Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki explains the situation with Donn and how she is moving forward.

on Jun 12, 20110

Well here we are at the close of Season 6, and I feel very sad. Sad about how my life has unfolded this year and sad about any conflict that I had with any of my cast members this season.

For those of you that have supported me on my decision to file for divorce, thank you. For those of you that have a negative opinion about me regarding that decision, all I want to say is I’m sorry. My decision to divorce has been a long time coming. People who want to accuse me of working too much and think that is why my marriage suffered do not know the whole story, nor will you ever. Although my career and my company Coto Insurance & Financial Services is very important to me, it is not more important than my family.

I had no idea until we were sitting on the couch with Andy that they had previously met with Donn and interviewed him. It was so hard for me to see him talking about his pain, because the last thing I ever wanted to do was hurt him. The reality is Donn knew that I was filing for divorce as I told him the week before. I told him and had given him a letter explaining to him that I think it was time to part ways, that the marriage was too far gone, and that I wanted to maintain a respectful separation. Donn was surprised at the fact that I had to actually serve him with a processor the week later. My attorney had told me if I did not serve him, he could have gotten into our joint bank accounts and moved money around without my knowledge. Serving Donn locked up the accounts, which guaranteed me that could not happen.

What the viewers didn’t know is I never wanted this to be played out on this series. I kept my decision very quiet for months and didn’t want any of this to be filmed. Unfortunately, my production company knew something was going on with us, and set up a meeting with me at my office to discuss what they had seen all season long on tape. I told them everything was fine and that we were just going through a rough patch. I’m not a very good liar, and I broke down crying saying I didn’t think we were going to make it. From there I spiraled down and told Tamra at dinner while we were filming.

368 comments
Mrsgeary05
Mrsgeary05

Vicki u r amazing! U deserve happiness! U should not allow ur daughter to talk to u that way, u r the parent no matter how old she is!!! She needs to understand she is an adult and she needs to let u live your life! If we lived our lives for our kids we would b lonely forever! U should put your foot down and don't allow her to disrespect u and Brooke's that way! Tamra is jealous of u and that u have a man who has more game and is more manly than her man! Her man seems too fruity to me... Lol... Keep doing what u r doing girl! U r great!

bellaxxx
bellaxxx

Vicky, you and Tamara are my favs! i love you guys! youve been through so much over the past few seasons and i just wanted to say you look really happy this season and im happy for you! Dont pay any mind to all the haters..keep doing your thing! God bless you and your family! Love- Nickki, toronto,Canada.

not sayin
not sayin

HEY LADIES, JUST WATCHED THE 2011 REUNION. WOW... YOU ALL ARE SUCH MEAN WOMEN!! IT'S SO EMBARRASSING.

ShawnaSteuterman
ShawnaSteuterman

Hello Vicki, I just love the granite you have in your kitchen. Would you share the name with me? It looks like giallo ornamental. Kindly, Shawna Steuterman

HoustonTracy
HoustonTracy

You are such a beautiful woman... Please don't alter your face! They way God made you is so much prettier than puffy plastic skin that doesn't move. :(

Amber C.
Amber C.

Vicki,

You have what you helped create. You are constantly seeking praise, approval and attention from everyone, but NEVER return it. You are a complete narcissist. Your house was empty because everyone got sick of waiting around for you, your husband was cold and mean because you were never nice to him, or appreciative. What you have now is the clear result of the life you led. Plain and simple.

Dvrcd too!!
Dvrcd too!!

God Bless you Vikki!! There are two sides to every story. Its funny when those closest to you sees problems in the marriage, think otherwise when you decide to divorce. I hope your life is filled with happiness. Be careful of the vultures!!!!

mr. chris
mr. chris

Hi, Vic I watch the show every now and then. And I must say that you are my fav. There is Something sexy about a hard working woman. A real go getter I hope all is well. Go get'em boo.

