealous much?)
I don't know how you manage to be in the same room as Gretchen and Alexis - they are very frustrating women..
Love Vicki and Peggy though... :)
i'm team Tamra all the way. we go to the same exposing websites with pictures to prove your aleged "lies" about gretchen. thats why it suprises me that she is still on the show. i cant figure out if she is partly fake, or the whole thing is an act.
Tamra, I used to think you were authentic and Gretchen was the fake one, but boy the tables have reversed! You are the biggest hypocrite on the show and it looks like you've been taking some acting classes at Danielle Staub's School of Drama. I'd just like to see you directly answer a few questions (although I know you are incapable of doing so)... 1) Why do you think it's acceptable to throw a letter and wine in someone's face, at a party no less, but think it's unacceptable for Simon to throw a dog leash in your direction? (And btw, we all know that even though Jeana threatened to throw you in the pool she never actually touched you so let's leave that excuse at the doorstep) 2) Why do you think it's acceptable to go to the press, repeat gossip, and butt into Gretchen's life while she and Slade are riding the dysfunction train, but you can't handle it when someone goes to the press and repeats hearsay about you? 3) Do you REALLY think that your kids do not know and will not find out about your 'love' scenes with Eddie on national tv that were filmed while you were still going through divorce proceedings with their father? (In my opinion there's no problem with dating another man while you're separated from your husband, but why wouldn't you think of your children before putting it on tv? Are they not already confused/upset/terrified enough about their family being ripped apart?) It just goes to show that the only person you ever think about is yourself.
I welcome your reply to these questions, but I certainly don't expect one since you are unable of owning up to anything.
Tamra, I am not a fan of Gretchen's nor her wife Alexis but I feel that life is too short for people like that to effect your life. So good to see the big girl panties are on and your moving forward. Remember to strive to make a difference in the world and in your life so that one day when your time is over people can truly say how you have touched their life. All that matters is our children and how we raise them because they are America's future. Be true to yourself and who you are and not what you think everyone else wants you to be. I actually never liked Simon and do like Eddie he seems true, real and no nonsense kind of guy, so good for you... People like genuine people...I hope that you stay friends with Vicki and support her however you can. She has been a good friend to you and forgave you for things you did so do the same for her....If you guys are having problems don't wait fix it now she showed a side of her this season I really liked and I hope that Vicki is here to stay. Yes she did a few things wrong with Don but we are human and we are going to make mistakes but she owns it and I LOVE THAT!
Tamra, You are absolutely correct when you say "Who cares what they say!". Gretchen is just jealous because she has Slade and you have found someone as great as Eddie. As far as Alexis, there are no words to describe her; she is so beyond reality it’s pathetic. Her husband is her Ruler? She is made from his rib? As I said there are no words. So just ignore the both of them they are not worthy of any attention you give them and personally I wouldn’t care what they think about anything.
I really do like you, but how do you not see that what Jeana is doing to you is exactly what you have been doing to Gretchen? It is so obvious that you both just do not like each other.....which is fine. Not everyone has to like everyone. But you should stop wasting your energy on this women/and her with you. You are supposed to be grown ups.
You are really such an unpleasant character. You twist the truth to suit you as you wish - and there have been so many instances of this. You claimed that Jeanna attacked you first - but video footage shows different. There is nothing remotely redeeming about you - you are catty and you almost seem to rejoice in the misfortune of others. I wish you would just go away and take your fake crying and shrill voice with you.
Tamara, You are right - all of you women - with the exception of Peggy, looked like frazzled, screaming, rude women. You all need to stop worrying about everyone elses problems and take care of your own. For women who supposedly 'have it all' - you all are a sad lot. Real ladies, and real friends don't spend hours upon hours trying to dig up dirt on each other - or take every opportunity to make digs about each other behind their backs. Real ladies suport their friends - both when they are together and when they are not - are not two-faced - and truely care about each other. I can't believe anyone would want to be your friend - for fear of your backstabing ways. Sad... very sad.
Tamra - I've watched RHOC since the very beginning. But after watching this season, and the reunion show in particular, I don't know that I will ever watch again. I felt sick to my stomach watching, I can't imagine how it must have felt for all of you to be in that room together.
The behavior of each of you is so awful. I don't doubt that you all intend to be good people - the problem seems to be that you have entangled yourselves in a viscious cycle of retaliation. Who even started it? I don't believe you can honestly answer that.
I pray that all of you can let down your defenses, vengefullness, negativity, jealously and truly heal. The words you choose for each other hurt yourselves as individuals as well.
You really should look within Tamra and realize that excusing bad behavior by stating "they did it to me first" is no excuse. It remains bad behavior.
God Bless you all.
