Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki shares that Briana is back in the hospital.

on May 23, 20110

As I write this week's blog, I am in my daughter Briana's hospital room for the fourth day due to a CSF Leak (cerebral spinal fluid). My heart is filled with sadness, and the tears that roll down my face are all too common lately. I am so ready for peace, health, and happiness, since this first half of this year has been anything but.  The CSF leak has caused Briana to have a terribly painful headache, which the doctors have not been able to get under control. She has been on a morphine pain drip now for three days, but it has not relieved the pain enough for her to go home. Tomorrow she is having a procedure called a blood patch, which should help her symptoms, but the one they did on Friday didn't help. Please keep my baby in your prayers. Thank you.

Ironically I write my blog tonight from Briana's hospital room, which is in the same hospital I was in during tonight's episode. We have been way too many hospitals lately between the two of us. 

I'll do my best to explain the timeline of how everything unfolded on the day of Alexis' dress luncheon. I was getting ready to leave work and head over to the restaurant to see Alexis' dresses line, and I decided to go to ladies room prior to leaving. Not to get to into too many details, when I looked down the entire toilet was filled with blood. It looked like someone was shot, and it was as if a blood valve had been turned on. It scared me, and I ran to tell Heidi and Danielle what was happening, and they immediately called Briana. I sat down with towels collecting my blood and waited for Briana to come pick me up. She immediately drove me to the emergency room and they started an IV right away. They said I had lost a lot of blood and probably would need a procedure in the morning to find out the source and the extent of the bleed. The last thing I was worried about at that time was Alexis' dress party. I couldn't belive Gretchen thought I was faking it and thought my "timing" was a coincidence. I had texted pictures of my IV and my hospital gown, so I'm not sure how anyone could think this was a planned illness. I turned from shocked to mad when I realized how insensitive she was being. 

I had the procedure in the morning and was diagnosed with five ulcers in my colon and diverticulitis. Watching tonight's episode really made me very sad. I thought, "What kind of people am I associating with that would accuse me of something so terrible like Gretchen did?" Seeing Tamra truly concerned about me and offering to come be with me was very sweet. Briana had told Tamra not to worry about coming to the hospital, and that's why she didn't.  I know if she was able to go and be with me, she would have.

211 comments
CSFLeaker
CSFLeaker

There are so many of us who know that pain. We are working diligently to get the word out about this horrific condition. We have a Facebook group, CSF Leaks, where we share experiences and information in an effort to provide help to the helpless and hope to the hopeless. Anyone suffering or supporters are welcome. We share the most up to date information about this condition and treatment options. I have had numerous blood/glue patches. Our group is where you can share, be believed and be among true friends that understand the pain. Regardless of joining, we certainly wish you and your daughter well.

Michelle H
Michelle H

Sorry to hear about your daughter, I had the same thing happen to me after the birth of my second daughter. I was only a few years older than your daughter.. I remember not being able to stand for weeks, because the only time I felt normal was lying down. The pain was nauseating and light was unbearable at times, but just know that it does resolve itself in time, and try your best to be patient. Prayers are with you.

Marilyn662
Marilyn662

OMG, watching this episode has me at wit ends, I am a mother, and understand so well, I am here crying with you.. but be strong, and pray, god will guide you... To me your the best one there, smart and hardworking... I am going to be praying for your little girl... May Brianna get better soon...send you a big hug.

cassie smith
cassie smith

i have watched u girls since u came on for the first time, and my heart goes out to u ill pray for Briana she is a great girl and i never met her u can just tell .

grady
grady

i am praying for breanna that her thyroid and lymph nodes biopsy clean of cancer. vicci is a brave woman. my only child daughter passed 6 years ago. no mother should out live their child. at 70 years old , I thought God put children in your life to care for mom when she gets old. doesnt always work that way. and by the way the person critical of blood in the stool, does not know the pain of diverticulitis.

grady
grady

does brenna have thyroid cancer and or lymph node cancer. did they do her biopsy. I am praying for them. breanna too young to have those things hurting her future. bless you both

grady
grady

does breanna have cancer. did they finish the thyroid surgery and the lymph node biopsies?

