Cast Blog: #RHOC


Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"


Alexis reflects on the emotional reunion and looks towards a future where she's the boss.

Well, it's a bittersweet ending. That's really the only way to describe where I am. I know that everyone wants to hear from the heart, so that is exactly what I'm going to do in this final blog. . .speak from my heart. Please hang in there with me through this blog, since I'm wrapping both reunions into one. I hope I do not get too emotional, as I am using this blog for closure for myself as well.

First of all, I want to discuss my husband. I have watched him be berated, ridiculed, and mocked for three years. I have two words for these ladies: BUZZ OFF. My marriage does not rely on what any of these women have to say about Jim Bellino. He is my husband, my best friend, and I love and cherish him and I will stand beside him for better or worse, through thick and thin. Jim is so amazing to me; he is my support, he is my rock. I respect his mind, I respect who he is, and I respect what his heart is made up of. He is the best father I could ever imagine; he is so charitable, he is so giving, and he loves me to death. I don't know that any of these women have ever felt the kind of love Jim and I have for each other, otherwise they would honor the fact that he is my man and leave him alone. Jim is a M.A.N. (i.e. mensch as my Jewish therapist says he is in Yiddish). What I mean is, he walks the talk and I can always count on him to do what he says he will do because his word is his bond. He will always be the man in my relationship, and I have NO desire to be in that role. This is what works for us and I wouldn't have it any other way. I've been married once before, and I've had boyfriends in the past, and guess what I have learned? I will rule the relationship. I am a very strong individual and I need a man to be a smidge stronger than I am or I will steamroll him. Deep down, I don't want to run the whole show because I have learned it’s not good for either partner in a marriage to be in charge—hence the title “partners.” I want our relationship to be 50/50, I want someone who will tell me when I am out of line. I need a partner who is not scared of me. If this is difficult for some to understand, I have really good news for you—you don't have to understand it because it is what works for me, and if it doesn't work for anyone else, then that's OK. I am not defending or explaining myself; I'm simply stating the way it is. I have let it go all season with him being the punch line of jokes, and this is my way of releasing it. I have said my peace now about Jim Bellino. He is my husband, and he deserved the first paragraph of my blog because he sat back all season and let these women annihilate him on a weekly basis without any recourse.

Of course, this wouldn't be a "closing blog" for me without mentioning the infamous Costa Rica "Intervention." I really did take to heart what each of those women said to me that night. I am a person that wants to fix my faults.

Now, months later, my memories of that night remind me of a bunch of alcoholics sitting around telling their drunken friend that she is an alcoholic, with no disrespect to alcoholics. My point is every single thing these women tried to accuse me of are behaviors they each engage in at least as much as I do if not more. I went home broken and wanting to fix whatever had happened there. Yet after watching the season play out, I really don't think there is anything I could do to have these women accept me for me.

One example, I was ridiculed for leaving Costa Rica early, then I was ridiculed for showing up to the final party happy. All I'm trying to say is I was darned if I did. . .and darned if I didn't. To be completely honest, I don't think I want these women to accept me. We just aren't wired the same way, and maybe that is something about me I did not see before because I was working so hard to fit in where I did not. I could fight each of these women and win, but in order to win I would have to change who I am, and I will not sacrifice my integrity or hurt them to gain my own prize. "What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?" I'm definitely nowhere near perfect, but I find it easier to look in the mirror knowing I may have bragged a little too much than to look and see someone who is intentionally hurting others for gain, for fun, for money, or for attention. I am real, and I know it, so there's no need at this point for me to solicit the opinions of others. . .I'm Mr. Nice Guy and I'm proud of that.

Tamra made the comment that I bullied Vicki in San Francisco. NO, it was NOT the same as what happened to me in Costa Rica. There are major differences between the two. Costa Rica was premeditated. Both Heather and Tamra left the room with the very clear intention of calling me out, and it was with hate in their hearts that they came to that dinner. Tamra even muttered, "We'll just kill the bitch. . ." Who says that? Who even thinks to say that? What happened in San Francisco was very organic, and Vicki sat at the table and asked me why I was mad at her. When I tried to diffuse the situation, Vicki then said "Bring it on," so I had very little choice but to discuss it at that table with Vicki. I never wanted that conversation to happen at that moment with other women present, but I also won't back down when put in a corner. In San Francisco, the spur of the moment wound up in a conversation where Vicki asked for answers. . .In Costa Rica, I wasn't asking anyone for answers.

