I was so excited to have Gretchen over to see my Fox Five segment! I thought she would be the perfect person to ask because she would give me honest advice, and be very excited for me. However, when she claimed Fox Five had asked her first to do my correspondent position, I felt she was trying to steal my thunder.
Of course, the minute Gretchen left my home I called my Fox Five producer to confirm if this was true, and she said it was absolutely not true. They were only asking Gretchen to do one segment as a co-host with me, and had no plans ever of giving Gretchen her own correspondent position. It was like Gretchen had to say that to make herself feel better because she couldn't be truly happy for my success. Beside that fact, I have had similar things happen where I have been asked to host an appearance and I had to say no because I was already booked, then Gretchen would end up doing it and I never once felt I should call her and tell her that. What for? What good does it do? It's a slap in the face, and not very supportive. If you live by the golden rule, you try to imagine how something would make you feel before you say it. Well, now I know firsthand how it feels and why I was right to never tell Gretchen when she was chosen second for that particular event -- I was being a good friend.
The truth is, I have felt a disconnect with Gretchen that started months ago. I couldn't put my finger on exactly what it was, but now watching all of the episodes thus far, I can see I wasn't imagining it. The saddest part is that it only gets worse throughout the upcoming episodes. There are several things that confirm my premonitions. In an upcoming episode, something occurs between Gretchen and I that absolutely crushes me, and I know you will all see the true colors of all the women by the end of the season. There is an accumulation of several things that are very eye opening.
Alexis, if you look into Tamra's eyes and the wrinkles that surround them you can see how deeply wounded she is. She chooses to cope with the hurt with anger, jealousy, and ruthless attacks on you, because you are better than her, and she knows it. You keep your man happy which keeps you happy. You have a great family and hers has been broken time and time again. She and Terry, who acts like a gossiping housewife himself, believe that you are a fake or a phony because they don't know that people in the world can truly be as sincere and as kind as you. You are the perfect woman, and I aspire to have your genuineness and kindness one day.
Until Tamra learns to accept kindness and happiness into her life, she will not be comfortable with you.
Heather and Terry on the other hand are just ridiculous people. Just ridiculous. For them to freak out at their own "name change party" in front of their guests is tacky. Plastic Surgery is a trade, like carpentry. It doesn't say much about his intelligence, just his bank account. I can't believe that Terry and his wife, Heather, stood by and watched everything happen as if it was a personal show of theirs.
They are shallow and unkind people. They are pretentious without reason, and subconsciensously resent your inner beauty.
You'll be fine. You are happy, kind, and unfortunately we don't have many people like that anymore - so people think it's all fake - but I know it isn't fake.
You are correct they are mean girls. They need to truly look at themselves in a mirror and ask if I was treated this way or if my children were treated this way how would I feel. Unfortunately people like them never can see what others see because they believe they are perfect There is one perfect being in the world and they are not Him.
So what? You relate to the mean spirit in Tamra and Heather. Sadly, many adults don't know which way is which anymore.
Alexis, you are my favorite OC housewife this year! You are such a sweetheart & you are obviously a very kind-hearted person. I feel so bad for you having to deal with all these mean girls this season. Thank God Vicki is in such a good place & that you two have developed a friendship. Keep your head held high, b/c you should be very proud of the person that you are! You are a loving wife, mother & friend. Gretchen should be so ashamed of herself for the way she has treated you after you have been such an amazing & loyal friend to her. She obviously was never a true friend to you in the first place, I guess she just used you b/c you were all she had when all the others were saying only negative things about her & attacking her character. Now that it's you that they want to talk smack about, she doesn't have your back. And you have done absolutely nothing to any of these women for them to dislike you so much. Tamra is just an evil person...she always has to have someone to put down, I guess to make herself feel better. For the past few seasons it's been Gretchen, & now it is you. And for what reason??? B/c she thinks your dumb??? Well, first off I surely hope she doesn't think she's some kind of rocket scientist & secondly, you are obviously not dumb b/c if you were you couldn't run a household, raise 3 kids, & be a business woman all at the same time. You may have your "blonde moments", but I think they are always very endearing...it's cute. And besides, who doesn't have their "blonde moments" from time to time. Heather has obviously been influenced by Tamra since day one. Don't let it bother you, if she couldn't take the time to get to know you for herself, she's not worth it. Just keep doing what you are doing beautiful lady & may God bless you & your precious family!!!
