My husband doesn't deserve any of what these women are saying about him. If you want to bash me, then do it, but leave my husband and children alone. Here is an expert from my husband, Jim Bellino's, own personal blog. This shows you a taste of what man I'm actually married to, which doesn't at all line up with what these girls claim.
"I am a real human being. The accusations tossed around so cavalierly about me tonight made me shudder -- not just for myself and my wife, but because of the basic premise: Anyone can be made to seem like a kind of monster if he or she has enough enemies on reality TV. Whether you've earned those enemies or not means nothing -- because in the end, decisions about your imagined (not real) character will be decided based upon any information given on air -- no matter how inaccurate, false, or outrageous the claims may be.
What's funny is that I could easily sit here and do the same thing -- I could very easily tell you stories about these women that would change how you perceive them, just as they have changed how I am perceived. But after reading this I hope you will realize why I have chosen not to play the game. It's beneath me. And no matter how far escalated the accusations get, I will not stoop to their level -- not for fame, not for fortune, and not for anything else.
When there is no story to tell, people invent one using what few splinters of a crafted reality they can to make it stick. But the only thing still standing when the smoke clears is the truth, no matter how long it may take that smoke to clear.
When you bless those who curse you, God shines his favor on you. It's not always easy, but it is very rewarding. I hope God shines his favor on all the castmates, but I also hope the time for dragging my name through the mud is now over. All drama has an expiration date, and the one that makes me the scapegoat went bad a long time ago. Time to move on—even the fans are totally over it."
I feel it's important to clarify something about Jim and I. When we met, eight years ago, we made a mutual agreement not to discuss our past relationships. We both felt that our lives together began from that moment forward. We had both been married before, and we both had pasts, so instead of dwelling on the past, we focused on the future. . .our future together. Now with that said, if I was talking to a guy and Jim asked me if I dated that guy in the past, or vice versa, we always told each other the truth. However, if we didn't ask, there was no reason to mention it. The same thing applied when it came to Peggy. I never asked Jim if they dated, and he never told me. He definitely should have told me once Peggy and I started to become good friends. However, Peggy should have told me too. Of course I was hurt and angry at Jim once I found out, but never for a minute would I allow that to come between Jim and I. It was 16 years ago!!! Our marriage is our marriage, and we know our agreements and we know what works for us. "What God joins together, let no man separate."
Alexis keep ur chin up girl. I think that the way u treated Peggy was wrong and there is a saying that what goes around comes around. Saying that I think that people learn from their mistakes and indeed your lesson was brutal this season. As far as i am aware you are the only real true person on the OC out of all the house wives, you also must remember that life is full of lessons and we must learn along the way, of course we will make mistakes from time to time but its what we do after that. As for the other house wives of the OC don't be too hard on them those who know better do better. xx
I'm tired and really need to get my behind in bed, LOL.. BUT, I have to comment on this episode.
Alexis- I knew there was a reason I have always liked you and Gretchen. You girls, while you are certainly beautiful, you both come off as genuine and honest people. Tamra hasn't changed- always making rude remarks behind everyone's backs. Vicki is still Vicki, and Heather pretty much seems pretentious, exactly what Gretchen said about her!!
I am looking forward to seeing how Vicki handles the news that Brooks has gone to jail for failing to pay child support. After all the grief her and Tamra gave poor Slade, wow... she must feel like such an idiot..either that or a blinded hypocrite!!
Jim was wrong, you should have admitted it and moved on like a Christian. Walk the walk, girlfriend. You don't have to be best friends, but you're suppose to turn the other cheek to show an example.
I hate to be the one to clue you in but you are a grown woman, not a high school girl. You sound ridiculous. How embarrassing for you and your family.
You're just sore because Jim tried to pull the wool over your eyes! He disrespected you so badly in front of millions of tv viewers.
How did you feel when Peggy was crying over your relationship? I know that you feel betrayed, which is understandable, but Peggy was in a tough position as well. She enjoyed your friendship, and did not want to ruin it by telling you. I think both Jim and Peggy should have agreed to tell you, but I do not think Peggy is the only one at fault. Honestly, do you think you would be any less angry if she had told you? She did not want you to be mad at your husband or cause any issues for you. You have to somewhat respect that, right?
Alexis, I, too, am perplexed by people who think I am competing or one-upping when I am merely sharing a common experience. I think people who see competition where there is none are insecure and need the spotlight solely on themselves. I get you!
