Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen discusses her and Slade's comedy debut and what it means for the group.

on Feb 29, 20120

Wow this was an intense episode for many reasons, but especially between Slade and I.

We start with Vicki and Tamra in the kitchen, which was a hilarious scene to me. Vicki was so funny making fun of Tamra and I talking 12 times a day, going shopping, etc. Vicki said to Tamra she is so happy her and I are friends, but was it just me or were you not believing her for one second? LOL. I love how Tamra kept calling Vicki out about being full of it when it came to loving Alexis all of a sudden. Vicki has never really been a huge fan of myself or Alexis, so it was obvious she was just saying those things in spite to Tamra.

Heather was not afraid to assert her voice when she meet with Alexis, which makes me understand a little bit better why there started to be a little rift between these two. I felt like I was watching two peacocks fluff their feathers to see who had the bigger ones.

I completely get where Tamra was coming from when she was talking with Eddie about her life and moving in together. I have encouraged Tamra all season to be her own woman and do something for herself before she jumps back into something. I know how difficult it has been for her, but I'm proud of her for stepping back for a minute and listening to her own self for once and deciding that she doesn't want a man to take care of her. Being financially sound as a woman is the best advice I could give anyone. I was a very successful business woman right out of college, then when I meet Jeff I walked away from it to be with him. It all seemed perfect until he got sick. I became his full time care taker and could not work. When I lost him, it was the scariest position to be in. I promised myself I would never allow myself to be in that position again, and thus that's the reason you see me working so hard and determined to be settled with my own stuff before I take the next step of marriage again.

241 comments
MJLR
MJLR

Hello Gretchen and Slade I live in the UK and I love the show. I really dont understand why Vicky dislikes Slade, he comes across as a very nice guy who has never done these women any harm. What ever is going on with his ex is non of anybody business but theres..... Some people just dont like seeing someone happy because they are not happy themselves..... Bitterness any way sod them and best of look to both of you xxxxxx

fani (new member)
fani (new member)

Dear Gretchen, I am a new member to this website, but certainly not new to your show. All of us here (your fans) in Toronto, Canada, adore you. Some people, for whatever reason, think that we (in Canada) are a little bit backwards. We are just as upwardly mobile as Americans. You should come (if you haven't been here already) and visit. The only difference that I can see so far, is that we are more accepting of the gay community, they are allowed to get married legaly, everyone here is equal. We are not a judgemental people. We accept everyone, no matter of skin colour, or sexual orientation. We are people who's phylosophy is ' live, and let live '. There is one other thing, however, most of the women here, are strong and confident, and we don't sell ourselves short. We will not get into a long term relationship with someone who is not worthy of us. I may sound a little snobish, but believe me I'm not. I did have a relationship with someone a few years ago, who I realized was so much into his looks, he didn't notice anyone else. He had what we call penis envy. He loved his penis so much, he wanted me to worship it. I will give him credit for being a good lover, but I wanted to make it clear to him that I didn't worship his penis, and that I never will. Anyway, dear Gretchen, we feel that you deserve so much better than ' what's his name ' ? We also feel that you know that, so why are you wasting your time with him? Why are you not out there finding someone who is your equal, that's not Slade, sweetheart. If you still want to get married and have children, get away from ' him ' a.s.a.p. We love you, the other ladies are also super, you are a bunch of wonderful people, who can do so much better, get working on the better, and let Slade find (I apologize in advance for saying this) someone who is down on his level.

We would love to hear back from you, Lots of love to you and the rest of the o.c. ladies, Sincerely Fani and the ladies ( your fans )in Toronto

Dola
Dola

Gretchen it was about time that Slade went after Vicki and her bestie Tamra. Both of those women are mean-spirited. And it's not all about Vicki, but she doesn't see it that way. I was so happy Slade finally got back at Vicki and Tamra. Gretchen I would be careful around Tamra..... You go Slade!!

