Needless to say, my heart sank when Jim walked out. Jim's intention for coming to the party was not to talk to Terry about him calling me phony, and Jim was actually confused when Terry asked him to go talk. Obviously I wished I kept my mouth shut, but there is a lot that you don't see, so just know that it I thought, the sooner they talk, the sooner it will be over, and we can all move on. This is one time I wish Jim would not have listened to me (and you'll never hear me say that one again!) They really should have talked man-to-man, alone, and without the interference from any wives, friends, or a party! I don't blame Jim for walking out, I would have done the same thing had I been ambushed the way he was. What is so interesting to me, after watching the finale, is every single time you see Terry or Heather, they say something mean or under-handed about Jim or myself, yet in front of us, it's all hugs and kisses, and "so glad you could make it." Yet, I'm the phony one.
I'm so sad for where things stand with Gretchen right now, and I would have thought the sun turned to ice before she and I were in this place. I don't think Gretchen chose Tamra over me, but I do think Gretchen and I would still be friends if she and Tamra were not. There were so many instances that occurred throughout the season where Gretchen did not act as a true friend to me. I don't think anything that happened between Gretchen and I was malicious, or that it was all even conscious, but none of that takes away from the fact that how she has treated me over this past season has been hurtful, wrong, and not the way true friends treat one another.
The truth of the matter is that there are so many things that have occurred over the past year that I never talked about. Like the fact that Gretchen listened to other people telling her not to be friends with me (yes, Heather knows about this one, Tamra too.) There are so many facts I never stated, things I never talked about. . .because I don't LIKE confrontation, I don't like hurting other people. I believe in being honest, straightforward and truthful, without calling out every single little nit-picky thing. I love my friends unconditionally, with shortcomings, weaknesses, and quirkinesses included. I have been there for Gretchen for two and a half years, while the other ladies attacked her. I have supported her and attended every single new endeavor she has had for the past two and a half years. I have defended Gretchen and Slade relentlessly around town and in the media. I brought Gretchen soup and flowers in bed when she was so devastated by the things Tamra had done to her a year and a half ago. One year ago, Jim offered to donate a substantial amount to Slade's son, Grayson; as well as donating many of our hotel rooms to their charity. This is just what friends do.
But for some reason it was all soon forgotten when I made a comment to Gretchen about owning my Bentley for three months? It just doesn't make sense. Gretchen has never told me one time in two and a half years that I said things that bothered her. . .but the minute she and Tamra and Heather are friends, now all the sudden I say things that bother her? Gretchen thinks I was doubting our friendship the minute she became friends with Tamra, but I thought she could be friends with both of us. If you are true friends, you don't need to pick a lane. . .you can be friends with both. I didn't realize the down-turn our friendship took until the painting party episode aired, which was long after she and Tamra had become friends. Even amidst all of the negativity and ick of this season, I will always wish Gretchen well, and I will always be here for her should the other girls turn on her.
Hey gorgeous, welcome back and happy to see your husband more involved this season. Your husband comes first and do not sway. You can have your career but make sure you remember your standards and keep them high no matter what when it comes to your marriage. Many people do not understand but those of us who do support you whole heartedly.
One last thing, do not try to keep up with the Jones it is a losing battle, you and your hubby run your own race and that's a good fit!
Alexis, Even with your fame and beauty, you have the wisdom to put your husband first. Your marriage is beautiful! Those women shame their husbands daily. Jim is wise to walk away from those people. I love how he won’t play their game! They hate that he cannot be manipulated! He’s a strong man. I can see why you love and respect him so much. I like Vickie, at first I didn’t but like you said, she was in a bad place before, now she’s in love and happy and is filled with goodness. Too bad Eddie does not have that effect on Tamra. She is filled with hate and malice. She will always be the man in that relationship. Alexis, Gretchen is not your friend! Ironically, Heather is the most fake person. She ACTS kind and diplomatic but she’s like the others. (I guess she really is an actress after all!) It’s pathetic that she just now, after 15 years of disrespect, decides to take her husband’s name. It was just for the show. Why now? Alexis, you are blessed to have a husband that relies on the Lord for guidance. Jim loves you and it hurts him to see you in that den of lions and ambushed by those vultures during dinner on your so called vacation! Nobody is perfect and no one deserves that! I pray that you will someday be involved in a more positive series. You and Jim deserve that. God bless you!!
he wanted to talk to jim THAT night because they needed to tape it for the show
AND because I dont think he could imagine taking time from his day to endure a
lunch with jim bellino.
Wow Alexis this was an incredibly hard season to watch. I want to compliment you for how you stood your ground and remained a lady during the reunion and held your head high. That must have been so hard to have three women ready to combat everything you say!
