Alexis Bellino

Alexis defends her blog and her friendship with Vicki, and thinks Heather's comedy isn't too funny.

on Apr 18, 20120

Blog: Web site containing the writer's or group of writers' own experiences, observations, opinions, etc., and often having images and links to other Web sites.

I felt it was necessary to start my blog this week by stating the actual definition of "blog" because several people have asked me why I feel it necessary to always explain myself. Well, here ya have it. A blog written by me is for me to tell my side of the story and explain the chain of events and my interpretation of those events. So if you don't like hearing me "explain myself," kindly don't read my blog.

We start this week with Vicki visiting Tamra after her breast surgery, and the first thing I notice about this scene is that Tamra has an issue when she discovers Vicki and I are now friends. First of all, the friendship between Vicki and I wasn't immediate. It has taken three years for Vicki and I to GROW into our friendship. Yes, Vicki said some mean things about me in the past, and yes I wasn't always the kindest to her. However, we have both been very open about the fact that we wanted to try to make amends over three years, NOT OVERNIGHT!

Additionally, Vicki and I were trying to make amends last year, before Tamra ever thought about scheming a friendship with Gretchen, so don't let Tamra or Gretchen fool you that Vicki and I are only friends because those two became friends.

129 comments
LisCe
LisCe

Hi Alexis! You are my fav Housewife! :) Don't let Heather get ya down just keep shining! :)

BrigitteBardotte
BrigitteBardotte

Alexis, It's quite obvious most of the women on the show are quite jealous of you, including Gretchen. When Gretchen mentioned Fox called her first before you, that was an obvious dig to you to try and one up you. If you really listen to what Gretchen says when she walks in your home, she mentions how big it is. Here's the thing... you've got a loving husband, three beautiful children and such a sweet giving spirit.... it's apparent you're coming from a place of love... if anything... you're the only person on the RHOC that doesn't really talk about other people... they all just rip you up... I continue to learn myself that it's so difficult to have female friendships.... jealousy seems to 99.9% reign supreme... hold your head high... it's clear you're coming from a place of goodness and love. It's admirable... and always painful to take the right path and do the right things because people will always come at you from both sides.

TeriGia
TeriGia

You talk too fast, you are hurt by your husewives' colleagues harsh words, you are not very smart and you act self-entitled. But inspite of everything, I think you have a warm heart. You are young and still figuring out people and ways to deal with them as well as yourself. First step to liberate yourself, take those fake boops off. You will look much younger, classier, and it will allow you to concentrate on things other than external attributes. I have a soft spot for you as well as for Gretchen. Tamra is too bitter, Heather is too proud of being sensible she's borderline judgemental freak, and Vicki is trying to be gentler but her standard is very double tilting towards babying herself and freaking out when she gets retaliated for her instigating bad deeds.

Jconmer
Jconmer

Alexis....why nothing in the book shelves in the office??? Is any of that furniture yours? Is everything a facade?

pooferina
pooferina

Alexis, The more Tamra tries to tear you down, the more she reveals what she really is. JEALOUS. She knows you're a sweet, smart, happy gal. She is none of those things. What a hypocrite using her fake boobs to criticize yours. She's out of her mind. Awesome that you and Vickie are friends. Give Gretchen time, she'll see how toxic Tamra is. Heather is just new on the scene and wants instant status. She's a snob with no reason to be. Alexis, you totally rock the OC! Stay sweet and gorgeous. We love you!!!!

XOxo...lol..yeah right
XOxo...lol..yeah right

I just have to tell you how strong you are, how spot-on you are regarding heather her crassness and classlessness...the Tammy's and the heathers should see how successful you are becoming because of your strength and your confidence and they should not be so jealous

Sunnyinfl
Sunnyinfl

You are gorgeous. I love the way your hubby looks at you with stars in his eyes. you have such adorable children. I am on team alexis! Ignore the mean girls. How in the world did people know you were renting a house? Goodness! In this economy we have all had to make changes. They like to slam you with questions about your personal life- and that's just what it is- personal. You look great. Glad your nose feels better. It looked so painful! You are absolutely perfect! Don't change a thing!!

Casey718
Casey718

Alexis,

I have been searching everywhere for the jumpsuit you wore during glamping? What brand and where can I get it?! Thank you!! XO

Pakitapr
Pakitapr

Maybe if you talked a bit less about the other ladies, you're "awesomeness" would shine. Being so defensive does not help.