A Duck
A Duck

Blessing to Brianna , God Speed in her healing. Keep us posted.

K hermz
K hermz

I want to say how much I love the show, you are my favorite person on it. Your hard work is inspiring! Also, I hope everything is well with your daughter Briana!!

Cyria mcleod
Cyria mcleod

How dere them girls think you were joking even I don't know u personally an I know u wouldn't do that. They got some nerve. U even said that you were gona go to alexis's face so whatever.next time don't send no pics whether they believe you or not so what f... Them

TPDJ
TPDJ

POOR YOU YOU CAN DROP A SPOT OF BLOOD IN A BOWL OF CLEAN WATER AND IT WOULD LOOK LIKE SOMEONE WAS SHOT, ALSO WHY SEND PHOTOS, DID YOU FEEL YOU HAD SOMETHING TO PROVE, MAKES YOU SAY HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM MMMMMMM

Viewer28
Viewer28

I had the same condition in the late 90's and they immediately did the blood patch and I was fine after a few days. I can not understand what took them so long but then again I refused to take narcotics for the pain. I wish her better health.

INKatherine
INKatherine

Vicki, As all of your fans I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Divorce is never easy and sometimes can bring out the worst in people, I pray that the Lord gives you the strength to get through this. You are a very strong woman and I am sure that you are going to be fine. Have you seen yourself lately? You are super beautiful and have so many things going for you.

Speaking of beautiful....... the dress that you wore at your Fall Party was stunning!! Who designed it? I would love to have one.

Keep your head up and you will come through this. I know you are very great full for the wonderful children that you have, and Briana is a lovely young woman. It's nice to see that you two are as close as you are. I loved the way she had your back at the party. I am sure she is always like that. Briana will stay in my prayers. Best of luck to you and your family.

Don't forget to try and e-mail me who designed that dress.

xoxo ( Big HUGS )

Ms K
Ms K

Vikki my heart goes out to you as well as my prayers. I too have had to care for a sick child as well as going thru 2 painful divorces all while taking care of the business. Right now I know that it may seem as if things are not going to get better but I promise you that they will. Honey I went from having it all to having nothing literally and I had to build myself back up after my ex-husband decided to steal my identity and put me in debt for over $350K. But after giving myself a small time to mourn what was lost including emotionally, I picked myself up and focused on me and getting myself healthy, because I too had a illness that attacked my body with such a vengengance the doctor's almost couldn't help me. But, to God be the glory, I started praying and believing in the positive and very, very slowly but surely, things began to turn around. Now I am doing ok at work again, Im in school studing for my bachelors, Im dating and my kids are doing ok. Vikki you will be ok because there are so many pluses in your life that I DO NOT HAVE and you do and trust me you are in a great place. Just continue to pray and believe in the positive and it will come toyou. I believe in you. Be blessed!

realmm
realmm

I have a csf leak w/spinal headaches also since feb 2005. ive had several blood patches but its a constant struggle to keep away the spinal headaches. Prayers go up for Brianna.

Candy Michelle
Candy Michelle

You are a strong woman!!! I have watched this show since the begining, and you are of of my favorites! I absoutley LOVE you and Tamera when they film just the 2 of yall!!! I laughed so hard when yall went to mexico!!!! you guys were your true selves in that epsoide....FUNNY!!!! without you 2 i wouldnt watch!!!! ROCK ON Vicky and Tamera!!!!!

kerry jerew
kerry jerew

i wish you nothing but future happiness. i hope all is well with Briana. you are one of the most strongest person that i know. you have wonderful friends and a good business. think of all the positive things in your life and not what you don't have. it's a hard situation to go through. hang in there !!

1 of the housewives of bucyrus, ohio

p.s. i don't know how you ladies wear those high heels.

sharonashere
sharonashere

May God Bless you and your daughter, give your strength, courage and hope. Best wishes to you in your future.

GinaGina1
GinaGina1

Love ya Vicki! Wishing good health and best wishes. Looking forward to season 7!!!!

