Tamra Barney

Tamra talks about letting loose with Vicki during their girls' getaway.

on Mar 27, 20110

So, today Tamra (in third person) woke up and decided she wanted to be a proctologist. (Because you don't have to study for that... right?) Then she realized she has enough A-holes in her life! For those of you who truly get me, you know I am always looking for the next punchline to a joke. I don't mean to rip on Alexis for having dreams of being a fashion designer, it's more me poking fun of her silly statements. No, I don't think she is anorexic by any means, so let's just get that out of the way. But the stuff that comes out of her mouth kills me with laughter. When she said she wants to be a dress designer because, "you don't need to study for that," I almost fell off my interview chair. There is some truth to it, but I think there are a few designers like Marc Jacobs, Michael Kors, and Donna Karan that would love to address that comment? Sure there are a few like Coco Chanel that did not go to school, but they started sewing as a child and paid their dues at a very young age. Should I even comment about the dress she thought was appropriate to wear to the mall or market? I understand everyone has dreams, and when you're on this reality platform you want to capitalize on it. I think every Housewife wants to be the next Bethenny Frankel, I know I would! The difference is Bethenny is extremely talented and educated about her brand, and she stuck to what she knew (food and health), which is very important. When asked to slap your name on an unknown product, you should really be careful, it doesn't have a very high success rate. I wish Alexis the best of luck, and I do admire her for doing something for herself.

I cried watching Peggy's documentary. I think she was very brave to talk about her struggles with postpartum on TV. I know how hard it is to have two babies so close in age without any help. Then to deal with postpartum on top of it must have been hell!

The one thing I will say about Peggy and Micah, they are wonderful parents. They don't believe in having nannies raise their kids even though they can afford it. I have even suggested to her that she get a sitter once a week for four hours so she can get a little piece of mind, go grocery shopping without having to push around one of those huge car-style shopping carts, go to the dry cleaners without having to take two babies out of their car seats, or maybe just relax and get your nails done. This is advice that Simon actually gave me when Sidney and Spencer were babies, I was going crazy at the time! It really did help.

I know Peggy's story will be very inspiring to many moms going through the same thing. I'm sure Tom Cruise will be jumping on someone's couch to hear she overcame postpartum without any prescription drugs (which I have no problem with). Lord knows I should be medicated at times! I think Peggy having young kids and being very hands on is what drew me to her, we have become like sisters very fast. It's nice to have someone that you can vent to about the struggles of motherhood without them judging you. My biggest mothering struggle right now is sharing custody and missing my kids when they are gone. Peggy has really been there for me. It's also nice that we can do things together with our kids.

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65 comments
Bren1
Bren1

Wow, you really really look good for your age and having FOUR kids!! Unbelievable!! I agree with the comment re Fernanda getting so upset with you. She doesn't have kids and you have a lot going on with your children and divorce so she needs to just take a chill pill....I also notice how Gretchen talks about you all the time and you really don't bother mentioning her. Get a flipping life Gretchen!

NoCal Viewer
NoCal Viewer

Tamra:

Fernanda came to you to tell you how she felt. Isn't that what true friends do? Friends tell friends when they are upset or disappoint and true friends work through it and get over it. You have no problem flirting with her and posing in pictures; having a heart-to-heart is out of the question? Seems you don't deserve her friendship.

-Elizabeth

VALLY BUTTERFLY
VALLY BUTTERFLY

Hi Tamera, Your a beautiful woman. But I think you're going to find out Edward is a playa. He gorgeous and caliente. Ive seen it so many times before. You were married to Simon for many years, and yes he was a little controlling. But I viewed his controlling ways as looking out for you. Simon is a good looking guy in his own right. Look what has happened when untamed. Lol.Your trip to Cabo sure Eddie didnt care. But you just wait. He knows you haven't sowed your wild oats. He's going to be controlling just like all men do who have a gorgeous spirited woman on their hands. See Simon would have shut down the bathtub scene and if Eddie had bigger cahones he would have shut that down too. As your man and protector that's exactly what he should have done. I'm watching this weeks new show. I dont like how jealous he is of your wedding memorabilia. You had a life before Eddie. That includes wedding photos and a dress. You also have 3 children with Simon. Is he going to resent them as well? Your oldest girl looks just like her Dad. Please dont take my comment the wrong way. I hope this gets posted. I'm a fan and dont want to see you get hurt. Youre in a vulnerable state right now. I hope you make the right decisions. Most 40 year old women look 30. You have the gift of being beautiful at 40 dont settle for less take your time. You have so many options choose them wisely. Good luck.