LongIslandnotahousewife
LongIslandnotahousewife

I agree with your blog, however, you my dear have not always been so humble. I don't like how you are being treated this season but in the past you definitely came across like you are on some sort of high horse.

TexasTweets
TexasTweets

Does anyone else think Alexis looks just like Kim Zolciak with her new nose? I can't tell their blog photos apart!

piperoni
piperoni

alexis i luved the show last week.i luv the part where you are jamming in the car.you can say you are from M.O all you want.we that love MO are proud.we wish all were as kind as you.this next show comming up nice for you to go and be there for gretchen.like she was not there for you.you are the best.bravo please print for lexie.thank you

Charlotte.E.Webb
Charlotte.E.Webb

Gretchen is a good friend to you and vice versa and I hope it remains that way. Heather's delivery can be very condescending and comes across as being quite elitist. Anyone bashing someone's intellect is in very poor taste and just reflects badly on them. They have no idea how intelligent you are and all I have to say is, they aren't exactly albert einstein either.

Viewer from Livermore
Viewer from Livermore

How old are you ladies? It looks like you are having issues that are usually left behind when you leave Elementary School - "If you are her friend then I'm not talking to you. I thought I was your friend but you are talking to her who I don't like so we can't be friends". Use a dart board to determine are friends this week and enemies next and a matrix board so you can keep up with their relationships with the others.

Valmoore334
Valmoore334

Alexis, you're my favorite. Heather may think she's classy but she's nothing more than condescending. Educated? I'd love to see where she went to school. I really feel like she's actually the opposite of what she tries so hard to be. I am really not seeing the sophistication in her. Either way, you just keep being the bigger person. I see a lot of negative comments people are leaving her.

Craig Daniel
Craig Daniel

How can any of you think you have busy lives! You say that you have 2 children and your husband works............you have a nanny and any time your children cries your husband palms them off to the nanny. You have no idea what hard work is!

LfromBAMA
LfromBAMA

I was taught never speak of money matters whether your rich or poor (we were the latter).Don't talk about salaries,car purchases,house payments,what you owe,nothing financial to friends or relatives.Not classy.Heather should not have said questioned your rental situation nor you should discuss or explain.From what I observed,Heather appears to try to give the impression that shes from old money,refined and educated accordingly,(and she may be,I dont know)but discussing financial matters is no indication of such refinement.You are more verbally honest about everything.Honesty does not mean you have to enclose any information about your family issues.

ilcntrygrl
ilcntrygrl

I am liking you better all the time. I like that you have work to call your own. I had liked Vicky in the earlier seasons, but she has been not too nice during her divorce and concerns over her daughters health. I see a softer side coming back, and I think the two of you could be good for each other. Heather has it out for you. Jealousy, I believe. If I were you I would stay as far away from she and Tamra as possible. The two of them are mean. Tamra kept accusing Vicky of being jealous over her being friends with Gretchen. It was obvious to me that she was just surprised given that Tamra has spent the last two years on the verbal attack against Gretchen. Tamra is poison and seems to bring out the mean and gossip out of anyone she hangs around with. The worst gossip I have seen in my life. Your nose looks great, no one's business if you rent. Keep gaining confidence it looks good on you!

Wonderland
Wonderland

You seem so insecure. I think you need to have the 'I don't care what you think' attitude that everyone else has with you. They don't have much respect for you on this show - be it real or fake but at the end of the day its your name. Perhaps they are threatened or jealous. Either way your tude needs to change. You need to just ignore it.

piperoni
piperoni

alexis the viewer that said quit talking about Missouri.you can talk about if you want.you are in california now.but you are a sweet mid-weastern girl.it shows and you are not ashammed to say your from M.O or you ware a fake ring.or you rent.i would say that is owning it and being humble.why would you be ashammed.you are the least fake housewive of all.i remember some other seasons on housewives when some were ragging on you because you and jim were buying different homes.you both had said you were going to rent this year.big deal heather is so into your bussiness and she is not your friend.her loss.she should of stayed home.i am like vicki that was my fav.show so far this season.i think it was number 10.and heard there is about 11 more shows.then there will be reunion shows 2 or 3.then maybe lost footage show.i think when oc started the seasons were shorter.the seasons get better with you on.but if you get another offer you have to do what you feel best.gh soon good luck.bravo print for lexie please.thank you

OCAlly
OCAlly

It's literally painful to watch you. I actually get embarrassed by the things you say and do. You're so insecure, you seem to constantly brag about anything and everything to make yourself look better to the ladies. Just find yourself and be her. Life is not a competition. So stop it! It's ridiculous! Heather is a bright lady. Why should she play dumb to be liked by you or anyone else. She has more self confidence then anyone on any of the housewives shows. I love her. Very real person. And Terry is a hoot!

