The past few episodes have been very difficult for me. I found myself slipping into a depression from the harsh words and cruel actions of these women. I had to take a few weeks off from blogging, among other things, simply to focus on what's truly important in my life: my husband, children, and my own sense of self.
It is very apparent to me that the past few episodes were all about defining relationships. There are many ways to define the relationships you have with others, and we've seen a very wide spectrum of choices being made; many very positive, many very negative. Defining any relationship can be something you've wanted to do for a long time and suddenly, with one act, it's done. One thing is for sure though: it's hard to go back once choices have been made.
I like to think that most of the time in my life, when I have defined (or redefined) relationships, it has been for the best outcome of everyone involved. Marriage, friendships, children, colleagues. . .these are all relationships that we can either knowingly work on to define every day, OR we can let time takes its toll, and look at a relationship and say, "Oh my, what happened to that friendship?" Usually when this happens, it's because both parties did not take the time to define the relationship. The result is usually not a good one.
So when it came to Costa Rica, the final outcome was a bully session. It may not have been everyone's intent in the beginning, but that is what the outcome was. It doesn't make these women bad people necessarily, but it does mean they made some bad choices. I'm not upset it happened, because it revealed to me a side of reality I could not have been aware of without it.
I have been reading the posts on this particular blog and I just watch some of the "intervention" on ITunes. I feel very strongly that Alexis was bullied. An intervention is when people who genuinely care about you tell you about a problem you have with the intent on making you better. What I saw was a group of girls being mean and verbally assaulting Alexis. Alexis did NOT deserve that and if I could have given her a hug and prayed with her, I would have. All the girls were out of line with their comments, even Heather, despite her speaking in a very kind tone. However, the very next day, Heather tells Alexis that she is “figuring you out because I am not sure which person you are.” Hummmm, she says this after saying in her interviews that Terry’s statement about Alexis being phony was true. Again, if Heather didn’t know the real Alexis, how can she make a judgment on Alexis’ personality? The only person who came to her senses was Vicki who said that everyone is phony at times and that they all should look at themselves before making judgments. Good job, Vicki!!!!! And Gretchen did throw Alexis under the bus. Even if what they were saying about Alexis was true, Gretchen, claiming to be Alexis’ best friend, should have stopped the conversation, saying, “Girls, this not the time or the place for this.” Did anyone notice how angry Gretchen was? If Gretchen didn’t think she did anything wrong, why was she so angry? I don’t blame Alexis for doubting her friendship with Gretchen. I have about several close friends and if any of them stood by while I was being bullied, I would seriously re-evaluate my friendships. I am also saddened by the fact that no one apologized to Alexis on the reunion and Heather and Tamra continued to bully Alexis, saying that she treats the crew like garbage. First of all, if that were true, that should be discussed in private. I sincerely hope the girls get an attitude makeover and start treating Alexis with some respect.
As for Jim, I don’t think he treats Alexis with respect. All through the “Bowling for Champs” episode, I felt so sad for Alexis. Instead of celebrating and praising his wife for the amazing job she’s doing, Jim continued to tell her what her role should be, that she should stay home to cook, clean, and “raise my children”. First of all, if my husband said that to me, my response would be, “Really?! Your children? What am I, the nanny? The surrogate? Those kids are as much mine as they are yours.” Jim is clearly threatened by a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to express it. A real man would be proud of his wife instead of intimidated. I am a Christian myself and I feel that a God created a man and a woman to be equal, to be partners. No one person is the final decision maker. A husband and a wife work together without the husband ordering the wife around. God would want the husband to treat his wife with respect and love, not telling her what to do. It is really heart-breaking that Alexis is in a relationship with someone who controls her. She needs to stand up for herself and tell Jim how she feels. If Jim has a problem with it, then, it’s his problem, not hers. I hope Alexis realizes that she does have a good heart and is a good person. GOD bless you, girl!!!
