Wow, wasn't Peggy's dinner party spectacular? There isn't anything that she didn't think of. It was amazing. The night was warm and with all of her soft lighting and a professional singer singing in the background, it was very romantic and classy. I had just flown in earlier that afternoon from a business trip in Atlanta for a week,and really had no desire to go at all. I was tired and crabby, but once Eddie and Tamra came over I immediately got in the mood. Having Donn and Eddie meet was fun for Tamra and I, because last year Simon brought so much tension that it was hard to have fun and go out as couples. I really like Eddie, and it so nice to finally see Tamra being treated so well and respected. I hope they live a long and happy life together.
When I found out Slade and Jim were not planning on showing up to the dinner party, I thought it was rude to Peggy. She had a couples' dinner party planned for over a month, and I found it weird that Gretchen and Alexis brought their "male assistants" instead. It was very uncomfortable when they were lying for their men as to why they didn't show, and the fact of the matter is they both were in town and just didn't feel like coming. I'm sure they knew if they did come there ultimately would be some sort of drama, so they opted out for the evening. I feel bad sometimes when I hear some of the things I have said about Jim and Slade on camera, but I've been known to have a limited filter on my voice and sometimes I have to say what I think.
I find it very strange and insecure that Alexis made such a huge deal that Jim wasn't at the dinner party. She was acting as if she was out of town in another country and wasn't going to see him for a month. I mean sheesh, she was gone for three hours and it upset her so much that she ended up crying uncontrollably. I don't understand how that could have upset her so much. I mean she knew when she got in the car and headed over to Peggy's that Jim was not with her, so why the big alligator tears?
It was an off night for Donn and I, as I am sure all of you have had in your relationship from time to time. They are terribly uncomfortable, especially when you have to be filming and around a bunch of couples who are kissy kissy. We hadn't seen each other in a few weeks due to traveling for my business, Coto Insurance, and it always seemed to take us a while to re-enter the relationship once we get back together. Donn has a sharp tongue sometimes that most people never really see, but tonight you got a little glimpse of it. I was raised by my mother who screamed when she was mad, and I vowed I would never be in a relationship with anyone that screamed when they were angry. Although Donn is not 100% like my mom, he does tend to have a sharp tongue and has been known to be a screamer when angry. It was hard to see him this episode call me a b----, as I don't recall ever calling him a swear word or a bad name. When the subject came up about him and I having children, it was very hard for me to watch. When Donn and I got married, he told me he wanted a family with me and to have our own children together. After our first year of marriage, we had separated for a few months and the fear of having a baby once we reconciled was scary for both of us. I elected to get my tubes tied at 34 with Donn's full support, since I was afraid of ever having an "oops" baby and realized my hopes for a large family was not in my cards. In hindsight I don't know if that was my best decision, but at the time it seemed the right thing to do.
Vicki I think you have a wonderful heart and great work ethics, but you and tamra bring out the worst in each other. You become mean spirited. You are a professional and a wonderful example for women and I would expect you to take the high road and not participating in the rude,critical behavior.
Relationships in trouble are hard enough to deal with, I couldn't imagine have a camera in my face while trying to deal with it. Best of luck to you. Please let this be your last season you have out grown this circus and don't fit in with these insecure woman, move on, Hon.
You justified your "sharp tongue" by saying that sometimes you need to just say what you feel and then in the next paragraph you were upset that your husband has a sharp tongue. Why is it ok for you to say hurtful things, but if you are on the recieving end, it is not ok? The best advice that I can offer you is that in life, you get what you give! If you don't like what you are getting, change what you are giving.
While I think you are an awesome business woman, I don't always agree with your comments on a personal basis (and I have truly never made a comment on a blog), but I truly felt sorry for you when your husband called you the b word in front of friends and on camera. You didn't deserve that.