Alexis you are soooo correct about Tamra being a mean girl. Season after season she is always mean and sarcastic to most. Unfortunately Tamra is rubbing off on Gretchen which now makes Gretchen unattractive and not fun to watch. Tamra's problem with you and Gretchen is that she is threatened because you and Gretchen are very attractive. Tamra was never threatened by Vicky, Lynn, Gina, or Peggy (those women are all attractive but they dont turn heads when you walk in a room like you and Grethen and Tamra can't stand that because she wants to always be the HOT housewife). Tamra is just mean and rude and her negative comments about you. On Tamra's best day she doesn't hold a candle to you. I think you are beautiful and kind and enjoy watching you even if you are a little airheaded but hey so am I and it keeps my boyfriend laughing at me and tells me that he loves me more because I too laugh at myself. Please stay positive and dont let Tamra's negativety rub off on you...such an unattractive quality in a person. I am surprised Eddie is turned off by her negative comments. Especially in the limo ride to Vegas when of course - only Tamra with something negative to say and trying to get involved in others personal issues on public television about your cars being repo (which the viewers know is not true and if so its not our business and not Tamra's business)....not surpring with Tamra because she got involved in Gretchens personal problems and then the reunion about Slade being a deadbeat father then calling his ex.....OMG Tamra needs to stay out of everyone's business regardless if someone reaches out to her. She has to remember all those people that she hurts. Alexis please dont let Tamra bring you down to level which is really low. Please set an example to your daughters and dont ever become a mean girl. I love watching you and so excited to see you on General Hospital since I am a huge GH fan as well.
Alexis, I actually like you but I definitely I am not a fan of your husband. But who I am to judge, I am not married to him. I do think that the age difference is starting to come into play in your relationship. You are growing into a more sophisticated career focused woman which is not going to please your hubby (barefoot and pregnant).A word of Advise: a girl in her teens wants excitement, 20s -romance, 30s - respect, 40s - admiration, 50s - strickly cash money baby!!!! So, as you go through life stages, I don't know if your marriage is going to survive the new "Alexis". You are in the respect stage... and you have every right to demand that your husband and the world give you your R-E-S-P-E-C-T! Aretha said it first, not me. lol!!
Perhaps if you stop and think that you project TOO much insecurities and inserting your SELF absorptment in every stupid convo. Then mean girlz will have less to add comment to your dumb ideas! Get it?
Good blog this week Alexis. Loved the Vegas make up artist piece. You mouthing to Jim and making him smile. Love how you put a positive spin on whatever you can latch it onto. I do like Tamra, but I also wish she'd lose the catty, behind-your-back talk. It just makes her look less classy than most. Heather on the other hand, I totally understand where she's coming from. You must admit, she's no where near as ugly with her statements as Tamra. Tamra says mean things, Heather on the other hand speaks her mind. I know it probably seems like there's a fine line, but there IS a difference and when viewers watch, Heather comes across as a person who is saying what she thinks, whereas Tamra comes across as saying mean things just to get attention. That's the only thing I really dislike about Tamra. She can be funny without being hateful with her words. It IS possible! Gretchen, now I did see Gretchen in a new light this episode. I immediately felt opinionated when she said that the only reason you got your Fox 5 segment was because she couldn't fit it into her schedule. WOW, that really shocked me, because like you said, even if it WERE true, you don't say that to someone. What a crock! Unfortunately, that would be something I don't know if I would want to get over anytime soon, simply because I feel it was mean spirited of her. I felt for you at that moment, but I think you handled it well. What you should have done was call that producer right then and there in front of her and throw THAT in her face! But you traipsed off to Vegas to be her friend like a good friend does. Well, I have a new found respect for you after this episode, Alexis and I might say......at least you have Vicki as a friend. And at least you have another circle of friends. If that were my only circle, I think I might want to shoot myself. Good show, good blog, God Bless!