FBI Viewer
FBI Viewer

Hi Vicki, first off, blessing to Brianna - I pray for her speedy recovery. Tell her that she reminds me of my own daughter who is also a nurse and get annoyed when I get into her business too, but a mom is a mom and we are just protected and love our girls. Vicki, you're my favorite OC housewife and I followed you since the beginning. Tamra is my other favorite too, I love her spunk and glad she got all uppy to Gina because that one is a trouble maker. I got your back girls, when each and every other OCHW was saying negative things throughout the seasons about you and Tamra I check them off my friend list. I am glad you and Tamra got through your difficulty because it is the other people that is jealousy of your friendship and try to put a wedge between your friendship. I think Peggy will be a great addition to you and Tamra's friendship triangle, then all three of you can watch each other's back - I'll call you gals the OC Angels! Vicki, stay strong and I am more happy this season about your decision to leave what's his name, because he was not a nice person to you. I don't see any wrong about caring about something that you have passion for, your business Coto Insurance! I wanted you to know that this season I thought you shown us a spiritual side of you that have brought many viewer closer to you. I know that God is walking with you through this journey and when you need to be carried he will lift you up and comfort you with his everlasting love. Remember to be true to yourself, and continue with your faith. Blessing for Brianna's recovery and prayers for you to have a loving life.

Your number one fan in Hawaii - Momi

RudyM
RudyM

Vicky,

Keep you chin up! You are a wonderful lady...as far as I am concerned you are the only "real" housewife of OC. I will pray for you and wish you nothing but the best. You are a survivor....remember that!

another OC housewife
another OC housewife

I pray for you and your family during this time. Good Luck with everything!

smedly151
smedly151

Vicki, I don't read anything into what I see on your show and I do not judge. You are an inspiring work work-workaholic but I have taken this as an insightful message. My family and spouse have to come first. Once a had a nice income I wanted more and I worked a lot of overtime. Thanks to you, I have backed off. My husband and children are happier. We do not have as much but I am loving family game night. Gretchens remarks don't come from a healthy place. Everyone, even the comments under the video that I reviewed stated Tamora over-reacted and was distractive. Well, I don't see that as being true. She couldn't have done anything to help you at the time, so she stayed to support Alexis. Gretchen watches for flaws and pulls the rest of the girls into it. Alexis wasn't negative until she listened to Gretchen. She is constantly stating the "Bitches" are here when you two arrive. Don't get sucked in and bite back. You are a respectable lady. Praying ofr you and your family. Everything will be Ok Briana!!

Norma
Norma

I like vicki & I hope she stays but all she did was work for long hours of the day so she was rarely home with her husband & she stated that its been years with no sex & that he hasn't been romantic with her so what does she expect, its no surprise that her marriage is sadly ending.

bizzygrl
bizzygrl

Vicky, You are the most respected housewife of them all. I will pray for you and your daughter. I feel life has wonderful things in store for you. Just by watching you, I feel as though you are a friend to many.

Lois Nevada
Lois Nevada

Vicki I surely will pray for Briana and you. Have faith, I am sure she will come out of this fine. She is a great young lady. You should be proud of her and your son. I was horrified by Gretchen and Alexis. Gretchen thinks this way, because that is the type of person she really is. Alexis uses her religion when it is convenient. She should be ashamed of herself too. The way she acted at Peggy's dinner, then dare say someone messed up her fashion show? Incredible cruelty. Hang in there Vicki. You have many people who see the truth.

Bobbie61
Bobbie61

Vicki, I guess my favorite on the show. You seem to have it all. Good husband nice family. I sure hope our daughter does get better and you as well I send prayers to your family. I hope that what ever issues you and Don have can be worked out you are a good looking couple together and more grounded than others. I commend you on your hard work I think its great but don't let it take your family away cause in the end its family that counts. God Bless.

Sonia Johnson
Sonia Johnson

Vicki-Your daughter and family are in my prayers...I hope Briana gets well soon!

Southern Lady
Southern Lady

I hope both you and Briana are feeling better! I get the impression you have a spiritual side - perhaps you need to slow down, reflect and get your soul in order. You are a successful businesswoman but your relationships are a mess. Surround yourself with positive, successful and spiritual people, not insecure, immature, phony individuals who do not truly share your values. I had so hoped that tender and tearful renewal of wedding vows had been sincere. God bless!