Viki, I know it must be hard to watch yourself on TV. If my life was recorded for the world to see over and over again, I know I would be my worse critic. I know how it is to say something in a heated moment, lose control, and then have great remorse. In fact, this happens to me everyday... So, as far this season goes in my opinion, this is the "calmest" I have seen you. I have been watching the show since day one and to be honest you have always been my least favorite. But I think maybe the effects of this show may be a bit humbling? You Think?
please spend more time with your hubby, he seems like a great guy....spend more time with him because u never know when he will be gone...u might regret not making time for him.
Hi Vicki I would like to commend you on the fact that you are a working woman and wife and a mother hell it takes a real woman to be able to multitask all of your duties. I am a mother of 6 with 5 grand baies and I am also a wife I am lucky tho more so than some others in this sorry world because my husband of 16 years this August 25 prefer's me to stay home he feels he makes enough money to tend to the bills and the kids and us so he has asked for me to stay home and I dont have a problem with that I was working when we met and I have worked since I was 14 and I am now 43 and proud to say I am a home maker . I think what you and Donn have is wonderful you have a man like mine he walked into a rlationship with a woman with kids and he is still here as yours is still thre with you there are very few men like them in the world today so I feel we are in a league of our own. I have watched Housewives of oc since it started and I have to say slow down and pay attention to your husband before it is too late the two of you had a great time whn you renewed your vows yes I know you love your job but answer this question as honest as you can ( can your job and the money you make hold you at night make love to you or can you hear it say the words out loud I love you )???? I think if you were not so uptight you would be such a great person not that your not now but an even better person be kinder and more loving to your hubby girl because no matter how much money you make and insurance you sell when you end up single again the next man could end up being a gold digger and takening you to the cleanners and Donn is such a sweet man fix your relationship before it is too late . And for future referances choose your friends better those that you think are true blue and got your back dont have crap they talk just as bad about you behind your back as you and they about others.
I'm loving you this season. You're obviously going through a lot but you've become more humble. I wish you nothing but success in business and in love. I am sad to see Donn and yourself going through a divorce. I hope your heart and family will heal.
First, it's crocodile tears - not alligator tears. Second, stop judging everyone and take a look at yourself. You could use some of your own judgement.
Vicki, I have to agree with Cheryl d you and Tamra bring out the worst in each other or should I say tamra brings out the worst in you. You are a much classier woman than the mean spirited and gossip girl that Tamra brings out in you. I feel sad for you and Donn that things didn't work out I had so much hope for the two of you after last season but I wish you both the best.
I like your strong ability to be able to own your business and grow. Do not try to be controlling outside of your business. You are a professional and supposely well mannered. Although you and Tamara are friends, do not entwine in drama among others. This make you look bad, even if you do not like them. It's nobody's business what other's (Jim, Alexis, Gretchen and Slate) do or have done that you do not like. That is something that they would have to deal with and there business. You know "karma" isn't good.
Hi Vicky,You are my favorite housewife,You seem to be like the mom to a bunch of spoiled brats who dont know how good they have it.I think bravo should give you your own show.As for you and Don ,you can do much better no one has the right to treat you like he did at the dinner party.
I think Donn blew up like that because he was frustrated. You either didn't understand or didn't want to understand what he was saying. Even Tamra and Eddie understood. It wasn't that Donn wasn't committed to you. There were other things that stood in the way of you two having a bigger family.
Vicki, you're the voice of reason and is also a VERY intelligent woman! Gretchen and Alexis should feel honored for you to share your wisdom with them, but instead, they turn it into something negative or bad when it's not. I'm really sick of watching them crying and acting like 5 year olds on the show. They think they are teenagers, but they are in their 30s; they're not much younger than you and Tamara but run around acting like they're spring chickens who are better than everyone else! I'm so over it! Blessings to you and your family!
you are my favorite OC housewife. you might not be perfect but you are honest.
alexis and gretchen showing up without their couple just shows how their relationship works. peggy should appreciate that you went even when it was an "off day" with donn and you had just arrived from your trip.
it was obviously a couples dinner, since that explains why the singer and the lightning...
i think you should not give that much thought to donn's insults. men can sometimes talk without thinking. throughout the seasons, it is obvious that donn loves you.