I do love to see the friendship developing between you and Vicki. I see both of you as more gentle souls. I don't see either of you as the crap starter of arguments and only rising up to defend yourselves when provoked. (and provoked you certainly were this season!)
Even though some viewers don't understand your marriage with Jim, it works for the two of you and you can't help but see the love between you both. I love that he came to the party to surprise you and tried to defend you while there and I also love that he chose to walk away from the chaos like a real man does.
I found myself getting so upset when some of these ladies just insisted on trying to find fault with everything you do. I know your feelings are hurt, but know you have a lots of fans supporting you and cheering you on.
You are a beautiful lady Alexis with a good heart and gentle nature. I truly hope your heart mends as time passes and I also hope your friendship with Vicki becomes stronger.
I also hope people understand that christians don't think they are perfect people and go through trials just as anyone else. I think some have a tendency to judge christians, but what some don't realize is that every single christian is in a different place in their walk with the Lord...we are all a "works in progress" and every christian comes to different realizations for their life at different times as they grow and learn. Refining is done over time and just doesn't happen overnight!
God bless you and your family Alexis and congrats on your new park.
Alexis, I hope you are reading all of these comments. Everyone just loves you (you better come back next season)....I wish I could give you hugs after watching part 2 of the reunion. That was so brutal. You handled yourself so well - you go girl!
Alexis I hope you and Gretchen can repair your friendship, because she was a good & true friend to you. Just a word to the wise I used the word phony, which is a little has I should say you tend to be a little pretentious. Keep your business to yourself. If your rings aren't real the girls don't have to know that, keep it to yourself. What you have belongs to you and you alone. How you got it, how much you paid for it is your business. Be real, and true to yourself. God Bless you and your family. Stay Classy.....
Alexis, I am proud of you and your faith and stand on your Christian values. You will never be accepted by those housewives who cannot relate to you. You are like oil and water. I understand the mutual submission of a Christian marriage. You need to continue to walk in the right way. Keep on keeping on girl. Get on with your life and be the beautiful woman you are inside and out.
you may be a little shallow when it comes to the way you look and your possessions but you do have a pure heart and you come from a really good place.
Heather is smarter and weathier and a better actor--- for now...but your assets far out way hers.
Your gifts are from God.
Tamara may just want ammo for next season, be careful she doesn't want to loose her income and you are a target.
Alexis how funny that you deny mistreating the crew and then you address the crew by asking, rudely may I add, "is someone going to get me my e-mails? or do I have to get them myself?". You proved Tamra right, you were rude to the crew right in front of the cameras, I can only imagine how you treat the crew when the cameras are not rolling. Shame on you!
Alexis does not understand what pretentious is. Pretentious isn't about what you have; it's how you act about what you have or who you are. Heather may have a truly spectacular home and very nice things, but she is humble and gracious. It's obvious that Alexis does not own truly nice things, (let alone a home) but she and her husband like to pretend they have more than they do. Just be real. They should live within their means and be content.
Alexis, you are one of my favorites too and I felt bad for you with the abashing this season. I admire your grace and refusal to dish the dirt like Tamra does. I think you get it though and was very proud of you for saying that you don't value Tamra's opinion so she can no longer hurt you. Let Gretchen and Tamra have their 15minutes ... You actually have a life.
I'm sorry I just needed to add, the most un-authentic quality in Gretchen is her in-ability to be a genuine friend. I am not quite sure why but Gretchen has always coveted the idea of being frends with Tamera. She tried episode after episode to be her friend, (talk about "brown nosing", only to have Tamera constantly throw her under the bus. It was no surprise that once Gretchen finally attained, her much coveted friendship with Tamera, her choice would be clear, crystal clear, she would drop whomever she had become close friends with to have an opportunity to be friends with Tamera. I am so very sorry you had to have this experience, but as you know christian girl, "What makes you weak, will only make you stronger in the long run".
But, clearly she can see that Tamera is incappable of being "true" friends with anyone. Just ask Vicki, :-(.
You were humiliated, you were ganged up on, and tore to shreds this year and I wouldn't blame you for wanting to leave.I can't believe or forgive Gretchen for her attitude towards you, and it only goes to show on shows like these no one is your friend.
I tend to agree with the majority who have advised you to stay away from Tamra, but RHOC would not be the show it is if that were the case because they love all the drama, dissention,and the bad behavior.
I wish you all the luck in the world in whatever you do.Stay true to yourself as you owe no one but your family anything.