Alexis, if I was going to offer you advice it would be to stop explaining and defending yourself so much. You talk very fast and get tongue tied at times and that comes across as insecurity; at least on TV. If you and Jim rent, then be upfront in conversations but don't defend it. Each of you are at various financial levels and it makes no difference in the long run. Stop over explaining your working but wanting to be at home. ALL mothers have that problem whether they have to work or just want to work. Be you, be the best Alexis possible and stop explaining yourself. When you do your confidence will soar and so will the audiences ability to connect with you. Your so very blessed, enjoy it and be secure.
No way. She explains herself with class and logic. If someone can do that, then it is worth the opposite party to receive her voice.
Alexis, I think Gretchen was kind, you weren't prepared at all for the short segment you did, it was bad. That isn't to say that you can't do the job, you need lots of practice! If it's what you truly want, get a coach or tutor and make Jim understand that he will have to be Mr. Mom for a while!
Stay as you are Alexis! My friends and I think you are beautiful and kind. I don't know how you restrain yourself from putting the smackdown on these chicks, but you are a better person for not lowering yourself to stupid nasty insults.
Okay, I've never really LOVED alexis I must admit. But I have to give credit where credit is due....that was so funny the way that poor thing did your make-up. And the way you handled it was so funny, and very classy (Jim too). You didn't act like a diva or a jerk to that girl, and you still went to the party. So, I spent a good deal of time cracking up watching that episode. It was very cute! Way to be Alexis!!
Alexis....it seems as though you are always trying to compete with someone else. Worry about you and your family and stop trying to be someone you know you are not! You seriously get on my nerves with that.
U have been a good friend to Gretchen , and now that she's friends with Tamara she is acting just like her. Don't waste your time on back stabbers , cause that's exactly what it will be A WASTE OF TIME. Tamara has always been a smack talker so she must be super insecure about something. I think the other ladies try to make u out as not smart. But when I read your blogs you teach me to let people be who they are and to stay true to the love of god. I hope the best for you and I don't watch that soap u were on, but hopefully you make an apearence on Days Of Our Lives! That's my fave
Alexis, You may not be perfect but Tamra turns my stomach anymore. She always has to have a scape goat. She has got to be picking on someone and she has went way too far with her bad mouthing. She is down right mean and nosy. She was that way with Gretchen and I think she got so much negative comments from former fans that she decided she better be nice to Grethhen. I literally saw her post bad things about Grethchen and then remove it. I mean she used a lot of energy on this. Now it's you and I think she has swayed Heather. It is none of Heather's or Tamara's biz is you rent, lease, or what you own. You are happy and doing well and it is nothing to them. They are only showing how ugly they are and jealous by making comments. Continue taking the high road.
Alexis, you are the sweetheart of the show! You also know how to treat your husband without the need to put him down all of time. I think it is so cute and funny to watch you and Jim relate to one another. He really is like a teddy bear on this season and you can now actually SEE his love for you. I applaud you for branching out more and for still remaining dedicated to making sure your family doesnt fall by the wayside. Ok, I died laughing at the segment of you and your makeup artist and Jim! That was hilarious! The makeup was like a total mask on your face! Once again, you were so sweet to the girl and didnt humiliate her..and that was very kind of you! As for Gretchen...she seems like she is majorly insecure this season and very threatened by you. People cant quite put you and Jim in a neat and tidy box and it drives them crazy and brings out their insecurities! It is weird to see Gretchen behaving this way, but I dont think she likes the fact that you are now suceeding in business and children and marriage and you are also a great christian. It will be interesting to see what happens this season. This is the best season of them all....you definitely are a huge contributor in that!
I don't understand why it bothers you so much that Gretchen mentioned that she was asked to do the Fox segment. What difference does it make? All of you housewives are interchangeable. If you don't understand that, you are even more dumb than I thought. I have a feeling you didn't have to deal with mean girls in high school because YOU were the mean girl.
Alexis, remember feedback is a gift. Gretchen was providing honest, supportive feedback to you and because it wasn't what you wanted to hear - you dismissed it. Most friends are not "true" and tell people what they want to hear. Great friends tell the truth.
