Of course, this wouldn't be a "closing blog" for me without mentioning the infamous Costa Rica "Intervention." I really did take to heart what each of those women said to me that night. I am a person that wants to fix my faults.
Now, months later, my memories of that night remind me of a bunch of alcoholics sitting around telling their drunken friend that she is an alcoholic, with no disrespect to alcoholics. My point is every single thing these women tried to accuse me of are behaviors they each engage in at least as much as I do if not more. I went home broken and wanting to fix whatever had happened there. Yet after watching the season play out, I really don't think there is anything I could do to have these women accept me for me.
One example, I was ridiculed for leaving Costa Rica early, then I was ridiculed for showing up to the final party happy. All I'm trying to say is I was darned if I did. . .and darned if I didn't. To be completely honest, I don't think I want these women to accept me. We just aren't wired the same way, and maybe that is something about me I did not see before because I was working so hard to fit in where I did not. I could fight each of these women and win, but in order to win I would have to change who I am, and I will not sacrifice my integrity or hurt them to gain my own prize. "What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?" I'm definitely nowhere near perfect, but I find it easier to look in the mirror knowing I may have bragged a little too much than to look and see someone who is intentionally hurting others for gain, for fun, for money, or for attention. I am real, and I know it, so there's no need at this point for me to solicit the opinions of others. . .I'm Mr. Nice Guy and I'm proud of that.
You were in the right all the way and even if we dont call it bulling you can call it ganging up for sure. Sorry they are being such mean girls. Hang in there and pray for guideness and strengh and pray for those who need it.
you are a sweet woman who doesn't calculate what you say or why you are saying it- those other awful women see that you don't have a mean bone in your body so they jump on it. you aren't fake and prettentious, you really are just being you-you trust your husband to make some financial decisions and go lead your life adn raise your kids, you aren't ruining people's lives like these women do.
Alexis those girls are picking on you. I sure was disappointment last year that they gang up on you and they are doing it now. I hope you find can get over this - tell them about hat the bible says that out of your mouth thing come out and God does not like it. Those 3 girls do not see it and I wish the would. Wish you and the three girls get help. I love you got God in your live. The girls needs help. They should accept you guys because they knew you were coming. Why could they just let it go? I will pray for you and it is bully. All three of them makes me sick Tam thinks she is God gift to God. She used to be nice but some came over her once she and Heather and Gretchen became friends. I wish thing can be drop or go and see if the courts can settle all this. I do not agree with previous blog-Diane69802.. That Tam she is mean and need help
Alexis, I am so sorry that you were treated so poorly at Tamara's party. Shame on Heather! I thought she was better than that but I was wrong. Just because you act sophisticated doesnt mean you are. As for Gretchen, I really liked her on all seasons EXEPT for this season. She has come off like a total mean girl. She's a very beautiful girl but looks ugly with her new personality. Shes been hanging around Tamara too much. If these ladies would spend more time with their families instead of fighting and arguing about the most sillyest things I think they
wouldnt have time to be MEAN GIRLS! Tamara has been mean to Gretchen, Vicki and Alexis.
Just give her time to go after Heather and the new girl. Three times a charm Tamara. Hopefully it works out this time for her. All I can say is continue to pray for Gods peace and stay away from the people who you dont need in your life.
Blessings, Liz V.
Alexis, last season YOU were the mean girl. Don't say it was different in Costa Rica, it wasn't...or just because you were the one on the receiving end of the criticism this time? Grow up and stop behaving like a child. Gretchen told you on the plane that they were planning an intervention or talk of some sort, so stop acting like you were blindsided....like you did to Vicki. I am surprised that Vicki is befriending you as well but then again she has no one else either so you two can have each other. You were the rude and mean girl last season so stop with the victim role, you were mean to the girls, the production crew, and yes even the sales people at Nordstrom. You thought you were all that...you weren't and aren't.
God bless you, no person should have treated that way. I expected that behavior for Tamara or Gretchen, they don't know any better. Tamara has a lot of anger and Gretchen is frustrated because she is with someone that can not be her sugar daddy. However, heather should not better. Sooner or later, what goes around comes around, it might not be now but it will happen. You behaved like a lady. I am very proud of you! God bless U
They have started being mean girls already this season. I did not like the way you were treated last season, especially by Gretchen. I think she was influenced by Heather and Tamara. When she gave you warning about what was going to happen at dinner, I was taken back. If she was going to tell about that, then she should have just talk to you in private. Keep your head up, ignore the mean girls.