Alexis, Why can't you take the advice of friends. I didn't hear them being nasty. (except for Tamra). They all were just trying to let you know how they feel about the way you act. You showed it many times during the season. You made remarks about Heather andd had just met her. You want to try to be someone you are not. You were never a Fox5 news anchor. I think that is a lie, don't you. I admire any woman that can do it all but do not respect someone that pretends to do it all but can't even tell the truth. I feel sorry that you find it necessary to let your husband control your life. Your trouble seems to not only lay with your friends but the people around you in every day life. Please look at yourself and admit you have a problem socially and intellectually.
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!! THATS HOW YOU NEED TO REACT MORE!!!!! When YOU defend Vicki, I wish you could DO the same for yourself!!!----- WHEN YOU TOLD TAMRA when she was getting on Brooks about being married....."SHUTUP" YOU SAID, "YOUR STILL MARRIED AND SHARING A BATHTUB WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND"!!! HAHAHAHA I LOVE IT.. YOU PUT HER IN HER PLACE! DID you even notice??? OBVIOSLY THAT WORKED!!! CUZ IT SHUT HER UP!!!! FINALLY!!!
Alexis, you are a beautiful woman physically, that's for sure...but you need to work on your inside. I don't feel that you are phoney, but I do feel that you are in denial about a lot of things. I agree with Tamra when she said, "Just be a true person". I feel you and especially Jim, hide behind your "christianity". You do come off as being materialistic. Jim does come off as being controlling. What we see watching the show does give it's impressions. All of it can't be a lie. Neither you or Jim come off as being humble...and isn't that the foundation for a christian?
i liked you on the show this season and you showed incredible patience when all these girls are just hateful toward you! The relationship you have with your husband is your business and he cares about you and your family. If others don't like how you and Jim interact it's none of their business. Only you two know how things are behind closed doors and it is working so who are any of them to judge, Like you said, "still married:! Alexis you are tall, gorgeous and fun so naturally people might not like you because they are insecure. How sad for them. Good for Jim for walking out of the party to avoid conflict-he is mature and wise. good luck with the fun dress line the tv career and the adorable children!
Why was Peggy confronted about her not being to Alexis a friend for keep the secret about Jim from Alexis but Gretchen was criticized for telling Alexis about the Fox 5 gig?
Alexis, you dispalyed grace ,charm ,sincereity ,as does a Real Lady ! You keep taking the high road as a mature Christian woman even when that Redneck foul mouth Tamara is attacking you - she's the one with the personality problem . Heather is nasty too ! Her description of a " Heart to Heart " with you was an absolute Lie . She showed her true colors when she brought it up about your comment as not hearing about her as an actress - well none of the rest of us ever heard of her either ! Some of us don't spend our lives watching TV sitcoms . Kudos to Jim for walking away when Tamara & Heather piped in on his conversation with Heather's husband. I give Jim credit for wanting to meet privately at another time to speak man to man . Alexis, put your good foot forward , go do some work with a charity - put the rest of the nasty pretentious women to shame ! Find new friends .
Alexis, take everything from this season, learn from it, and move past it. Come back next season refreshed and without any grudges. Don't let people walk all over you and do your own thing. You are a beautiful woman and you don't need to impress ANYONE, and I feel like you are always trying to impress everyone around you. I do not believe you are "pretentious." What an awful word to throw around about someone. Another note - - If I was ever asked to take a job that a friend of mine was hired to do, I would NEVER EVER tell her that. Wow, was blown away by how she just HAD to prove you wrong on the reunion show. That is no friend of yours, Alexis. Also, I completely understand your stance on the man being head of household, but there is a line that is all to often crossed in your marriage where, from our end, it looks as if you are controlled most of the time. Instead of asking, just say "Honey, I've decided to do this." Don't take no for an answer! Be your own woman and great things will come to you. Stay beautiful and come back next season a changed woman! We want to see you again, not as a different person, but changed for the better!!
Way to keep your dignity intact after the intense reunion. You should be proud of how you kept your cool!
If it had been a contest last night I would say that YOU were the winner of the night. I thought you handled yourself well and were quicker with your responses than you have ever been on a reunion show. Also other than exposing Gretchen's hair and lip help you were nice in spite of how you were treated. And I know at that point you were just trying to show that she isn't always all that honest in front of the cameras.
However, I DO hope the talk of you being rude to the crew or the department store people is false. THAT would be disappointing.
Alexis...you became my favorite this season. But, please, stay away from Tamra! I just read that she invited you to meet up with her...again! But, thankfully, you DECLINED! I love it! She is a terrible, negative person. Stay true to yourself!