Tamra, you are so right. The OC housewives are not friends and the reunion was horrible. All of you were were filled with so much angry, hostile, and vengeful emotion that I said to myself, I can no longer let this poison continue to come into my life. It is too disturbing and depressing. I was so hoping that someone would make up with someone, anyone, so that there would be some redemption to come out of this whole mess. It's heartbreaking when you stop to think about it as you so obviously did staying awake that night. Farewell is a good way to put it, Tamra, so I wish you and ALL housewives (not just OC) farewell and may you all somehow find time for God in your lives. He's the only one who can make everything right. I don't know if this will get posted because for some reason my posts don't make it. Anyway, again, good luck to you.
you are one of the meanest self serving person I have ever seen on reality TV...u use people and need to take some time and look at yourself....u are always in everyone elses business and never want anyone to comment on your actions...grow up you look like a on old hag....Vicki wake up she turned on you last season and she will do it again....
You are still my favorite despite what happend at Vicki's party and at the reunion. I'm glad you admitted that Slades business isn't your business. I know how hard it is not to lash back at someone who has hurt you, and you gave in to your instincts. We all know you are better than that, and I'm so happy you have Eddie to keep you grounded. Thanks so much for sharing your life with us, I know this was a hard year for you, but it looks like you are moving forward in the right direction. I think you are a very strong and beautiful woman who deserves the best! I can't wait to see you next year! :)
It is so crazy that you got SOOO upset with Gina, but you are doing the same thing to Slade. You even call his ex-wife. Exactly what Gina does with Simon. Hmmmm.
Tamra, you remind me alot of myself. Don't apologize for who you are. We all have a lot to learn...and if they don't like it...that's their problem! Keep smiling sunshine :)
I hope once you have had some space from this season you will see how negative you came across. Perhaps Eddie will help you see this. It is very hard not to see you as a mean girl. It is hypocritical when you are mad a Jeana for getting into your business, when clearly you not minding your own business when it comes to Gretchen and Slade. Please practice what you preach.
You seem to be in Slade's business. Why would you have his ex's phone number on your speed dial? I think Gretchen is correct when she says your a hypocrite.
You know what Tamra, you may want to spend more time on your own "crap" instead of sticking your nose where it doesn't belong. For the record, YOU are the one that has continued to gossip and get in Slade's business. (And I don't even like the guy, but wrong is wrong and you are wrong). During the reunion he fought back against all the horrible things you were saying about him. You can dish it girl, but you certainly can't take it. And as for Gretchen: you decided to "expose the truth" about her. Who the heck are you to expose anyone?!?!? And for what reason? Why do you give a crap? Based on what has and is being said in the press about your divorce, is it ok for other people to "expose" the truth they think they know about you???? Oh, I am sure you'd say NO. If you don't want people talking crap on you, why don't you start not talking crap about them. Just sayin'!!
You are a delusional mess starter. It is really sad that you can't see that. You are the only one in anyone else's business that causes unnecessary drama. You are the storm and low point of the show. You dish but you can't take. If you and Peggy are going to be friends, I sure hope that you can follow in her foot steps of positivity.
In find it ironic that you tell Jeana to stay out of your business but you can't stay out of Slades' and Gretchen.
Tamra -- if Eddie is indeed teaching you to rise above nonsense, thats a good thing. Truth is though I don't see you rise above much of anything, ever. You appear mean and petty and vindictive.
Tamra, I feel that you and Gretchen need to just move on and forget the past. Everyone makes mistakes, and nothing is ever going to change what anyone has done in their past. You just learn from it and move on. But it seems to me that both of you constantly bring up what the other has done in the past...both of you need to get over it and move on. Just be the bigger person and forget about it. Be like a duck..let it run off your back...its not worth the stress and energy of trying to prove each other wrong, etc. I wish you the best.
You need to start minding your own business and stop talking about everyone else. You are cute as a button but please get rid of the bad attitude about everyone. You have a nice man and a start of a new life. Enjoy it !STAY CLEAR OF PEOPLE YOU DO NOT LIKE !
Eddie is a good influence on you - you and Gretchen are both so bitter - I hope you're able to talke Eddie's advice next season. Hang in there!
Tamra - you really need to get a grip... You've had something bad to say about everyone on the show and yet you can't take what you dish out. Wake up! It's not all about you! You are selfish and heartless - maybe you should shut up and listen to others and there wouldn't be so much drama in your life and the lives around you - you constantly stir things up
Maybe they run their mouths about you because you can't seem to shut your mouth about anybody? Why on Earth would you talk to Slade's ex wife? What has that accomplished besides making the viewers see you as a manipulative, drama starting little girl? You don't even know the woman... grow up. As for the nasty groping scene between you and Eddie... are you so naive to think that since you don't allow your children to watch the episodes that they have never seen them? Bahahaha seriously? I'll give you a million bucks if your kids haven't seen them at their friends houses or on the internet and have heard their friends talk about it. How embarassing! It always surprises me how dumb the OC girls are and what terrible mothers the majority of them are.
"Truth prevails" . . . you are the very last person who should EVER be talking about the truth. I think you are the worst liar out of everyone.
