When In Cabo do as the Cabonian's do... Really? Cabo was the most fun I have had in years! It was the first time I have gotten drunk and wild in a long, long time. I'm not saying I use to be a caged animal, but letting loose in the past was just something I didn't do to often. I never experienced that kind of stuff in my twenties, I was a mom at 18 and had to grow up pretty fast. Doing my first body shot at 42 was fun, I'm not going to lie or apologize for it. So judge away! I really wanted to see Vicki let her guard down and have some fun. It took her a while to loosen up, but she did. The people around the pool where a lot of fun, and that Donn look alike was enough to blow your mind. By the way Vicki, where in the rule book does it say that you can't do a body shot if you're a mom? I bet there is a lot of moms out there that have done a body shot and a lot of moms that would never admit that they have. This year is all about freedom, healing, happiness, and doing the things I have never done before. I want to live, love, travel, laugh my butt off, and be the free spirit that I am deep inside. I know I will make mistakes along the way, and when I do, I will pick myself up and own them.
Vicki was hilarious in Cabo! She really made me work for the friendship thing in a joking way. I truly don't think I threw her under the bus as badly as she said I did. She had fun with her punishment, and I just went with it! It was hard being put in the middle of my husband and my best friend and be asked to take sides. I know I should have dealt with it in a better way, but at the time I felt like I was losing my mind!
The hotel we stayed at, Casa Dorada http://www.casa-dorada.com/index.html, was one of the most beautiful resorts I have ever stayed at in Mexico. I want to give a big thank you to the staff and Johnny Cabo for treating us so well! It was so nice, that a bunch of us are going next weekend to celebrate Vicki and Eddie's birthdays. It is also Peggy's birthday, but with two babies it is very hard for her and Micah to get away. So we will have a body shot for them! We are going to miss you guys!
Let's talk about sex, baby, let's talk about you and me. I guess Vicki is not a big fan of that song? I talk to my girlfriends about everything (just usually not on camera). Vicki truly has a problem with the word vagina that I never knew about. She also does not want to hear about other people having sex, and I get it, not everyone is as open as me. So the more she froze up and freaked out, the more I wanted to bring her out of her shell. I thought the scene was hilarious, and the look on Vicki's face was priceless! I would love to personally thank Lady Gaga!
Tamara, please don't let controlling people into your life again now that you have gotten RID OF Simon. Vicki is controlling. And how dare she tell you that you need to EARN HER FRIENDSHIP....REALLY T! Come on girl you are free now and you are SMARTER THAN THAT. Vicki has her own demons that she needs to excise so let her be her and you be you with 5 HOUR EDDIE! You go girl!!
Why do you always make such catty comments about the other women? The comments regarding Alexis were not cool at all. You need to think before you speak.
Tamra, Was nice to see you happy in Cabo. Its all in fun! Never feel embarassed...so what your 42...Ill be 46 next month and that body shot looked fun! Enjoy your life! Wishing you well always!
Ok so this has nothing to do with the Cabo trip but i didnt know anywhere else to post this lol.... (side note... im jealous you went to cabo it really seemed like a good time, anytime i can drink just bc its monday im down lol) Back to the point of this comment, it seemed that Tamara seemed really jealous of Alexis when she was talking about her dress line. Tamara's remarks about how Alexis just woke up and wanted to be a designer was just caddy and a low blow. It seemed like Tamara envies Alexis bc she has a husband that lets her live out a dream without reservation or stipulation. Although Alexis husband is a little old school and a little sovenistic (if i even spelled that right lol) they seem to have the most open relationship..... thats what i have to say take it or leave it lol...
You go girl....Tamara you and Vicki are my personal favorite. Who gives a sh-t what people say. WOO-HOO!!! Thankfully you are not with Simon anymore.
I love your free spirit and how uninhibited you are! You don't hold back, and that's why America loves you. Keep the funny comments coming....that's why I watch!
I TOTALLY agree with you about the Alexis comment. Alot of designers paid their due, rather study fashion, and/or been sewing for years.
HAPPINESS IN CABO...GOOD FOR YOU! NO JUDGING HERE about your body shots. If I had your body, I would do body shots all the time!!! I am happy you had a great time in Cabo, but I am disappointed in the way you let Vicki treat you. She is so CONTROLLING...and it was somewhat painful to watch her boss you around, and manipulate you into a big apology that she felt she deserved from you. First off, she should have been more understanding of you last season instead of placing 'friendship terms' on you at a difficult time. bUT THOSE FRIENDSHIP TERMS REARED THEIR UGLY HEAD THIS YEAR IN THE FORM OF FRIENDSHIP VOWS. Why one-sided? Why didn't she have to vow her friendship to you? She is way too manipulative. She has turned into SIMON! It is Vicki's way or the highway ps...don't judge Alexis. She may not sound well educated, but frankly, nor do you. She may make naive statements, but you make equally naive statements in your own way. Feel the love, Tamra, feel the love....