Palermo Girl
Palermo Girl

Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

dr mac
dr mac

Vicki~ I will keep both you and Brianna in my prayers. I had the same issue as Brianna and although the first blood patch didn't work, the second one did. As a Metaphysician, everyday I see the physical affects that our beliefs have on our biology. This is not speculation, but scientifically based with data to support it. I hope that you and your family can peacefully come to some type of resolution, not only for your emotional health but for your physical health as well.

Reneeluvswine
Reneeluvswine

Vicki, I see in your eyes that you are in need of love. Who doesn't need love and affection. Like you, I'm a perfectionist, and critical. What I had to come to terms with, and still need to remind myself regularly, is that to be loved, you need to be Love-able. No man will want to kiss and hug you after you emasculate them daily. Not that Don is perfect, I'm sure he has his issues as well. But for your future happiness, just keep that mind. Be you, but show your man your sweet, sexy, and fun side too. Sending positive thoughts to you and Brianna.

Crystal(Orange,TX)
Crystal(Orange,TX)

Vicki:

I have been watching The Real Housewives since the start and I have enjoyed watching how you and Tamara are so real with everyone and every situation that has been thrown at ya'll. My heart goes out to your family and I will keep your daughter in my prayers, and I am so glad that you are doing better. I agree Gretchen was way out of line with her comments towards you. I honestly believe that she has some insecurity problems and that is why she lashes out at you. I think that you are an amazing and strong woman and hope nothing but the best for you and your family.

lauraluvslife
lauraluvslife

Vicki, You are TRULY A CLASS ACT. I will keep your daughter and yourself in my heart and prayers. Get well soon and always know that God will NEVER give you anything that you can not handle. *Peace & Love*

Sheila Hawk
Sheila Hawk

I will pray for your daughter. I hope everything is okay and gets better. I agree that Gretchen shouldn't have said that but she did say on WWHL that she came to the hospital to visit you and she apoligized. All you ladies need to have compassion with each other. It is time to kiss and makeup because life is to short. You also need to not work so hard. I realize you have bills and need to make money but you could slow down a little and be just fine. I hope you have a peaceful trip to Louisiana. Take care.

cori909
cori909

hey my prayer gose out to you like a song writer once said "i look up to the hill aand i want turn back i will go i shall go to see what the ens ganna be" keep tha in mind hon

connie2769
connie2769

Vicki, I have watched your show since the beginning. While i am not a big fan of yours, I respect you as a woman who has created who own empire by herself, fantastic job. I have been waiting and waiting for Gretchen to do her blog and even try to explain here behavior towards you at the fashion show. Gretchen was soooo in the wrong to accuse you of faking being in the hospital, it made her come off very very catty. I truly hope that you and your daughter are on the road to recovery. I think that Gretchen not responding is chicken of her, cuz she does owe you a huge apology. Good luck in your business

Alex67877
Alex67877

I have to say that at first you weren't my favorite on the show but the recent seasons have your strength. Keep your head up and away from those CATS.

Alex67
Alex67

I have to say that at first you weren't my favorite on the show but the recent seasons have your strength. Keep your head up and away from those CATS.

cheygrl
cheygrl

Vicki, my prayers are going out to Briana, you and your family for full healing and happiness. When watching the episode where you told Tamra that you felt like you and Don lived like roommates, I cried. I can totally relate. I've been in living in the same situation for years. Now, my 2 daughters are in college and I've got to decide what to do with this situation. Thank you for sharing that because some of us don't want to feel so alone in this issue. Keep your chin up! You'll come out on top. And keep us updated on Briana. I know it's awful to have your child sick and in the hospital. Take care.

carolyn cherry
carolyn cherry

Sorry to hear about Brianna, Vicki you said horrible things about Gretchen and her boyfriend and he was terminally ill. You know life is funny that way, it could always be you or yours fighting the same or similar health battles. You've had something bad to say about everyone at one time or another and never really owned it. Sometimes we are tested and made to remember that you're not in control, only God is. Treat people like you want to be treated. You really need to stop with the mean spirited comments because life is truly to short for your nonsense. Good luck to you and Brianna.