DignifiedAddict;)
DignifiedAddict;)

I like you, Alexis. While we may be polar opposites, I find it refreshing in you being you. I ABHORE the attitudes and behaviors of THE OTHER WOMEN on the show WHO JUDGE YOU, and that's what they do, JUDGE and disrespect you. They are an embarrassment to themselves. STAY ABOVE THE FRAY!!

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

Alexis, You are young and doing your best. Heather is jumping on Tamra's "MEAN GIRL" bandwagon. Don't let it get to you.

Hold your head up high! She has nothing over you!

Frankly Alexis,
Frankly Alexis,

Alexis, I must admit I am coming around to you. You are very kind, goofy, funny, loving and extremely naive.Some of the things you are absolutely don't make sense, but now, seeing you this week, I don't feel you say them to confuse anyone, you just say them. You are competitive but who wouldn't be with these broads, man. Who are we to judge your relationship with Jim, your house renting or your fake diamond wearing, honestly who cares. You are not a mean spirited person, you really are a nice girl and I'm sorry for misjudging you. You are definitely a goofball, and you trust the untrustworthy, but that doesn't make you anything but nice, funny, goofy, etc. Your relationship with your husband is yours and we should all mind our own business. You have a relationship with God, and that is commendable, most people don't admit it. Heather is also a good girl, she's just mislead and needs to feel like she fits in, don't judge her too harshly, pray for her instead.

I will take your advice to be nice to the not so nice, they need it more.

capegirl
capegirl

How can people say that Heather is not rude to you? Starting with her jabs about your job at the TV station in the first episode to making jabs at the campfire - you are right - she is not humble or appealing at all. Her comment about not having her pillowcase that doesn't cause lines on her face was just too much. Stay above the fray and don't let her get to you. She's only tolerated because of who she is married to and how much money she has.

Meredith75
Meredith75

Your a sweetheart!!! loved your generosity to all the gals at the camping trip, it shows how thoughtful you are. I have found you to be the most fair and kindhearted of all the ladies..you give everybody a chance and don't listen to gossip to make your judgements..Good for you!! xx

JulieV
JulieV

Alexis, I loved the scarves you gave the girls. They were cute and really a nice gesture. Would you mind sharing where you got them from? Thanks! Good luck with everything!

Jennifer Haworth
Jennifer Haworth

Ironically, everything that Alexis dislikes about anyone else is exactly what she does and how she behaves. Heather happens to be educated and just because she does not talk like the simpleton, you are...does not mean she is being snobbish. She has not tried to be pretentious, one time. I think this is the end for me and it has nothing to do with hating. I just cannot watch this show anymore, while I hear the idiocy that comes out of this so called christian mouth. Being a good christian is not constantly judging everyone else and putting them down, thinking you do it cleverly, when really you don't. I do not feel sorry for you, but you are not rich and you are not well educated and you are not humble, so stop playing.

Nashville Viewer
Nashville Viewer

Thanks for defining what a "blog" is for all of us lowly people who didn't know...If you don't want people to read and comment maybe it would be best if you weren't on a TELEVISION show!!!

ladyladyindc
ladyladyindc

Alexis, I'm sorry but I don't think you have the personality to host your own show. I watched your full fox 5 interview and while it wasn't the worst I've ever seen, you come across a little phony. I don't think you see how you come across on the show, edited or not. When you spoke about the cars your husband has it seemed that you were trying to show off a little and make sure she knew just how much money you have..a lot of what you say comes off that way. You seem very defensive a lot of the time..for example, when Heather was talking about getting your rings appraised you jumped in and said something like "Oh we do trust me"..you didn't need to talk over her to defend yourself, you could have just listened which you never seem to do in conversations. You always seem like your thinking of the next thing to say to make yourself seem posh and important. I wish you could see that maybe you seem defensive all the time because your husband controls a lot of what you say or do. At dinner you were defensive in the way you took a bite of bread but didn't dare say out loud how agitated you were. In time I think you and he will split up..him using the Bible against you will get old over time. Once you grow up a little more and find yourself, his ways will wear you out. You are worth more than the way you look and what you do to take care of your children and house..but he doesn't want to let you realize that. I've been in this type of relationship and realized over time how exhausting it was to always manage who I am for the sake of someone else and their needs. Get some therapy and let all of your feelings and anger out..it will be the best thing you can do.