You Are so right about Gretchen! I used Like her too, very disappointing. Her comment made me mad. Why did she tell you that, that is no true friend. She is only out for herself and I think her head got too big. And her friendship with Tamara, what a joke. She is indeed a follower, it's almost like high school. The mean girl bullies her time after time, then shows her a little niceness (not genuine of course) and she rolls over like a puppy waiting for more approval. In the process sold out Slade and you. What a follower! Stay true to yourself Alexis! You are corky and cute. Love your personality! Keep your head held high! Btw, I think Tamara is trying to ice you out from the show! Please don't let her win! I hope bravo brings in one of your True friends next season! You deserve that!
Alexis, there is nothing wrong with a mother wanting a career. I understand that you and your husband talked about this before you got married and now you are changing and growing. There is nothing wrong with that. You seem to say one thing on the show and another in your blog... Which is the real you?
You know Alexis, people will say whatever they want about you, but one thing I noticed about your friendship with Gretchen, you were always a good friend to her. You supported her in that god awful "comedy", you stuck up for her at the reunions. Its totaly bs how she's treating you now. I think you, like alot of viewers that intially sided with Retchen, were fooled. Her true colors are blazing now, seems Tamra was right about her....of course NOW they're friends.
Alexis keep up your good work, Your a Great mom and good friend. Some people can be envious of that which is why they are ' Bullies ' I like the fact that you and Vicki have become closer this season :) Tamra is very insecure and takes it out on you and you dont deserve that. She may have money NOW but she still acts Very Unclassy. Heather is new this season and I dont really think she should come in putting others down to make herself feel better. Gretchen isnt a true friend!!!!
I have to hand it to you for asking for a hosting coach. Nothing wrong with seeking out some help to improve any area of your life. I'm glad you're taking the high road with the mean girls. Their true colors are definitely showing and their behavior is getting pretty disgusting. I'm glad you continue to rise above it.
This woman needs a reality check. Why is that the station she is doing the interview take a good look at that interview. She sucked
Alexis, I thought you handle the makeup mess very classy not hurtful!! My sister and I had our hair done for her wedding in a little town beauty shop in Wisconsin. We both ended up with beehives and every time they turn us in the chair to face each other we had to pinch ourselves or bite our cheeks to not lose it! We made it and even gave tips! To this day we laugh about how our hair looked and how long it took us to undo the beehives to be ready for her wedding!!!
First off you are not the sacrificial lamb, you are playing the victim. Second, your segment on TV was a mess. Sorry and I'm not saying it to be mean but Gretchen was right. Did you watch it? You kept interrupting and stumbling over your words. I'm not a Gretchen fan, so don't take it as that. Lastly your husband was way out of line regarding your "career". I don't know why any of you ladies can't see your own faults. Do you even read the replies to your blogs? Sheesh!
I love you and the only reason people act as Heather and Tamera are is because nothing makes them happy all the way through. Its sad really. And you handle them gracefully. Because you choose to be kind they call you stupid and other awful things. I know many women now a days almost act ashamed to be female. And they are two of them. IMO. Like you I've always like being the girl and all that comes with it. I sure would not want husband on a leash either. I like REAL MEN that like a REAL LADY. Rise above sweetie. These witchy type women are everywhere. Sadly!! They are so awful with that mouth. Poor things actually believe they are telling like it is, or being direct. Call it what you want but rudeness is rude!! Your soul shines through and makes them look so dark and ugly.. Keep going!! You're great and I know they are so badly wanting you to flip out so they can once again claim " I thought she was a Christian" Everytime they say that I know they aren't. Christians sin like all other human. We just have the lord to help pull us up to try again. They don't get it. And I'd hate to be in their shoes come judgement day!!
By the way, to quote your own words: "I thought she would be the perfect person to ask because she would give me honest advice"
She DID give you honest advice! Was it not honest because it wasn't what you wanted to hear? Anyone with 2 ears could see you were fumbling and need some practice. Its not a big deal, so don't make it one like you do with everything.
