Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen goes into the nitty gritty of her fight with Vicki.

on Mar 13, 20120

After she continued to berate me about this in the limo, I realized this was not about me at all because not only did I defend her with Tamra but I also have never given her a reason to believe differently up to this point. Peggy was the friend who gave her reason to doubt if she had her back, not me. I felt like just because I had now become friends with Tamra, Alexis automatically thought I had turned on her, like Alexis believed Peggy did when she became friends with Tamra. That was hurtful. My friendship with Tamra had nothing to do with my friendship with Alexis, and I would never allow Tamra to influence my feelings towards Alexis. Alexis' own actions towards me are what changed my feelings.

What I find most ironic about Alexis being so upset with me is that she sat there completely silent while I was in a fight with Vicki. Why is it that I had to get in the middle of her fight with Tamra but she could sit silent in my fight with Vicki? I know for a fact that Alexis thought Vicki was being hypocritical because we had talked about it several times, so why wasn't she standing up to Vicki and having my back? I actually stood up for Alexis to Tamra! Alexis also says this episode that she has always had my back when it came to Tamra. I must be missing something here. I never felt like when she would say "Tamra has good points and you have good points" that she was really having my back. That was more of staying neutral and not getting involved. So when I decide to try Alexis' method this time and stay neutral I'm all of a sudden not having her back? I felt like I couldn’t win here.

Here’s what I know for sure. If a friend asked me to not tell anyone about their surgery or whatever else they wanted to keep between me and them then I would never go back on that. I would always have their back and keep whatever they wanted private, private. That's what friends do. Just because we are on TV doesn’t mean we have to share things we would rather keep private. However that was not the situation here, Alexis chose to have her operation filmed for the world to see and she has only talked about wanting to have a nose job in the past with us girls and on screen. It sucks that she is being scrutinized for her reasons now, however in all fairness to everyone questioning her she has never talked about her sinuses, even to me, until a few months before the surgery.

503 comments
daisymai
daisymai

Gretchen is the only level headed person on that damn show!  HEATHER needs to GET OVER HERSELF big-time!  We have NEVER seen this woman before the show and she comes off like she's some well known actress! I'm sure she got the acting jobs shown on the HW Show due to her simply being on the show! and were thinking she probably wanted to join the show to get some jobs. She's all high and mighty and your right, she is threatened...first by Alexis and now by you.  She's obnoxious and thinks she is better than everyone. Hope she is not back on next year!

s_shelagh
s_shelagh

Gretchen You need a new best friend... Sarah insulted you with her actions.. I felt bad for everyone that was there.. instead of having a fun night... It was painfull, and hard to watch.. Even Slade was embarrassed... Shannon

PLHogan
PLHogan

Hi Gretchen, Love you, however, you should have apologized to Vickie for your friend's behavior on the show last night. I saw Slade ask her if she was alright and you should have said something to her as well. First of all, Sarah was an uninvited guest and you should NOT have invited her. Second, Sarah said to Vickie in a nasty tone, "We have to talk!" Very out-of-line. When you are an uninvited guest, you speak when spoken to. Sarah embarrassed you and you need to put her in line immediately - and have her off the show. She had no right to confront Vickie or anyone about anything, plus your relationship with Vickie is between you and Vickie and you do not need your friend to confront her. I don't like Vickie's behavior toward you and Slade, and her behavior in general, BUT stay in the right and you were not in the right last night and your "friend" uncaring, put you in a bad light.

watchforfun
watchforfun

Gretchen...for the life of me, I can't understand why you concern yourself with Vicki or with Tamra. Tamra is definitely not your friend.....surely you have seen some of the cuts from the shows, and who would want to be friends with Vicki anyway? She and 'the Countess' are the meanest girls on television!

Go live your wonderful life!!!

TeriGia
TeriGia

Gretchen, I love you but please do not bring Sarah Winchester into the mix any more. She is one annoying brat. She will do you more harm than good. You and Vicki were fine and that Sarah had to start another conflict. BTW why did you bring her ....she was not invited by the host and you did not even ask permission from the host to bring her.....that's your bad.

piperoni
piperoni

just watched the bowling party.you probley new sarah was going over to vicki.you acted like you did not know what was going on.what are you going to drop sarah like you did lex.she was in the wrong but sometimes friends make mistakes.learn to forgive you do say your a christian now.when you visited tamra that should of been vicki.you sure did not go see lex like that.i know you are just cutting out lex. she and vicki will be come friends. and lex has a GH cameo.you seem alittle mean this season.my favs alexis vicki and you and tamra are being mean and heather not sure.i think it was awful she has to call lex names.dum that is not high class at all.no more bullying.bravo print for gretchen.