While we are on the topic of Tamra, I have to say: I can take all of her abuse towards me, and even towards my husband, but her abuse towards God is unacceptable. I have never heard someone talk the way she talks. She has no shame. Jesus Barbie was cute, but almost crossing the line -- I can take it in stride. Yet Jesus Jugs doesn't just cross the line, it catapults over it. That comment has offended Christians everywhere. How does she decorate her home in crosses yet make a remark like that without an ounce of guilt? Then she is promoting Jesus Jugs wine glasses her Facebook page? So now it's blasphemy along with defaming Jesus and monetizing on what He sacrificed for us. I would die for Him, and I am sticking my neck out here in honor of Him: Tamra needs to publicly apologize not just to Christians everywhere, but also to Jesus. He doesn't deserve to have negativity attached to His name just because I decided to do this show.

Let's move on to another important topic: Nordstrom and treating the crew badly. I am so deeply sorry if this has ever occurred. I have wracked my brain, and had many, many people come forward telling me they have never experienced me the way Heather described. I have asked the production crew about what she was talking about and all of them looked at me crazy and said they knew nothing about what she was talking about. I have also received phone calls, emails, and private messages on Facebook and Twitter from Nordstrom employees saying they have assisted me and do not stand by what Heather has accused me of. I also saw the blog from the publicist for Nordstrom saying they will not acknowledge it nor stand by those accusations. Now, with that said, I am still not naive enough to think there may not ever have been a day I was not the perfect shopper, and for that I apologize. But if these accusations were true, don't you think that production would have captured ONE second, just one second, of footage of me behaving that way in three years of being on TV?

I have seen Heather being mean to me all season. She tries to make amends with me in my hotel room after premeditating an "intervention" with me. I did actually want to accept her apology in my room the following day and move forward, and I actually thought we might. However, when the rest of the season played out, I saw how she still talked about me in her interviews and to Tamra following Costa Rica, and I couldn't just suddenly forget and move on. I was stand offish because I didn't trust her. I can be kind without being a friend to her. There was even a time when immediately after the night where Terry called me phony on national television, we ran into them at a restaurant here in town and they looked at Jim and I and said, "Come on, let bygones be bygones, come join us, life's too short. . ." You are darned right life is too short! It's too short to go sit at a dinner table with people who are talking smack behind my back on national television but then trying to be nice to my face. I think I smell a little phoniness there.

Heather talked about me non-stop all season long. Then she greets Jim and I with open arms at the party at her home, but moments before while getting ready with Terry she talks about how she'd toss us out if we so much as brought up Terry having called me phony. Then Terry himself is chomping at the bit to discuss the phony comment with Jim at the party. The two-faced actions and double standards are shocking and just plain crazy. And the gossip is endless. I have never in my life dealt with someone who will go to such extremes to try to be kind to my face, all the while calling me names and being so unkind behind my back. I have heard countless stories from friends and acquaintances about Heather's misconduct -- that she used a nasty tone, that she threw her drink on a server, returned food items repeatedly and deliberately to make sure they knew how important she was, spoke down to wait staff, even that she is the biggest gossip at the school. . .and the list goes on. She is projecting her knowledge of her own bad behavior onto me.

After the reunion, I apologized to Heather for my part in all of this mess, and I was hopeful we may actually move forward -- once again. But weeks later, the night the final party actually aired on television, she and Terry were on Twitter saying Jim wasn't invited to their party, when they darn good well knew that Terry had invited Jim. Plus, how would Jim get through their gate without one of them calling him through? This is just one more example of what I've had to deal with all year long. I cannot act like a friend to someone's face when I know someone is constantly demeaning me. I will not tolerate being treated this way anymore, nor will I back down when pushed far enough. It's time I stop being quiet about everything and letting people continue to walk all over me. Do I wish I had said all of this at the reunion? Yes, and I was expecting to do so. Yet I wasn't emotionally healed from Costa Rica at the reunion, so I was not quick on my feet. But guess what. . .I'm healed now.

