Well here we are at the end of the season of The Real Housewives of Orange County. When I look back and reflect on this season, it brings me great sadness. Starting this season’s filming in August of 2010, I had no idea what would unfold in my personal life. I guess that’s why they call it reality TV.
I was so pleased with how my backyard turned out for the fall party. I had planned it a few months before and really couldn’t cancel it due to my personal issues, so I decided to go ahead with it anyway. I had no idea how difficult it was going to be for me when the day actually came without Donn being there. I had never hosted a party without Donn, and it made me very sad. When my makeup artist was trying to put my makeup on, it became almost comical, because every time she would get my eyes finished, I started crying again and she had to keep fixing it.
It was nice that the girls came up to the bathroom to rally me downstairs to see everyone. I don’t know if I could have gone down on my own without some nudging. Tamra definitely knows how emotional it is to go through a separation, and she’s been a great friend to me through all of this. Thank you, Tamra, I love you!
My brother Billy flew in from Chicago to support me and be there, which was a huge thing for me. The support of my family and close friends has been great, and any of you that are or have gone through a divorce knows how important it is.
You have a lot going for you so I am not worried. I hope you and Donn fall into a friendship if nothing else... It is a shame your party got ruined, and I tend to be Team Tamra, but not a good idea to bring cease and desist letter to a party.
I think you and Don could have worked harder on your marriage. I think those years you invested into that bond you created with him are not to be easily written off. You both made mistakes but marriage is supposed to be a job every day. You and Don are worth the fight. I believe in marriage just as you do and I think that almost any two people can be married to one another - if they are willing to put in work. From what we see on tv, Don hasn't been physically abusive, cheated on you, or mentally torn you down - you both should seek some marital therapy. As a marital therapist, I have faith in your marriage. Please reconsider.
So sorry you are going through the divorce with Don. You two are the cutest couple! I hope you can somehow stay friends to make it easier on you both. You never know the future and what God has for you both. You may not want to hear this but I would LOVE it if you were better friends with Gretchen & Alexis. I think Tamra keeps you from them both. I HATE it that Peggy has associated herself with you and Tamra. Peggy seems older than everyone else and tries too hard to get on a "side". You and Alexis both have God and are not ashamed to say it on T.V. I love you both for that! Stay strong sister!
Love Love Love you. I wish you all of the peace, happiness and love that you want to badly and that you deserve. Good luck with it all and thank you so much for sharing with us.
Wishing you much happiness, Vicki. You are blessed with so much, great kids, career, friends, brains and a good head on your shoulders. You are going to be just fine!
Vicki I wish you well as you go through this difficult time, you will have good days and some not so good days but in time it will get easier. I have to say I really did not enjoy this season and not sure if I will be watching next season there was so much negativity and hatred that it took away the enjoyment of watching. I don't know the whole story of Jeanna and Tamra but from watching Tamra this season I find it hard to believe that she is as innocent in the whole fiasco as she makes herself look. I was not a fan of hers this season she came acrosss very bitter and materialistic, not very nice qualities. Again I wish you love and happiness and a happy safe summer. I am also glad you are feeling better and it wasn't more serious.
Vicki, never let someone come to your house and disrespect it like Tamra did. I understand that is your friend but that could have been handled another way. You are too classy for that. It seems like you love Don and maybe you can work it out. I know Jeana is in Tamra's business but she stayed in Gretchen. I do not trust Tamra for you, she has not bee a good friend in the past. Someone told me that everyone has issues. If you leave Don, you just go to someone else with other issues. Everyone has flaws. Remember that. Take care Vicki and remember to listen to your heart. Praying for you.
I really like Jeana and I think she gets the raw end of the deal all the time. Her kids, her husband, and her friends just fail to appreciate her. It would seem that you, being the more mature woman, would stand up for her.