I have always admired you, you are a real true person and believe me when it comes to Tamra Barney well she is just a mean evil person. You all should stay away from her toxic bad vibes!!! She has been jealous of you always and also Gretchen but she is trying to cause drama by being Gretchen's friend. Issues with her and Vicki and then issues with you and Gretchen. Her goal this season this year was to take you down just the season she took Gretchen down. Thatis why she started the season by the little gift with Gretchen, it was her first strike against YOU. Please do not be too hard on Gretchen, I know you feel like she backstabbed you and did not have your back and it's true she should have stepped up. BUT the poor girl does not want to go back to being Tamra's doormat. Gretchen is a pretty good person I think but she needs a little more of a backbone. Alexis I LOVE that you put your family first and I enjoy that we do get to see your kids sometimes like your princess party. Where the heck are Tamra's kids or the others???? I am so glad Vicki has become a part of your circle as she is in her happy place now. I have always had a soft spot for Vicki, she just needed a man to love. Now that she is happy Tamra wants to intervene as she always tries to poison everyone. Just like she tried to poison YOU about Jim, but I am soooooo glad it did not work. I also admire Jim for not wanting to be involved in these shallow women's drama. Like you said there are also all entilted and all have nice things BUT call you out on it?????? Also YES you do not start the conversation and say hey look at my ring look at this look at that!!!!!! They are JEALOUS of your success now that you have your clothing line and then Fox, please they want that and also you are so beautiful!!!!!! Keep it up Alexis and glad you had a great 50th party for Jim THANG GOD you did not invite the others!!!!!!!!!! lol, Keep your faith and bless your family xoxo
You describe Tamra to a tee. She has something deeper and nastier going on in her life to make her so hateful towards you. But I believe jealousy is the majority of it. She sure is fascinated by your chest, isn't she? I'm glad you're on the show because your scenes are a breath of fresh air, compared to Tamra & Heather. They are so dark, negative, judgemental and plotting. It will eventually get old between them. Nothing good comes from relationships that stem from gossip.
You are the opposite. Rarely, do they show you being negative behind the backs or to anyones face. They show your family life or projects you work on, none of all the catty highschool drama that the other girls partake in. You're portrayal is what made the Real Housewives franchise popular, not this Big Brother trash that it's become. It's too bad Gretchen is blinded by Tamra because you & she were a good match. I agree with all the phony talk & questions at you, it did seem like they're always asking you materialistic questions...almost like a set up. It is bully mentality all stemming from their insecurities with you because 1) You're beautiful inside & out. 2) You're happy, positive. 3) You have tradition, stability and structure in your life, most of them don't. I'm glad you rise above. Hope to see you next season!
One last thing. I meant to mention that I also just registered on this blog to send you words of support. I've never done this before, but it was important to send you a message. I also agree with another bloggers comment. Jim absolutely did the right thing leaving that party. I was also very disappointed in Terry's reaction. I expected better.
Alexis - There is no doubt that the women bullied you. They were nothing other than mean girls and at their age they should know better. It was a low class thing to do and I'm guessing they did it for the ratings and job security. Tamra's many comments about your faith are just evidence of her low class. You've handled everything with great charm. You are the one with class. I'd love to know where it states that a Christian has to look frumpy. Tamra really needs to play a new song when it comes to her comments about your appearance. Her jealousy is really becoming boring. Always rememer that when you are beautful and successful and YOUNGER, there will be haters. Keep the faith! I love that you show that having a Christian faith doesn't mean you have to be square and boring! May many blessing continue to come your way!
You are my favorite housewife and the only reason I watch. I too am a Christian, a wife and a mother and am proud to see someone so open about their faith in the entertainment industry. You and Jim should be very proud of the examples you have set. Keep living for the Lord!