As far as Gretchen and I, only time will tell, and I know that time can heal many wounds. But there are some things that occurred over this past season that are very deep, and still very much open and raw. To me, so much changed because Gretchen did make a choice when she befriended Tamra -- she wasn't forced by anyone to make a decision, nor was she placed in a scenario where she HAD to choose either Tamra or myself. I never put her in that place and I have several friends who don't get along. It's impossible to have it otherwise. But do I feel her behavior towards me changed? Absolutely. Perhaps it was Tamra, perhaps it was that Gretchen didn't need me anymore.

Gretchen never would have handled the Fox 5 incident or Costa Rica that way last year. If she loved me and wanted to tell me about Fox 5 out of concern like she says she did, then why didn't she come to me the MOMENT she found out I got the job with Fox 5 and show me the emails instead of waiting and doing it on the reunion? Yes, I do want honest friends, and if I have lettuce in my teeth, you better tell me or else. . .but be kind when you tell me and do it with love. I felt none of that from Gretchen this season.

As for Costa Rica, she has been my good friend for two and a half years, so why didn't she come to me sometime in those two-plus years and tell me I said things that bothered her instead of waiting and jumping on the bandwagon in Costa Rica? I'm a big girl, and can handle constructive criticism (whether it's on TV or not), but she had two and a half years to come to me and never did. I feel like she has spent enough time with Tamra now that her patterns, behaviors, outlooks, and opinions have changed. The person Gretchen really is has been lost to this new mean-girl version. I want my old friend back.

The Fox 5 issue is ridiculous. If you listen to what Gretchen and I each say on the reunion, what you will hear (if you really pay attention) is that I'm not making it a competition, she is. I admitted that the producer had offered Gretchen and I both one taping when I was a guest at their station showing my dress line TWO weeks after Gretchen had been a guest showing her makeup line. I'm very honest to say that they even told me at that point they wanted both of us to do a taping about the Del Mar Races on the same day. I said yes that will be so fun, because at that time we were friends and I had no idea I would get a segment from it. I showed up and did the taping, she declined it. After that taping, I was offered to come back for one more, so I excitedly went. After that taping, I was offered a weekly Friday segment, and I was elated! I have no problem if Fox 5 was offering Gretchen a position too, after all this is the showbiz! But once Gretchen came to my home and said they were SUPPOSEDLY still offering her the position, I demanded exclusivity, which Fox 5 didn't hesitate to give me, so they obviously didn't want her badly enough to shut that door. It’s really no more than that. But what MADE it dramatic was the way Gretchen told me she supposedly had been offered something first -- she capitalized on this foreshadowing event at the reunion.

Before closing, I feel it is important to thank Vicki for standing by me this season. I never would have thought that she and I would be where we are. In the past, when Vicki and I were not friends, there were three things I always said about her: she has a big heart, she is a good mom, and she is a great businesswoman. I am not claiming she is my best friend, and I am not claiming that she doesn't have faults, because we all do. I just know that this woman does not have a mean, malice heart. We definitely don't speak every day, but we do hang out, and we are good friends. After being shocked by other actions that have occurred this season, we are taking our friendship slowly, and truly getting to know one another. I feel bad for all the backlash she has gotten for loving Brooks, and I feel that we need to let her figure her own life out. Everyone has said their feelings about him, now realize that she is 50 years old, and she will make up her own mind. Enough is enough.

I also want to thank Dr. Niccole from for being such a reputable and respectable doctor, and for giving me the ability to breathe again! And my bumpless nose isn't too shabby either!!

With all the drama that has occurred this season, I would not change a thing. Nothing is as important as what I am walking away with from this past year: a loving and forgiving God, myself intact, my marriage intact, a new-found friend in Vicki, and an outlook on my career and businesses that is better than it ever has been. My new ringtone is "(Stronger) What Doesn't Kill You," because that is how I feel. I have learned so much about myself and what I can change for the better. I AM stronger now than ever before. I believe my kids will grow up and be proud of how their mother handled all of the situations that were thrown at me, and that is all that truly matters (obviously not for 14 more years because if it's in my power they will not see this show til they are 20! LOL). I kept my dignity and my values, and I will work every day to be a better person.

I am so incredibly grateful for all the fans who have been so kind and supportive this season. You guys have done something for me emotionally that I am not sure you will ever fully understand. It’s been moving beyond words to hear from you, and my gratitude is endless. I adore each and every one of you. I will keep in contact through Facebook and Twitter, as I feel you all are why I am here. I may not know what the future holds, but I know WHO holds the future.

Forever Grateful,

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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