HAHAHAH you think Peggy is attracted to the drama and wants to cause it? SHE LEFT THE SHOW! Obviously she doesn't want to deal with the drama
You say how Tamra and Peggy always talking about you and that she is a mean girl...I think Tamra just has a wicked sense of humor and even pokes jokes at herself...as for Peggy, I have never heard her say anything that was really all that negative about anyone really...you on the otherhand claim to be a devout christian yet you seem to hit below the belt way more mean spirited and go way out of your way to make snide remarks about Tamra and Peggy every chance you get. I don't think you are as sweet and innocent as you believe yourself to be.
Funny how that bible verse (What God joins together, let no man separate) did not apply to your first marriage. A bit hypocritical don't you think?! Peggy is too good for you.
Alexis, you are spot on about Peggy. She is so playing in front of the cameras. She has done this twice to you already. The first time was at her dinner party when she asked you about your husband's whereabouts when she already knew from the start. Now, she has done it again by wanting to "talk" while the cameras were rolling again. If she was sincere she could have called you after you texted her about her daugther's injury (which was obviously during the off season of filming). Instead, she plays it in front of the cameras. I think people's true character comes to light during a "status change", etc or in this case a reality show. Don't change for anyone Alexis and stay true! :-)
The assasination of Jim's character continues. Get off the show for the sake of your family. You've done nothing wrong. Peggy's timely request for wanting to talk things out was for camera time only...she was trying to bait you to continue the "feud" and you didn't bite. If she'd been successful she would have been assured at least a few more brief appearances with you. Keep your chin up!
I am so with you. I could care less about women my husband dated before me. It's none of my business who he dated and none of his business who I dated. Curious? Yes. We have talked about our past relationships but they don't threaten either of us.....why should they?
Finally, you're coming into your own! You're seeing what the mean girls are, and realizing you don't have respond to their antics. Stay above the influence. Stay focused on elegance, and manners.
Sad. I guess tonight was Peggy's last night on RHOC. I would much rather see her instead of you but I guess she took the high road. I do think you should practice Christianity as you are constantly thanking God. Also, stay off local news. So not flattering.
Alexix, Thus far you are conducting yourself perfectly and anyone who finds fault with you is being unfair. You have been sweet, cordial and pleasant. Peggy is the one who was dissing you to a group. Your suggestion to discuss it at lunch was the best way to handle it yet she went back in and ratted you out to a group of girls. Childish. Keep your chin up and just keep being the lady you are.
Alexis, As Shakespeare said, ' Me thinks thou dost protest too much'. It also really bugs me how yes, JIM, hides behind the Bible. Unless you don't understand what I mean....
You and your husband are the most UNchristen people I have ever seen. I don't understand why you are even on the show. You don't live in reality and at least Peggy can speak a complete sentence.
Totally agree girl. I always liked Peggy but had the same thoughts. You remained classy and kept your mouth quiet while Peggy just kept low blowing you all night then running after you in a very desperate matter when she realized you weren't phased by what ever jabs she was throwing your way. That in my opinion is emotionally disturbing, desperate and def a bit psycho. BIZARRE would sum it up. Like are we children here?
She is showing some new colors for sure. Keep doing as you do and remaining classy and all about your family and ignore the jealousy. Worry about what is important and the positive things in your life.
BTW I was at the same event you all were at a few months back but didn't get a chance to come say hey. Best regards...
Your neighbor in L.A. : )
ALEXIS, IT APPEARS THAT PEGGY IS JEALOUS AND CANT GET OVER THE PAST AND HER CONSTANT ACCUSING YOU OF COMPETING IS SILLY. SHE JUST DOESNT HAVE ANYTHING RELEVANT TO SAY. SHE NEEDS TO GO AND CONTINUE HEALING WITH HER PROBLEMS. STAY STRONG AND BE A STRONG CHRISTIAN...
Oh Alexis, for someone who wants to move on it's funny that you'd spend 4 pages of your blog focusing on Peggy and Tamera? Seems to me you need to deal with your husband and quit trying to convince everyone that you are so in love and have such a great relationship 'me things thou doth protest too much'! If you were really over'their'behavior, you wouldn't waste so much time on them. Incidentally, I am very happily married and jealousy is the last thing on my mind. I have told my husband if he ever cheated on me (or in this case had dated someone we were spending time with as a couple or becoming friends with) It'd be all on him! Good luck sweetie cuz I think you may need it, and I'm not talking about Peggy or Tamara.