Rachel from Cali
Rachel from Cali

Alexis, I have to say... I love Heather.. You are a very sensitive person. You don't like anyone to tell you anything and that's understandable but its a double standard when you have something to say about everything everyone else does and don't like to hear anything about or for yourself. A few episodes ago you were saying how Heather shouldn't have taken a Helicopter. The truth is that she really is rich so I think she can take a Helicopter if she wants to. Many people might say that this "glamping" trip is also a waste of money. Why pay so much money if you didn't even do any of the stuff people do when they go camping?! You wanted to order a pizza for crying out loud. I think Heather is the smartest and the most educated, definitely the classiest and I love how noone brings her down no matter what. She has kept her composure throughout the season and you were always attacking her and she was confused by you but she didn't give you much importance and I love her for that cause I think that's the way your suppose to act when someone is rude to you. I mean you can't please everyone and she has done nothing to you so this feud you have with her has nothing to do with anything that she's done, this is all just your problems that you have in your head and your not thinking clearly. I don't think she's done one thing wrong to you. Good luck at the reunion by the way... I think she's gonna eat you alive. Theyre going to have a clip of all the crap you say and all your childish behavior and she's just going to laugh at you.... but hey, your doing it to yourself with your attitude and your big head. I can just imagine her not really caring about anything that youve said. Being offended of course but she won't be too angry and you can bet that she won't lose control. Heather is my favorite:)

LibbyOC333
LibbyOC333

I live here in the OC and I NEVER thought I would write in but MY GOD, FINALLY Heather showed up. Finally, someone smart and a good representative of the OC. We all figured they only cast the train wrecks for good television. YAlexis receives glowing comments because she says "Jesus" out loud. I love that she does that because I am christian but PEOPLE: Alexis is not a good represenation of Christians. Just because you WANT her to be, doesn't make it so. She's actually hurting our image and when you all write in to defend her, you make people actually believe christians ARE like her---pretentious, fake, preachy and worst of all hypocrites. Alexis covets all of the women. She covets and is jealous so bad she can't conjugate a verb. Alexis doesn't listen,,,EVER. She has an agenda of what she wants to say (preach) and doesn't listen to the conversation she is having, so her retorts are off the mark and STUPID. She will never have a career on television (journalism) because of this. LOL, we all saw how that turned out (fox5) and it's WORSE without the editing. We watch her each week and CRINGE. Alexis is so jealous of Heather she's almost patalyzed in adult conversations. How anyone could say Alexis is jealous of Heather-uhhh, HU? Heather is rich, beautiful, smart, clever, funny and has a wonderful relationship with her husband. They spar in conversations and it's very entertaining. Alexis and her goofball are embarassing. Alexis is beautiful, I'll give her that but as soon as she speaks it vanishes quickly. Christians need to take their blinders off with Alexis. She is so insecure and pitiful, it actually hurts to watch. GO HEATHER!

GA Viewer
GA Viewer

I really enjoy following you on the show and I think Heather is really catty. She has no reason to dislike you or think that she is better than you. She was briefed by Tamara on who to like/not like and it is obvious that she took her advice before ever even meeting you.

Black Jack
Black Jack

The sweatsuit is from Nordstrom. I have it in black. I think the brand is Beach Bunny.

OCobsessed
OCobsessed

The campfire scene is a good example of a part of your character I think that you can work on. Just listen. I've noticed now, scene after scene, that when someone begins to question you about a subject that you are uncomfortable with you automatically get defensive. You start talking very fast, defending your husband, and giving too much information. I think that ultimately you are a bit insecure about that specific subject also and afraid that if someone sees the truth they will judge you or make harsh accusations.

I understand this because I've done that too. This is what I think that you should really work on and consider doing. Just give a firm answer and stick with that. You don't need to over explain anything or come across at defensive. Just simply (and kindly, without a trace of attitude) say "Yes, we are renting. That is what works for us right now and we are happy with it." Period, done. And then just stare at them confidentally. It works. I'm telling you.

Sabrina21
Sabrina21

Alexis, I think it's important that you re-watch the last episode. Especially the blowdryer scene. You were clearly talking over top of the ladies when they were discussing the blowdryer and outlets. It was very clear that Heather did not hear a word you were saying until the very end of your sentence, and I do not think she fully realized you were talking to her and Vicky. I think that she turned, heard the tail end of what you were saying, looked confused, and simply nodded. She didn't brush you off all posh like.