Yahoo Gretchen
Yahoo Gretchen

Slade is a good man and Gretchen you bring out the best in him and Gretchen you are a good woman and Slade brings out the best in you. Be true to yourselves. If it is meant for marriage it will be if not you two will be friends for life. Love you both To heck with the hecklers you are not living for them but living for you.

LiNDaInFLa.
LiNDaInFLa.

Gretchen you are my favorite. I cant believe how you have been treated on the show by Tamara & Vicki. I'm sure its because you are smarter, prettier & thinner then they are. I'm glad you & Tamara made up, she was so wrong to do what she did to you. You are one strong lady to put up with that crap! As far as Slade, he seems like a cool guy. Everyone should know that comedians make fun of people for laughs, duh... People shoulndt take it personally & if they do, screw them!

kit cat cat
kit cat cat

Gretchen, I am a scorpio, just like you.... I have been told by so many people, why did you marry T.??? You could have done so much better...Like you and many "scorpians"... we have unique features.. you are so beautiful.. I can't hold a candle to you but I have been asked several times if I am a model.. I am 52 years old now and don't feel pretty at 5'10" tall, black hair, blue eyes and parents that reminded me every minute while I was growing up... Don't think your looks will get you anywhere.. be humble..almost to my detriment because I don't like to be the center of attention.. EVER...Forget what everyone says about Slade.. I see why you love him and I don't even know either one of you other than the show... I get him and I get you... Keep your chin up and go with your heart.. Who cares what anyone thinks of Slade... All that matters is what you two have together. I don't know why so many peple do not like him.. I do. We all have faults.. He seems, on camera, no worse than the average person. Good luck to you and God Bless.. Catherine

C.L. Leonard
C.L. Leonard

Gretchen, You rock! Even though I think you could do waaaaay better in the man department, I understand you can't tell your heart who to love once it falls!!! Good luck and I love the karma that is hitting Vicki in the face when it comes to her boyfriend!!! You are soooooo right, it is always only one way with that woman.

Congratulations!

Eddie R.
Eddie R.

I think if your trying to be good friends with the ladies you need to leave him. He acts like a child instead of being a grown person and talking to the grils instead of you backing him up while he hides be hind you. Your a wonderful person and the ladies need to get to know the fun side of you.

kelbell5676
kelbell5676

My husband never watches these shows with me however he was in the room during the episode where you kept referring to Slade as "your bi*ch" and he loved you from that point on. That is not to say he is a fan of Slades. My husband works his butt off everyday and then comes home and makes time for his sons and his wife. You can have a man that is willing to give his all to everyone in his life. I'm not trying to hate on Slade and I realize we don't see everything but what makes me feel the way I do about him is the fact that he has been involved with so many "housewives". I don't know how much the talk of marriage and kids is real but please take your time. The best advice I can give you is to say when you have a child it is a love like no other and if you have a child with the wrong person you will beat yourself up for the rest of your life. Love your future children enough to pick the most perfect father for them. If you have just an inkling of doubt about Slade that is your gut trying to tell you something. Even his own mother isn't sure about what he is doing with his life. On to other things your costume was great! I too hate the crimp hair look but it was how people wore it in the 80's. I think you look beautiful no matter what you wear. I am so glad you turned around and stuck up for yourself with Tamara's friend that started crap. Defend yourself no one can blame you for that but don't make Slade's fight your own. Wishing you all the best!

Christyjoejive
Christyjoejive

Hi Gretchen, I am so glad to see that you are feeling better and have become very strong. I had a couple hard years with losing Jeff. Slade also had a hard time with Jo and the illness of his son. It really good to see the two of you come into your own. I was never quite sure about Slade. I thought he was nice in the beginning with Jo but couldn't stand how she abused him.After that there was so much creepy talk about him among the housewives that I didn't think he was a truthful person. Now I have to say I love the two of you together! You have both taken a ton of c**p and have kept your heads up while always being respectful and loyal to each other.Way to Go! Comedy Club is a great idea. I think you both are funny. Loved Slade with the mullet,leather jacket,beer, etc. I feel that would be a great costume for his comedy show. He could sort of have an alter ego and come off a little like Andrew Dice Clay (I said a little, o.k.). It shouldn't be offensive then to anyone. It used to be an honor to be insulted by Don Rickles. Oh, and please Slade open each show with a picture of Miss Piggy. That would be great! Wishing you both a great future together.Ciao!