You don't deserve this nonesense. What have you ever done to hurt anyone? Who are any of those women to judge you? So you believe in your husband. Who is anyone to judge you? I am very sad at the way Gretchen treated you. I hope she is just drunk on the tamra koolaide and that you two mend fences. The ONLY time I could not figure you out was when you felt Peggy should have told you something. She was actually honoring you and your marriage by not saying anything. I hope you can see that someday. God Bless you and stay true to you
You did fine this season. I'm not sure what the other "housewives" were doing in Costa Rica at all. They were probably the last women in the world who should give advice on how to act and talk, especially after watching Tamra wait for "ring" from Eddie on her trip to wherever it was. You and Jim are fine. They almost can't stand the fact that you respect your husband and ask his opinion of what he thinks. I do that all the time, that's what marriage and respect for each other is all about. Tamra isn't married. Gretchen isn't married. Heather was stupid enough to have a party for her "name change", which, IMO, should have happened when she got married. Vicki, well, she is doing her thing and they don't like that either. Forget them, stay true to you and your family. God will honor that and bless you for it.
Alexis, I don't think you act pretentious, my opinion has been your sweet, a good mother,friend,wife and seem very fun and energetic. The women have things confused. Bragging about your material things and how much you spent on them is wrong (I don't think you did that) but simply talking about the things you and your husband enjoy spending money on as a hobby is all i saw of the situation (Talking about the cars.) and that isn't wrong. Also about the fake rings... The women can try to make a good argument about that but it has several opposing viewpoints that ALL make sense so how can you really judge someone about a subject with many different negative and positive viewpoints. You have obviously decided its a good thing to do thats your opinion and people should respect it.
It must suck for people to attack your husband's character he might "wear the pants" lol, but hes supportive (as you can see on your surgery day.) He stands up for you (as you can see by him wanting to speak with Terry), and he supports you (he works.) Everyones relationship is different and these woman have no room to judge.
The fact that Tamra thought it would be okay to sit down during Jim and Terry's conversation either shows how truely dumb she is thinking he would be okay with her being there OR shows how much of a trouble maker she is by thinking Jim would want her there after she just attacked you in Costa Rica and constantly talked crap about Jim in previous seasons and this season.
I've said it in Tamra's blog and i'll say it again, Tamra wants to talk crap on everyone, point out their flaws, and add fuel to the fire, then she wants to step back and act like she didn't do anything while the drama unfolds. She needs to realize by doing this that she isn't distracting people from HER problems shes simply making herself look like a malicious old woman trying to be a teenager. Something i would also like to add- did she remove her implants just so she could have another reason to talk crap on Alexis without being called a hipocrite?
Tamra is a moron. Period.
Oh please - my husband would not waste energy on 'girl fights'. Jim was ready to leave without you....what does that say. Get over yourself.
Seriously! I mean, why after all that's been said about Alexis he chooses Terry to go after? I think Alexis is beyond phony - are you coming to talk to me too Jim? Jim should've stayed off the show like he has been doing. He came to that party to create drama and the players were Terry, Heather and Tamara for repeating it (and embellishing it) so they had every right to sit next to Terry. First of all, if Jim said to me "do you wear the pants in the family" I would've told him to go f himself and when he left without me, I would've been beyond pissed off at him, not running after him and calling him sweetie. What's wrong with you Alexis?? All the Bellinos know what to do is fight because they do it with every and anyone. Watch the season with them - they like putting people in their place and Jim obviously likes putting Alexis in her place as well which is why she lashes out on everyone else.
SACThat means that he is a gentleman!! And he understands that Alexis wanted to stay at the party! But he did wait for her, she even had time to talk with Terry and the other witches oh sorry housewives!!
Just saw tonights episode 6/28..Jim was a 100% right..cannot believe the wives have to feel their men cannot speak for themselves or have a private conversation.
These women are terrible backstabbers. They can never be happy unless they are putting someone down and enjoying the turmoil they cause. The fact that you have a strong faith, makes you a target. You and your husband are good people, don't get caught up in the craziness. You were their target, next it will be one of the others, it's only a matter of time before Tamara turns on someone else, history has proved that. Good luck Eddie!!!
