This weekend I celebrated Briana’s 24th birthday in Las Vegas with her friends Danielle, Jessica, John Santos (aka: Pocket Panda), David Culver (my employee), and myself. We stayed at the new Vdara hotel which was fabulous. I loved it because it is a casino free hotel which made it so easy to get in and out of, and you don't have all the loud noise to deal with in the lobby. It was my 49th birthday last weekend, so next year we will be celebrating a quarter of a century and a half of a century as we will be 25 and 50. We are planning a cruise with all of our friends and family, which will be so much fun. Friday night we went to "The Bank" at Bellagio and seeing Briana up on stage dancing and singing made me so happy. It's so much fun going out with her and her friends, as she has such a positive attitude and is so much fun to be around.
This week's episode you see my family and I spend the afternoon on a Duffy boat in Newport Beach. It's a great way to spend time with one another without costing a lot of money, and it is only twenty minutes from our house. I left work around 4pm and met everyone at the Duffy Boat rental place around 4:30. I had it all planned out the night before and brought wine, cheese, appetizers, and beer which makes for a fun afternoon. When I watched the episode, it made me realize how hard it is for me to really relax and break away from my office and how I need to really try and work on more of a balance in my life. When I said I didn't want to go out with them after we were finished with the boat, it was because I had not finished all of my work for the day and it's important for me to complete all my emails/voicemails and client files at the end of each day so when I return in the morning I can always start with a fresh clean desk. My quiet time at night is the best time for me to brainstorm and work on projects and goals because I am uninterrupted. I ended up going to dinner with the family, which was the right thing to do, and stopped by my office on the way home to do my unfinished work. Everyone was happy (including me) at that decision.
You heard me talk to the kids about their drinking, but it's one of my worries. Whenever I see Mike and Briana drink, it makes me very nervous. Their biological father is an alcoholic, and so is his father (their grandfather). I worry a lot about either one of my kids having any type of dependency on alcohol as I have seen the destruction it causes in families including my own first marriage. They have never ever given me a reason to be worried about them, it's really a fear that I have in my own mind. I guess that's what a mother's role is…to always to try and protect them, no matter how old they are.
In the office I rewarded one of my new employees, Mitch, for writing his first life insurance application with a $20 bill. Also Mike was the top salesman of the week and was awarded $100. I'm so proud of Mike, as he has consistently been doing great at work, and he loves the insurance business. He has three of his friends working at Coto Insurance (www.cotoinsurance.com) which shows me that he is proud of the career path he has chosen for himself. Our company specializes in internet life insurance selling, and we are a broker to all the major insurance companies. This guarantees the client that they are receiving the lowest rate available. We even have a product now that insures up to $1M without even a physical.
Insurance selling has provided me a consistent income stream and freedom to call my own hours while never setting an income limit on what I can earn. I think Mike has realized that working in this industry will allow him a great opportunity and a great lifestyle for himself and his family one day. If you are interested in seeing if this career might be a good fit for you, visit my website for more information.
BRAVO...LOL.....But no really YOU SAID IT RIGHT ON COUNTESS... Vicky take notes & YOU MAY FIND HAPPINESS!!!
Hi Vicky, Well if you do decide to visit Spain look me up!I'm still watching series 5 here at the moment 1st time visiting the blog though? I'm so glad to see that you & Tamra are still friends & that your business is still going strong in the current climate.Absolutley love the show but your the only original housewife left keep up the good work Love your ethics Angela (Spain)
For the first time EVER, I felt sorry for you on this episode! I noticed how uncomfortable you are........with YOURSELF. When you were on that boat, I thought you looked absolutely miserable. It dawned on me that the only identity you have is the one you created for yourself through work, WORK is your husband, best friend, children, etc.........it makes me sad for you. Your life, the only one you'll ever have is flying by, oh how I pray you wake up and jump on board....
Life is too short. Choosing work over family will always lead to a lonely life. I believe with some perspective later in life you will realize that you made a lot of poor choices by placing of your work family over your true family. I feel that poor Don, who has a lot of patience and appears to be a good man had to put up with indifference and a lack of respect from you for so many years. It comes as no surprise you are no longer together. Hopefully you can learn from your mistakes. The one thing I have learned over the years is that anyone is expendable in a job. The same is not true of your family.
