Vicki, I completely understand how you feel about Brianna. Growing up my mom was so protective. She still is! But now that i have my own kids i know why she was and why i am now. Love you this season!

Vickie , I hope this week has been a blessed one for you. You and your family are in my prayers!

Vicki.. You have more class, intelligence and business savy in your little toe than anyone on any housewives show. Please don't bow or bend against your better judgement to appease someone else (Alexis would love that and it's obivious that she's trying to make you do that). YOU are the #1 OC Housewife! Stay strong.. Viewers love that about you.

"I needed a break from everyone's opinions on our marriage as they really don't have a clue what we have."

Wow, okay Vicki. Well, you chose to put your life on t.v. so we are all entitled to give our opinion about what we see.

I hope you read it thru because I have both good and bad things to say:

I have not been your number one fan every season. In-fact since your kids left the house your likability has really dropped. I find you blunt, abrasive, aggressive, controlling, intense, catty and somehow needy yet emotionally void at the same time. BUT! I am starting to like you a little bit? Certainly not because of the way you treat your husband, Donn. We can't see everything that goes on but let's be honest, you know you have disrespected him time and time again. Your children even recognize his pain. Just own it.

Regardless, I do see you trying hard(er) to make amends with others. Although I may eat my words after next weeks episode (it looks like the mean girls make an appearance again). At any rate, IF you really are changing, good for you!! I know it is hard but keep moving in that direction and as much as it kills you to bite your tongue, sometimes, you just need to.

Anyways, here are few questions pertaining to your blog: Why is Tamra so hurt that Jeana talks to Simon? It doesn't seem like Tamra and Jeana were ever really close. On the flip side, we have known for a few seasons now that pre-divorce, Jeana and her kids had a relationship with Simon. What's the problem with her sticking by him then? I agree though about one thing though, Jeana looks GREAT!!!

Also, I am confused. Why are you now acting as if it is okay for Alexis to be a stay at home mom, sans job? In previous seasons you condemned her (and many other woman) for not having a j-o-b. Are you turning a new leaf and realizing that it is NOT all about money? It is about family, togetherness and what works for you and your spouse. Just as you don't appreciate us all speculating about your personal life, how a family chooses to earn their income and spend time together is, well, none of your business either.

p.s. I know you are not complaining, per say, but you and Donn chose to send your kids to a private school, chose your house, the amenities, to pay for your kids college education, their cars, etc. You reap what you sow. All of that costs money. So, work you must. I think who works or brings more money to the table in a marriage is irrelevant. Listen up, Gretchen!

So, you just take a deep breath and gulp that RED wine down while I pour me a cocktail. ;) You have a good heart Vicki, we all know it. We just want you to accept our help and guidance in bringing you back to that happy person Donn found years ago and that we fell in love with on season one. Cheers!

I think that next weeks show looks sketchy I hope you didn t join in on Tamra mean fest!!1Jeana has her own opinion about Simon, but she doesn't have to throw wine in Gina's face. Be loyal!!

Hi Vicki

Just wanted to encourage you to keep on being as real as the show allows! Whilst I know that you work extremely hard and have achieved much, just remember that, this life by definition is temporary so keep trusting and relying on Jesus as Lord and Saviour who is perfect and whose eternal purpose is the real prize to attain. I think Briana is adorable and was so pleased to hear that she had the all-clear with the tumours. Every blessing to you, Donn, Briana and Michael.

I'm confused about your comments about Alexis and her dress line. Year after year you have sounded like a broken record telling the other housewives to work/work/work, just like you do, and now that Alexis is working, you want her to stay at home with the kids?

Love you Vick. Keep doin' your thang!

I haven't always liked you in seasons past, but last year I grew very fond of you. Although I find the depth in which you parent your children admirable, I feel like you need to let up on Briana a little bit. She's a great girl and seems to have a pretty good head on her shoulders. It has been sad to watch your marriage to Don dissolve - I always liked you two as a couple.

Beath lady breath. I so Like your comment about real women have curves. With all the skinny babies on this show it is refreashing and nice to see someone speak up. Glad you work and care for the family first. Please take some time to be nice and not over do things with your words. It can hurt think and be nice. Breath.