SladeFan
SladeFan

Ms. Gretchen,

I'm missing the point of all these commentators telling you to run from Slade. I've never seen him do anything bad to you, and I've certainly seen him rise to supporting you at virtually any level you want to rise to each time you're ready to rise again. Ignore the remarks from the ignoramuses and trust your feelings. Personally I think Slade has learned a lot about humility in the last few years, something I wouldn't expect the other "housewives" to understand (although if anyone does, it should be Tamra). The point is that you understand, and you don't have to explain your feelings to anyone. Stay true to yourself, trust your feelings and be happy. Best wishes for continuing success in all your endeavors.

SladeFan
SladeFan

Dear Ms. Rossi,

I'm having a hard time understanding why you want to "make amends" to Tamra. Usually you have to have done something wrong and the "amends" are an amendment -- a change. I don't remember you ever doing anything wrong to Tamra that you would have to correct -- or "amend." Why don't you give yourself a break, call the efforts to turn a bad relationship into a good one a desired "change," and say you want to make changes with Tamra or changes in your relationship. Don't convict yourself for something you didn't do.

BCDT
BCDT

Hey there,

I absolutely love your bedroom decor. Can you post a photo and pass along the designer of your furniture and bedding?

silvermoonslady
silvermoonslady

Gretchen, I have been there and fell in love with love and the security of having a man around. I know you think you love Slade, as I loved my guy, only to be supporting him (legal proven track record) after the breakup. Please be cautious, re-think your position as a wonderful and beautiful woman in your own right. Let him go, and you will make room for the right man, not the Mr. right now man. I have walked in your shoes and regret the time lost on my choice.

LyndaS
LyndaS

Slade sauntered into the party and immediately gossiped about Vicki and Tamra. He sounded like a fishwife. He's such a loser from loserville. What you see in him escapes me completely. btw: doesn't that fool have any male friends anymore? He seems to spend all of his time doing your errands.

elizabeth1970
elizabeth1970

i think you are a good hearted person and so is your bf you all make a great team and it makes me sick how no one on the show sees that in you all, i know you are a stronge person and if he wasnt doing good by you and for you , you would leave

Bitsy_29
Bitsy_29

Gretchen... you work hard and you stick up for yourself and don't let the others intimidate you. I don't understand your relationship with Slade but you have a right to date you who want to. I'm really glad that you are trying to mend fences this season. It's hard to watch the show and especially the reunions when everyone is screaming at each other. :) But, most of all, its better for you to be in a less stressful environment. Best wishes for a great year!

esther194
esther194

For Slade to ask you to do the intro to "his" routine in a skimpy bikini doesn't say much for how much he values you!! Get rid of him!!!!

LaurieFromTexas
LaurieFromTexas

Hey Gretchen,

During the last episode, my husband made a comment that you would actually make a much better career in comedy than Slade. You are his favourite housewife and he has always said that you were VERY funny.

He said to tell you to "please try comedy. Start with stand-up."

slb44
slb44

Gretchen you are a very talented pretty lady but i'd be careful with Slade.His true colors showed with that so called comedy act.Maybe Tamra is right about him.Seems to me that he is no gentlemen for what he did whether or not it was for ratings...that just shows me what he is capable of doing to women.Watch your back sweetie, you have more to offer than to be tied to Slade.I'm considering to stop watching if he continues on the show.Take care and God Bless ya!