Muffie239 How true. Who was there a thousand percent for Gretchen when she needed someone...
Why do you need to run everything through the ME filter? Each time you get close to saying something of substance, you cancel everything by going back to your original gripe. It really turns my stomach when you stand on the Bible and spout platitudes while your boobs are falling out of your dress. Maybe you should try a little Christian humility.
I love the new you. So happy you cut off those dreadful hair extensions.You have gorgeous hair. I have long lustrous hair. All it takes is time to let it grow. Hair extensions look so fake and they can destroy hair. You're a stunning woman.Youre younger and hotter than Tamera, I thinks she's jealous. Tamera has no morals or values. The show went straight to her head. She dumped her loving husband, one day it's going to bite her in the butt. I loathed the way you were treated last year. Tamera was a straight up bully. I don't like the way they criticize your Christianity. You're relationship with God is none of their business.Stay true to yourself. You have a loving, protective husband. You have a beautiful family. You're blessed . I love how you have never taken it for granted.
Alexis, Alexis- I cannot hold back any longer- You absolutely have been "Bullied" or what ever other terms you may call it- You did not deserve to be treataed so unfairly- But, do't hesitate to exzpress your strength- "In quietness and confidence" shall be your strength. Forget the 50/50- sounds like a need to appease the proper political point of view- It does not work in our Christian culture- Go back to your roots, the scriptures, your faith- and begin again.
Your husband showed great strength and was amazing, to leave what was indeed an ambush. What happened- THEY turned on each other- to no avail. AND, finally you followed- Perhaps you might consider doing that more often.-
I admire your struggle and your desire to reach out and connect with everyone-
She was Bullied,Heather and Tamra were not her friends.Gretchen was sopose to stand beside her,like Lex always did for she and slade!
Lynz27 I respectfully disagree with your statement about forgetting the 50/50....I don't believe God would want women to have men have power and authority over them. That's not the husband's job. God doesn't want us to be bossed around. GOD bless
Stay strong Alexis. Ihope you will move on and not rehash the drama of last season. it's not worth it and will only take you back to sad time. Be happy - you have a great life. Be the bigger person and let it go. I hope that you and Gretechen can fix things between you - I know you both feel hurt by the things that you have both said iat a stressful time. YES she owes you an apology. But, you said you are healed well then accept that as your trueth and try to move on with her. A suggestion - do it in private - just the two of you. You and Jim look great! Congrats on your new home. Are you going to have it blessed? i'm sure you are excited about decorating it - it will be fun to see how your home turns out on the show.
LOL - I thought there were too many sculptures in that room with the piano - could'nt there just be one? Sorry just a comment. I like your haircut - not so much the blond streaks though - think your natural haircolor is beautiiful...again just a comment. Good luck with everything - stay clam and positive and nice.
Can't believe your buddy Gretchen threw you under the bus. You were most definetly bullied. Shame on her and the rest of the women.
By the way..I love your new hairdo.
Stay strong, they use their numbers against you because thats the only way they matter.....to each other. Everyone else see how fake they are. Fake things do not last, their friendship will only keep going the more they get to you. Stay strong.
Alexis what the mean girls showed you in Costa Rica was disgusting bullying behaviour. Tamra is the original mean girl and anyone who associates with this toxic person becomes toxic as well. At least your a loyal friend - you dont need Gretchen as a friend, you did nothing but support and have Gretchen's back when she needed you, whilst being on the receiveing end of Tamra's toxicity......now turncoat Gretchen has been tarred with the toxic brush, I dont like her anymore. At least your over the hurt these mean girls inflicted purposely on you, and can move on. Family is everything so good on you supporting your husband and vice versa.
New blogs not up yet.You Alexis and Jim were the best part of the season 8 opening.Your hair so cute and Luv the blue dress! Vicki she looks youthful!