I am sorry to hear about your divorce however I have been watching this show since day 1 and since the beginning of time of this show it was obvious that you both were not happy. I feel you have to take some responsibility for this divorce unfortunately throughout these years of this show it has been noted that you were not very kind to Don and you must choose to change your OCD personality because it appears that it affects your relationships. You are at an age where you have to change or else you will always find yourself alone because it will be very hard to find a man who will be willing to put up with your anal ways. You are actually lucky that Don lasted so long. I like you but someone has to be honest with you.
Vicki, I don't know if this will get posted or not, but I felt a need to post it anyway. I am in a similar position as you. I am 48, with 5 sons (yes, 5), and am in a very unhappy marriage. I get so depressed sometimes it is hard to get out of bed every morning, yet I know I must because of my kids. I'm trying to get up the strength to file for divorce, but it is so hard. We have been married almost 12 years, and it's so hard to let go.
I hope I can muster the same purpose of mind you did so that I can move on with my life and be happy. I so want to be happy. It has been so long since I have been.
Good luck, and God Bless.
Vicki, I wish you and Donn all the happiness you deserve. I am sad that you two are going your separate ways. I thought that of all the housewives, you and Donn would last forever. Try to take time out for yourself and enjoy life. Stay away from Tamra, she is a bad influence and not a good influence on anyone's life. You are a classy lady and don't need someone who swears and is violent in your life. Brianna is a beautiful young woman, I would look to her for personal time and a friend to lean on when you are feeling down.
Good luck Vicki! I know you are loyal to Tamra but it is obvious that the situation was entirely her fault. It is ironic that Tamra basically assaulted Jeana. Be careful of Tamra...she is very selfish. It was your party and you were in a delicate position and she should have waited for a better time to serve Jeana. I don't think her actions reflected being a good friend.
It was heartbreaking to watch you and Don go through all of that this season. Out of all the housewives, you are by far my favorite. Although, you really aren't a housewife. You have a great job and you work your butt off to make sure your family has all they need. You're an amazing mother and both of your kids are great. I truly am sorry about your marriage, Don is a great guy (from what I've seen) and I liked him a lot, but if you guys aren't happy with the way life is going, fix it. That's what you did, and no matter how hard it was for you, you are very brave to do what you did, especially on National Television!!! I wish you all the best!
Sorry about your marriage. I really thought you and Don made a great couple. Good luck during this transtition period in your life.
I was so sad to hear about you and Donn, but I have every confidence in the world that everything will work out for the best for the both of you and your children.
I'm so sorry to hear about Brianna. As a nurse, anything involving CSF is unnerving, to say the least. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. You're the best, Vicki!!!
VICKI, I DON'T UNDERSTAND A LOT OF THINGS ABOUT THE END OF YOUR MARRIAGE, BUT AGAIN, THOSE ISSUES ARE BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. WE SEE SMALL GLIMPSES, NEVER THE WHOLE PICTURE. I THINK YOUR DAUGHTER HAS A HEART OF GOLD. SHE WANTS TO SPREAD HER WINGS-- BUT HOW SWEET SHE FEELS PROTECTIVE OF YOU AND WOULD CHANGE PLANS TO MAKE SURE YOU'RE NOT ALONE! SHE'S REALLY A CLASS ACT! AND, I THINK IT'S GREAT SHE STILL STAYS IN TOUCH WITH DONN. QUITE A GROWN UP FOR 24! TAKE CARE AND I HOPE THE HOSPITAL STAY WAS A KIND OF WAKE UP CALL LIKE YOU STATED. NOTHING IS WORTH THE HARM/RISK A GI BLEED CAN CAUSE!
Gretchen, I love you! I hope that you keep your head up always and forever! You are my very fav and I wish nothing but the best for you. Don't let the fake girls get to you. You are way better than that. Tamra, you are gorgeous, don't let someone like that bring you to degrade yourself. That Jeanna lady, is psycho. I'm surprised you didn't do more damage. She left crying like a little baby. She knows she is guilty of starting crap. FAKE FAKE FAKE!! I love you guys!