Keep it up Vicki! I love you this season. I really loved how you didn't go put your ear to the door when Tamra was listening to the conversation between Gretchen and Alexiz. I'm glad you wanted to stay out of that drama.
To be honest, I was floored to see everyone acting so childish and rude to one another, including Peggy and her husband. I felt bad for Alexis's assistant after Peggy's husband made a couple of remarks. It was just bad behavior all around.
I have to say that I can see that you are really trying to change back to who you were the first few seasons and I commend you for that. I thought it was great when you told Tamra that you would not go to the bathroom if she was going to stir up trouble. I honestly believe that you just want peace between you and the ladies. My best advice to you is to drop Tamra as a best friend. She really is bringing you down and making you look bad. I could say a few things about Tamra and I did, but I erased them because that is not who I am. All I will say is just surround yourself with positive people that are not constantly talking about others the way she does. I have never posted to a blog before, but felt compelled to do so today. I just happened to see your blog come across Facebook. lol I really disliked you last season, although the first few seasons you were one of my favorites, (I miss the old Housewives of OC ) but I can see that you are working on yourself and trying to be a better person. Kudos to you for that! =) One thing I see is that you seem to constantly bring up your business even when it is not working hours. You need to stop doing that. People really get tired of hearing about it. Yes, your business is important to you, as it should be, but your life can't be all about the business. For your sake and your family's sake...take time to step away from it and concentrate on your other life. Believe me, I know...we are the same age and in the past, I have had to take a long hard look at myself and make changes. It's not easy, but it really will make your life so much better. I realize that what we see on tv is just a snippet of your real life, and I understand that I am only going by what I see there. But maybe my advice will help you with those parts. Good luck! =)
I have to say that I can see that you are really trying to change back to who you were the first few seasons and I commend you for that. I thought it was great when you told Tamra that you would not go to the bathroom if she was going to stir up trouble. I honestly believe that you just want there to be peace. My best advice to you is to drop Tamra as a best friend. She really is bringing you down and making you look bad. I could say some other things about her but I won't go down to that level. ( I do hope that she will see what she projects herself to be and changes once the new-ness of being single wears off. ) All I will say is surround yourself with positive people that are not constantly talking about others the way she does. It really will increase your happiness! I have never posted to a blog before, but felt compelled to do so today. I saw your blog come across on Facebook. lol I really disliked you last season, although the first few seasons you were one of my favorites, (I miss the old Housewives of OC ) but I can see that you are working on yourself and trying to be a better person. Kudos to you for that! =) One more bit of advice ...stop talking so much about your business on your off hours and make more time for yourself and family. People really get tired of hearing about business all the time. Yes, your business is important to you, as it should be, but your life can't be all about the business. For your sake and your family's sake...take time to step away from it and concentrate on your other life. You are missing so much with your family and you will wish you could have that time back. We are the same age, and in the past, I have had to take a long hard look at my life and make changes. It is not easy, but it really will make your life so much better. I understand that what we see on tv is only snippets of what your life really is, but maybe my advice can help you with that part. Best of luck!! =)
Nearly all the women i know are stressing themselves sick over the pathological fear that they simply aren't doing enough with their lives. Which is crazy- absolutely flat out bananas because us women we want to be the perfect mothers and perfect lovers perfect and everything we do so i like when you say i work hard so i play hard so hold on to yourself cause it's all going to be all right good luck GOD BLESS.........
Love you, Vicki! You call it like you see it, and always have. I know you're getting tired of people commenting on your marriage. But I am hoping that there is going to be a surprise twist at the end of the season, and it is going to be that you and Donn are staying together!
Vicki, I love you & I have been watching since season 1. My heart goes out to you in this difficult time. It has been hard to watch this season & see you & Donn growing apart & your marriage slowly dissolving. I am sure it is heart-wrenching for you. Sending you wishes of peace, comfort & happiness! I am so glad to see you & Tamra together. I am so happy to see you guys get your friendship back on track. You two together crack me up! I think Peggy is a great addition & look forward to seeing more of the 3 of you together.