DonnaS
DonnaS

Gretchen my dear..you are so naive. The arguments between Slade and Vicky go way back and he is only using you. First Slade is not funny in ANY way! Second from what i saw only a few audience members laughed. Third if he is such a stand up guy and a comedian he would have gone up to Vicky and apologized ( in a kind way!) stating it was only for the act. But no he wanted to hurt her! And the comments that she has made about him in the past are TRUE! Go back and watch the show from the very beginning and you will see what we all see. Get rid of him girlfriend you deserve better.

Carmen Velasquez
Carmen Velasquez

Honestly Gretchen I understand why Slade went after those two women.He had a legit opportunity and took it. How does it feel ladies?!!!!! As for you and Tamra, I understand you want peace but stay loyal to Alexis and dont let Tamra or Heather or anyone put her down ok. I like you I always have. I will continue to if you stay true to who you are and dont fall down to Tamra's level.

Aloha808
Aloha808

I seriously loved your crimped 80's hair! It looked cool.

Cat12
Cat12

I don't understand your attraction and devotion to a man like Slade, but there must be a reason. Hopefully a lot of good reasons, because I sure can't see any. It must be hard to read all these negative comments about him, but that's a result of his actions. I've watched the show since its beginning, and have always found you to be a beautiful, kind and caring person. You've weathered some pretty viscous attacks, even during the most heartbreaking time of your life, and have retained your kind and caring heart. It says a lot about your character.

CindyTaylor
CindyTaylor

Gretchen...I so admire you....you've been to hell and back on this show and you always come out with your head held high.... Vickie is TOTALLY wrong in her tirade against you... You honestly didn't have any part of it and even told slade you would have the backlash... She's a very bitter pseudo christian and they are the worst...forgive if it benefits me...you are an honest ..open...lovely person and I wish you nothing but the best...take care ...

Just sayin
Just sayin

Its good to watch you and Tamra getting along, Im glad she is being nice this season. Looking forward to next week when you stand up to Vicki, you go girl, don't take her crap.

kristi7
kristi7

Slade looked like the real Slade with the mullett, a total loser, or as I would have said to my freind if he would have walked in the room in the 80's, "Gag me with a spoon".

illshells
illshells

slad keeps changing what he wants to do he needs to pick one job and stick with it he could be out flipping bugers to bring money in.I have taken care of one man before i would never do it again so get rid of baggage you would do much better he will be gone when there is nothing left or you get tired of supporting him i know i got tired of it. i would rather be by myself than have someone like him

paigemichelle
paigemichelle

Ms. Gretchen, it must be hard to read all these nasty, negative comments about the man you love! Even though i dont condone what he did with the comedy act, i do understand, they humiliated him for years. He just needs to let it go and allow Karma to do its job and he will come out looking like the bigger person. You guys are obviously in love and nothing else matters. i would rather be with someone that loves me, respects me and supports me than someone who is wealthy and doesnt give me love. Love conquers all!

RealHouseWife
RealHouseWife

Hi Gretchen! I'm going to just jump right in & say you have been one of my favorite since you started the show. I think you are kind & loyal & funny! You have a huge heart so it might be easy to take advantage of someone like you. Please, be careful of Tamara. I don't trust her. Yes, she can be funny & I deep down I want to like her BUT I'm really confused by her behavior. I don't care what anyone has to say about Slade...that man adores you. He just wants you to remember what Tamara & Vickie have put him thru (& YOU) & that all these HATE comments about "you can do better or deserve better than Slade" are because of the comments T & V have made towards him over the years. The viewers HATE him because of them...period! You are a smart cookie & will figure it out. All the best to you & Slade.

Sakari
Sakari

This guy is such a loser! Why are you with him? He's scum! Your friends are so right! He just wants to be on TV!

MichelleATX
MichelleATX

I totally LOVE you. You seem like so much fun! XoXo

napgrl
napgrl

Each episode I find myself shaking my head in awe and wondering why you are still with Slade!

Isadora
Isadora

You used to be my favorite housewive until you started using the show as a jumpoff for your next endeavor which could only be "VIP WAITRESS?".... Please stop talking about how good you are in bed. Aren't your parents watching this?