Alexis I am not a "blogger"! I just wanted to say that out of the glimmer we get to see of you and your life from the show, I can say you are an amazing person, woman and wife!! I see your christ like characteristics!!
Peace, Love and Joy over all your days!! God Bless your and your family!!
Alexis- let me start by saying I like you!! Your beautiful and not one who enjoys all the fighting.. With that said sometimes I find you a bit niave on some people!! Let's be honest the ONLY reason Vicki is your friend now is because she needs a friend!!! And she knows you won't tell her how crazy she is!! Don't be fooled by her she only uses people and she talks. Rap about everyone including her own daughter! I hope this is her last season she needs to stop already!!! I agree Tamara is jealous and she just likes trouble!! As for Gretchen she like you just wants everyone to get a long and you could tell she was so upset at the way the whole costa rica thing went down... I hope you guys can talk through this rough patch. And one last thing as pretty and as sweet as you are you really deserve a husband that loves you!!! Jim is so controlling and self absorbed!! He doesn't come to Heathers party with you then when he shows up he embaress's you by asking if you wear the pants in the house?? And then gets pissed and leaves without u?? And you baby him!!?? He needs to go!!! Your too good for him!!!
Give Alexis a break! Do you guys know what the definition of a bullying is? Using power or force to intimidate or hurt another. What the other women did to her in Costa Rica was clearly bullying. So what if Alexis has her own way of doing things and is different to the rest? You don't see her attacking any other person on the show for the way they choose to live their lives???? Clearly everyone on the show has their own story, own personality and own set of faults. At least Alexis is grown up enough to focus on herself and not call out on everyone else. Its sad that people on here feel they have the right to judge her based on whats presented on the show.
Its just ridiculous that some people like Tamra Barney are too insecure and mean spirited to look at their own faults and instead they have to find faults with everyone else. And Yes I am mentioning her name because I believe she is solely responsible for this whole perception about Alexis being phony, she unfairly used Terry's name to defend her own view (who does that on national Tv!!!) and she influenced Heather against Alexis way back in the beginning of the show. If you guys recall in one of the the past seasons, when Tamra was still with Simon and they had just met Alexis and Jim, at the family poolside BBQ, she openly admitted that she was jealous of Alexis's beauty and her body. Tamra kept saying she was happy this season, but to me, she only seemed meaner and angrier! I guess the jealousy has just festered and made her so bitter, that could be the only reason she constantly attacks Alexis this way. I feel sorry for Tamra!
Alexis, good for you. Keep your head up high and focus on the positives. Everyone has faults and its up to everyone to work on them at their own pace. The other women have to no right to come on you like that, as though they are perfect. I know this season would have been hard for you, but you are a strong woman and you handled all of the drama with grace, thus showing the world what a positive role model you really are. You have people that believe in you and respect you for taking the high ground always, and don't waste a single moment on the haters!
I'm so for what happened to you and your husband at heather party ! It was shameful to watch!! and Tamara is such a bad person for what she did to you.. Your husband wanted to talk to Terri alone not with the big mouth of the group. but then again look at what she did to Vicki. and that was her "FRIEND" right . your better then Tamara hands down and never forget that.. this little game she is playing with Gretchen, will in the end hurt Gretchen, Tamara has all season long, put on a show and she needs acting lesson her fake cry is so sicking and everyone knows it, she is a hater and that is all there is to it.. I hope you will stay on the show .. Pray over it , but i hope you will return next year ..
You do come across as phony, and your husband wanting to confront Terry at his home at his party shows what kind of man he is. Wrong time, Wrong place. As for Sarah, please don't take her out in public anymore, I do believe she has a drinking problem and needs help.
You may want to watch the show again. Clearly, Jim did not want to discuss the "phony" issue at the party. And is Alexis supposed to be responsible for Sarah's behavior??? I think not!!!
You've come along way since your first season and you should be proud of the woman you've become! hang in there!
