Wow this was an intense episode for many reasons, but especially between Slade and I.
We start with Vicki and Tamra in the kitchen, which was a hilarious scene to me. Vicki was so funny making fun of Tamra and I talking 12 times a day, going shopping, etc. Vicki said to Tamra she is so happy her and I are friends, but was it just me or were you not believing her for one second? LOL. I love how Tamra kept calling Vicki out about being full of it when it came to loving Alexis all of a sudden. Vicki has never really been a huge fan of myself or Alexis, so it was obvious she was just saying those things in spite to Tamra.
Heather was not afraid to assert her voice when she meet with Alexis, which makes me understand a little bit better why there started to be a little rift between these two. I felt like I was watching two peacocks fluff their feathers to see who had the bigger ones.
I completely get where Tamra was coming from when she was talking with Eddie about her life and moving in together. I have encouraged Tamra all season to be her own woman and do something for herself before she jumps back into something. I know how difficult it has been for her, but I'm proud of her for stepping back for a minute and listening to her own self for once and deciding that she doesn't want a man to take care of her. Being financially sound as a woman is the best advice I could give anyone. I was a very successful business woman right out of college, then when I meet Jeff I walked away from it to be with him. It all seemed perfect until he got sick. I became his full time care taker and could not work. When I lost him, it was the scariest position to be in. I promised myself I would never allow myself to be in that position again, and thus that's the reason you see me working so hard and determined to be settled with my own stuff before I take the next step of marriage again.
It seems that while you are finding yourself, Slade is like a child and all over the place. He needed to leave the jokes about the other housewives out of his routine. I mean you have to deal with them and he only caused more conflict for you. I think he may be a right now kinda guy, you need someone more stable for a long term future.
Gretchen: you have been my fav since you started with the RHOC; I admire your business sense and your loyalty. Also, I am happy that you and Tamra are trying to mend fences; however, I don't trust that woman so watch your back...Forget Vicky; she is so controlling, hypocritical and ridiculous..what is this - 3rd grade? Anyway looking forward to this season - I have been watching this particular RH since season one..Slade really cares about you and I don't blame him for feeling bitter towards Vicky and Tamra...
Of course I don't know the dynamic of your relationship with Slade, but I think you could do much better with a younger, more energetic man. You should be supported for doing the right thing.
Gretchen, I think you are a peach but I cannot for the life of me understand your taste in men. I would be so embarrassed of him if I were you. I feel sorry for his mother.
I thought it was funny & his digs at the ladies were well deserved. Yeah, maybe a little spiteful, but I don't blame him one bit. I'm glad you wrote that just because youve decided to make peace with the ladies doesn't mean Slade is at that point, too. I think Vicki & Tamra have to understand that. They've gone out of their way to make hurtful & damaging allegations towards him and that's not an easy thing to forgive, especially where your children are concerned. I like Slade and everyone can see how much he adores you. I wish you both the best.....together! :)
I agree-Slade used his Improve routine as a platform to get back at Tamra & Vicki. Sure the two women talked trash about him in the past, but he should've known that you will be on the receiving end of their wrath! I thought you were too cute as the host of the show! As for Heather, nothing seems to please her-she is like Vicki-don't do as I do, but do as I say. She really needs to bring it down a notch. Her husband seems nice, but he catches it too!
Slade really lived up to his "Slimey Slade" nickname on last night's episode. He REALLY needs to get a real job.
Not only was Slade's performance not funny, but it's him once again using the Housewives to gain attention for himself. Seriously, Gretchen is the THIRD housewife that he has been with. At least the other two were smart enough to move on. If you want to put the "news out there" like you said Slade, then why dont you add about your long term unemployment, Gretchen having a warrant, you STILL not paying child support, or how you compared Vicki to Miss piggy well how about comparing yourself to some other old, washed up, unemployed man. Vicki is very successful and works hard, your idea of working is carrying your girlfriends' bags for her. LOSER! Wonder where he will be in 10 years.
Gretchen, love how you try to handle the bad situation that Slade chose to put you in. I'm always very supportive of your relationship with him, but he went over and beyond crossing the line. Not because I care about what he said about Tamra and Vicki, but because he put you in a situation that he clearly had a choice not to put you into. Tamra and Vicki were very judgmental (to say the least) of Slade and put a lot of crap out there that they didn't have to. So yes, Slade feels the need for revenge, Slade feels a lot of anguish for them, Slade feels like they deserve what they get. And they do. ONLY if it doesn't affect you. It wasn't about them and you tried to tell him that, but he wouldn't listen. I can't help but hope this won't happen again. I hope he doesn't choose his own hateful feelings over yours anymore. That's not a grown up thing to do. Tell Slade, he's a man, get over the past. Stop living in the past. Look to the future. Just please, make him see that what he did at the show did NOT affect just Vicki and Tamra, it affected you as well. He should never have put you in a place that made you be defensive. Not a fair thing to do. All that being said, you're so great this season. So much better than bitter Gretchen last season. I like your friendship with Tamra. You two have some bad influences (Vicki, Alexis, Slade) and you're pushing through it. Love that! Hope you're enjoying life! BTW, I love Slade's mom too! She's great!