Viewer99
Viewer99

i like you gretchen,but your friend sarah is beyond dumb. Stop bringing her to events when you are filmed. No one wants to see her and she is clearly an attention W%or# and wants to start fights. Do not bring her on air anymore or I will lose all my respect for you and your projects and your products.

kcsandiego
kcsandiego

Your vocal chords are damaged because you can't sing. Maybe you can carry a tune, I don't know, but a real singers voice would not be ruined because they screamed at someone one time. I'm so done watching this show? Is it for entertainment or just for all these women (who are finally as smart as Bethenny) to try and sell something? Infommercial or Reality TV?

lulu Griffin
lulu Griffin

Get rid of Sara...she clearly picked a fight with Vicki at the bowling event. She is of no interest to anyone and should not be invited to any more of the "Bravo" events. You should have interrupted her immediately when she approached Vick and pulled her away. What a disgrace. Keep her away from the booze.

cindy69
cindy69

im so glad you, slade, vicky and brooks got along at bowling..told you, kill em with kindness!! lol

MsMLM
MsMLM

Hello Getchen,

Do you sometimes feel like Slade is "pimping" you out by committing you to a Vegas "show" without really talking to you first? Also that horrendous Improv skit was so below you. Don't let him do that to you. You deserve better.

Sandra Lee
Sandra Lee

Ive always been on TEAM GRETCHEN but stop for a minute, watch past episodes with Lex and hopefully youn will see that you have changed towards her since you became buds with Tamera.

Its very SAD to see how all of the group is treating Lex and I see Tamera as the ring leader. Tamera is NOT your friend. I first thought she had changed however I now see the only reason she has portrayed herself as a different woman she actually is simply being an actress for your benefit. Its not real!

Lex needs compassion and understanding. I see her clinging to the old friendship she had with you and I suspect she is dealing with personal issues in her marriage, which may unfold as time goes on but for now, she is defintely right this time, you have changed towards her.

Im so sorry Slade's son is terminal. It truely breaks my heart. I too was a caregiver for a terminal family member who died in my arms too so I can relate how hard and stressful it truely is. No one will understand until they have walked in your shoes so they are really not worth the energy it takes to make them understand. You can not argue with a closed mind. Vicki is a closed mind. Nuff said.

I feel Slade truely does love you as you do him so who cares what anyone else thinks? All that matters is how you both feel about each other and everyone else's opinion is just insignificant. Other people's perceptions of me DO NOT MATTER, all that matters is MY perception of me and how I live my life so just keep that in mind as you continue to live your life the way you choose too, and with whom you choose to live it.

Loran Marie
Loran Marie

Watching Joe and Slade this morning, I'm amazed. This guy puts to much time and energy into being a house wive myself.. He was more into Joe's music career then her, like he's all into Gretchen's business. This guy needs a life of his own, and stop trying to take the spot light by picking fights with the other girls.. Such a Sissy.. Slade Be a Man and stay outta woman's Business.. Gretchen he is certainly riding ur Coat Tail..

IrishElle
IrishElle

It's funny I'm watching an old episode of Slade & Jo, you know the one where he's PUSHING her into a fake singing career? It reminds me of you, being pushed into so called "comedy routine girl" and a FAKE pussycat doll!! You know the episode where you say you want to become the next PINK OR CHRISTINA AUGUILARA - HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Keep dreaming sunshine, maybe Slade can make you the President next!!

paigemichelle
paigemichelle

if i was Alexis i would feel the same way...i would feel sad if my friend started to become friends with the one person who talks so much about crap about me. i agree that u should be friends with whomever u want but it just seems like u are starting to dismiss Alexis...its bad enough that she is not included with the group any longer. ur being nice to someone that was so incredibly mean to u and Slade and throwing Alexis away so u can be with the "in crowd" is just sad!

J.M.R.
J.M.R.

Please stay away from Tamra....she is not genuine. She is playing you like an instrument. Nothing about her is real, she is as fake as it comes. Vicki is just a self-absorbed female, some day she will realize that world does not revolve around her.

tammy hope
tammy hope

I agree with you on about %80 on your blog about Vic,but I think your wroung about lex I have noticed a change in the way you treat her since you made up with Tam.

CalleyCreed
CalleyCreed

Slade loved you losing your cool with Vicki. Holy Moly is a loser!!!!!!!!!!!