More Than a WV Housewife
More Than a WV Housewife

Vicki, thank you for sharing such personal information, but if I may say? You should not have to explain the situation between you and Donn with anyone except your children. As is with any emotional situation, there are two sides. As is with any emotional situation that involves more than two people, there are several sides. Whatever viewers speculate or suspect is irrelevant to the truth, which is somewhere in the middle of all sides involved. Divorce is one of the most challenging events a couple goes through, usually because they're doing it 'together' separately. My heart goes out to both you and Donn, and especially the kids. You will all come through the 'other side' and face new challenges and opportunities, and above all each of you deserve to find happiness and love. Best wishes to you Vicki and family!

valentine97034
valentine97034

you are awesome!

you have shown how to succeed through hard work and perseverance. please be a bit nicer to donn and not ignore him. you are such a strong influence, please open the communication channels. unless there are no more ... that would be sad after all you two have had but perhaps a reality nonetheless.

you go girl!

Catherine Munsil
Catherine Munsil

Dear Vicki, I was sorry to hear about ur marriage fallin apart after u had redone ur vows, but now is ur time to shine!! I love that u and Tamra are friends again!!! U are a very beautiful and strong woman who does not need the drama of those other woman, u need to do u now and not waste ur time with those who envy u and want to cause that drama in ur life. U and Tamra and ur families have wonderful livies that people envy and they will try to upset u and hurt u, but just hold ur head up high and try ur back on those who try. I hope that u can work through everything and stand up with Tamra to those who try to tear u down and become stronger because of it. I hope and pray u find the Love that u are looking for in a great man who can handle and worship u like u should be

Lu Lu
Lu Lu

Vicki, I wouldn't profess to even begin to know you as TV shows can be very manipulative, however from what I have seen you have a lot of issues you need to deal with. You come across as jealous, nasty and spiteful. You seem to have a need to put others down in order to make yourself look and feel better, but I'm sure deep down it just doesn't work. At the end of the day you have to live with your conscience if you have one? You always appear very surprised when someone retaliates towards you and you never seem to think you are wrong, it is always the other person. With regard to the relentless working I'm sorry but I don't believe it, nobody needs to work the hours you portray that you work either it is all a show to create an image for yourself that you think will impress others or you are just not very good at time management and delegation as any good business person should be? Deep down I think you are a very insecure, needy person which is very sad for you. You could learn a lot from your beautiful daughter Briana, she is intelligent, generous, kind and compassionate, don't ever worry about that girl with a beautiful nature like that she will always do well. Vicki, I don’t mean to judge you I don’t know you and my comments are not aimed to hurt you, rather to make you stop and think, nobody if perfect me included but I try to be a good person. Just remember “It is nice to be important but it is far more important to be nice!” Try it sometime I’m sure it will make you feel better about yourself? I wish you the best of luck with your life and I hope one day you can be contented with your lot! Best Wishes Charlotte

Kasee56
Kasee56

I never really cared for you thought you were a cold fish, but I do respect the fact that you owned up to your behavior in reference to your treatment of Don. Hopefully you learned from this experience and you will be a true partner in any future relationship.

Julie Ann Jeppesen Beltran
Julie Ann Jeppesen Beltran

Hi Vicki, I'm not sure if you actually read these or not, and I apologize that I'm only an occasional viewer. However, I was watching a marathon last weekend and I noticed that you were talking about your "love tank." I just want to tell you how wonderful I think it is that you are so introspective. No one is a perfect person and I think it's great that you're open to improve yourself. I am continually attempting to improve myself as a person, and I loved the Five Love Languages by Chapman. My husband and I adopted a baby a little over a year ago, and I wanted to be the best mother that I can so I started reading a new book that I would highly recommend... Real Love in Parenting - by Greg Baer - I read Real Love previously which is all about how you can have unconditional love in your relationships. Real Love in Parenting is all about how you can raise your children while showing them unconditional love. I know your kids are grown, but Real Love might be something you could check into - it has some really great thoughts in it about anger and frustration might be something that can help you on your journey looking for a peaceful life. One of the greatest things in these books is the acknowledgement that you need people - friends and relatives - who give YOU unconditional love. Who accept you as you are with all your faults - it's the only way you can start showing unconditional love to others. If you find yourself in a situation and need someone to talk to who can provide that acceptance without fear of judgment and don't think you know any, please feel free to contact me. I'm just a normal person - I'm not rich or famous - and I'm not looking for anything - just a legal secretary from Hudson, Wisconsin. Anyway, that's all I wanted to say. I wish you the best of luck in your search for peace.