Vicki, It is so nice to read your blog. You seem so different now. More mellow, and gentler. I am so happy, to read , what seems like you are so very happy. Wishing you nothing but yhe best of everything. Enjoy your trips.

Lots Of Love,

Amy

The Derby is A LOT OF FUN!!! You will enjoy it.

Never appologize for being the moma bear. It is one of your most indearing qualities! Have a great week.

I hope you enjoy your time in the Bluegrass State. Have a mint julep for me :)

All the best to you, Vicki! You are obviously a great mom and businesswoman. Glad you are going to be able to take some time to relax and have fun with friends.

Vicki, You seem very relaxed this season. I happy for your happiness in life.

Katea

I know how you feel protective of your daughter. I have a 17yo son and I'm the same way. I wish he could just go to school and then stay home. LOL I know that's not realistic and of course he can go out with friends. I explain to him that I worry and hope that he makes good choices while he's out with his friends. I always tell him that if he is unsure what to do, just think "what would my mom think about that" and he will know the answer. So far it's working (he's never gotten in trouble). It's kind of nerve racking when he's not home because I do worry (my parents and I can't sleep when he's not home).

Briana's 24? and very intelligent. I'm sure she will make the right decisions. Just know that you did a good job in raising her. :)

Vicki, This is the first time I have ever posted a comment on your page so let's hope she sees it. I completely understand why you are controlling with Brianna, I have a 28 year old daughter myself and I worry about her constantly. However, she would give me hell if I were to talk to her the way you do to Brianna. I know you love her and she means the world to you BUt you have to trust her and everything you've taught her. She's a brigh, beautiful and intelligent young woman who can look out for herself. I know you mean well but sometimes we just need to step back as parents, just a little. I hope you and your family have a peaceful Good Friday and wonderul Easter! All the best to you and the family:)

I think I'm beginning to enjoy you more. You do seem kinder and more thoughtful. But I do think your comments toward Alexis's dress line were a bit unnecessary. She may know nothing about it, but at least she has the guts to jump in and try something new that she is interested in. Her hubby probaby has the cash to back it, so lucky her. Give support, not negativity.

Vicki you will have a blast in Louisville for the Kentucky Derby. It is a great time and there is always a party going on somewhere. I live in Louisville and it is like the city comes alive. You should try and come in next year for Thunder over Louisville. It is one of the largest firework displays in the nation. It is the kickoff to the Kentucky Derby.

You are a good mother, you raised your children right. Now them them live their lives, when they need you they will let you know. I know it is easier said then done but you did your job and a great job at that!!

I agree with Briana because my mom is the same way you are, she is constantly worried when I go anywhere, it's a normal mom thing to worry, but you do have to let your kids grow up. Vegas is fun but very scary and can be dangerous if you are a young woman and drinking.

I am sad that you and Jeana are no longer friends. I wish you'd defend her and not always take Tamra's side. Tamra had not been nice to Jeana for the last couple of years, so Jeana really doesn't owe her anything. Jeana and Simon were closer than Jeana and Tamra were, and Simon played a role in Jeana's kids' lives, so I understand her friendship with him. Tamra's rude comments are unneccesary and immature, in my opinion.

I was appalled when Alexis cut the sleeves off, but really her dress line is no different than other ventures other reality stars have taken. You have a book and an eyelash product endorsement, Lynne has her cuff line, etc. . . she can follow whatever dreams she wants!

I was cracking up when you were talking to Briana and you were distracted about the ice cream in the fridge. "That's weird. I hate weird things." You are so entertaining and fun. I'm glad you don't edit and repress your quirky personality.

It was nice to see you make the effort with Alexis to put some of the bad stuff behind you guys & just move forward...and then you undid all that with your side interview by continuing to denigrate her & her business efforts. I'm not a fan of hers whatsoever, but wow, you judge her left & right & give no benefit of doubt there. Why is it so important for you to continually judge her? Just as you mention here that you're tired of people judging your marriage dynamics, I'm sure Alexis is just as tired of your own judgments. Very petty!