I am so disappointed in Gretchen for the way she has been treating you. I used to think she was sincere. Boy was I wrong. And Heather is the biggest phony of all the housewives! I like how she says she's 99% real. Ya right. Tamra is vicious and uncaring. She is very jealous of you. Stand tall and don't let them get to you. Your awesome!
I have loved this show from the start, but this season was hard to watch. I cannot believe the mean spiritness of the show. Tamra and Heather are so hateful. I have known people like this, they are either so jealous of you or so unhappy in their own lives. Can't help but wonder if you will be back. You are the only one with any class on this show. Stay true to yourself, and your beliefs
what a good friend and love your stand in housewifes. they all look so jealous except vickie. gretchen and tamara , heather omg. all so jealous. dont you know they are so jealous. you are the class act. dont worry for haters. have good summer and glad you nice to sarah. shows you good friend. over a piece of cake ha. cant they get over themselves. your awesome.
lexie please come back to housewifes. i think you are refreshing. and vickie. heather is so jealous of you and her husband is jealous of jim. dont worry about what hate they spread . glad you stood your stand.love you. there haters. love ya have good summer.
1love1heartI beg to differ! Alexis is NOT phony! Who was it that said at the party when he saw Jim come in and said "Well he finally grew a set of b****?" Terry said that! Then when Jim walks over to Terry, Terry hugs Jim and said how happy he is that Jim came to the party!! Now who's the phony? TERRY IS!!!
dont leave show. tamara should go. love you lexie. have good summer. you showed lot of class. and jim to. jim is sweet. good hubbie.
zoezoe Yeah, Jim is so sweet.... Love his sweet comments about her not "wearing the pants". And the fact that he makes his wife run down the street to catch him after he runs away from a party. Classy man!
Love you Alexis. those girls are not your friends. except vicky . love your family. heather is so jealous. it shows so much. dont let them bug ya. and that norstroms deal. i think that was a low blow . been in norstroms they dont say a word. heather is so jealous and gretchen and tamra. there very spiteful love ya
sweet alexis you seem the best on show. i think you got some jealous ladies in the lions den. and your hubbie is sweet. stay friends with Vicki and enjoy your life with your family. and a good friend don
This season i learned to admire you. you are the most honest housewife on this show! so what if you show off and talk about what you have. if you have it flaunt it heather does the same crap. Now Tamra and Gretchen are not able to be that way because they DONT HAVE IT! haha haters
Alexis, please ignore the haters and keep going strong. I just watched the reunion show and i was so upset. What's up with the ladies bullying you? It's so funny how Heather acts so pretentious but then goes around calling you phony. She needs to look in the mirror and try to nicer to people. Hang in there!! You're so strong! Bridget
It's a shame you made the mistake of including Sarah to the party. Twice she has made a scene and shows poor choices in behavior. Next time keep her from this group unless you get off on creating scenes at other people's parties! Did you want to ruin Heather's evening?- both situations were at Heather's parties. Jim and Terry should have been left alone to talk. Tamra had no business there- she dislikes your husband , she came to stir up trouble.
Alexis you are a very "real" person-don't let the others tell you otherwise. My lord if anyone is a phony it would be Heather--does she realize this is a reality show? She needs to stop acting in every episode! Hold your head up- My lord someone who thinks spending 50,000 on clothes is a big giant phony! Gee why did they film there? Was she wanting everyone to know that she can afford these clothes--of course she did! Of course she wanted everyone to know a real diamond was on the cake--You have a big name changing party?? what? she is so unreal!
Kellyp1965 You got that right! Couldn't agree more! Heather is the biggest phony! she can't stop acting and always mentions money or how much she has!
Though you were under attack this season, the adversity has brought out fine attributes of your character. It is ironic that you are being cast as the "fake" one when time and again your behavior is true and constant in the ways that matter. Tamra is unrecognizable, and hopefully this new Tamra is not the "real" Tamra. Don't give Gretchen another thought. She has shown herself to be an opportunist, not only in regards to Jeff, but again this season by who she aligned herself with. No doubt she will rise to the top. Behind the sunshine and smile lurks a cold and ruthless shark. She will do whatever it takes for money and fame.
If Gretchen was indeed offered the job by Fox 5, that would begin to explain her horrible behavior towards you. She must have kicked herself for not being as smart as you by not taking the opportunity when it was presented. That whole email episode on the reunion show was ridiculous. We could care less if she was offered the job first. It was her "in-your-face" behavior towards you about the job that was despicable. Whether or not you were good at the job at first is inconsequential. Not many would be. But you worked hard and conquered! If looks could kill, you'd be dead (and Heather wouldn't be telling you to lie down) from the looks all three of those seething women gave you when your accomplishments this season were mentioned by Andy. HA!