Hello...I think you are not happy in your marriage...you try too hard to seem happy..like an act...happy people don't go around consistently saying they are happy...seems like you are convincing yourself that you are happy.
Also, you don't seem humble. Just take a step back...think before you react and speak.
Alexis, I feel like yu have every right to feel the the way yu feel toward Peggy. She in the wrong an for yu two to even be around eachother after yu finding out about hurtful things yu show how strong an much of a bigger person yu are in reality. do just keep it up girl an stay strong. She a hater yu can tell she wants what yu got
Alexis you could forgive your husband for not telling you about Peggy and he is your HUSBAND...surely you can forgive your girlfriend who repeatedly told him to tell you about it! If it weren't for her, you wouldn't even know about it still! Your whole mentality about the situation makes no sense whatsoever!
Girl, I'm not sure what's wrong with you...but something is. This deal you have with Peggy over dating your husband years ago ~ it's on your HUSBAND to tell you that....not your supposed friend. Also, you seem to think he's quite the prize when in reality, he's creepy. And that's pretty much from everyone who has watched him in action. I don't know anyone who thinks he's nice, good looking, good for you...or anything but a creepy sneak. You need to realize that about him Mz FancyPants. NO ONE wants him but you. Don't get it twisted.
No sweetie, it was always your husband's responsibility to tell you about his previous relationship with Peggy. Did you really expect her to rat out your husband, and tell you? How ackward for her to have to keep that secret, but she did it so it wouldn't harm your marriage. How do you not get that? Also it does seem like you try to one-up her with every conversation you two have. Maybe that is just how it is edited, but I had a friend who did the same thing and it was very very frustrating. The problem with people who have narcissistic tendencies is that they think they are relating to other people, but they actually are feeding their insatiable egos, and need everything to be about them.
How come nobody gets that Alexis' way is not meant to come across as 'competition' but rather the way she can relate to someone by experience. I truely dont think Alexis is trying to be melicious or create havoc, its bad enough her husband lied to her and claims to be a christian. I bet she is madder at him then she will show on camera and everyone with common sense should respect that and understand her point of view. One who is a christian that does not believe in or want divorce, this must be really hard for her to overcome and wouldn't blame her if they did not stay friends. Even though it was 15 years ago, she was decueved by a 2 best friends, bottom line, its wrong. ,
Alexis, You did a good thing in not engaging Peggy. Peggy needs to get over herself she really is not all that, so she dated Jim years ago, BFD!!!. So what? Move on leave Alexis alone.
Calm down... you sound like a raving lunatic. Since you like to throw out well rehearsed quotes... here is one for you.. "Thou doth protest too much" Look it up, then have someone explain it to you.
I think Peggy was still hurt by what u said and accused her of last year, it showed tonight that she wasn't over it. I can see why u both are mad at each other....she or Jim should have told u about the past. And u should have never accused her of the things you did. I don't believe for a minute that she stalked him....and neither do you...would your hubby allow u to be friends with a stalker? No! I just really wish that u were more down to earth and truthful with the cameras and yourself. I think you are beautiful but are lacking true self esteem.
Alexis, People that live in glass houses should not throw stones, so Tamara and Peggy will learn the hard way. The past is just that. You and Jim are in love and happy and who cares what the others think. Jim is wise to stay away from the whole toxic mess.
Alexis...let the haters talk...we all get the jealousy. Tamra sure brought out the mean in Eddie...he can kiss on other women...but she must keep her body to him only. It was a hoot! It is obvious Tamra is looking for a big commission with Heather. Hope Heather continues to hang that carrot over Tamra LOL Brooke's is letting Vicki run his life with the clothes etc., but that will get old too just as the newness is so fun right now. Gretchen and Slade are just hot right now... Peggy ugh...bringing up the ketchup told it all.
I do have to say, that it is not nice that these grown women are saying such horrible, defamating things about your husband when he has chosen not to be on the show. If he was taking an active part in filming I would expect it because he is putting himself out there. But they should know better. BTW- how come nobody has called out Tamara for how AWFUL she was speaking to Eddie when their mic's were on and they fighting getting of the boat. She was beyond nasty to him after SHE let another man touch her breast. Makes you wonder if Simon was all that bad, or if it really was Tamara that was THAT bad.
I couldn't believe Peggy kept throwing digs at you. You didn't even provoke her. I didn't feel you were trying to compete with her. You were simply asking about London and telling the story about your injury. I think it's something anyone would have done. Why would you want to compete over an injury? With a little girl? Crazy. While you're not always my favorite, I did think Peggy was trying to stir things up. I'm glad you told her it wasn't the appropriate time and to call and do lunch. That's the most grown up thing anyone has done on that show in a long time.