Marisa714
Marisa714

Well, that's a great quote in the real world. But this is reality TV , and they want to keep their paychecks I'm sure. At the end of the day it's all entertainment and we are just seeing a very small edited portion of their lives. I'm guessing some of them play it up and bring the drama.

Bethepooh
Bethepooh

LOVE THAT QUOTE. HAVE PUT IT ON MY OFFICE WALLLL

KLT
KLT

Tamra, I think you and I need to go party girl! I wont make you feel guilty about anything and I am not fake! I have been caged up for years myself and am getting ready to turn 50 next week and I am stuck in cold Indiana! Girlfriend, I would love to come and see you and we would party like "Rock Stars" and worship the sun together! I haven't had any face lifts or botox treatments, but "I ROCK" and we would have a GREAT time together! I just got fired last week for insubordination, give me a reason to jet out of HERE!

oreo1959
oreo1959

i wish all the housewives would take my grandmothers advice, it is better to remain silent & be thought a fool, than to open your mouth & rmove all doubt. best of luck to all of you.

Viewer105
Viewer105

Tamra Where did you get that white cover up you wore over that pink bikini It was really flattering! Can you tell us the brand!' Btw you should start a bathing suit/ bikini line for 30-40 yr old women!

Ava&Ella'sMom
Ava&Ella'sMom

Tamra, has anyone ever told you that you look just like the famous Irish fiddler Mairead Nesbitt (Celtic Woman, Lord of the Dance, etc.)? The resemblance is uncanny!

Pasquale
Pasquale

Tamra,

You seem to have a lot of free time and money. Why not take advantage of it and get your GED and then maybe attend community college? It would give you some extra credibility.

Nichole Clark
Nichole Clark

you are my favorite housewife i think tour gorgeous and hilarious, and i love that your so honest, you just point out what everybody else is thinking, its great :)

tamrafan
tamrafan

Tamra, it looked like you had a great time in this episode. Vicki was being a little dramatic about how you have acted in the past by telling everybody and their brother at the resort what had happened in regards to your friendship, but it's great that you guys have made up. You are too too funny, and very beautiful. Thanks for keeping it real because it's so fun to see you with Alexis,Vicki, and all of your other friends.

Viewer12
Viewer12

oh and please tell us where you got that black bathing suit with silver on it...I love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PemaInSanDiego
PemaInSanDiego

Tamara, I feel for ya girl I really do, I have been there. You don't have those restriction imposed on you. However, you don't need to go 0 to 60 with your social life, chill a bit. This is a good time for reflection, it does take two to have a fight, you may have been acting out things you are not aware of, and unless you take this time to find them now, you will repeat them. Stay strong Tamara. happiness from down the coast :)

Emz71
Emz71

Tamra,

Your husband should be proud of how sexy you look at 42 and stop complaining about the length of your dress or if you showing too much cleavage! Maybe if he removed his head from another orifice for five minutes he'd see what he has and try to work to keep it instead of pushing you away. I'm 6'2" and most dresses on me end up as micro mini whether I want them to or not but guess what, I have great legs and so long as I'm not showing (as Snooki and the cast of Jersey shore would put it) "cooka" who cares! Flaunt it while you've got it, stand tall and proud and tell the haters to bite it! You go girl!!

Simon hater
Simon hater

I bet Simon wrote this comment....LOL

connie low
connie low

tamara, you are the only honest housewife that say whats come from your mind. you were very honest about your opinion on gretchen and i love you for that. as for vicki, she is not worth having as a friend. leave her and move on.

KDB
KDB

Tamra, your behavior is crazy this season.You are now divorced and you are showing it and having way to much crazy fun, Get back in control girl. Take Care.

freddy
freddy

I like the clip that the "SOUP" did of Eddie needing to drink alot of wine before getting in the tub with you LOL!!!