Mrry him G!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

piperoni
piperoni

alexis was gretchens friend.it is more like gretchen is back stabbing lex.she was there for you.your blog is never up on time.bravo print for gretchen.

cool person
cool person

ALEXIS IS NOT YOUR FRIEND SHE TALKS BEHIND YOUR BACK !!!!

cindy69
cindy69

hello? hello? gretchen you out there? hello? lol its april 8th, easter sunday. why havent you wrote? anyways just wanted to say i think you handled yourself exactly as you should of with alexis..shes fake..she lies..why would you want a friend like that? there was plenty of times she didnt stick up for you , she just sat there like the chicken @hit she is. hope to hear from you soon..enjoy and happy bunny day

martytt
martytt

Where in the world does Slade get off saying he was a pro cyclist. On no roster was he ever a member of a pro cycling team and he certainly NEVER road the the Tour. What a liar. He may know how to ride a bike but he is by no means a professional. He may even have been in France during the Tour but that idiot never road in it.

como
como

Gretchen, I have decided after watching alll the episodes that it's time your mate got a job. It's so obvious now that he's becoming worthless to himself and you. He'll feel better when he gets a job and can become a man all the time, not just in bed.

dina6654
dina6654

Gretchen, geez I just don't understand. You are stunning, funny, smart and so quick witted and clever, and absolutely Gorgeous (again.) If you were single you would be swooped up in a second! Even VICKI got a guy quick- COME ON. IMAGINE who's out there for you?---but he can't find you when you're tied to Slade. Uhg. For the love of God, hurry. You could land a hot guy with a fabulous life (money).... WHAT are you doing?? Slade wants you to have kids so you're tied to him. DON'T do it! Karma needs to find him for how he treated Jo.

MadgePadge
MadgePadge

I looked up the word "Svengali" in the dictionary, and the definition describes Slade perfectly. For those of you that do not know what it means, I included the definition. Svengali (plural svengalis): One who manipulates or controls another as by some mesmeric or sinister influence; especially a coach, mentor or industry mogul.  

Di  /UK
Di /UK

Oh Gretchen, when are you going to see the wood instead of the trees. You are beautiful inside and out, bright, funny and resilient. You are far to forgiving. I feel yourself and Vicki could have been great friends had it not been for Tamra. Tamra the insecure, jealous of Jeana and Vicki, she edged Jeana out and moved herself into Vicki's affection poisoning Vicki against you. Vicki is selfish, she's a business woman she works hard, she plays hard, she likes her rewards but above all she's a giver. Tamra's a taker, don't forget whilst you were going through such a hard time when Jeff was dying, instead of supporting you she publicly attempted to strip you of your dignity at her "etiquette party"! Does she have friendships that have lasted since school, does she have ANY friends? You don't need Tamra, Please don't fall out with Alexis.

Katie in Ct.
Katie in Ct.

Grtchen, I really don't get you....I totally get wanting to get rid of negative energy and awkwardness regarding Tamra, but it's 1 thing to get along with someone and another to really embrace them as a genuine, good friend. The difference between Alexis getting in the middle of your fight with Vicki and you sticking up for her is that you and Vicki were into a 1 to 1 fight. No one else was involved. But for you to sit at that other table with that nasty Tamra when you KNOW what the tone of the conversation was, was really really mean and thoughtless. Even Tamra said in her interview that it must have been killing Alexis to see the 2 of you at the same table against her. Tamra befriended Geena then turned on her, then she roped in Lynn, who she had been horrible to, but befriended her to get her away from you, then she turned on Vicki for a while last year, then started out fine with Alexis, but now turned on her and befriended you to get you away from her. The second she doesn't like someone any more she tries to isolate them from the group, and it is mind=boggling that you of all people are feeding in to this. Bad, bad choice.

Shabbylou
Shabbylou

I love you Gretchen! However, I have to piggyback what everyone is saying. You are a beautiful woman!!! What in the hell do you see in a loser like Slade? You could easily date a doctor,professional athlete etc... Why hook your star to such a waste of a man!!!

Anna C
Anna C

Gretchen you are seriously mistaken. How can you even say that it's the same thing to talk about someone's looks and to talk about someone's issues with child support. Slade has a choice and options about paying child support and thats fixable. A person has no choice about how they look. They are born that way. Yes, either way it's not right to talk about someone else's personal life, but Slade went way too far and so did you to say that they're the same thing! Get your head on straight honey, because right now you got it twisted.

Lori A
Lori A

Gretchen,

Love You! You are my favorite of all the Housewive series. I know you want to smooth things over with Tamra however, watch your back. I know you are a good person and you want to trust her but I wouldn't as far as I could throw her. And Vicky? I'm sorry that is just a losing battle with her. She seems like she is the type of person that is better than everyone else, can do no wrong and NEVER say she is sorry.