Bokica
Bokica

Hey Vicki I really respect you because you are a business woman, good mother, wonderful friend and you are not talking behind anyone's back, also your daughter is beautiful, young and smart woman. I am sorry that you are getting divorce but sometimes is better to separate than stay in a marriage and try to fix what is already broken. I wish you all the luck in your life.

Justine
Justine

Dear Vickie, As much as I hate to say this, I wasnt able to watch much of this season. I am so sorry to hear of the break up of your marriage. I am sure it wasnt an easy decision for you to make. Also, it is impossible for a divorce to happen and someone not be the bully and the victim. All I can say is that I hope that you and Donn can find the light at the end of the tunnel and move forward. I wish you both the best of luck. I would also like to say that I hope you are feeling better. I could tell at the reunion that you were not well. During the off season, I hope you can get the rest you need so when you return you will feel better. Much luck in everything

patricepower
patricepower

hi vikki I am from Brisbane, Australia and i just want to say me and my daughter love watching you. you say whats on your mind and the expressions that you pull with your face are hilarious ( in a good way ) lol. But i got to say that you have a wonderful husband and there arent alot of men out there like him.Anyway peace out from AUSTRALIA :)

takomaha
takomaha

Hi Vicki: Love the pink dress you are wearing in the season 6 picture and on this website for your blog. Can you tell me who makes the dress and where it can be found and purchased? Stay strong, hang in there. You are a smart beautiful woman, you wil figure it out. Hang in there, put that good karma out there and sometime it will come back to you. You deserve someone who adores you, he is out there, don't settle, be patient.

J. Lee Dillon
J. Lee Dillon

Hi Vicki Im a viewer from Australia and I love the show, Im sorry to hear that your marriage has not worked out, sad for your whole family divorce is not nice for anyone. You seem so strong, and I have always enjoyed you on the show. I just like to say though that this season you seem to be trying very hard to come across as this extremly strong working woman, and its great that you are, but please stop shoving it down everyone's throat every five minutes. Seriously its a great personal achievment, but it does not make you queen almighty and that is how you are coming across, what the hell happened to your compassion, where the hell is your respect for others? I do wish you all the best for the future, but if you belittle people dont expect kindness or common manners in return. PS Leave the shallow shelfish behaviour to Tamra, she seems to have that sown up.

kirstymarie
kirstymarie

Hi Vicki, I was gutted to hear that you and Donn were separating, was not expecting that, hes seems such a nice guy. Hope youre both okay. Would just like to say that when I first started watchin the show I thought you were brilliant and agreed with almost everything that you said. But when Tamra joined the show I was really dissapointed at how much you changed towards the other housewives, especialy Jeana. I saw a different side to you that was not nice, I hope you realise how horrible Tamra comes accross to other people and maybe you should distance yourself from someone like her. Go back to the old fun loving Vicki we all love. Wishing you all the happiness WOOOHOOO!

Mel Hill
Mel Hill

Season 6 was brilliant, when does it start again ?

gmalala
gmalala

Hi Vicki!

Real Housewives of OC, is my all time fav! I love Orange County...have many memories of visiting my family there!

Hope all is well with you and your family, I know you've had a tough year. But you're a strong woman and a positive influence on many. Stay strong, keep the faith and always be true to your faith and yourself.