Alexis, I know you get tired of hearing people say things you don't want to hear, but isn't it ironic how everyone says the same things over and over and over about and to you? You have a truly good heart, you have a very sweet demeanor, your husband is very disrespectful of you, he's very controlling (which went out with the 50's) of you. I so wish you could fall in love with someone who treats you with respect, like an equal. If that's just not an option, then urge him to seek therapy. If not then, I guarantee you, someday, you will resent his treatment of you and it won't be too hard to fall out of love with him. Although, you felt you were making the right decision by defending Sarah, she did not deserve your loyalty. She acts like a child and deserves to be treated like a child. She needs her hands smacked for her actions, not defended. You should really have taken her out of the picture when she was way too intoxicated to act like an adult lady. It was your responsibility to do this, because you chose to bring her to the party. By the way, not the smartest thing in the world to do. If you want the other ladies to take you seriously, then understand that people don't want to hear about your 6 vehicles, your husbands very rare watches, etc. There's a fine line between commenting on something and bragging about it. I totally understand that coming from the other women. I did NOT like the delivery that Tamra puts forth, but Gretchen tried very sensitively to get the point across to you without making you feel like a heel, you just chose to go on the defense. What you should have done was tune Tamra out (if at all possible) and just listen to Heather's words, Vickie's words, and Gretchen's heart. She didn't want to hurt you and she wasn't trying to and really that was very clear in the episode. She was just saying "I understand what the other wives are saying" and trying to get it to you in a nicer tone than what they were using. You needn't be so judgmental when it comes to her and Heather. Totally understand if you want to bash Tamra in the head with a ball bat, though. Totally understand that! At the end of the day, you only have one life to live, don't let other people run it for you! You are a smart girl, just an insecure one. Be brave and don't let others push you around. INCLUDING JIM!
Even though I don't always like the way Jim speak to you, I have to say "Bravo" to him for not letting Tamra bait him into a big fight. Because you know she would be yelling at him and hurling insults, and if he engaged and even raised his voice slightly, he would be talked about as the bad guy. Whoever says he should not have walked away only wanted to be entertained by a nasty argument and Tamra's big mouth that won't shut up!
Terry said "Jim grew some" and attended the party, however, Terry was obviously projecting his own issues because he should have "grew some" and asked his wife to leave the discussion to him. AND he should have especially "grew some" by asking Tamra to leave as soon as she sat down. For Terry to say Jim ran away from Tamra because he didn't want to hear the truth...LAME!
If Terry was any kind of respectable man, he should have acknowledged what he said was hurtful to Alexis and Jim and just apologized for it! If the tables were turned, I'm sure he would have wanted that treatment. He really does enjoy his camera time, though.
At the beginning of the season I thought he was going to be the level headed one, but I have lost all respect for him, he acts just like those gossipy women!
I saw Jim as the level headed one, he didn't raise his voice or stare Terry down as he was fumbling his words trying to figure out how he was going to get out of it. The classiest move was to leave and not stoop down to Tamra, Heather and Terry's level!
As far as Tamra, she was salivating to get into it with Jim...like a dog with a bone! Ignore her she is SOOOO NOT WORTH IT! I wish Bravo would encourage the show to be in a more positive direction for women, because then there would be no place for Tamra!
I have watched you from the beginning. You are a GORGEOUS, kind person. Unfortunately, some women will be jealous of your beauty. Tamra is a BULLY to you and Gretchen is a horrible friend. I have experienced this sort of thing first hand and all you can do is hold your inner circle of friends closer and kick the rest to the curb. Keep your head up Alexis, and don't let Tamra, or anyone else, bully you. It's a shame that a grown woman can be a bully.