Maggie's Mom
Maggie's Mom

I'm a little surprised at you. If you want to be friends with Tamra (and believe her lies) then that is your choice. However, you are throwing Alexis under the bus for no reason. She was right - at that dinner you should have spoken up and supported her when Tamra attacked and ridiculed her. You chose to back down and play Tamra's game - almost as if you were afraid to annoy her while she was trashing your friend. Alexis has always supported you when you were Vicki & Tamra's victim. Thought better of you - but guess not. I hope you're not naive enough to think Tamra has changed. If she were sincere about feeling badly about the past, why didn't she put a public apology on her blog to you and Slade? Why would you want to aspire to be like Tamra - she's a low-class vile person who only loves one person and that's herself. She'll knife you again - it's her nature--in her DNA. Who will you run to then looking for sympathy - Alexis?

Viewer #1256
Viewer #1256

"ouch that hurt my ankle"..haha. that's what you get running next to tamra and not slade. team tamra for the gretch!

Special K
Special K

I love you Gretchen! I wish you made a better decision about a relationship w/ Slade...I think you would be better just being friends. He's a leach and a mooch and yes he has BOUNCED from 1 hw to another and another and another. The guy has nothing in his so called life but this show. What a sad excuse for a man...MsMozaicheart...are you a family member of Slades? You give him way too much credit for being what he is......A LOSER!!!! As for his comic act...OMG he is a total flop!! Calling out the other women was a very immature and childish thing to do..stand your ground G and be proud of who YOU are!!!

Pia Diddly
Pia Diddly

Hi Gretchen, It was heart wrenching to see you get so upset at Vikki. Vikki will never admit when she is in the wrong. In this situation calling you names such as a "piece of sh--" only highlighted her self absorption and disconnect from reality. Vikki was really over the top and your colorful language aside you stood up well to her.

On another note- It is clear the you and Slade are in love. However, it is also clear that Slade looks for every opportunity to promote you - It is as if he views you as a commodity. Yes, he loves you and he puts you on the market at every opportunity.

It's worrisome that he is so closely tied to your business and that he keeps pulling you into activities. He really needs to be stand alone with his own business that can support all his family obligations and you before anything goes further.

esther194
esther194

To Kim Hinnkle on April 3, 2012. Maybe you could try what I do, I just change the station when Vicky comes on.

itstrixietime
itstrixietime

Hi Gretchen~ I adore you.....as does most of America!! I want to point out to you that Vicki does show many signs of having Narcissistic Personality Disorder......Yes, all humans have at least one or two symptoms........However, Vickie can be checked off on EVERY ONE!!! Giving her the attention that you did that night is like pouring gasoline on a fire!!! Save your breath next time. I am married to an NPD man for 13 years and know through repeated experiences THAT personality will NEVER admit to ANY wrong doing. Worse yet? They NEVER apologize. It's as if they do NOT even hear what your saying. They are SO BUSY forming their next "takedown argument...." Vickie missed her calling in life......She should have been a Litigation Lawyer!!! Stay REAL beautiful woman!!!

Elm Grove WI Viewer
Elm Grove WI Viewer

Gretchen, I am in my mid-fifties..and you are the only woman that is not a total embarassment....you are also the youngest...please keep looking for the bright side, don't let the old women bring you down....and who cares what they think of your boyfriend.....you are entitled to do what you want to do(but do protect your interests:)

lol21
lol21

Tamera is using Gretchan to make herself look sane and Vicki insane. I believe as the season continues we will see a better Vicki. Tamera did the same thing to jeanna previously. Bravo keep Vicki she gives the spunk we need and she embodies the RHWOC. Remove Tamera Bravo!!! We don't see her children anymore.

Kim Hinnkle
Kim Hinnkle

G,

No longer watch because I can not stand to watch or hear Vickie. You are the sweetest and the most pretty of all of them. Everyone is jealous. Good luck to you....

FanFare57
FanFare57

When you had your catfight with Vicki, Slade looked bemused. He was stifling a smile and seemed satisfied with it. That was strange. It really was his big mouth that started the fracas, until you jumped in. The more upset you got, the happier he looked. Dim-bulb, "Lex' was too busy texting to come to your aid. Why you allowed her petulant, childish behavior to push you to apologize for not arguing with Tamra the way Alexis wanted, I'll never understand. Alexis is a fool. Don't be anyone's patsy anymore. Dump the himbo and the bimbo. You don't need them.

betsy4444
betsy4444

Gretchen, Why are you with a man who makes fun of women and their appearance? Does he like the way you look when you wash all of your thick make-up off and look like the rest of us? It boggles my mind that any woman would stay with someone like that. As far as the "comedy" show, he sucked. You were on your way to mending fences with the ladies and he "intentionally" blocked that. Do you ever wonder why? If he truly loved you, he would have "manned up" and respected your request and not have done the damage he did. As far as his feelings about Vicki, "get over it". I've never seen a man whine more than he does.