Vicki I have always liked you from day one, however I wish that you and Don can work your relationship out. The renewal of your vows made me cry and be happy for your all at once. You two seem like a great couple and what I like to tell people all the time is to remember why you got married. It is for better or for worse and it is alot of give and take. I believe you two could work this out with a littel counseling and some give or take on you part as well as Don's. I wish and hope for the best for the two of you and may God bless your marriage.
Vicki, it's seems like you want to change to become a less gossipy woman so you'll need to ditch Tamra because she's a troublemaker and thrives on the misfortune of others.
Vicki I just adore you! I loved you every season, I'm not even offended by what you say, because I know you're not mean -spirited. I'm so heartbroken about you and Donn - I love him! Can I have him now? ; )
Sorry, can't stand your best friend on the show. Believe me, If I were you, I'd keep an eye in back of my head with that one. I still think she'd turn on a dime on you.
Much love to you!
You should really think twice about your friendship with Tamra. Clearly, she brings you into ALL of the drama, which I might add that she starts a good portion of it all. It absolutely makes you look bad! You are so much better than that! Good luck!
But VIcki did leave the table with Tamara, therefore, everyone know at that table that Tamara and Vicki, were going to see what Alexia and Gretchen were doing!
As a 25 year old college student, I must say you are extremely INSPIRATIONAL! I love your work ethic, and how you are not afraid to go out there and earn your money. It's truly refreshing.
Vicki I think you are inspiring and often misunderstood. I have the same problem because I say it like it is all too often. You put your kids first, make time for friends, and have handled some of the problems in your marriage as privately as you can! I admire your work ethic, I am the exact same way-nothing in life is free...I am 26 year old women working fulltime and finishing my degree this very week! I appreciate everything I have because even though I have GREAT parents I BOUGHT IT!!! I look forward to being out of debt in the future, and consider you inspiring! I find it really way too bad that even though you said nice things on your blog about how you misjudged Slade(btw most people do NOT like saying they were wrong about someone) you see the best in him now (few weeks back!) SHAME on Gretchen for hating you! It was Don that made the comment and you were not impressed by his humor towards others. As for the powder thing-hilarious-Alexis needs to wake up! TEAM VICKI FOREVER!!!
I am sorry for comment I made earlier this season about you and Donn. We saw a side of him that has not been seen on tv. He did have a very sharp tounge towards you at dinner. He also was making fun of some of the guests at the dinner party which was not the Donn we are used to seeing portrayed on the show. I'm sure alcohol had a little to do with his behavior, but that is still no excuse. He should never call you names. He is suppose to love you. My husband calls me names when we are in a heated discussion and it really makes me upset- this is someone who says they love you, but then can call you names. I forgive, but never forget. Anyway, We only see a snippet of what your life is with Donn and I know you have done what you think is best with your career and family. I just hate to see you have to go through divorce. I wish you could have worked it out.
Hi Vicky, Hope all is well. I wanted to tell you Don was being really funny on the road home from Peggy's party. He made me crack up.His impersonation of this particular person was to a tea.Spot on. BTW, Gretchen needs to dump Slade. She could do so much better!!!
Vicki I think you're fabulous and I'm in love with your husband. You both seem to feed off of each other's dry wit. Let the other women swim in the drama, and keep your chin up. I hope the best for you both.
Alexis states in her blog that her husband had lunch with your boyfriend Brooks, and my question to you is who is Brooks and will we be seeing him in any episodes?
You were absolutely correct something else was going on between A & J. She shouldnt have come. It wasnt right. With this tough economy it was tough to see Alexis ruin a very expensive dinner party that catered by a well known chef. Where were her social graces? She gets mad at Tamera for a silly joke at her spa party. But has the audacity to sit in the bathroom all night. Why not just call it a night? Im glad you guys laughed it off and didnt let her ruin Peggy and Micha's amazing dinner party.Alexis was behaving like a child. It seemed she was in a bad mood and wanted her bad mood to rub off on everyone else.It's good no one indulged her. Youre right she had a fight with Jim. He tries to control her. In my opinion it's a form of emotional abuse.That's why she waits on him hand and foot. Maybe you could be a good influence on Alexis. (jim would love that) encourage her to make it on her own. Be a good role model so she can monetarily support her own kids. Nothing feels better than to have to depend on a man for support. Especially ones who so controlling. He was even controlling her at the party. He had her in tears. He got what he wanted. He's very manipulative. What does that man do for a living? Somethings not right.
