Alexis Bellino

Alexis shares her take on the "intervention" and ponders how friendships change.

on Jun 14, 2012

The past few episodes have been very difficult for me. I found myself slipping into a depression from the harsh words and cruel actions of these women. I had to take a few weeks off from blogging, among other things, simply to focus on what's truly important in my life: my husband, children, and my own sense of self.

It is very apparent to me that the past few episodes were all about defining relationships. There are many ways to define the relationships you have with others, and we've seen a very wide spectrum of choices being made; many very positive, many very negative. Defining any relationship can be something you've wanted to do for a long time and suddenly, with one act, it's done. One thing is for sure though: it's hard to go back once choices have been made.

I like to think that most of the time in my life, when I have defined (or redefined) relationships, it has been for the best outcome of everyone involved. Marriage, friendships, children, colleagues. . .these are all relationships that we can either knowingly work on to define every day, OR we can let time takes its toll, and look at a relationship and say, "Oh my, what happened to that friendship?" Usually when this happens, it's because both parties did not take the time to define the relationship. The result is usually not a good one.

So when it came to Costa Rica, the final outcome was a bully session. It may not have been everyone's intent in the beginning, but that is what the outcome was. It doesn't make these women bad people necessarily, but it does mean they made some bad choices. I'm not upset it happened, because it revealed to me a side of reality I could not have been aware of without it.