Quick Question for ya! Where did you purchase your "Caliente" plaque? I love love it! Take care...and can't wait for next season...just wish it was sooner than later!

gmalala
gmalala

Hi Vicki!

Real Housewives of OC, is my all time fav! I love Orange County...have many memories of visiting my family there!

Hope all is well with you and your family, I know you've had a tough year. But you're a strong woman and a positive influence on many. Stay strong, keep the faith and always be true to your faith and yourself.

Quick Question for ya! Where did you purchase your "Caliente" plaque? I love love it! Take care...and can't wait for next season...just wish it was sooner than later!

JillyBeaners27
JillyBeaners27

Vicky, You are my absolute FAVORITE HOUSEWIFE. I watch Atlanta, NYC, & Orange County. I don't know what it is about you. You are so honest. You are abso-freakin-lutely hilarious. I love watching you, & your relationship w/your daughter Brianna is inspirational. It broke my heart to hear you say at the reunion that you two have been struggling since you have filed for divorce w/Donn. :( I know that things will work out. You have grown alot over the past 6 years. I dread the day the show ends. I really enjoy watching you, you definately make me laugh, & give me inspiration as a woman. Especially to be independent! Woo-Hoo! :)

Blakey
Blakey

Hi vicki i love rhooc and you are my favourite housewife outta all of them and i think the decistion over devorce was right it was clear you and donn wasnt happy

Kathie,London, GB
Kathie,London, GB

Vicki, Donn seemed like such a nice caring man. I am sorry that you felt you were at a different point in your lives and could not work things out. I think you handle your staff better than you did your marriage. I do like you and Briana is a brilliant young lady. I urge you to reconsider your attachment to Tamra. She is not trustworthy and deep down inside you know this to be true. I hope someway down the road you also consider a reunion with Jeana, your energy when you were around her was so much more positive and although you said she had become toxic to your life I think you will find that Tamra really is. Good Luck for your future, time to clean house.

Gemma.Glasgow.Scotland
Gemma.Glasgow.Scotland

Hey Vicki

I would just like to say that i am sorry about your marrage but i do feel that what we get to see from the show you did not respect your husband the way he should have been treated less time at work and with your girlfriends and more time with him may have made a change to your situation. You have changed soo much and i notice this more as you spend more time with Tamra shes trouble i dont understand how you cannot see this??? You watched her treat jeana in such a vile way and have stood by her???? are you crazy!!!! you have lost a good friend in jeana i think u should look at how tamra gets in peoples buisness but when done to her she doesnt like it so reacts by violence????? VERY WRONG

Sammy UK Viewer
Sammy UK Viewer

Vicky, I am a UK viewer and am completely hooked on the show, Keep your head up, seperation is always hard, i am so proud of you for having the courage to go get out when things aren't working.

Please ignore any negative comments from the other women, they are just jealous of your status, I would be truely honoured to have a friend like you, i am really looking forward to the next show, take care and will be watching closely as you bloom into a confident single business woman :) x

Emma, Arbroath, Scotland
Emma, Arbroath, Scotland

Hi Vicki, I think the way you've handled the whole Donn situation is admirable. It shows women out there who are going through the same thing that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Keep the chin up and just keep doing what you're doing! You're an inspiration to every mum out there who wants a better life for themselves and their kids. Let me hear a WOOHOOOOO!!!!