It's been clear to me since season one that Donn hurt you very early in your relationship by not adopting your children when they were younger. Back then I could also tell that he was capable of cutting you very deeply verbally and that he seems to have a bit of a cruel streak in him when he's drinking. Of course, people don't always see this as he's quite passive/aggressive at times, which makes you look like the bad guy, which I don't believe you are. I think his behavior led you to somewhat shut down emotionally and throw yourself into building a thriving business as a distraction from your troubled homelife.
This is not to say that Donn is a bad person, just that he may not have always been a good husband. You get a lot of flack for neglecting him in favor of work, but that's understandable if my suspicions of his earliest behavior in your marriage is true. You held onto a marriage that was rocky almost from the start and your work has been your lifesaver; your survival mechanism. Again, I hope I'm wrong, but I've been watching since season one and the pieces are still adding up. Your latest revelations about an earlier separation and decision not to have children seem to fit my suspicions perfectly. If I'm wrong, I apologize.
I really am sorry that you and Donn didn't make it. I know that you tried your best or at least the best that you knew how at the time. Maybe it's not completely over for you and Donn. Maybe counseling can help? (On a sidenote, watch out for Jeanna. It's also been clear to me since season one that she'd love to play house with Donn.)
As for the other ladies, it's clear that you're trying to soar above the madness. Every now and then, however, you allow yourself to get sucked into the drama. You're a big girl, so I'm not going to blame your friendship with Tamra, but I will say that I see you trying and I look forward to you someday getting it right. You really are an inspiration to working women everywhere and I wish you all of the best, Vicki.
It is nice that you appear to be more humble this season. It would be ever better to see you opening your heart more and ease your critical nature.
this was from you blog a few weeks ago and then this week you're trashing slade and gretchen again please explain....
'I know how hard it is for Slade to have had such financial struggles since he moved from Coto, also all the health issues they have had with his son, Grayson. I have seen a softer side of Slade this year (as I am sure he has of me as well), and we have mended any fences that were built between us. I was quick to judge Slade in years past, but over this past year I have taken the time to really get to know him and I like what I see. He loves Gretchen and seems to really assist her with all areas of their lives. It is something I was missing in my own marriage, having a true partner in all areas."
Why do you care what Gretchen and AlexIs did or did not do? As the professional business woman you proclaim to be, I expected you to be above the drama instead of helping to make it. Totally classless and not at all what I would expect in the personality of my insurance person.
Valley Butterfly.... Why encourage people to become single parents?
And to everyone else who comments about the woman being dependent upon her husband. She can be independent, she depends on her husband because he IS her husband! In a relationship you should be able to depend on one another. Why would Alexis want to live on her own? She loves her husband, she has time for her family. She ENJOYS to be around her husband and misses him when she is not.
You are still my favorite! I was horrified and embarrassed for you when Donn called you that. If you have to have to have one flaw then he is it! There is no excuse for his behavior at all. He did not stand up for you at the dinner party last season and to display such blatent disrespect for you...I don't know what else to say.
Always been on of my fav's! Always love to hear your opinions and am sooo glad you are the voice of reason among these spoiled, mean and lazy women! Good for you Vicky! Work hard and make $ the old fashion way. While you are on the beach sipping Mai TAi's during your retirement these other ladies looks will have faded by then and then what are they gonna do? Sorry about you and Don, but its too bad you come out looking like the bad guy. Sometimes, no matter how much love is there a relationship can still fall apart. Who are we to judge? Keep being your fabulous self! xxoox