Andrea Kay
Andrea Kay

Okay Alexis I really like you. What bugs me about you though is that you continue to act like you are better then everyone. Oh your husband know this oh you have so many kids and are always so busy blah blah blah. We get it your busy you don't have to tell us every week because we know! But I loved your hair in this episode and the idea to glamp was a good choice on your part!

Sabrina21
Sabrina21

A good way to ignore constructive criticism another woman gives you about your character? Always, always claim that the other person is insanely jealous. Therefore relieving yourself of any accountability.

The problem is, a lot of times the woman in question was completely right in her critics and something that a lot of other people have clearly observed about you too. And had you listened, you could have made some completely necessary adjustments to your character.

But no...."she's just jealous" is a lot easier pill to swallow.

Emma K.
Emma K.

Hey Alexis,

I really do appreciate and admire your generous disposition. You seem like a very kind woman and that's wonderful to see. As for Heather, based off of what I saw I don't think she has a malicious intent, nor do I think she was trying to be your financial planner. That area is just something she has had some experience in and she was trying to connect with you via said experience by sharing some advice. I do that sort of thing all the time. Just take a deep breath and listen to what she is saying. You don't have to follow everything, but you don't have to be so dismissive either. None of us are perfect. I think you are swell and I'm looking forward to what happens next!

Janet G.
Janet G.

I can't seem to understand why it is an issue to rent a freaking house people? Do you realize that there are so many people putting in offers on houses that are priced low, thus driving it up a little. Maybe they just want to get the right house at the right price this time. Also, there is a benefit to renting a home...IF SOMETHING BREAKS, THE LANDLORD/OWNER IS RESPONSIBLE FOR FIXING...You don't pay for the maintenance on the property. There are multiple reasons for renting and in this economy it isn't a surprise that people are renting. Heather needs to mind her business about that especially since she barely knows (or likes) Alexis. I think Alexis is smart to not wear her wedding ring (REAL ONE). I don't understand how wealthy people (not celebrities as they usually have some sort of security detail nearby i'm sure) see its okay to be out and about in public with a 10Carat Diamond ring on their finger...that is asking for trouble. I applaud Alexis for feeling comfortable enough with fake jewelry to wear that and keep the real expensive ring in a safe for safekeeping. I'm sure she wears it out for special occasions. Enjoy you most of the time Alexis!!! Like all other housewives, you have your WTF moments, but thats okay!

Carolyn L
Carolyn L

Hey Alexis, LOL @ shut my brain off and have fun or something like that you and your assistant start dancing in the car. that's the person I want to see more often.

Mayte Rodriguez
Mayte Rodriguez

Alexis, I have to say, your nose came out great! It was subtle enough that it was obvious, yet it looks wonderful!! I hope you are breathing better too!!

Viewersacb bmd
Viewersacb bmd

"All of you are off your rockers" How true and how perfectly said!

OMG12
OMG12

Alexis, you are probably the ONLY housewife who tries to get along with everyone and tries to stay out of the mix of things...BRAVO to you! Heather has issues with you because Tamra planted a seed in her head about you and continues to water that seed. Heather is no dummy but Tamra has a way of tangeling people in her webb that they lose more than a few brain cells and common sense. Dont let them get you down or take their snide remarks to heart, consider the source and go about your business.

pilot85001
pilot85001

Great job Alexis...you finally grew a set!

Roy Roy
Roy Roy

Alexis, I liked when you first appeared on the show. You were subservient to Jim, didn't talk back or raise your voice to him. Every way a good wife should be. You have changed and not for the better

Mommyl
Mommyl

You should be very careful with Vicki. While the first thing you noticed about her conversation with Tamra was that Tamra appeared jealous, the rest of us noticed something else. We noted how mean Vicki was to her best friend about the state of her small "titties". What kind of a friend says something like that? It is typical Vicki trying to lash out because SHE is jealous. You already have enough negative karma with your caveman of a husband. I would stay clear.

1687
1687

I agree with Show-Me Gal lol...please stop saying you're from Missouri, it's kind of embarassing for the women that live here..

BravoOCfan
BravoOCfan

I want to know were Alexsis bought that cute white sweatsuit she wore camping???? I soooo love it! And want one for myself! Please email me the store!

trixie123
trixie123

Why does everyone keep insisting that Heather is jealous of Alexis? Heather is married to a very successful plastic surgeon so we know where her money comes from. There's nothing suspicious about it. Heather's husband is sweet and funny and not controlling. If you are refering to looks. How do you think Alexis got to look like she does...oh yea, a plastic surgeon. The irony of it all!