Wow Tamara you must have just posted because I am the first comment? You tend to leave people speachless! My advise is to start using that brain you say you have because one Day the trouble you get yourself in, might be more than you can handle! And because I'm feeling good today I will button my lip Now! Good luck!
As long as at the end of the day you are proud of the person and mom that you are.. then that's all that matters! Life is short, enjoy it while you can. People need to loosen up! I'm happy for you that you have found happiness again. A happy mom is a good mom :)
I loved this episode. The vagina comment was really funny!!! By the way you look amazing after having 4 kids! If I looked like that, I would be doing body shots too.
I just wanna say, I'm 41 and if I could look as good as you do when doin a body shot, I would definitely be doin it too!!!
Alfiel: Tamra never claimed to be a saint. She is having fun!!! Moms can have fun believe it or not. Y'all are acting like she did a body shot naked on her VJ. My gosh the women who watch this are prudish. Let her have fun. Her kids will be fine.
Nicely said Amanda. I AGREE WITH YOU!!! All the ladies should lay off Alexis and her husband. to live life freely, honestly and open with your husband is a gift. It is a gift both Tamra and Vicki do not have.
Where did you get that pink bathing suit, you were wearing it when you did the body shot. Or can you tell me the brand? It is so cute, love it!!
I find it kind of crazy that Vicki thinks you owe her an apology. Isn't a person supposed to attempt to side with their husband over their friends? Especially when you were trying to figure out if you should continue/end your marriage. I would think that is the time to step away from the influence of friends and deal with your marriage with no input.
I would stay away from Vicki. She is very controlling and self-absorbed. She sees nothing she does as wrong. Nobody is without fault, and a friend who asks you to put them over your husband (rocky marriage or not) is not a good friend.
Tamra, best of luck to you and Eddie. I think it would beneficial to your children if you two keep the intimate scenes off the scenes. I feel sorry for your little ones when schoolmates tease them about it.
It just doesn't seem as if you and Vicki are really friends. She criticizes you constantly, and thinks that you should earn her friendship. It was uncomfortable watching you two, not like a trip with two best friends.
I would like to know how you stay so fit? have you had any lipo suction on your stomach? What is your diet and exercise routine? I am 48 and want a killer body going into my 70's!! Can you please share some of your secrets? I already have fantastic "whoopie" so don't include that! teeheehee
I could never remember the "order" on tequila shots, but one night my friend came up with "Latter Day Saints" (lick, drink, suck) to help me remember. Of course, I was obsessed with the show "Big Love" at the time, so "Latter Day Saints" was easy for me to remember. :-)
Tamara, Vicki is already acting jealous of Eddie and it looks like it will only be a matter of time before she starts trying to come between the two of you. Just like she did Simon! So what if you had sex for five hours, if she treated Don better he might have felt more inclined to go for it. But I can just see her complaining about his performance the whole time and totally emasculating him, like she did most of the time on the show. I'm a widow and believe she was lucky to have a nice guy like Don. He let her walk all over him, and tried so hard to placate her. She may not find another MAN that nice. Just please be aware that Vicki seems to only do what makes Vicki happy and if Vicki ain't happy she doesn't want anybody happy.
Vicki is not a person I would trust with your confidences and go to for advice. She is not really reaching out for you but rather looking for a mirror on you to see herself in. She is not the giving and loving person she says she is. She simply cannot handle any constructive criticism but dishes it out. No wonder Don was passive.
Stay away. ewe.
Go with Eddie and forget Vicki. She is secretly jealous and stay away... She will take advantage of you and won't take your advice ever!!!!
Believe me - I've had a friend like Vicki and she will only want to hear you tell her what she wants to hear from you - not what you really think.
Stay true to yourself.
She is way too concerned about the "be my back" stuff.
I'm thrilled you're having fun and finally living your life. Please, Please just don't do anything Simon would try and use against you in your divorce and custody issues. Remember, one day your children will see these shows and you don't want to hurt or embarass them, because peer pressure can be to painful for children to handle. Be free, have fun and God Bless.
Loved this episode! You go Tamara! Enjoy life to the fullest. You are only garunteed this moment. I love your free spirit and your openess. While it is important to have friends you will find that the only one true friend you can count on always is yourself. Always trust in yourself and do not worry about what others may say!
I really like you Tamra and always will. I feel that you are as honest as can be and do not sugarcoat who you are for the sake of appearing a certain way on television (Gretchen likes to play the innocent victim, Alexis is busy beating her bible, etc.) You are sassy, spunky, loving, genuine, and emotional all at the same time, which I find refreshing and a breath of a fresh air on a series full of glass houses.