Hope to see you back next season. It has been a pleasure to witness your grace under pressure. However, if the cast remains the same, it might not be worth it since every other woman on the show has a mean and vindictive streak a mile long. Maybe next season they will devour each other if you aren't there. Good luck and best wishes!
Alexis you showed so muchhhhhh class the entire season and on the reunion. I'm simply sick to my stomach of Tamara and Heathers nasty words and name calling. I love drama but when it turns into an emotional ambush of hate and mean girls acting out in such vile word slinging I just need to step back. Thank you for acting the mature beautiful lady you are...I will continue to watch. Also Jim handled himself with so much class as well on the finale, I adore you both!!
I think your beautiful Alexis and you love your kids and husband a lot and I admire that. But I feel like Jim controls you to much and wants you at home playing house wifey, when you want to accomplish and do other things too. Do the things you want to do!
You are my fave! I think that your blog has been the realest, truest, and none of the other HW can top it. I'm really sad for Gretchen, because you know that what goes around comes around. Tamra. If anyone, SHE is the one who is fake. When Jim and GOOFY were having their man to man talk at Heather's party, Heather should have stayed out of it, and had to be there to speak for him. Then I almost fell out of my chair when Tamra pulled up a chair. Tamra definitely didn't have a place there. Jim was right. They should have gone to lunch, and had a MAN to MAN talk about how goofy gossiped about you like a woman with Gretchen and Slade, as they agreed. You were a great friend to Gretchen, and Slade too. You keep doing what your doing, you can't help it if they wish they were you. I pray for all the best things life has to offer to you and your family. You will do well, I'm sure. Just find you some REAL friends :)) Love, Hugs and Kisses to you!
I too, am far from perfect.
You really have nothing to be insecure about, it seems you have taken things out of context and far more personally than necessary in some cases. For example when Gretchen did not come see you immediately after your surgery, Gretchen has a life too. That ought to be remembered.
Another example was during your daughters birthday party. That should have been all about the girls, not what you went through having them.
I can see all the good in you through all the BS you feel the need to boast about.
Alexis I think everyone feels sorry for you after watching this season. You took a beating - and it wasn't fair. I have to commend you for wanting to set aside their mean words and try to be friends with them. It gives kill them with kindness a whole new meaning.
If the reunion show would have been a competition I think YOU would have been the WINNER!! I think you handled yourself well and actually seemed to get your point across better than you ever have before on these shows. : )
First, I pretty sure God didn't pick you or anyone else to have a fabulous life. I'm thinking god helps guide you in decisions of the heart. God works in ways in which we don't always understand. He will give us want we need not what we want. Having an abundance of money to spend to live in a gorgeous home, drive amazing cars, and wear amazing grossly over priced wardrobes aren't God's gifts. Maybe they are there to teach you a much greater lesson. Heather wanting one of her guests to have a real diamond at the end of the evening was fun. She can afford it and she wanted to make someone happy. That does not compare to you bragging about cars and materialistic items ALL the time. It just shows you are lost and insecure. I think that it might be a good idea for you to soul search and truly figure out what it is that you need to start praying for because a fabulous life isn't the answer.
I agree with your post. Alexis if you want to call yourself a Christian then you should act like one. A TRUE Christian is humble. A TRUE Christian is kind, doesnt boast or talk down to people. You do that. If you were a TRUE Christian then instead of buying more THINGS you might try donating to a homeless shelter. Volunteer your time at a shelter, give clothes to an organization that could use them or many other humbling things. But you dont. You brag on how many expensive cars you have. Really? Who really gives a crap except all the other materilaistic people? If your gonna talk the talk, walk the walk.
Alexis forgwt bou gretch n tam they were never ur friends anyway stick to vicki at least she believs in God plus like the bible says trust no othef but ,e ..God bless u dnt let the enemy make u hate or b mad jesus suffered for us so a little hateful words n ppl is like dirt on floor just sweep it away n focus on God xoxo ,marie ....also gretch should b sad she lost a friend like u n gained a demon u r a tru friend u always defend ur friends like u did last season reunion w/ gretch n this yr vicki ur real friend
Alexis I admire how you are faithful to Jim with so much hanky panky going on with some of the other ladies while there still married. I dont like saying this but the ladies are a little right about your bragging a little and attacking Heathers husband made you look bad. You are so preety but that wasnt good. To us the viewers you look phoney but your probably not, its just your ways. You act rich but your not thats how I see it. Maybe some humble charity work with poor people will help and look good for you on the show. I think your smart and I hate when they call you dumb. Best wishes!