Thank you! Well said... You would think she was the only person that goes to work... I get to do it everyday... :)
You are a perfect example of someone who lives to work, instead of working to live. When you're on your deathbed, are your regrets going to be about work or family?
Vicki, Watching how tired your daughter is really reminded me of my own health problems. No one could tell me what was wrong until I was in Europe and took a allergy/intolerance test for pretty much everything. Has she been tested for a gluten intolerance or Celiac Disease? It makes me so lethargic, depressed and puffy. Similar symptoms to what people with thyroid problems have. It can manifest many dif symptoms though. It's easy to get tested for you just have to ask for it, because they don't tend to test for it unless you ask. Hope this helps :) I admire your drive! Best, Court
I have been on your site many times over the last few weeks, I was a very successful Loan Officer in Irivne and HB for a longtime, some of those companies are gone, no shock, but when the CA economy "softened" LOL - we made the move to Houston - for over a year, I have been thinking about being just like you when I grow up - so I am starting classes soon. I want the flexbility to be there for my teenage kids and make my own economy again not rely on others. Thanks for the inspirtation - see you at the top - whooohoo!!
You may care about the people who work for you but they're not your family. You pay them. BIG difference. I think you should make friends with some ladies who also work. A LOT of us go to work and work hard every day. It's not that big of a deal.
Hi Vicki, I really enjoy watching you season after season. I'm a young business woman myself and first was attracted to you because of your daughter's (and my) name and then just completely became inspired by you and your work ethic! Stay the classy, hardworking lady that you are!!
HEY EVERYONE! Vicki works!! Did you know that? That she works? She does! She sells life insurance! I wasn't sure if everyone knew this, so I wanted to be SURE to drive the point home. Vicki WORKS! Life insurance. She sells life insurance.
I couldn't agree more. And the comment about not working and losing the house, made it sound as if Don contributes nothing! And we all know he does. It is breaking my heart watching your marriage fall apart. And you can't even see it. How many times do you think you can hurt Don's heart, and ego before he leaves? Well I guess we know that answer. I really hope you can put balance in your life. And I also wish you and Don will come together again. HE LOVES YOU VICKY! Let go a little and enjoy life. Your a beautiful loving women. You should find out what is making you be a workaholic. Which in some cases is worse than being an Alcoholic. Before it is to late.
I watch every Sunday, look forward to it,but this wk as I watched "Secret Millionaire" before your show, It just made me sad for u & some of those women on your show. To watch a show that shows someone who has so much and chooses to give to the less fortunate & realize that family/friends/ compassion, the way u treat others, is WAY MORE IMPORTANT than money & materialistic things, just amazed me. Then I started watching your show...wow different perspective, I had to change the channel when I saw your reaction to Don when he came to pick up your dog from your office, he was so happy to see u and u just knocked him down as usual! Your work is so important & "work family"....really?? I hope they are with u when your alone and miserable, your kids are gone & Don is with someone who LOVES & appreciates him, I hope & pray that watching the episodes will make u realize u need to change some things in your life & be alittle more compassionate, kind but most of all less selfish....
What have you done with yourself this year. You are letting your family out of your life and putting in your job in it's place.
You are really successful at what you do. Success isn't easy, so if it takes sarcrifices I think you know what's right and wrong. Congrats on being positive this year!!
List...I'm just a huge fan of the show...and I feel so much like I can relate to you as far as family and work..responsibility...but Vicki...with all the love in the world...let me tell you that life can turn on a dime. I had it all...3 beautiful kids....great job..etc...I lost it all in one minute due to a bad car accident. I'm not looking for sympathy...just simply look at what life really is about. I lost the ability to walk for over a year...my job...my home...but I still had my family. Please allow yourself to simply take a breath...you have beautiful kids...and despite what you think or say...you married Don again because you truly loved him. Go find him and just hold him...I assure you...that's all you need. The rest falls into place. I wish you the very best.
You need to watch "Bethany Ever After". Now, she is a real business woman with a loving family. She includes her husband and her staff and treats them with respect. You need a serious attitude adjustment.
Vicki... Congrats on all your success. But is it worth the price you're paying with your family? Your kids obviously know it and make it known. Don did as well. I'm sorry you two aren't together anymore, but from the little we see on the outside, it looks like you have nobody to blame but yourself. You seem to put him down and treated him as an employee instead of as your husband...your equal. Anybody would get tired of that, man or woman. There are a lot of things we see in the show where you are to blame. But yet you are constantly playing the victim. Like with Tamara. You went on forever about how she treated you. She needed to make it up to you, aplogize to you, etc... This comment is not to put you down, I truly like you. Maybe you can realize somethings about yourself and try to make a change and you'll have a happier life.