Tamra: You used to be my fav on the show, but this year you were so angry and bitter and used sarcasm to get your point across. You throw stones, but don't like it when others accuse you. I was never a Simon fan and don't know your life at all, but you threw a drink in somone's face if that isn't calling the kettle black, calling Slade's ex.. why? Accusing Gretchen of cheating (hmm). I hope you take time this summer and go to therapy. Hope you are happier next year.
Tamra, do you ever think that you bring alot of the things you talk about in your blog on yourself. When Ginna said what she did about you in the press you flipped, do you not see why Gretchen did. What bussiness was it of yours what Gretchen did or didn't do, on or off camera. I will say I thought the bathtub thing was really over the top. I think you need to rewatch this season and think about that.
Tamra, I think that getting out of your marriage was the best thing you could've done. I could see from the start that Simon was very controlling and the way he treated your older son was horrible! I see many similarities between Simon and Alexis's husband, but she (Alexis) chooses to live in complete denial. Her situation is really quite pitiful and a huge disgrace to all women. Jeana defends Simon b/c her husband is the same way! Admitting that Simon is controlling and abusive would mean she'd have to look at her own marriage...once again just like Alexis...DENIAL! Best wishes!
I was watching your face during the reunion and I almost got scered. You are so mean to some of your cast members. Please look inside.
Tamra, I think the bottom line is you hate liars so you want the truth to come out. Liars generally never admit their lies. Eddie is right, rise above it and ignore it. Gretchen has a lot of people fooled, but All lies are exposed eventually! People are being way too hard on you, but I totally get where you're coming from. In the future, watch your language so people can't call you trashy and foul mouthed.
Best of luck to you!!
The truth does prevail, it just seems like it never comes out of your mouth! You had no business getting into Slade's business and making any kind of comment on that state of affairs. Gretchen is absolutely right, you only make a tough situation worse by adding more drama to the mix.
The constant eye rolling and mean-girl facial expressions said everything about you. You are everything you accuse everyone else of being.
You are delusional Tamra, and clearly you do care whether Gretchen will "admit the truth". On the reunion you proved how angry, bitter, volatile and MEAN you are. Let go of other people's business and clean up your own back yard!
Tamra, I don't like you at all. I think you lie, you're hurtful, vindictive and simply cheap and classless. You had such a hateful look on your face at the OC reunion. I could almost feel your negative energy coming through the tube! You're simply amazing and not in a good way. Also if Vicki was your friend why doesn't she defend you, stand up for you. And what I don't understand is how can you expect to be given any respect when you never give any to others! You started all this with Gretchen from day one. You were rude and mean when she came on as the new Housewife. And I don't blame her one bit. She's angry too. -From the begining it was never your business to begin with to even comment about her. Live and let live. It's not your movie! It's hers. Whether her choices were good or bad. Keep your dirty mouth shut. And speak only meaningful things. You've made yourself to look like such an ass. I have no admiration for you. What respect should I or anyone else have for you?? You and the rest of women make us all look so silly. -You're behavior is so petty and you seem to have a lot anger almost borderline bipolar. You don't have control of your mouth or emotions. It's pretty sad. You're very angry and you're just spitting it out like venom. Get a grip. And good luck to you.
You are truly delusional! Gretchen and Slade's life is NONE of your business! And for you to go and call Melissa that was disgusting and mean (YOU DONT EVEN KNOW HER). How would you like it if Jeanna called Simon on TV to hear "his side" I lost so much respect for you this season. I don't understand how Eddie would be with someone like you after watching this reunion.
Tamra, you use to be my fav housewife when you first came on the show but Im not sure exactly what happened to you but you've become a really UGLY person. You talk about every single housewife including Vicki who is suppose to be your friend then you play the victim role when you are confronted!!!! you are a drama started, back stabber, does not know the definition of a friend, self centered person. I dont know if all the publicity got to your head but you are my very least fav person. your just as bad as Camille from the Housewives of Beverly Hills. And no one liked her. Find yourself once again and be who you once were.
Why is it that you got so mad at Jeana for talking about your divorce and putting her two cents in , yet you did just that to Gretchen and expect it to be ok ? I watched the reunion show last night and you looked like a scared little girl ... I also felt that this season that you did alot of "acting" . compared to other season , this one you seamed fake ! I think the curse of reality Tv has hit all of you and even though the drama is good for Tv , I can't stand to watch anymore . Everyone is so down right cruel to each other for no reason . Your not always going to like each other or what they do with their life but you keep it to yourself .
I like you Tamra. I'd like you better if you would just leave Gretchen alone. You started problems with her last season by inserting your opinions about her relationship with Jeff which was really none of your business. This season your talking trash about Slade. Now Jeana is doing the same to you about your relationship with Simon. See the irony? Karma. That said, I really do hope you find happiness, you do deserve it. Good luck.