Mojosme
Mojosme

Everyoen wants Vicki to go....coem on now if she goes Where in the heck will she be able to promote COTO INS at? Bravo do all of us a favor and let her go. She has turned very mean and very self absorbed. The way she turned on Jeanna a few years back was it for me. You dont' do that to a true friend and next door neighor. Hooking up with Tamra was her way of trying to stay young, Jeanna represented what Vicki was seeing in the mirrow so she finds someone else younger to hang with. Pretty sad!!! I feel bad for Don, Michael and even more so for Brianna. This new Boyfrind of hers in my opinion is worse than Slade could ever be. Slade cleans up nicely, not of my taste but he does clean up but Brooks...yeah I got nothing positive here he's really being kept by a woman and probably one back home too.

T in Texas
T in Texas

Sweet , pretty Gretchen . Let go of Vicki . move on with the other housewives . Live your life to the fullest . Be happy with Slade . Vicki is slowly but surely getting what she put out . KARMA BABY !

sophie2012
sophie2012

hey gretchen, you are amazing! i love watching you and you are completely genuine, unlike tamra she is so jelous of you and it really shows, quite frankly she needs to sort her own love life out before she starts poking it in others! good luck to you and slade past is past if you love eachother good luck :) xx

Grageo
Grageo

Hi Gretchen,

I'm generally a fan of you, but I'm a bit confused about your behavior on this episode. First you insisted that any beef Tamra and Vicki (and apparently Ricky as well) had with Slade was been them and Slade, i.e., you didn't want to be involved. Then when Vicki confronted Slade, you certainly became involved, didn't you? Slade basically sat there while you stood up and ranted at Vicki. Regardless of the merits of your position, your behavior was embarrassing.

You also tell us that Slade has a job. Could you give us and idea as to what that job is? Please don't tell us that he's a professional comedian. His routine was absolutely dreadful. This guy's ego is out of control. It continues to confound me as to why you are with this buffoon. You are gorgeous, bright, and have have a great personality. You are winner, and Slade is a loser. I just can't imagine why you can't see this.

I also have to say that I love your new friendship with Tamra. In spite of all the baggage, you two have a strange sort of friendship "chemistry" that is interesting to watch. I hope to you continue to ignore all of the naysayers on this one.

AMYLOOOOO
AMYLOOOOO

You are 150% correct when it comes to Vicki! She is such a hypocrite and completely self absorbed! She makes me nuts!

donna0462
donna0462

gretchen i absolutely love you you are mature and not as dramatic as the other girls you and heather are the only real ones on this show vicki is to old for these dramas she is a grandmother and needs to calm herself and retire or something how ever i need to say stay true to yourself i understand you want to defend your husband but sometimes you should tell him no for what he does but overall you are a great person do not listen to alexis the dramatic woman who cals herself religious when she looks like a porn start or vicki who is a total .........

MichelleUK viewer
MichelleUK viewer

We are still behind here in Sunny UK but can't wait for Season 7!! Gretchen from the 1st time you apperared on the "HWOOC" you have been my favorite, as she are honest and kind. Attributes Nasty Vicki and Fake Tamra are missing!! Can't wait to see what the fuss is all about. Think positive xx

Sandy Nasagavesi
Sandy Nasagavesi

Vicki is nothing more than a bully, it makes me laugh how she portrays herself as a business women but doesn't know the first thing about networking or communication with others. It's more than obvious on screen she has an inability to be genuine and as said previously misery loves company that's why she's good friends with Tamara. Do you really need to make your point with her, shes to thick to comprehend commonsense anyway.

Dana fromn Canada
Dana fromn Canada

Gretchen, I have watched from the start. I love you. You and Alexis really bring a healthy balance to this show. No, wait WITHOUT you guys I couldn't watch this show! I just watched Slade's standup comedy. I have to say that although it was harsh and negative I understand why he did it. I'am a woman and NO woman(that i know) wants to see a male stand up and bash women like that. HOWEVER, I have watched all the seasons and i can understand why he did it. They have been VERY verbal and nasty to him and i think he just wanted to stand up for himself and finally have a say. When someone attacks your character..your motives..your parenting as vicki and tamra did its impossible to just get over that. Watching slade say all those things, as nasty and negative as they were... it was like watching a reaction that had to happen. I just hope that now that he got all of that off his chest you both can move on. As terrible as they are ..they r not worth it. Easy to say from my position but its true. wish u both all the best.