I like you and understand you more each season, Vicki. I think you really are a good person, no matter how you may have been portrayed in past seasons. We all have our flaws. I don't think I could handle being on a reality show like the Housewives. Having strangers all over the world judge my every decision/action? No thank you! I don't know how you do it!!! I hope you're doing well and finding lots of happiness in your life.
I think you should pay a visit to the NY Housewives and teach Ramona how to interview potential employees...
Thank you for posting Erma Bombeck's classic piece of wisdom. I think we all need to be reminded of some of these very basic facts. Vickie, you're great and I admire you for having such a strong work ethic. I wish I could find a career that left me feeling so fulfilled. But if we could turn how many times you mention "work" into a drinking game, we'd all be bombed by the end of the episode (that's meant as a joke, not an insult). My hope for you is that you can find a way to truly separate your personal life from your work life so you can truly relax and enjoy your family time.
Thank you for sharing that....it really makes you think about what is and IS NOT important in life. If you are working so hard and not living then maybe it's time to scale back. Because really, in the end, do all of the material things really matter? Isn't it more important to be rich in love, family and positive life experiences????? I would guess those are the things that you would be reflecting on in the end, not how big your house or diamonds are, how expensive your car is or how much money you have in the bank.
Vicki, what has gone wrong? You are the vetern of the group. The first season everyone mostly got along and it was enjoyable to watch. This season has turned so raunchy and the ladies are so vicious. I'm tired of this show.
Vicki, as a business onwer myself I understand your need to succeed; however, I have never put my business before my family nor will I ever do it. Business pays the bills and great times but family gives me my life and reason to want to work. Life is way too short to put our family on the back burner. You have already lost Don, who appears to be a wonderful man, please stop the insanity before you lose your kids.
I love you, Vicki! I know that you are very proud of the company that you have built and are so dedicated to your clients. I just hope that you will wake up and realize that having a successful business is only one small part of a richly fulfilled life. If it is not too late, PLEASE try to work things out with Don! It makes me sad to think of you all alone in your office late at night like Ebenezer Scrooge. Please at least try to see if there is still something there worth salvaging.
Vicki, It was soo cute when you gave the 'spanking' I could tell it was out of love... I do need to say the reason you are "respected" at work, is because I believe you are the one writing the payroll checks... woo hoo
Vicki, you say how much you love work and you slight your family in favor of work. Maybe you should take heed of Erma Bombeck's regrets when she found out she had cancer. Sorry it is long but very thought provoking.
IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER - by Erma Bombeck (written after she found out she was dying from cancer).
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains..
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you's' More 'I'm sorry's.'
But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute.look at it and really see it . Live it and never give it back. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!
Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.
You had the chance to have it all.
Vicki, I love the fact that you are able to showcase to women that hard work will allow you freedom in today's economy, and if they wanted to, they could be their own boss. What I really wanted for you was a chance to show how strong women can also have a great home life and love life. If you would have put those crazy hours that you do at work into you and Don's marriage imagine the success of that union. The snide remarks you think Don and your kids made to you were hurtful, did you ever ask yourself where its coming from? You are exactly like that to others around you, good or bad. Furthermore, maybe the jabs coming from Don are being made to you because you are somewhat of a stranger to him. Q: You asked the question about what the solution is to cutting back your work hours in order to pay your bills. A: Cut out the things that cost so much. Good luck in your new future, but I hope you and Don get back together
Wow! You have been my favorite since I started watching the show. This season you are really hard to watch. I appreciate your work ethic but come on! The boat scene was painful to watch as well as the scene when Don picks up his dog. You must make everyone around you nervous with your constant need to be in control. I felt so sorry for Don. You couldn't even give him your attention when he came to you office. You can tell your family is getting tired of your behavior. It sounds like you and Don have already split and I hope you haven't let your career interfere to the point of no return!
