Cast Blog: #RHOC

Supermom Syndrome

Alexis discusses her career -- and Gretchen's critique of it -- as well as Heather and Tamra's comments.

I was so excited to have Gretchen over to see my Fox Five segment! I thought she would be the perfect person to ask because she would give me honest advice, and be very excited for me. However, when she claimed Fox Five had asked her first to do my correspondent position, I felt she was trying to steal my thunder.

Of course, the minute Gretchen left my home I called my Fox Five producer to confirm if this was true, and she said it was absolutely not true. They were only asking Gretchen to do one segment as a co-host with me, and had no plans ever of giving Gretchen her own correspondent position. It was like Gretchen had to say that to make herself feel better because she couldn't be truly happy for my success. Beside that fact, I have had similar things happen where I have been asked to host an appearance and I had to say no because I was already booked, then Gretchen would end up doing it and I never once felt I should call her and tell her that. What for? What good does it do? It's a slap in the face, and not very supportive. If you live by the golden rule, you try to imagine how something would make you feel before you say it. Well, now I know firsthand how it feels and why I was right to never tell Gretchen when she was chosen second for that particular event -- I was being a good friend.

The truth is, I have felt a disconnect with Gretchen that started months ago. I couldn't put my finger on exactly what it was, but now watching all of the episodes thus far, I can see I wasn't imagining it. The saddest part is that it only gets worse throughout the upcoming episodes. There are several things that confirm my premonitions. In an upcoming episode, something occurs between Gretchen and I that absolutely crushes me, and I know you will all see the true colors of all the women by the end of the season. There is an accumulation of several things that are very eye opening.

I thought it was so cute watching Terry play pool with his son! I can completely understand where Heather is coming from trying to decide if she should go back to work or not. It is a struggle. I feel it's just a balance that is difficult to find when one is a dedicated mother and a strong-minded business woman.

I asked Jim his advice about hiring a talent coach, because he always takes the realistic approach. We talk about everything. When I first began working again, I told him I wanted to keep my priorities straight, because with this career it is SO easy to get diverted. I always want to be sure I'm juggling everything evenly. I trust him the most to tell me if I'm making a good decision. He plays devil's advocate for my sake, but he ultimately always wants me to do what I want. It's absolutely not true that I don't want to be a stay-at-home mom. I am very dedicated to my children. I choose to work from 8 am to 2 pm while they are in school. I think that's why I'm struggling so much this year, because my career is taking off and demanding more time, but I'm not willing to give up volunteering in their classes once a week, making their school lunches, cooking dinners, taking them to/from school and games, and being home with them almost every day from the time they are out of school until the time they go to bed. Timing is everything, and managing time is a skill that even the best moms out there can tell you they struggle with. I call what I'm experiencing "Supermom Syndrome" -- something all career-minded-hands-on-moms go through. It doesn't make us worse moms or bad business people, it's something worthy of praise that means everyone will have to pitch in a little more to make it happen. But the decisions to do so have to make sense for the whole family in every aspect, and that's why any smart Supermom uses her husband as a sounding board and partner in the decision making.

Vicki shocked me by flying to Vegas and supporting Gretchen! Good job Vicki to put the past behind you and try to move forward. I think it's awesome and shows again how happy Vicki is. Although it's hilarious that she is expecting an apology back from Gretchen! Vicki is a character! She always keeps you chuckling.

I was seriously falling out of my chair laughing at my makeup in Vegas! Oh holy moly! First let me just start by saying that my usual Vegas makeup artist, Rain, was out of town, so I had to hire someone else. I didn't mention my bruises to her when I spoke to her over the phone, and I truly think that when she walked in the room and saw my bruises under my eyes, she freaked out a little. That makeup artist was so sweet and was trying so hard, but bless her heart, by the third layer of foundation I knew we had a serious problem! Honestly if I had gone out for the evening with no makeup on and full bruises exposed, I would have gotten a lesser reaction than with the three-layer fudge look. I simply could not bring myself to hurting her feelings, and I knew the quicker I got her out of the room, the faster I could wipe off and start over! Jim and I still laugh so hard about that night!

I truly feel like Tamra and Heather are the "mean girls" from high school. Does anyone know what that feels like? I never had to deal with it at 15 years old, but I'm going through it at 35 years of age on national television! They are the bullies who thrive on hurting other people. They think they can say whatever they want, no matter how preposterous (like my children are not my own!!!) because they have no heart. I'm the sacrificial lamb this season, and I'm done letting them abuse me. Just because I choose to be kinder doesn't mean I won't defend myself against the horrible behavior these evil women project. Light will always outshine the dark. For future reference, if they want to talk smack in interviews, they can just say it to my face.

On a much happier note, we are two weeks away from opening our first Sky Zone location, in Anaheim, CA, so we are keeping very busy. You can follow our progress on our Facebook page Sky Zone Anaheim,as well as see current videos on its status! Hoping everyone has a fun-filled, successful week! XO

Keep Believing,
Alexis

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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