Athenian
Athenian

Your behavior is out of control. Think about how your children view you. Eddie will not marry you, Hispanic men only marry decent women, they play with women like you. You are truly pathetic

HousewifeHYSTERIA
HousewifeHYSTERIA

VICKI WAS MEAN TO YOU IN CABO. REALLY JUDGEMENTAL! Why do you care so much what Vicki thinks of you? Why are you so desperate for her approval? You do not need her telling you what to do. Didn't you leave Simon for that very reason: CONTROL??? In all honesty, it did not come off on the CABO episode that Vicki respects you. She rolled her eyes at you throughout the show, like a disapproving mother catching her teenage daughter getting drunk, doing body shots, and acting inappropriately.

Ms. Weedon
Ms. Weedon

I guess your more naked wasted than Gretchen this season, huh?

Gissella
Gissella

Girl keep doing you and you and only you :)

KBK
KBK

Your trip looked like so much fun and I actually do think you owed Vicki an apology- you did talk a lot of trash about her last season...I think she was just milking it and having some fun at your expense. Vicki is controlling BUT I think she has a HUGE heart and I do believe she is a good friend to you. It was very nice to see you two make up and both let loose and enjoy the Mexican sun and to hear about you enjoying some BMW!!! lol It's about time you enjoyed YOUR life! Best wishes!

j3nn3l
j3nn3l

what is "right" for a 42 year old? Who are you to judge, she is responsible for herself and her actions and has her own free will to do whatever. Who are you to say what is right? The girl is living her life, how about you live and let live?

tam. e.
tam. e.

YOU rock girlfriend! Go on with your bad self!!!!!

ALE RIVERA
ALE RIVERA

Oh please is your life go out and have fun, I enjoy watching you take my mom with you. Nobody lives with you 24/7 you have to to deal with you ALONE, so who cares... Love your actitude, yea!!

DiandraMartin
DiandraMartin

Hey Tamra! I love you--I think you are the most honest housewife on the show! I also feel for what you are going through with your divorce. It hurts so much, I know.

I want to personally thank you for defending designers, like my sister, who have worked and studied for years and years to make it in the fashion industry. I thought it was extremely unfair how Alexis characterized fashion designing as something you "don't have to study for." Tell that to my sister! What bugs me about Alexis is that someone else is doing the technical work and she is getting the credit! That is wrong!!

Love u Tam!

Viewer77898
Viewer77898

I can tell you Tamara, Vicki is no good for you. I know you are looking for a close friend but Vicki is NOT it! It seems like she's only happy if your not. She is not worth your time for that. Parting with, yes, close friend no! And we all know Vicki is a partier! She will just bring you down. You don't own her a thing! Friendships don't work that way. Good luck to you! Love the show!!

Rhonda in Ky
Rhonda in Ky

Tamra and Vickie... You lick it, suck it then slam it!

amanda31
amanda31

I don't want to cast judgment on you because I have made my share of mistakes. I just want you to realize that you're losing crediblity! Maybe you should stop doing this show and work on restoring your life and your family?

Flopsie
Flopsie

Tamara you are having so much fun, its fun to watch you and all the new things that you are experiencing, I could tell that your ex [I can't even say his name]was in control and stifled you and its nice to see the real Tamra, YOU GO GIRL!!! and Eddie...........omg too cute, ya know now thinking about you on New Years Eve lip locking with Andy Cohen, should known right there that a new Tamra was in town

Jaye Clifton
Jaye Clifton

I think you're great, Tamra, but you're looking pretty whoreish with your new found freedom. You're really too old to show all that.

MelG
MelG

Alright lady.....stop rationalizing what you do and just do it!! You don't have to explain it....you were in a very controlling marriage & you have the right to let loose. As long as you don't hurt yourself or others there is no need to explain. You also have to quit rationalizing Vicki's behavior. Yes she is a good friend, but honey.....she really was out of line expecting you to apologize over and over and she just kept beating that dead horse. She did ask you to choose between her and your husband.......NO FRIEND should ever ask you to choose and they should just be there for you whatever happens. I am starting to like you a lot more and want to see your self-esteem go up.....because you don't have to make any explanations!! ;-)

KatieOzLynn
KatieOzLynn

I really like you Tamra and always will. I feel that you are as honest as can be and do not sugarcoat who you are for the sake of appearing a certain way on television (Gretchen likes to play the innocent victim, Alexis is busy beating her bible, etc.) You are sassy, spunky, loving, genuine, and emotional all at the same time, which I find refreshing and a breath of a fresh air on a series full of glass houses.