The way you went on about your nose job just confirms my thoughts on you. Try not to get so caught up in all the BS Alexis, rise above it.
Alexis you rock!! You are beautiful, have a great marriage and kids and are successful, but most of all you're happy and content which is what drives these women nuts. They must not have much going on in their lives if all they can talk about is you. You're wonderful Alexis and congratulations on your success!
My word! Gretchen's comment about being requested first for your Fox 5 gig was ridiculous. Up until now, you complained of a rift that seemed only about her new found friendship with Tamra. Based off that exchange, I can see why there is distance now. It must be difficult so see the other ladies trashing you on national television. Please know that anyone with half a brain takes those remarks with a grain of salt. Stay positive!!!!
It seemed like you and your husband were actually making fun of the "sweet make up artist", if you were so concerned with hurting her feelings you wouldn't have been snickering with him husband and whispering about getting her to leave in front of national television. I appreciate that you are a woman of God, I know you wouldn't lie about that. But I don't like that you use catholic/christian morals to your advantage and pretty much put down the people you don't like. (In this last episode you defended your "boobies", and added that Jim loves them. Would you stand up at sunday service and say that?) At least Tamra and Heather are real, and not phony.
I think you're great! It is wonderful the way you take care of your family. When you do your FOX 5 segments, why not dress a little less sexy? You look awesome, don't get me wrong! :) People would probably take you and your talent more seriously. You have a lot to offer!
I never comment on these blogs, but just had to now. Alexis, you are so right about Heather and Tamra being the mean girls. Honestly, I think both of those "girls" are jealous of you and Heather's attitude towards you has been tainted by Tamra's opinion of you. Tamra has always been jealous of you/your body, etc. since your first season on RHOC. Heather has no business asking you about your financial affairs and when she does, you should immediately "shut it down" (that is her favorite saying). Also, I noticed that when you are around these women, you look down when speaking. Please hold your head up and look them right in the eyes! I think you are starting to feel intimidated by them - no need to feel like that because they have nothing over you. I think Gretchen was brutally honest with respect to your Channel 5 interview, but she gave you good advice.
Love watching you on the Show. Am happy to see how nice you are and show how much you love our Lord. I think Gretchen is your friend and didn't think it would hurt you. I imagine fox news lied to you hon; believe your friend first. God Bless and will keep watching. :D
Well for once I have to agree with you Alexis, which I most often don't do. What Gretchen said to you was crappy about the Fox 5 segment. Even if what she said was true, she never should have said that to you. However, I can't believe you called the producer to confirm it after she left - who cares? That just shows your insecurities that keep popping up all the time. In regards to you stating that Jim was just playing "devils advocate" - well, I think that's undermining all the viewers intelligence. Jim CLEARLY does not want you working and that's apparent to all who watch. The only thing Jim is supportive of is you staying home and doing what he wants. You need to realize that if you have to defend him and his behavior in your blog every week - there is a problem.
You're being too sensitive in thinking Gretchen is trying to "steal your thunder". She seems to be a good friend to you. Her comments regarding your Fox 5 segment were spot on and HONEST and she followed up by recommeding a coach - even saying she had found it helpful - all good things a friend should do.
I agree that it was tacky and petty for Gretchen to make the remark she did about being offered the position first. Whether it was true or not, she should have been graceful and descrete and kept that comment to herself.
I never comment on these blogs, but just had to now. Alexis, you are so right about Heather and Tamra being the mean girls. Honestly, I think both of those "girls" are jealous of you and Heather's attitude towards you has been tainted by Tamra's opinion of you. Tamra has always been jealous of you/your body, etc. since your first season on RHOC. Heather has no business asking you about your financial affairs and when she does, you should immediately "shut it down" (that is her favorite saying). Also, I noticed that when you are around these women, you look down when speaking. Please hold your head up and look them straight in the eyes! I think you lost some of your confidence since your first season and are starting to feel intimidated these women. No need to feel like that because they have nothing over you. I think Gretchen was brutally honest with respect to your Channel 5 interview, but she gave you good advice. Lastly, be yourself, you do not need to impress ANYBODY! Good Luck with all your endeavors - you will succeed!