ell wood
ell wood

Hi Vicki, you don't have to justify ending your marriage to anyone, there are two people in a marriage and it's not just on you. No-one knows what goes on behind closed doors or off camera and as long as you know in your heart you have made the right decision then that is all that matters, you can't stay in a loveless marriage for everyone elses benefit. Don seemed a nice enough man and didn't seen like he mistreated you but he didn't openly show affection either, we all need a hug! Once again, the show was fab, it's just ended on UK tv so I am gutted and can't wait for the next season. You and Tamra obviously have fun and she is probably a great distraction when things are crazy around you. Live Laugh Love. We're only on this planet for a short time so be happy and true to yourselves and don't worry about the Gretchen's and Alexis's of this world, they are shallow and superficial and about as interesting as watching paint dry. Whooo Hooooo! x

lisajones
lisajones

hi vicky u hav to live ur own life and own the wrongs and rights u hav done i hope you find happiness and stress free hun hope to see u on another series because u are funny take care hun and keep smiling :)

SomeBritishKid
SomeBritishKid

I really thought Donn was right for you, but sometimes people get caught up in whats happening around them and well.... Oh and I really think you should take time to watch season six and re-think your relationship with Tamra, she isn't a good influence, even I can see that and I'm only a teenager. Look at her fight with Jeana, it doesn't put her in good light now does it.

Sometimes kids see more than adults, but adults just don't listen.

Caroline Ross
Caroline Ross

Hi, I've just watched the latest episode in the UK, (end of series one!), and I am feeling so angry at how your family have not supported you throughout your time starting a new business. This can take a really long time and you need to have the support of your family and friends! At the end of the day, they will all benefit from it in one way or another!! They should admire your aspirations and do anything they can to help you.

Lou uk
Lou uk

Hi Vicky

I've been watching the show from the uk and I think you and Tamra are fantastic!

You are such a beautiful person and have had a tough time this past year, but I hope you will find the love and happiness you deserve. You are amazing!!!

Chin up girl!

ClaireCoops
ClaireCoops

Hi Vicky

I am a UK viewer and i would just like to say that i am hooked on the show. I think you are a fab role model and far more "real" than others on the show. I hope you are doing ok All the best Claire x

ClaireCoops
ClaireCoops

Hi Vicky

I live in the UK and have watched 2 seasons so far, i am hooked on the show ! I just wanted to say that i think you are a fab role model, and i love the relationship you have with Tamra, you are so funny together ! All the best Claire xx

AmiieLouise
AmiieLouise

i think your amazingggg... enough said really...

Angelalynne
Angelalynne

Hi great program, really enjoyed it.. I am from England so have just finished watching latest season. Hope you are well. x

Katie Anne Collis
Katie Anne Collis

Hey Vicki,

I'm glad to see that you're happy and now dating! Wohooo!!! I think its very unfair the way you were judged for filing for divorce? It was obvious how unhappy you BOTH were, not just you... When a relationship has ran its course, its ran its course and you shouldn't stick it out for the sake of everyone else's opinions? You're a great mom, a great business woman and a wonderful friend (no matter what some of the other housewives may say). You're a beautiful woman and you deserve the best!!! You're the most relate-able housewife on the show.. And a fabulous role model I might add!!!

I hope to see you on the next series!!! It wouldn't be the same with you xxx p.s. Your daughter has inspired me to go to university and become a hard working nurse like her self!!!

God bless xxxxxxxxx

alyson cadman
alyson cadman

Vicky, I just think that you are GREAT ! OMG you have been through so much, you are such a good, kind, respected and hard working REAL woman, and of course very beautiful. You are the the type of woman, that deserves EVERYTHING. I was so sad to see that you and Don have parted. That is one lovely man. You will heal in time my love. It was clear that the two of you were not happy, life has a shitty way of getting rid of happiness, money or no money. I wish you and your family all the best for the future xxxx

bodean
bodean

HI VICKI, HOPE THAT YOU ARE FINE AND IN GOOD HEALTH, SOME ADVICE "KEEP AWAY FROM ALEXIS & GRETCHEN" I WOULD NEVER TRUST THEM,THEY ARE NOT HEALTHY FOR YOU,