On the other hand, I do think you were kind of harsh in what you said about Alexis' clothing line. Many of the women on the the "Real Housewives..." franchise have capitalized on their businesses, created businesses, expanded their businesses, all in the name of recognition due to "Real Housewives..." I don't feel there is anything to be ashamed or embarrassed about that! You have a smokin' bod, why not look at starting a lingerie line, or a book on co-parenting in the limelight, etc. There are plenty of opportunities out there so you really shouldn't knock other people's ideas until you have tried it.
Alright lady.....stop rationalizing what you do and just do it!! You don't have to explain it....you were in a very controlling marriage & you have the right to let loose. As long as you don't hurt yourself or others there is no need to explain. You also have to quit rationalizing Vicki's behavior. Yes she is a good friend, but honey.....she really was out of line expecting you to apologize over and over and she just kept beating that dead horse. She did ask you to choose between her and your husband.......NO FRIEND should ever ask you to choose and they should just be there for you whatever happens. I am starting to like you a lot more and want to see your self-esteem go up.....because you don't have to make any explanations!! ;-)
I think you're great, Tamra, but you're looking pretty whoreish with your new found freedom. You're really too old to show all that.
Tamara you are having so much fun, its fun to watch you and all the new things that you are experiencing, I could tell that your ex [I can't even say his name]was in control and stifled you and its nice to see the real Tamra, YOU GO GIRL!!! and Eddie...........omg too cute, ya know now thinking about you on New Years Eve lip locking with Andy Cohen, should known right there that a new Tamra was in town
I don't want to cast judgment on you because I have made my share of mistakes. I just want you to realize that you're losing crediblity! Maybe you should stop doing this show and work on restoring your life and your family?
I can tell you Tamara, Vicki is no good for you. I know you are looking for a close friend but Vicki is NOT it! It seems like she's only happy if your not. She is not worth your time for that. Parting with, yes, close friend no! And we all know Vicki is a partier! She will just bring you down. You don't own her a thing! Friendships don't work that way. Good luck to you! Love the show!!
Hey Tamra! I love you--I think you are the most honest housewife on the show! I also feel for what you are going through with your divorce. It hurts so much, I know.
I want to personally thank you for defending designers, like my sister, who have worked and studied for years and years to make it in the fashion industry. I thought it was extremely unfair how Alexis characterized fashion designing as something you "don't have to study for." Tell that to my sister! What bugs me about Alexis is that someone else is doing the technical work and she is getting the credit! That is wrong!!
Love u Tam!
Oh please is your life go out and have fun, I enjoy watching you take my mom with you. Nobody lives with you 24/7 you have to to deal with you ALONE, so who cares... Love your actitude, yea!!
what is "right" for a 42 year old? Who are you to judge, she is responsible for herself and her actions and has her own free will to do whatever. Who are you to say what is right? The girl is living her life, how about you live and let live?
Your trip looked like so much fun and I actually do think you owed Vicki an apology- you did talk a lot of trash about her last season...I think she was just milking it and having some fun at your expense. Vicki is controlling BUT I think she has a HUGE heart and I do believe she is a good friend to you. It was very nice to see you two make up and both let loose and enjoy the Mexican sun and to hear about you enjoying some BMW!!! lol It's about time you enjoyed YOUR life! Best wishes!
VICKI WAS MEAN TO YOU IN CABO. REALLY JUDGEMENTAL! Why do you care so much what Vicki thinks of you? Why are you so desperate for her approval? You do not need her telling you what to do. Didn't you leave Simon for that very reason: CONTROL??? In all honesty, it did not come off on the CABO episode that Vicki respects you. She rolled her eyes at you throughout the show, like a disapproving mother catching her teenage daughter getting drunk, doing body shots, and acting inappropriately.
Your behavior is out of control. Think about how your children view you. Eddie will not marry you, Hispanic men only marry decent women, they play with women like you. You are truly pathetic
I like the clip that the "SOUP" did of Eddie needing to drink alot of wine before getting in the tub with you LOL!!!
Tamra, your behavior is crazy this season.You are now divorced and you are showing it and having way to much crazy fun, Get back in control girl. Take Care.
tamara, you are the only honest housewife that say whats come from your mind. you were very honest about your opinion on gretchen and i love you for that. as for vicki, she is not worth having as a friend. leave her and move on.
Your husband should be proud of how sexy you look at 42 and stop complaining about the length of your dress or if you showing too much cleavage! Maybe if he removed his head from another orifice for five minutes he'd see what he has and try to work to keep it instead of pushing you away. I'm 6'2" and most dresses on me end up as micro mini whether I want them to or not but guess what, I have great legs and so long as I'm not showing (as Snooki and the cast of Jersey shore would put it) "cooka" who cares! Flaunt it while you've got it, stand tall and proud and tell the haters to bite it! You go girl!!