As moms we never stop worrying about our children. I will always be concerned for my children, no matter how old they are. My youngest will be studying in Germany in the fall semester and I will worry about her until she returns home. I know it will be any amazing experience to study the architecture of Europe, but it still scares me. You are a great mom and it is wonderful that you care so very much for your children. As for the opinions on yours and Donn's relationship, only you and he know the truth. Try to take each opinion in stride and don't let any of them upset you. I wish you both the best.

Gretchen & Alexis could learn a lot from you! You are the bomdiggity, girlfriend!

So sad for you and Don, Vicki! I admire your hard work!

Hi Vickie! I have been a fan of the show since day 1#, you were my least favorite person at first,then after the show last year and what you did for donn,showed me what a sweet,ind loving person you really are!! you are a hard working go getter that loves her job and money...i get it!! you go girl!! just tale a little time for you,and donn!! and it will be a well rounded life you worked hard for!! xoxoox Tim scottsdale arizona!

Vicki, I didn't blame you at all for being concerned for your daughter; I have been a few times myself, and always stuck close to my friends. It was still pretty fun to watch her go and relax-she's earned it!! In two weeks I'll be flying out again with family and friends-to get married!! I was born in Louisville and never been to the Derby, so be sure to drink a mint julep for me as well. WHOOO-HOOOO :)

Vicky.......I love you this season!!! Not that I haven't in the others!!You are so funny on the show... And so much more laid back......I really admire how you just speak your mind and can care less what others think or have to say about you. All that matters is Family and WORK!!

Vicki, I have 2 daughters in their 20s and I worry all the time too. It's tough to let go. Brianna is a good kid and level headed so I think she will be okay. She has always been my favorite OC young person.

I LOVE YOU VICKI!! You just need to downsize and spend more time on yourself and family... Success is wonderful, but take some time for yourself now! Life is short!

i so want to be as strong as you i love my job. and would be there 24/7 you are what i want to be! i want a career and do everything and give everthing to my family. so many dreams

Hi Vicky, This show would never be the same without you. One thing, you've kept it real all these years. You give good advice to your family and friends. Youre a smart business woman but an even better Mom. I'll never forget the show when you cut Michaels hair. You quizzed him on everything he would be doing for the day. I remember thinking back then. What a good Mom. Here you are years later with college graduated kids, who still listen and respect you. They have a little more leeway to tease you. That's as far as it goes. BTW, Tamara is charming when she wants to be. You heard what she said at the fashion show. At that moment she would talk to anyone. That is Tamera. She's nice to your face, but you never know what she's saying about you when you're not in ear shot. I hope she's sincere with your friendship. Take care wonder woman!!!

Hi Vickie,

You are my favorite orange county housewife. You are smart, motivated, and confident!! It is humorous when you are forced to have brainless conversations like the one you had with Alexis about her dress line! You always stay polite and gracious. Cheers to you for being a real woman!!

Vicki I think you are great! You seem very real to me. You are so very right If want anything out of life, you have to work for it!

I love the way you are with your kids! I am the same way with mine! They need us to remind and protect no matter how old they are...even when they dont think we need to!

I think it was great when you were questioning Alexis. She really looked like a business - designer when she described what "couture" was. I dont care how many hours of interviews you have done. If you love and believe in what you are selling and know what your doing you can describe what it is! I just think of all the hardworking "Real Designers" out there that has went to school and worked sooo very hard day in & day out putting there designs on paper, ordering the material, sewing the product with there own 2 hands! I thought it was horrible when she cut the sleeves! But when you are just handed something and never had to work for anything, you dont appreciate the hard work that goes into it!

Woo hoo!

Hi Vicki, u are my favourite housewife!! wooo hooo!!! lol

I really envy you, working yr butt off and earning the money you do. You should be proud of yourself as you have built up the business & havent relied on any man 2 do that for you. I wish I had the opportunity to do that!! I have raised 2 kids on my own after divorce, many years ago. I hav always been a positive & motivated person but there were always obstacles in my way. Now my kids are older Im looking for that challenge. Any chance of you employing me? (in the UK) :) :)

First off let me say i just love you! You are the most "real" person on the show, not to mention i feel like i can totaly relate to you on a parents level as i have said the samething about the putting my kids in a box....lol Being a constant worrier is no fun & stressfull but if it saves my kids from something bad then it's well worth it! I'm excited to hear your coming to the KY Derby, Louisville is where i have lived all my life & i can promise you, you will have a blast!!!! Thank you for making the show wonderful & keep up the great & hard work.

