This does not mean I condone what Sarah did to Heather's cake. I was appalled that she touched the cake! It is absolutely unacceptable, and I told Sarah that. My only goal once I discovered that Sarah ate the bow was to put the fire out immediately because Heather had spent all this time and money on an exquisite evening, and it didn't need to be ruined by Sarah's behavior. In my opinion, Heather should have pulled Sarah aside (not Tamra and Vicki) and told Sarah that her behavior was unacceptable, and that she needed to excuse herself from the party. End of story. I don't agree with what Sarah did, but the reaction to her bad behavior was as badly planned as the action that caused it.
I was so happy when Jim surprised me! It's never fun to be away from him. Yet, I respect his choices just as he respects mine. I don't want him to be somewhere that he truly doesn't want to be. Later, when I asked him why he decided to come, he said because after all I had been through with this group of women, he wanted to surprise me and remind me what life is really about. That coupled with the fact that Terry had sent him a text saying come to the party, Jim thought that Terry meant a night of no confrontation (YES, Terry invited Jim personally to the party. . .Jim did not crash it). If you watch the scene, Jim asked Terry to a man-to-man lunch. But Terry was pressuring Jim so much to talk that night (because he knew Heather and Tamra were there to have his back.)