Alexis.. Hello from Australia! I found it hilarious in the beginning of the season after meeting Heather you commented that she was an actress but YOU had never heard of her! Just wanted to let you know I recognised her off the show "jenny" and that was when I lived in New Zealand! Do you know where New Zealand is? Its somewhere in Mexico.. lol
Alexis, I applaud your values, your commitment to your marriage and your relationship with your daughter. Don't ever second guess those values because they are the foundation of your family and the way your daughter will progress in her own life. If you are proud of the way you live your life, that is not phony. If you are not willing to scream at your husband in public when he makes a thoughtless comment, that speaks well of your grace and is not phony. If you say my husband is not Simon, he is Jim, that is not phony.
If you fall short of your own proclamations, that is human.
What I did not see you do was sell out your husband or your integrity in a fit of anger. You listened to the other girls' criticism, largely without interruption. That is shocking for any Housewives confrontation.
When you uplift and embrace traditional values, you will always be subject to attack. That's nothing new. And people will tend to pick on your intellect, your articulation, your appearance and so forth because they ultimately cannot attack your values with a straight face.
Maybe the other girls feel like that's the phony part-You are putting pressure on them and they want to turn it back on you. If Gretchen wants to live with Slade outside of marriage and have kids with that dude (yikes!), and then hears you speak about the sanctity of marriage, she is going to lash out; She is going to find the areas where you have fallen short, throw them back at you, and tell you that you are phony.
Countess Lu Ann may have some words of wisdom on the matter...as soon as she wrote an ettiquette book, the other Housewives starting making lists on every way that Lu Ann was not mindful of her ettiquette. Some people are open to good advice, others feel like their being preached to and never seek to question themselves or at least give the advice cordial consideration. That's too bad. You have wonderful and interesting things to say about marriage, and some of us don't mind listening.
It was a tough season for you but hang in there Alexis! Your more authentic than Gretchen and Tamras friendship!
Alexis, Please LISTEN instead of talking over people when they are trying to give you constructive criticism not bullying. You really still have some growing to do... You tend to run to your "Yes men" to get them to tell you that everyone is wrong when they criticize you, you also did it when peggy told you about Jim, you called him and put him on the spot, then you did again with Gretchen when you called fox 5 to ask if they wanted her first so you put Fox 5 on the spot also, this makes you look so immature and no one who is a secure person or company is going to want to deal with you until you take Heather's advice and use this criticism to evaluate how you talk to people and how you treat people. In all honesty if your supporters on this board would really take the time and watch how agressive you can be with confrontations just as bad as Tamra you are rude you interupt you put your hands in people's faces when they are trying to get you to understand(like when Heather asked you to escort Sara out) your rude and nasty response was " I'm not a bodyguard I'm not going to do that", but you brought this uninvited guest so you should have kindly left with her but because you love to rubb shoulders with high society and now sniffing up under Heather once you realized she really is WEALTHY and not faking it like you and Jim it was more important to hang out at the Mansion because this is where you truly think you belong but you really don't . Alexis I know you will probably not read any of these messages because you believe you are perfect and a good Christian but I hope once you free yourself from the constraints of Jim you will finally try to work on being more real and not this Fake person that you appear to be.
I do wish you the best though. :)
Since the moment that this women decided to give an advice to her on TV they were rong! that's bullying! They are not the best example either...Specially coming from Tamara!
Good for Jim to leave that "ambush" the women should have stayed the heck out of it. Tamara is rude and i honestly wish you would ignore her completely. You looked so beautiful at the party. you really should have let sarah fight it out for herself, she was being and idiot. arent you glad you didnt stay for the whole party?
Alexis..you have never been one of my favorites, however, since watching the most recent episode I have realized that you are much greater of a person than I thought. NOT because you are a "christian" woman, because honestly I am not religious, but because you stood by your husband and better yet he stood by you. Honestly, I made this account to "blog" because of you after watching this episode and being so pissed that everyone ganged up on you. I don't care what Jim does, or what you do, I have respect for you because you always want better for your family and you and your husband work as a unit. Screw everyone else that is pretending to practice this feminism and liberal lifestyle. I am so proud and glad that you and Jim are standing up to the "norm" and being the husband and wife that you should be. Stay true to yourself because you are gaining supporters one at a time, just like me :)
jim said he wanted to talk to teey at lunch no one ganged up on him you told him to go have the talk so you started it and your friend is rude and boy did the story about being called phoney sure got turned into drama you really love that
lavone well since Heather's husband was being rude with Alexis I think Alexis's husband have the right to defend her!!