Oh Alexis, this is sad!
Do you realize that Peg is all you think about now? Maybe you can have "Peg" by Steely Dan piped in to you and Jim's bedroom!!
You are obsessed, girl. You even ordered Peg's nose from your plastic surgeon; don't think we didn't notice that!!
Blame Jim, girl. He SHOULD have told you. Wasn't Peg's place to do it. And you were obnoxious about London!
Alexis, you were put in a terribly awkward situation. Peggy needs to just go away. She comes off as very unstable and unusually preoccupied with your husband and with tearing you to shreds. You have nothing to defend- you were not married to Jim at the time. You guys talked it out. It is over. Obviously, he didn't choose her to be his wife. End of story. Shame on Tamara for playing with Peg's insecurity and obsession. Like a cat playing with a mouse. Played with until she gets bored and then she will have to kill it.
This episode really irritated me. I don't think you are competing with Peggy I think Peggy is too concerned with you and may be jealous of you. She may swear up and down that she's not and that may be true but when she sees the show maybe she will understand that it's the impression she's giving. Especially when the whole time at the party she kept making comments to you. Highly inappropriate! I was also bothered by the fact that after she tried to talk to you and you told her not right now and offered to have lunch the next day she went and told the girls that you didn't want to talk to her. You made the right decision by not talking to her at that moment. In the end I do believe that both your friend and your husband should have told you from the beginning that they had dated so in my opinion they were both wrong. Peggy should sounds stupid by saying Jim has a shady past and she was afraid of what would happen if she told you. He couldn't have been that shady if she decided to date him. I hope you all can move on from this and have a friendship again. I'll say a prayer for you all.
Peggy was nice and is nice but after i read that she had an affair or a crush on your husband i am having second doubts on that 1 and i am being 4 real . What kind of a lady friend does that to another lady friend that is just crazy and bizarre to me . I haven't wathced much of the show so I don't know what is going but I promise to you that I will watch it when it comes out on chanel 76 the bravo channel that you can count on it .
you need to grow up. your husband owes you more than peggy did. you act as if you're miss perfect and you are not. you were very rude to peggy.
Great blog, Alexis. I didn't see it this way until I read this. I noticed Peggy's digs at you which I thought were inappropriate. Still, I think you should be a tad more forgiving. I'm a christian, and I know that if someone asked to talk, even if it was a year after the fact, I would've given them a chance. Maybe the reason Peggy never called you to talk was because you all were accusing her of being a stalker. The reason Peggy didn't call you after that night is because you told her, "I don't think we have much to talk about." Even though you recommended meeting up for lunch, prefacing it with "we don't have much to talk about" probably is what turned Peggy away. That whole thing with pouring ketchup on the dessert was so ridiculous of Peggy to bring up. Even though I would be forgiving, I do agree that she does try to start drama. And yes, Tamra is a definite mean girl, and she's fake. I wouldn't trust her to even hold my popsicle.
You say Peggy has had 5 months and she wants to come to you now? Obviously she hasn't seen you and Vicki's party was the first time that she had. Maybe like you she was hurt but when you guys were face to face she felt the need to try to resolve some issues. I think she was too quiet at the reunion and still felt the need to get things off her chest. She seems truly hurt by the way your friendship turned out, unlike you who just seems jealous. And why in the world would she ever want your man when she has Micah?
Alexis, I love the way you handled the feud between you and Peggy!!! You are so right, she only approached you because the camera's were there and she was trying to make a scene. Goodc call on your end. I'm so glad you did not fall into that trap!!
Isn't if funny that you said you would not go to the "mean girl" level and talk bad about the other woman but there you are writing on how much Tamra is a brown-noser and so far up someone's tush she is...Hello Kettle!
Just curious; Does Jim still critique your blogs before he lets you post them like he's done in the past?
I love the way you handled yourself when Peggy wanted to speak with you after Vicki's party. Bravo!!!! Well done.
Just wanted to point out, you say the following in regards to Jim and Peggy dating, "Of course I was hurt and angry at Jim once I found out, but never for a minute would I allow that to come between Jim and I." So why would you let it come between you and Peggy? From the looks of it you and Peggy had issues before that whole situation with her dating Jim even came to light, in my opinion, that was just the last straw for you.