On the other hand, I do think you were kind of harsh in what you said about Alexis' clothing line. Many of the women on the the "Real Housewives..." franchise have capitalized on their businesses, created businesses, expanded their businesses, all in the name of recognition due to "Real Housewives..." I don't feel there is anything to be ashamed or embarrassed about that! You have a smokin' bod, why not look at starting a lingerie line, or a book on co-parenting in the limelight, etc. There are plenty of opportunities out there so you really shouldn't knock other people's ideas until you have tried it.

SherriC
SherriC

Loved this episode! You go Tamara! Enjoy life to the fullest. You are only garunteed this moment. I love your free spirit and your openess. While it is important to have friends you will find that the only one true friend you can count on always is yourself. Always trust in yourself and do not worry about what others may say!

anglstr
anglstr

Tamra

I'm thrilled you're having fun and finally living your life. Please, Please just don't do anything Simon would try and use against you in your divorce and custody issues. Remember, one day your children will see these shows and you don't want to hurt or embarass them, because peer pressure can be to painful for children to handle. Be free, have fun and God Bless.

willowinthewind
willowinthewind

Go with Eddie and forget Vicki. She is secretly jealous and stay away... She will take advantage of you and won't take your advice ever!!!!

Believe me - I've had a friend like Vicki and she will only want to hear you tell her what she wants to hear from you - not what you really think.

Stay true to yourself.

She is way too concerned about the "be my back" stuff.

willowinthewind
willowinthewind

Vicki is not a person I would trust with your confidences and go to for advice. She is not really reaching out for you but rather looking for a mirror on you to see herself in. She is not the giving and loving person she says she is. She simply cannot handle any constructive criticism but dishes it out. No wonder Don was passive.

Stay away. ewe.

Viewer K
Viewer K

Tamara, Vicki is already acting jealous of Eddie and it looks like it will only be a matter of time before she starts trying to come between the two of you. Just like she did Simon! So what if you had sex for five hours, if she treated Don better he might have felt more inclined to go for it. But I can just see her complaining about his performance the whole time and totally emasculating him, like she did most of the time on the show. I'm a widow and believe she was lucky to have a nice guy like Don. He let her walk all over him, and tried so hard to placate her. She may not find another MAN that nice. Just please be aware that Vicki seems to only do what makes Vicki happy and if Vicki ain't happy she doesn't want anybody happy.

sje
sje

I could never remember the "order" on tequila shots, but one night my friend came up with "Latter Day Saints" (lick, drink, suck) to help me remember. Of course, I was obsessed with the show "Big Love" at the time, so "Latter Day Saints" was easy for me to remember. :-)

CRS
CRS

I would like to know how you stay so fit? have you had any lipo suction on your stomach? What is your diet and exercise routine? I am 48 and want a killer body going into my 70's!! Can you please share some of your secrets? I already have fantastic "whoopie" so don't include that! teeheehee

Viewer from Houston
Viewer from Houston

It just doesn't seem as if you and Vicki are really friends. She criticizes you constantly, and thinks that you should earn her friendship. It was uncomfortable watching you two, not like a trip with two best friends.

 rhiannon
rhiannon

Tamra, best of luck to you and Eddie. I think it would beneficial to your children if you two keep the intimate scenes off the scenes. I feel sorry for your little ones when schoolmates tease them about it.

diosa76us
diosa76us

I find it kind of crazy that Vicki thinks you owe her an apology. Isn't a person supposed to attempt to side with their husband over their friends? Especially when you were trying to figure out if you should continue/end your marriage. I would think that is the time to step away from the influence of friends and deal with your marriage with no input.

I would stay away from Vicki. She is very controlling and self-absorbed. She sees nothing she does as wrong. Nobody is without fault, and a friend who asks you to put them over your husband (rocky marriage or not) is not a good friend.

Steph1213
Steph1213

Where did you get that pink bathing suit, you were wearing it when you did the body shot. Or can you tell me the brand? It is so cute, love it!!

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

Nicely said Amanda. I AGREE WITH YOU!!! All the ladies should lay off Alexis and her husband. to live life freely, honestly and open with your husband is a gift. It is a gift both Tamra and Vicki do not have.

SoWhat888888888
SoWhat888888888

Alfiel: Tamra never claimed to be a saint. She is having fun!!! Moms can have fun believe it or not. Y'all are acting like she did a body shot naked on her VJ. My gosh the women who watch this are prudish. Let her have fun. Her kids will be fine.