VICKI, I AM SO GLAD YOU WENT OUT TO DINNER WITH YOUR FAMILY AND DIDN'T DITCH THEM...THAT SEEMED TO REALLY UPSET THEM WHEN YOU TOLD THEM OF YOUR PLANS. GOOD FOR YOU IN REALIZING THAT WORK CAN WAIT, BUT LIFE PASSES US BY QUICKLY. IT'S STILL SAD TO SEE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND CRUMBLE EACH WEEK. BUT, I HOPE HE FINDS HAPPINESS B/C HE TRULY SEEMS LIKE A GREAT GUY! YEAH...THE SPANKING WAS BIZARRE. I FELT EMBARRASSED FOR THAT GAL. YOU SEEM TO HAVE THIS NEED TO ALWAYS DEMONSTRATE THAT YOU'RE IN CONTROL. IT'S PART OF YOUR PERSONALITY I THINK. IT'S NOT ATTRACTIVE. I WISHED YOU LOOKED HAPPIER ON THAT BOAT RIDE---IT LOOKED LIKE SO MUCH FUN! MY DAUGHTER IS THE SAME AGE AS YOURS AND WHENEVER WE CAN DO THINGS TOGETHER LIKE THAT AS A FAMILY, MY HUSBAND AND I ARE ALWAYS THRILLED! EVEN THOUGH YOU SAY YOU FELT HAPPY, YOU DIDN'T LOOK IT. THE ALCOHOL WARNINGS AREN'T UNWARRANTED IF THERE'S ALCOHOLISM IN THE FAMILY. IT'S DIFFICULT TO WATCH THAT AGE GROUP DRINK AND NOT BE CONCERNED. YOU'RE RIGHT...IT'S A "MOM" THING! KEEP TRYING TO LET US SEE A LIGHTER SIDE OF YOU. I REALLY ENJOY SEEING YOU HAPPY!
To tell you the truth vikki, I admire that your so dedicated to your work. Your a hard worker and that has brought you to where you are. But i have noticed that you seem very distant with your biological family. You may be verry busy right now with your work. But when you grow old and can't work anymore whose going to stay with you? Your family. As much as your workers love you as you love them, they are young, and will move on while your family will stay with you till the end....
to tell you the truth vikki i admire your love for the work you do. But ive seen that you really don't spend time with your husband or your kids.It may be because we don't see those memnts on tv. But you really should apreaciate your family more....after all when you turn old and can't work anymore whose going to be with you? Your family no one else. Your workers as much as you love them, are young, and will move one while your family will stay with you...
Girl. Chill with the work talk. It's bad enough with having to constantly listen to you on the show talk about how much you work and how much you love work! WE KNOW! Lol
When your on your deathbed, what will run through your mind? Would if be how successful you were at work? How many insurance claims you sold?
I think not.
Vicki, you really need to take a good look at yourself in your mirror. What is the point of having a "beautiful" home if you're never there to enjoy it. There is more to life than work. Trust me, in 30 years, nobody will know what a great insurance salesperson you were. You stated that Donn and your kids don't get you. Maybe that's true, but you know what? You don't know them either. The entire time on the boat, you made no effort whatsoever to try to enjoy their interests or hobbies. You're 49 years old...think of yourself 20 years from now. You may have a business, but you will be all alone. I seriously doubt insurance will keep you warm at night. I do think you are trying to be a better person and finding your own happiness, and I hope you find whatever you're seeking.
I think you are such a smart woman, and have a lot of respect for you, but I felt so sad watching tonight's episode and knowing that you and Don are no longer together. I really hope that once you get older and learn to slow down with work that the two of you will be able to find your way back to each other. When I saw you all on that boat, I wanted to be there too! I never feel like that when watching the show, but the snacks, the alcohol, the weather, it all looked so perfect, I wanted to join in. (I also have sooo much respect for Briana who is a year older than I am, but has accomplished so much more than I have! And I also love that she doesn't coast off her parents' money.) I especially love how you advise people to wait until their mid-twenties to get married. Now that I'm done with college, so many friends are getting engaged/married, and I think for them they feel it's the next logical step, but for me I think it's so important to grow as an individual first and build you own income before you rely on that team unit of a husband. WOOOOO HOOOOOO
I own my own business, so I understand the pressure & drive you need to succeed. But you can't take the business with you when you die. Seems like you pay more attention to your "work" family than your real family. And I think the whole work family thing is nonsense. One of the most important business rules is to not get too close to your employees. Staying professional is key to a successful relationship. I missed the section on spanking.