Whatever you choose to do, I wish you the best. Whether you leave or not, one thing you really need to do is take complete responsibility for your own Meshugeh. We all do. Here is something to consider. There is high self-esteem, which means someone has a high opinion of one's self but it is not necessarily based on what's real. Good self-esteem on the other hand, is the healthy kind. It's not filled with negativity. In this entire group of woman (except for Lydia who has not yet been introduced), I would venture to say that high self-esteem rules. People with good self-esteem are not often roaming in the negativity realm. So often on this show women are feuding over things that are seemingly, none of their business. Please don't misunderstand. You are a lovely woman and most likely a great mom and wife, but, it would do you well to rally take a good long look at yourself over the years (as you are portrayed on the show). You may not be what the others say about you, but, you need to understand, sometimes they are calling out what they are seeing from you. Arguing with them is not really working. Unfortunately, this crowd tends to gang up on one another. It's funny how they eventually have all turned on each other at some point in time. Pretty ugly. People with good self-esteem are doing that. They're not talking behind someone's back in groups. People with good self-esteem are not going to spend too much time reliving the drama in their lives. Best of luck on all of your ventures.
I'm so sorry for the way Gretchen, heather, and Tamara treated you. I don't understand why they are so nasty to or about you. It would be one thing if you had done something horrible, but to see grown women be mean just because you're not their cup of tea doesn't sit well with me.
It really bothers me that you are trying to use the word 'bullying' to explain your experience with the women, what you experienced was NOT bullying by definition. Was it uncomfortable and probably hurtful? ABSOLUTELY!! Could each of them have talked with you about it individually? Absolutely!! But sometimes when people share with us their perceptions of how we come across it can be hurtful...no one 'likes' to have people point out their flaws, and your are no different than the rest of us...we all have flaws! However, having the ability to truly reflect on what people say about you, especially when several people have the same perception is most definitely not easy, but NECESSARY for growth in life!
ZenJen21 They did bully you Alexis. Their intention did not come from a good place whatsoever. These women dont like you or care for you! Their intention was to humiliate you and that is not ok! Its called bullying!!!! Anyone that says different are people who are insensitive and probably were bullies themselves in the past or even present!!!!
@Yali ...It's perfectly ok that we have different opinions about what bullying is, you are entitled to your opinion as am I. Unfortunately my post cut off as I had made the point that the conversation between the women should have been done individually and would likely have been received better, however, it is still not easy for people to hear negative things about themselves. I work with special needs kids, and my perception of bullying is much different and much more serious, so watching grown women just call each other out for things they don't like about each other to me just isn't bullying. Be careful of implying that anyone who doesn't see your point is insensitive or a bully, because that isn't being any less judge mental than those women!
Yali ZenJen21 Of course what they did and continue to do is bullying, there is intent, they just dont let up. they are horrible and mean, and you've done nothing to deserve the treatment.
ZenJen21 Even Lydia tried to tell you that you were not bullied and stop using that word! You could get up and walk out at any time .....bullies as they are intended to be called coral the victims in a place they know they cannot leave....like school or other isolated places. It infuriates me that you are putting yourself in that same group. You are an adult, if you don't like the conversation then you can LEAVE!
Alexis I freakin love you!!! Don't miss Gretchen, she was a fair weather friend! And I think she has a problem with lying!!!
NO,Do not leave the show.You are confident and funny and loyal.Do not let those ladys scare you away.Things look like they are changing again.I new Gretchen and Tamra were foe friends.You and Vicki and Lydia have fun! glad jim is on.Tamra i hope is kinder this season.Lauri back some.Heather hope by the mid-to end of season. she is not so judgementel. looks like she starts off the same way as last season.Gretchen she really did you wrong.Watch your back,You are a smart girl.
Hey Alexis I agree, Tamra and Gretchen ganged up on you, who are they to even talk. Tamra is a mean girl and influencing Gretchen. Alexis, you have bragged too much so pull that back some girl. You are beautiful and everyone knows it. Most women do not like a beautiful woman, they feel threatened. I've lived it all my life. So you have to be super sweet to people for them to like you and if they don't by then, screw 'em! Your husband seems to have your best interest at heart. Who needs a weak man? Trying to like him but didn't like the fact he left you at Heather's party. Good luck
I like Jim.They were ambushing him.I would not of wanted my husband to sit through that.Lex, caught him it was ok.She is super sweet.They all have bragged about stuff.I think she is the most loyal.I am watching for her.Gretchen is Nieve.She was never a fav of mine.What she did to Alexis,Jim and Lex always had her and slades back in the past.NOT COOL Gretchen!