Vicki, I wish you the best. Please take care of yourself. Your health is the most important. I have always said that just before someone passes on, one of their last thoughts is never "I wish I spent more time at the office". I am sorry to see on tonights shows that one of the other housewives had to use your party to cause trouble. That wasn't right. You had enough on your plate without having to be put in a position to keep the peace. Also, you may end up with a reconciliation with Donn. Keep praying! Your daily devotionals will help you no matter what.
Vicki, this episode was very sad to watch for you. My heart broke for you. but do you think that your work attitude and not really wanting to go and have fun with your husband is what really broke your marriage?
Vickie...I am sorry about you and Donn. Hopefully this difficult period will pass quickly for your both.
My heart truly goes out to you. I hope you and Donn find happiness. You may not see it now, but it will come to you! Keep smiling!
I've been a faithful watcher from the start, and I feel like I'm just getting to understand you. I think part of your work ethic is never feeling good enough, and always feeling that you have to carry the family. I know you also love your work; I'd be lost without mine too. You said something on the finale that really hit me: "Donn doesn't love me enough to make a marriage work. He doesn't cherish me." I've been in an unhappy marriage for many years (what kind of man doesn't bring his wife flowers when she has a baby??) It hurts so much to look at other husbands who do cherish and protect their wives, and to want that for yourself. I believe you will find it; I really do.
Vicki - love you. You are a wonderful person and hard worker, but stay away from Tamra. You are so much better than she is. I don't even like watching her on the show anymore. Funny how everytime something happens, it's someone else's fault. That is until you "roll the tape" and you see that Tamra changed what really went on in her favor. Bravo to your daughter for being the voice of reason at the party. You are both very fortunate to have one another in your lives. Take care.
Please don't ever leave the show. If you do, we will be stuck with Gretchen and Alexis trying to run the show. We need a matriarch like you to keep the younger ladies under control...
I know what it is to go through a divorce privately; I can't imagine how hard it is on you to go through this in public. I wish you strength in this trying time; I also hope that you will get your privacy. You seem to be a strong woman, you know what you want and deserve and you will get everything you want and deserve (which is happiness). As a side note your daughter was exactly right all the women there had lost their damn minds and were acting like 20 year olds, but I do believe that your daughter had your back and it was a small blessing in disguise. I offered a different conversation topic and broke the tension of no one being allowed to talk about Donn and I think everyone wanted to offer their thoughts to you so this actually broke the tension. Good Luck in the future and it seems that you have family, friends, and fans that will always be there to support you.
Vicki...I wish you the best. Many choose to judge others but each of us are different and no one really knows unless they have walked in your shoes. I admire you for what you have accomplished in life and wish you great success. Unlike the others you have achieved what you have through hard work and not on the back of the show. It is obvious you care about Donn and truly wanted to make your marriage work. No one wants divorce and it is better to end than to get involved with another trying to cover your problems. You did it the right way. Just remember time is precious and you can never get it back.
Love you Vicki! You may some off the wall rude things but at least u stay real about it! Watch out for Tamara and Peggy...not sure they have the same real genuine soul u do!
A lot of times I thought you were rough on Don. This episode showed you really cared for him. So sorry for your pain.
Sorry to hear that Don and you are getting a divorce. I would recommend though that you do not take advice from Tamra; her actions have proven what type of person she really is... which was seen at your backyard party (when she approached Jeana in a very aggressive manner)! Tamra should not have served the legal documents at the party, she should have done that at another time and place, especially since Tamra was highly upset with Jeana. Tamra was dishonest as well to everyone about who started the scene (fight), which says a lot about her character. Although you made up with Tamra after last season, be careful and don't put all your trust in her.
I think you and Donn parting may be the best thing for you both. Clearly you all were existing in the marriage and could not find a common ground to make it work. The one issue I have was season after season he had your back, he stood up for you, and yet you were so crtitical of him. I am glad your children have decided not to take sides.