Hi Vickie, This may be a strange request, but you had given Tamara a gift last episode and it was a Metallic Cross in a Frame. So BEAUTIFUL... I would love to know where you got this. I have looked high and low on line and cannot find.

Love you guys and the show!! Hope life brings you all the happiness, Andrea

I have never posted a comment before but I can't stop myself! First off - I think you are a terrific mom. My kids are younger but I will worry about them forever. My niece is a freshman in college and I am constantly checking in on her. Second - I am sorry that your marriage didn't work out. No one knows what goes on in someone else's private life, so I can only say I was sorry to hear you broke up. Third - I find it hard to believe that a workaholic such as yourself made the comment about Alexis! She's got 3 small kids which is a great reason to find something you love just for yourself. I was very surprised at how 1950s you sounded.

Hello Vicki!

I read you're going to Naples, FL soon and you just have to go to Mira Mare. It's my favorite restaurant right on the water in "The Village" (just off of Gulf Shore Blvd.) So delicious! I go there to visit my parents and grandparents a lot and we always eat there. Enjoy!

Just had to comment Vicki that this year it seems like I'm finally getting to know the real you. You appear to be letting all your walls and boundaries down, and that's a good thing! We like what we are seeing. About time we got to know and love you.

Vicki,

You made the decision to put your private life on TV and to make comments in the interviews about your marriage to Donn. So, it seems understandable why viewers have strong opinions. I sincerely wish both you and Donn well in the future. I'm sure Donn will be much happier with someone less self-centered and controlling.

Hi Vicki, Where did Briana get her cute black dress that she wore out in Las Vegas? I LOVED it!!!!

vickie, u were never one of my favorites until this season! u have won me over with your humor! im not even sure you know how funny you really come off but that conversation w your daughter about being safe in vegas had me laughing hysterically all alone in my living room well with my dog and she thought i had gone crazy i laughed so much! I think what made people dislike you to begin with is you really did just see people and things for exactly who and what they are and they aren't able to hide behind BS. You call them out on it and i love that! keep being who you are a hilarious and great mom as well as an amazing business woman!

I admire your work habits,but to not know the age of your husband and to leave him alone all the time is not right.Don`t you girls know that whjatever you say is going to be viewed by the other wives?--or don`

Vicki, you'll always be a fav. You are the og housewife! And watching you this season reminds me why ive always liked you. But it seems that anytime any of these women want to venture out to do something on their own you kind of mock and put them down for it. You did it when Gretchen went to about starting her makeup and your doing it with Alexis with her dress line. These women are persuing dreams and desires its really not up to you to question what people have time for and as a women who is successful you should give your blessing instead of finding ways to get in little jabs. You are the one who is always telling people to go to work!

Vicki, each week I watch hoping to like you more, but I am always disappointed. I think it is great that you not only want to work to support your family, but you also fully enjoy it. It is important to do something that you love. However, in order to make ANY relationship work, you have to make time for the other person. This is especially true in a marriage, and unfortunately that is usually the relationship that most of us take for granted. You keep saying that you are busy and don't have time, but you need to MAKE time. Schedule it if you have to, but it is painfully obvious that there has been unrepairable damage done to your relationship. If you have time to film a reality television show, you should have been able to make time for your husband. Just my two cents.

Wow, I was flipping through the tv and stopped on your show (I haven't watched it in quite awhile). This is the episode you and Don were at a Spa. Wow, do I see a difference in you, Vicki, since the last time I watch the show. You are at a dinner and you look like the most uncomfortable person. If I were to have just watched I would have thought this was a blind date. I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 27 years. I have 5 children. Believe me I know marriage is work. However, the best thing for you, for both of you, would be to let each other go. If you are not going to make the time to nurture your marriage, then let it go. You looked like you didn't even want to be there. You couldn't even remember how old your husband is. This is very very sad. I feel sorry for the both of you. Good luck in the future.

Vicki, you are my favorite!!!! I wouldnt watch if it wasnt for you. I admire you and all you do. I hope to emulate your success in my own life one day.

Take good care.