Alexis, just leave the show. You dragged that awful drunk girl to Heather's party and the bowling thing and she was just rude and low life. Now this new girl is your friend...it will not work either is my guess. Sorry girlie, you just don't fit with this group.
Alexis did not go to the bowling party.And Bravo ask sara to go to the party were things could be stired up.When Gretchen had no friends season 5. Lex was the only one behind her.By mid-season Lex will shine and Gretchen and Tamra are already fighting again after filming.You watch thing will be much different.Alexis and Vicki in new interview this morning in LA.I think by the end of the season Tamra and Heather will even know how nice and loyal lex is.
4145rose They were all invited!! It was the end of the season party! Heather just happen to have it at her house!! That was already cleared up at the reunion....
4145rose First of all Sarah is GRETCHEN"S friend!!!!!!! Lex came with Sarah because Bravo insist everyone has to have camera time for the last show!!!! Lex is doing great and deserves to be on for the simple reason that she wont cower to her bullies!!! You go Lex! !!!!!!
Soooooooo glad you are coming back, but I am just dreading that filthy mouthed tamra. Ugh, she makes me cringe. I hope all is well for you and you are spending time with good and real friends. I felt so badly watching you get bullied last season. I'm happy to know that you're strong faith carries you through. All the best to you and your family:)
Tamra keeps saying that Alexis did the same thing to Vicki, but she didn't!! Alexis called Vicki out on what she had SAID to her. You have EVERY right to tell someone, "Hey I don't like the way you speak to me and here are some of the things you've said...."
It's a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT TONE when you beat someone over the head about what you don't like about their personality. No two people are ever the same and we have to accept that. They are the epitome of bullies because bullies tear other people down to make themselves feel better. Who cares if Alexis and her husband decide to rent a house instead of buying one or like to buy fancy things?!?!? That's THEIR PREROGATIVE!
Alexis, I used to like you but these last two seasons you've just come across as this pretentious, jealous, fake, spoiled little girl that uses her faith as a crutch, or so you say. I myself, am a Christian, and it irritates me to no end the way you SAY you're a Christian, you SAY you believe, but yet it doesn't seem real. You talk about it all the time but it doesn't seem genuine. It seems like a show in attempt to make viewers like you.
I love Alexis - and understand that although she is not perfect...she is sweet and I believe she has a good heart. I also think that with time she will grow to be an amazing woman.
I have watched the reunion and once again, felt as if Alexis was ganged up on. Heather was so freaking mean to Alexis… “If everyone says you’re dead, it’s time to lie down.” I don’t know what Heather’s problem is but she needs to stop bullying. Gretchen really changed towards Alexis; hate to say it, but I think Tamra negatively influenced Gretchen to be a mean girl. About the Fox 5 job, Gretchen should have kept her mouth shut about the whole situation, especially when she said that the producers thought Alexis was doing a bad job. If that were the case, the producers should have spoken privately to her and offered advice on improvement. Gretchen was so nasty to Alexis during that segment. Is Gretchen that jealous of Alexis? Grow up, girl!!!! And if Gretchen was such a good friend and had suspicions about Alexis being phony, shouldn’t she have spoken with Alexis early on in the friendship? I seriously wanted to rip off the smug look that Gretchen and Tamra gave Alexis after they found out Alexis wasn’t working for Fox 5. But the ultimate in disrespect was Tamra saying “Jesus Jugs”. I sincerely hope Tamra was reprimanded for her comments. Yes, it is insulting to people who believe in God. This is the Man who died on the Cross for all of humanity; He deserves a little more respect than having his name being associating with a woman’s body part. That being said, Alexis wasn’t perfect. She did mention flying on a private jet. In all honesty, she could have just said, “Vicki and I were flying together.” And if she wanted people to believe that she was nice to the crew, she should have nicely and respectfully asked for her emails. Nevertheless, I felt Alexis was gracious, kind, cool, and calm, which proves how strong she is.