I think secretly Jeana wants to be back on the show full time. While she should have stayed clear of Tamara and Simon's affairs, Tamara is a drama queen. She likes to be in the spotlight. She could have very easily delivered that cease and decest order at another time. Instead she chose your party and that was to draw attention to herself. You should be furious with her for the way she acted.
dear vicky listen girl i have been where you are and to let you know that there are lots of people who support you no matter what you do. just keep on believeing in the Lord keep praying and looking to the Lord for your answers. i will pray for you.......have a blessed day.
Thank you for allowing us a small glimpse into your world. You are not alone, and that is the great thing i hope you might find thru this television experience. Life is messy; it's complicated, and it can also be exciting and beautiful. We are given one life...live and be happy. I pray this for both you and Don. It took me a long time to find a true partner, and I have to say, the wait was worth it. Marriage isn't about perfection...it's about finding that someone you can weather the storms with, that someone you WANT to grow old with, to be with, to love...as cliche as it may sound, the one that "completes you". I wish and pray for you the absolute best. Love is out there, and you will find it. You and Don both DESERVE to be happy, and being together, as a couple, just wasn't it. I think that you will find a better friend in Don. The kids love him, and that is more than wonderful. Good luck and God Bless you Vicki.
What a season! So very sorry about the divorce. People do not reailize that you can be so very lonley even tho married...I found that one out the hard way. Chin up. I know you will find love again..just don't look for it..that way it comes faster..when u least expect it.
I admire your drive, potential and ambition for work, but If you want to find true love and happiness, your going to have to cut back on some of your travels and your hectic work schedule.
Oh Vicky....My heart breaks for you & Donn. Your a complicated/beautiful ball of energy & Donn is a great/fun guy. I'm not sure the person that you want actually exists. Hang tough.
When you are down in San Diego area, we would love to have you come to our church, Horizon North County with Pastor Bob Botsford in Rancho Santa Fe. God Bless you-Joy
Sorry about your seperation from your husband. Tamra seems to set herself up so she is the only one saying things--her side only. Simon isn't legally allowed to say anything but she is. There are children involved it would be best if no one said anything. When she says things about Gretchen it is usually when Gretchen isn't around, after she has walked away. In the reunion previews she does this with Slade, walks to stairwell and then accuses him of things. At your party you knew in advance about the cease and desist letter, which is another example of only her side being told. Jeana was your friend at one time and is your neighbor, why would you do this knowing that she would feel set up? Tamra came up to Jeana and shouted at her and misled you about the what happened, how do you feel about this? Being able to trust a friend is very important, how do you keep trusting Tamra when she seems to mislead you alot in what happened?
Vicki, Your pain was so obvious on this show. I pray for peace for you and hope you go on to rebuild your life carefully so you achieve the outcome that you desire. Your party was so beautiful, breath- taking. One could see the thought and planning that you put into it. I hope things turn out the way you want and you find comfort with your children and family. All the best....
Sorry you are going through such a rough time. But why do you always support Tamara when she is the one causing all the drama? I hear you have a new boyfriend, so I hope you are happy and things are better for you.
Just wanted to tell you to hang in there, you will find someone that is right for you. I never thought I would after my divorce, but I did and he's wonderful and we have a great life together. I wish the same for you. Don't worry you will be woo hooing in no time!
All the best to you,
You have started to grow on me. I think you're a good mother and try to be a good person. I do think Don seems like a great guy and its too bad you couldn't work things out, I think you're going to find that great guys are not a dime a dozen out there and maybe the grass always looks greener. One thing I really don't understand is your friendship with Tamra. She did the exact same thing to Gretchen that Jeanna is doing to her and yet you defend her. I don't think I can watch the show anymore because of Tamra. She is very low class and tends to drag anyone she's around down with her. My parents always taught me and I have found it to be true that you are going to be judged by the company you keep. I refuse to give someone like her anymore validation by tuning into to watch. Good luck with everything.