Alexis I love you. Stay strong. I don't think that you come across as phony at all. Actually I think that you have a kind of "sweetness" about you.Tamra is the biggest phony of all. I think that you are very realistic. Those crazy women have left their husbands. Don't they know that these shows will soon be history and they will regret a lot of the things done and said as a result of this show. If they are looking for a perfect spouse there is none to be found. You have to work on a marriage. I think that you are absolutely beautiful. I thought that your clothing line looked great. And I hope that you make it as a television host. Vicky is right those women are just jealous. Hang in there girl. Just keep being your sweet humble self. Every
Alexis, you're my husband's favorite housewife! Don't you know that when you're in a group of jealous women, they always single out the prettiest one to bully. Thats you! You need to make other friends. Those girls are nothing but back stabbers - especially Tamra. She's the worst! When I watch the show, I thank GOD that I don't have friends like that! Hang in there. As long as you choose to stay on that show - you'll pay the price.
ALEXIS, JIM DID AN AWESOME JOB HANDLING THAT SITUATION. I USED TO HAVE RESPECT FOR TERRY AND FOUND HIM FUNNY, BUT AFTER LAST NIGHT I SAW HIS TRUE COLORS. HE IS JUST A GIRL WITH HIS OVER CONTROLLING WIFE HEATHER. DON'T LISTEN TO ANY OF THE WOMEN. VICKI IS RIGHT, EVERY ONE LIKES EXPENSIVE THINGS!! YOU ROCK AND DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE.
The innocent victim role is getting very old. You have not been bullied at all. I don't think the conversations with the other ladies would get so heated if you actually listened to what they were saying instead of always having to hear your own voice. As soon as someone starts to say something that you don't like, you immediately start on a rant and it forces everyone to raise their voices just to be heard. You knew that bringing Sarah to the party would cause a scene and then you actually tried to defend her immature, rude, drunken behavior! And to say that Jim was "ambushed" is ridiculous! He didn't even want to get into a conversation with Terry at the party but you told him that he should. You also initiated the conversation in Costa Rica. When Heather said "should we talk about it?", you could have said "yes, but I would prefer to do it in private." YOU chose to do it in front of everyone and now you're a victim. Your choice of words may not be as harsh as some of the other women, but you are far from innocent. I'm not at all surprised to learn that you treat the crew poorly. The relentless attention seeking behavior is difficult to watch week after week.
@FL_Fan well said. A bully is someone a child has to be afraid of. A bully is someone that hurts a child who istrying to be themself. A bully is not someone who tells an adult the truth.
FL_Fan SHE DIS SAID SHE WANTED TO TALK ABOUT IT IN PRIVATE BUT HEATHER SAID I THINK WE SHOULD TALK ABOUT IT!!...
Your husband was blind-sided by Heather and Tammy Sue He wanted to talk to Terry alone. I don't blame him at al for walking out. What they said after wa a lot of crap. He came because you were alone - since they kicked out crazy girl - and you were right to leave with him I just don't understand these supposed friends of yours
I agree. Tamera walked person to person trying to be the center of HUGE drama again this year. She tried so hard and poor Vicki took the bait. Jim knew better. Tamera isn't a good person and it puzzles me why anyone would like someone whos biggest joy comes from anothers pain.
Really respect Jim and how he tried to handle things man to man before Terry's wife came to rescue him and Tamara had to come stick her jealous nose in. Jim was right to exit when he did. Shows a lot of class.
I respect the man Jim is too. Don't have any respect for these HW husbands who join in the hen parties. And Tamera only came over there to try and start a fight with him and he flat out knew that. He isn't into all that mess.