Sheila from Montana
Sheila from Montana

Gretchen....... I want to start by saying that I think that you are great! You have been my favorite since you started the show! Maybe because you are pretty close to my age and you make me laugh. You are so able to be yourself and to me that is so great!

I also wanted to say that it was a very bad situation that you were put in by Slade! I understand that he has issues with the women, but, there is a time and a place for everything. In my opinion, he should not have put you in that position. It is okay to express ones feelings, but at the same time, a person should TRY to be respectful of others and their feelings! For what it is worth, that is my 2 cents worth. I think your awesome! Loved your 80's outfit! I hope life treats you well (and the ladies are a little kinder!) and your future as bright as your light! Sheila in Montana

Aloha808
Aloha808

Oh my gwaaaad! Like 'gag me with a spoon', I like totally, LOVED your 'Valley Girl' costume. You ROCKED IT!!!!

s_shelagh
s_shelagh

Gretchen You are so beautiful.. Really you have a wonderful body, beautiful face.. you are such fun, and funny Why are you with Slade.. He looks soooooooooo old... and honestly, Age does nothing for him.. he looks terrible.. Go out and let a real man take care of you.. he is not... good enough for you... You deserve much better... Shannon

Niinaaa
Niinaaa

Hey Girl , I understand you're trying to be more positive and live a positive life . The only reason why you still have major negativity in your life is because of him . him meaning Slade ! He's not worth it . You're a beautiful woman , who I think can get a better wise man . Open your eyes and leave him . He's clearly using you to the max to make him another product of fabulous , which is totally not at all .

You're a smart girl . Be nice & thoughtful . xxx

Mrs. Dahlstrom
Mrs. Dahlstrom

Gretchen, Kudos to you girl for standing up for not only yourself, but for your love. Slade has every right to be upset after all the trash talking Tamra and Vicki have done to him. Also, if Vicki/Tamra knew Slade's son had cancer and they still made cruel remarks about him then that makes them look lower then dirt...I mean who does that?! I also have to applaud you for putting Vicki in her place in this next show coming up with her boyfriend not paying child support etc...karma does bite people in the butt. Stay gorgeous and happy, but most of all don't let them put you done. Also, Alexis is a great friend and she's been good to you since day one...I think you should defend her when Tamra/Vicki talks crap because I know she would do the same for you.

nvviewer17
nvviewer17

Hey Gretchen!!! I just have a quick F.Y.I. Don't try to talk Slade out of being mad at anybody that has made nasty remarks about his parenting of his little boy who is sick. I can tell you from personal experience that you NEVER forget and most people never forgive that. I know I never will!!!!! People just don't know how they would behave in that situation. Everybody likes to think that they would do certain things but it doesn't always work out that way. You are just in a whole different world than other people and when bad things are said about how you react or behave by people that have no idea how you feel and have never been in that situation it sticks and you just cannot shake it. You know how you felt with Jeff and he wasn't your child so magnify that by about a zillion. Let him tear them to pieces! They deserve it! Love you on the show and want one of your bags but have to keep saving for it.

AmberLouLou
AmberLouLou

Gretchen, You are the epitomy of a hard working, idenpendent, light hearted, beautiful woman. Dont let anything any of these haters say! It is easy to sit back and judge how someone acts or handles a particular situation, but they are not the ones with a camera in their face documenting everthing they say or do! I think that you handle yourself very well, you stand up for what you believe in and you dont let ANYONE walk over you!!! Keep doing what your doing darling, bc you my dear are destined for greatness!

Ms. Rain
Ms. Rain

Slade isn't funny..period. I really could care less of this subject matters or topics..they guy just is not funny. Not really sure what you see in him or why you hang in there....but we women always seem to do that with guys we think "need" us. He may be so much more than anyonecan see but honestly you are traveling a road with someone that doesn't bring much to the table. If you're ok with that, so be it. As for Tamara, tread lightly..she may be fun but she has a pretty dark core.

blm
blm

you know how it feels to be treated like scum from tamra.now she and heather are doing the same to alexis.hope you do not end up in the circle of vile women filled with hate.remember the lord said you should forgive and be kind.do not start bashing lex you have already said a few things.do we become what we hang with.so far liked you better last season.

