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Tamra clarifies her comments and updates us on her kids.

It was so thoughtful of Vicki to bring me that beautiful cross picture. I collect crosses, and this one is one of my favorites. I know just how busy Vicki is with her business and thought it was so nice of her to stop by on her lunch break. 

The text massages that Alexis sent me were a total exaggeration of what really happened. The first thing I thought was that she might be trying to create unnecessary drama for the sake of the camera. As you can see, she really doesn't have much going on in her life. I died laughing when she said the party cost her so much money and I ruined it... Since her plastic surgeon paid for it, and in return she gave him a national commercial. Like I have said in the past, I heard things that they were saying about me behind my back during the break up of my marriage. I did confront her a few times, and she always denied it. Kind of like how she denied she said she didn't like me when Gretchen called her out when they were at lunch with Peggy. I tried to put it behind me and film with her, but it was very difficult. I live in the real world and they... Well, let's just say they are more worried about keeping up the appearance of being Newport's finest.

FYI, I can't take credit for the Jesus barbie comment. David Gilmore, who owns writes a weekly blog about all the housewife shows, nicknamed her that and it just popped out of my mouth in the heat of things. 

I would never laugh at some one that has fallen on hard times. But these two are such hypocrites about everything. It is hard to sympathize with people that have screwed up priorities. When simon and I were struggling like many others, we did everything we could to hold on to the house. We turned in our fancy Mercedes and bought used cars for cash, we canceled the gardner, pool service, cut up credit cards, etc. We were honest about our financial struggles. We were not broke, but could no longer afford our past lifestyle, so we started drastically cutting back. Don't you think that is the practical thing to do? But what did they do...bought a Rolls Royce Phantom to save face!

The dinner with Peggy, Micah, Gretchen, and Slade was interesting. You could see the awkwardness between them. Micah is one the best hands-on daddies I have ever met. He talks about being a daddy and how he loves his girls all the time. When he started talking about being a good parent, it looked like Slade and Gretchen wanted to scream, "Check please!" It was no surprise that Gretchen and Slade started ripping me apart about how I owe her an apology for exposing her on national TV. Peggy learned quickly what they are all about. I never once talked about them to Peggy or told her about our past problems, I have better things to talk about. I think Gretchen needs to give it a break already! News alert, Gretchen, do you not remember the seven emails we shared last year about putting this behind us and moving on? I have not mentioned her once this season yet!  

Seeing Vicki and Donn made me sad. I love them both so much and know exactly what they are going through. It has been obvious through the years that they were both not getting what they needed from their relationship. A marriage failing is not one sided, it takes two people to get to that point.  Both Vicki and I are leaning on each other through the divorce process, and I know personally that she is having a very hard time with it. It does get easier as time goes on, but the pain really never goes away completely.  

You all know that I am not on the Slade train, but I'm starting to feel a little bad for Tubba Wubba. Gretchen is really treating him badly this season. Looks to me like she may have lost respect for him. Eddie and I related to Slade gaining ten pounds since they have been together. Usually when you are happy in love and comfortable with each other you tend to gain weight. I love to call it my "love chub." I would rather be happy in love than hungry and miserable! However, summer is coming so we are back on our healthy diet and using SENSA ( to help control our appetite. Thanks to Patti Stanger! Have you seen how hot she is looking?

People keep asking me if Eddie has a facebook or Twitter account. I finally talked him into creating a Twitter @eddiejudge, @tamrabarney. Please follow us!/pages/Tamra-Barney/82781113707?sk=wall

We have been asked to do a lot of public appearances from Australia to Atlantic City. We will be at the Luxor hotel on May 5 to celebrate Cinco de Mayo at T&T restaurant.... Come see us if you're in town. 

Since my kids are not in the show I'd like to give you an update on how well they are doing. Sidney is still making the honor roll with a 4.0 GPA. She is such a good kid. She is still in theater and will be performing a lead roll in 'Beauty and the Beast' this weekend. I just registered her for soccer, and she wants to start gymnastic too. Can you say over achiever! She keeps me busy with all her activities, but I am so proud of her. 

Spencer continues to crack me up every day with his 60 year old humor, he is such an old soul. He is playing the trumpet in school and wants to start guitar lessons and has taken intrest in writing lyrics to songs.   

Sophia is my mini me... Help me! She a little smart mouth and is a social butterfly in school. She is stubborn and let's you know exactly what she is thinking. She takes dance class with he best friend from kindergarten and is very excited about her first recital next month. I also registered her for soccer for the first time.  

Simon and I continue to share 50/50 custody and the kids are finally getting use to their situation. It's hard on both of us to see our kids 50% less than we used to, but there is nothing we can do about it. I am a true believer that kids need to have both parent involved in their life . On a positive note, it has given me time to do my real estate, write my book, and do appearances when they are with their father. We have a rule that I never work or go out the days they are home with me. I'm lucky to be able to have a job that allows me the freedom. 

Ryan is doing great and works at a law firm. You will be seeing Ryan on the show real soon.    


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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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