Laura W
Laura W

I am so very sorry for all your troubles and yours and your daughters health issues. You will be in my prayers. Please take time to relax and heal, both physically and mentally. There are many of us out there pulling for you! I know you're not a big country fan, but there is a great line from a country song that makes me think of you-"If your going through hell, keep on going"!! You WILL reach the other side and find your peace! God Bless!

esther194
esther194

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS BLOGGER: "Your prayers for a better marriage seem odd. When you and Donn renewed your vows in the Turks, how did that fail? IN most scenes with Donn, he is talking to you and YOU ignore HIM. Maybe, you could pray for better listening ears and answer him when he asks a question. Communication is the key to any relationship. Since you have no difficulty telling Tamra or any other hpw what you require, then there should no problem with your husband. . ." telling your husband what you want.

kh217
kh217

i wish you all the best. you and donn are way off track and i hope you can get it all back together. my husband and i are in a similar situation except we dont talk about it. i know we need to, but i suppose i am afraid to bring it up and get it out in the open. brianna is adorable and i wish her the best as well.

bookwrmmom
bookwrmmom

Vicki, my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. It is always difficult to see your children in pain and suffering no matter how old they are. We are mom's and we want to fix it, and sometimes we just can't. I must say I was appalled by Gretchen's comments when you were not able to attend the dress show. In the past I thought Gretchen was being unfairly treated by Tamra, but this time Gretchen was DEAD WRONG. I was also not pleased that Alexis didn't show a little more compassion herself since she recently made a scene at Peggy's dinner party. Alexis says she is a christian woman, but I see very little proof in that on the show. It seems to me that she says all the right things, but when it comes to actions she does not deliver. I hope that yours and Brianna's medical issues are healed and that you can go through some time with health, peace and happiness. You are a hard-working lady, and you deserve happiness in all areas of your life!

062508ily
062508ily

I was completely shocked at Gretchen's behavior this last episode. Her remarks were not only rude but hurtful. Not to mention the way Alexis though it was rude when Tamra left the room to talk to you, she shouldn't comment about how people act at her event when she caused an uncalled for scene when her husband refused to attend Peggy's dinner party.

Love you, you and Tamara are my favorites, and i hope all goes well. You are truly one strong woman! xoxo

alicia
alicia

Hi Vikki, Just want to say my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Stay strong....I know you will. Thanks for sharing. I hate to bring up Gretchen but when I pray for you, I will most certainly pray for her as well. Don't you think that someone who can be so mean and think such awful things needs some prayers? I do. Anyways, we're not big country music fans but I do live in Baton Rouge and I would have loved to go to BCSF just to see you there!! ;) It was so hot this weekend in LA, I hope you stayed nice and cool Have a blessed day!

Sympathetic Fan
Sympathetic Fan

Dear Vicki,

My prayers are definitely with you and your daughter during these trying and scary times. I have been dealing with complex migraines since I suffered a concussion as a four year old. These migrained cause me to lose feeling in my body, prevent me from speaking what I am thinking, and are incredibly painful. I have learned to deal with them, but sometimes I just wish I could be normal. In recent years my mother has battled health issues as well. It seems as if one of us is always worried about the other. I hope that the two of you can overcome these health issues to be healthy once again and make some time for Vegas and some fun!

I often feel like you are grossly missunderstood. You have a great heart, and do your best to take care of your family. Some may see you as obsessed with work, but what a great attitude you have towards supporting your family. You have obviously worked very hard to give your children great things. They grew up in a beautiful house with wonderful amenities, they were raised in a healthy environment, in a great area where they could flourish. These are things that require a great deal of money, so it saddens me to hear people mocking you for working hard. Where do they think posessions come from? Especially in this economy, it is so important to work hard. What a wonderful thing it is to be able to do something that earns you enough money to support your families lifestyle, and brings you such personal enjoyment as well. I am so happy for you, and hope that I am the same way some day! People who say negative things about your attitude are lazy or jealous.

You could have taken this opportunity to bash Gretchen for being such an obviously vindictive bitch, but instead you expressed your saddness, and still refrained from judging her relationship with Slade. You are a wonderful person, and I wish you and your family all the best.

Charla Ray
Charla Ray

Dear Vicki, Hope your daughter is doing well and our prayers are with you all, love you on the show .