Viewer #1256
Viewer #1256

gretchen, it seems like you're super duper excited about your "new bff" status with tamra. so excited that on 3/6 episode that you had to call her in the limo when you were with alexis. your tone was like rubbing it in her face like "look at me..i'm bff's w/ tamra now (and you're not)". i mean tone it down a lil bit. geez! and also let tamra talk shit about alexis at the bunco about her tits and not sticking up for her. you just follow along tamra. also at heather's party. talking shit under your breath with tamra. you're willing to put aside your relationship w/ her and even slade just for tamra. it's cool you buried the hatchet with tamra but don't get too excited. what are you trying to prove? just act how you do when you're with vicki, heather...etc.

Mel46
Mel46

Gretchen, Everyone is on a Slade bashng today!! I think it is important for you to look at the things you are accepting in his bad behavior, and wonder why. Are the things that he is doing to you ok with you. When you stripped down to your bikini, I really thought that he was exploiting your body. When you first started dating him I am sure you were put in a position to defend your decision to be with him and defend his behavior. Is it really that important to be with him, or are you afraid maybe you were wrong to start dating him in the first place, and don't want to admit it.

Mary87
Mary87

Don't listen to all these haters. You are a beautiful and smart woman. I would think that if Slade was as bad a Vicki (Miss Piggy) and Tamara (White Trash) say he is you would not be with him.

Be careful with Tamara she's a real MEAN GIRL! She is only out for herself.

Housewife Cathy
Housewife Cathy

GR: Why are you with Slade? Come on girl - Slade has been around the housewives (literally) only for air time. He is one of the biggest loosers; and is only using you. His comedy act didn't bother me at bit; infact it was a long time coming; but what you did on the comedy show was what? There was nothing funny about it. OH, and one of my friends said you have had your boobs inflated and also your lips - is that true? You do look different from last year. Slade: Leave the ladies alone for a season! Or go visit the RHOA....NeNe could do a job on you!@

Viewer
Viewer

Gretchen: You seem like a nice enough person. I understanding about loving someone that may be no lot of people like. I married a man like that and it put a wedge within my family and we ended up in divorce. I only see what is on the show. But it seems that you have slade around to just be a flunky for you. You can do better. Keep your options open.

Bettyford
Bettyford

Gretchen, I hated you when you first came on the the OC cast. I can say I adore you now. You need to kick your man to the curb though, he is NOT good for you. I haven't liked Slade since the VERY FIRST EPISODE I saw him on. Yes, I understand that everyone has gone through their hardships, the difference is that Slade never pulled himself out, and is very obviously riding your coattails. Oh, and using his time in the spotlight very poorly to his advantage. I love his mother though. At least she had the balls to tell him his stand up SUCKS! Does he not realize that people you don't know are not going to get inside jokes? I know some comedians hit below the belt, but those are usually all done in fun, not serious "I'ma big ass baby who has to prove my point at any cost". Hell half those people came in because your name was on the marquise. You said that it was none of the girls business on spreading shit with Slade, and I agree, but it wasn't yours or his right to go through anyone else's. Further more, why do you want to be with someone who tears down what you just started to build? I don't know about you, but I certainly wouldn't be with a man that can't keep his damn mouth shut when I am trying to rectify things and make them right, if he is so hard up for a damn apology, then you two (meaning you and Tamra) need to set up a nice dinner, brunch, whatever and ALL of you sit the hell down and talk, yell, scream, whatever. Drop the "they may have apologized to you, but they have yet to apologize to me" BS. He's what 40? Get over yourself Slade. Please don't marry this fool. He is truly a dumbass that will only bring you down in the end.

CT LA
CT LA

Can you please get Slade his own intro spot for the show. And I think he should now be referred to as SlaaaaDay.