I don’t agree with how Jim treated Alexis at Heather’s party. Yes, I thought it was super cute how Jim surprised Alexis. However, Jim was very disrespectful towards Alexis by saying, “Do you wear the pants?” If my husband said that, I’d smile and say, “Talk to me like that again, I will kick you in your pants.” Not cool. And what was even more uncool was how Jim walked out and ditched Alexis. A real man would have found his wife, pulled her to the side, and said, “Sweetie, I’m gonna go. I want you to stay and have fun and if you need a ride, call me.” That’s how you deal with it; you don’t have your wife run in the cold, in her heels to the car. As far as Terry calling Alexis “phony”, Alexis should have confronted him, not Jim. While I admire Jim for defending his wife, Alexis is a grown woman and needs to stand up for herself. Yes, a lunch would have been best with just Terry and Alexis and Heather and Jim, with Terry and Alexis doing the talking and Jim and Heather being supportive and chiming in when necessary. And it should have been done before the party, that way they move on and have a good time. And no interference from anyone else.
I felt that Alexis really developed some backbone and began standing up for herself. That started with how she handled Peggy’s confrontation at Vicki’s party. Do they need to talk? Yes. Are they both responsible for how their friendship turned out? Yes. Was Vicki’s party the place to do it? No! Alexis was right, it was late, everyone was drinking and having a private lunch would have been more appropriate. Did anyone notice that Alexis was in the car about to go home?
I do apologize for how long the post was but I had a lot to say. GOD bless
I am glad you are coming back. Hold your won against these women. I'm not watching because of Heather, Tamra, Vickie and Gretchen...lol
You should give it a try.I think by the end of the season.Alexis and Lydia will shine.Gretchen was not Loyal.Alexis,is a sweetheart,she always tweets back and is a very careing christian lady.
Hi Alexis, I have just finished watching season 7 here in Ireland. I was disgusted the way the 3 women treated you this season. I dont understand why these women think they have a right to talk down to you about your husband or choices that you make at the end of the day its your life and you do what makes you happy. I hope you come back stronger now that you know what you are dealing with as I have like you from day one. They had no right to speak to you about bragging cuz thats all they do they really should listen to themselves before they preach. What goes around comes around i wonder who they will bully next season. I love "buzz off" comment lol.
Alexis, I admire you and your outlook on life, it was horrible to watch how Tamra, Gretchen and Heather constantly tore at you and made you out to be the phony one when in all reality they are phony, fake and bullies. Keep defending your husband and family because that shows that your priority is your family, i admire the way you defend Jim. What is painfully obvious is that all the girls apart from Vicki have a tendency to be jealous, they do not have the relationship you have and its sad to see the envy that exists. Keep being true to yourself and don't lower yourself to Tamra's, Gretchen's and Heather's standards.
Hi hun, you are not my fav housewife but the way you were treated in Season 7 was HORRIBLE!! U are right about Gretchen, I think that unfortunately when Tamra gave her an olive branch, she took it and discovered that she actually had more fun with Tamra and that she didn't need you anymore :( Because the whole Fox 5 thing was VERY bitchy of her, not to support you and then to humiliate you during the reunion. She is not a real friend, you are well out. Plus as for Vicki, I'm sorry but I think she is only being friends with you because she has lost Tamra to Gretchen and as we know Vivki does change with the wind and cannot be trusted.... if I were you I would stick with Sarah and your make-up artist as they are REAL friends that are not with you because of convenience. Love from the UK x
I'm from the UK and watching season 7. I was appalled at the way Tamra and Heather treated Alexis in Costa Rica. This was premier league bullying of the worst kind plus a deal of immaturity. If you have a problem with someone, you deal with it one to one in private, and you certainly don't engage in a group attack. If you really want someone to change, then you are most effective when those words come with love. Last, as Vicky said, acceptance is the golden rule in friendship. Far better to be just who you are, warts and all, than an angry self righteous bully. I know who I'd like to share a train journey with!
Alexis, I just watched the reunion,, wow Grechin is a total turncoat! You stay true to who you are. You go girl!! Love Edinburgh, Scotland, UK.
Piperoni That would be my wish too but we both know that won't be happening! Will be looking forward to your responses to their blogs however! And there always is the Fast Forward button....