Cyria mcleod
Cyria mcleod

Hey vicki I watch the show all the time and I just want you to know your my favourite housewife. It's so sad to watch you feel the way you do as you deserve to be happy. You work very hard and that's what I like about you, you are realistic that's why your the only one who didn't have to down size. Anyway just do what you want stop living for everyone else if u want a divorce get one if not keep trying no matter what I'm behind you. U have every right to be loved in every way just whatever you do don't die unhappy that's also something god does not want. Anyway love your being vicki just be happy and be you hope u feel better and hope everything at the hospital was ok. All the best in the future and just be you an smile x

Kelly Jenkins from Hereford England
Kelly Jenkins from Hereford England

Hi Vicki, I watch the show all the time and cant wait for the reunion show to air over here as heard so much about it on here, I think its sad about u and Don but that's life and not everything is ment 2 be. Is there gonna be a season 7 ? (hope there is). All the best :) xxx

MsBih
MsBih

Hi Vicki, You and Jeanna are my fav OC Housewives. It breaks my heart that you are going through this divorce with Donn(especially after renewing your vows). I dont think you truelly healed after your first divorce, hence your work/career took centre stage. You need to sort it out(seek counsel/relationship coach) before moving on. You dont need a man to make you happy but you owe it to yourself and children. Hope you find PEACE!!

momdog
momdog

I would like to wish you the best of luck. It was very apparent that your marriage was in trouble 2 seasons ago. Don seems like a wonderful person. And yes I do believe your work and business contributed greatly to the demise of the marriage. You are a terriffic mother in every way your kids turned out great. You just needed to put as much effort in to your marriage as you did your professional life or so it seems. Good Luck and may you have continued success.

ms hall
ms hall

all i have to say is u made a big mistake letting don go u will never find a man like that again 4 a long time u were always my fav vic what happend to u i can t get over how u treated don iv been watching from day one six years now i wish thsh house wives would go by by now it sucks and i will not be watching again u are not geting any younger so......

JuneH
JuneH

Actually, I'd now like to take back what I posted before (at which time I'd only seen a clip of the final fracas, and had assumed that you had been trying hard with your marriage in the preceding episodes). How wrong I was ... :(

Every episode of this series so far, where you and Don are together on screen, you have clearly tried to put him in an awkward corner, mistakenly thinking that it makes you look good and him look bad. It doesn't. He is trying to communicate with you normall, while you ... well, to be frank, you look as if you can barely stop yourself from laughing. You are not a good actress "honey" (to coin a Tamra-ism). I see that this was on your agenda from square one in this series and if people can't see it then they've been watching too many daytime soaps.

Poor man. He didn't deserve such treatment. He deserves waaaay more than being publicly humiliated by you for the benefit of the cameras, and your own (obvious) plans to get rid of him. I hope he finds happiness in the future. HE deserves it ...

Barry-uk
Barry-uk

Spanking employees?!? Really??... I want to work for you!!

claude/england
claude/england

hi vicki, i'm from england and have just recently started watching desp house wives of OC and i'm loving the show! ( my daughter thinks i'm mad! lol) i'm so sorry to hear your sad news, i havent watched/caught up with the new series yet and was so shocked as i thought you and don were forever. I have recently gone through a divorce myself, and still having trouble with my ex ! watching you on the show has given me the courage to fight on for me and my children when i felt like giving up, You are such a strong independant woman , with good values and morals, which inspire women to pick themselves up when they have been totally beaten into the ground. I believe that what every decision you have made hasnt been made lightly and would be the right thing for you both. I hear some of the other D H sometimes saying you are not a nice person. Well sometimes the truth hurts and at least you have dignity and honesty , unlike some of the others. Good luck with your future, thank u for being you and inspriring me onto my new happy , exciting, worry free life ! and my new proffessional career that i am now working in , which will provide me and my children with such a brighter future!

take care ! and vitual hugs to you and your family!

rkmyersrus
rkmyersrus

Vicki. Sending happiness your way. I think you both had issues that caused this. I have learned to love you through your show and wish you all the happiness in the world!