Making fun of someones looks requires no talent, and is a cheap shot. Slade was criticized for his actions, not his looks. If he's not clever enough to get back at the girls based on their actions, he should have looked elsewhere for material. He came off childish and vindictive. Time to man up and address the criticism, not hurl insults like a 5 year old on a playground. The fact that his comedy was the stuff Alexis understood and thought was funny says it all. Glad your getting more bookings, but are they based on your act, or the fact that your famous and will always draw a crowd? unfortunately his actions put you in a bad light, making fun of a woman for her looks or her weight is never okay.
Never okay to make fun of a woman for her looks or her weight. If Slade can't be more clever than that, he doesn't belong in comedy. He's getting booked based on your fame and popularity, not on talent. No wonder the other women think he takes advantage of you.
I don't get you!!!! You clearly can't let the past go with Vicki, getting upset that she's not thinking of yours and Slade's situation when she's talking to Brianna, but you can get past it with tamra who was 100 times worse! She contacted Grayson's mom for crying out loud. She bashed you way more than Vicki. Rewatch the reunion...you are very disappointing.
Gretchen you are changing for the better! I never cared for you in past seasons, but you are growing with leaps and bounds into an awesome, strong, smart woman! Lose that boyfriend of yours though...he's toxic, petty and immature, he'll hold you back from becoming the woman you are meant to be.
I give you a lot of credit for many things and I thought last night's episode revealed a side to you that we haven't seen. There was a self-lessness to laugh at yourself, but you showed some moral-ethics to stand up for your relationships at the expense of the friction/possible success that it could cause for Slade. It is clear he is grasping at straws to develop something for himself, and I got the feeling you felt alittle "used" the way he sprung it on you and twisted the opportunity. It seems like you are trying to turn things around. Slade may be pulling you down, he may be having a tough time for a long time, but are his motives truly for you???
Gretchen..Slade's performance was a 1. I like you so far this season, but only when Slade isn't in the scene with you. You could do so much better. why does bravo give him so much airtime?
I really tried not to like you Gretchen, when you appeared as a new "housewife". However, you make it hard not too! Although the Orange County lifestyle is extremely foreign to me, you seem like a genuine person. As an oncology/ bone marrow transplant nurse, I felt for you and your situation with your fiance. Conversely, I have really tried to like Slade, but he makes it impossible! The comedy routine really decided it for me. No offense to your taste in men, but he is really a douche....he acts like a mean high school girl. I admire you trying to support him but I don't get the feeling that even you respect him. I hope you find someone that is better suited for you.
Gretchen, you are my favorite housewife...I really liked Slade i n the beginning, but he has really turned into a full blown idiot! You can and deserve so much better!
Props to you guys doing stand-up (not easy). Good for Slade, he deserves to put Vicki & Tamra in their place-MEAN GIRLS. Why didn't Bravo edit in more of the funny stuff? Seriously, you need to be careful of Tamra and her 'naked wasted' ways. It's a little hard for your fans to watch you after she pulled that on you (of course, Bravo has rerun that episode several times). Plus, Tamra is very jealeous of you. Alexis is definitely a true friend, not a fair-weather friend. Hope Slade continues to win his battle against cancer-I'm a survivor too.
Gretchen.... slades performance was a 1. Iike you so far this season, but only when slade isn't in the scene with you. He is such a loser, and you could do so much better. Even the guests on WWHL didn't like him.
I'm sorry but you need to dump Slade. He is not attractive, I don't care what anyone says. You are beautiful and young and could have anyone. Why are you with him? And his act was not funny, it was awkward to watch and I was embarrased for him! To be so successful and driven, your choice in men...or Slade, is surprising to me. And I think his choice in material for that horrible commedy act was disgusting and disrespectful to you. And he didn't care enough about you to not go there. How immature? Don't marry him Gretchen, please!
Gretchen, I've been watching the show since day 1. You are my favorite housewife. You're funny, witty and I admire that you can take care of yourself. With that said, please do NOT marry Slade. You're better then that and he does not deserve you. If he cared about you, he would not have done what he did to Tamra and Vicki. You need a real man and not a boy.
Poor Gretchen...How can you not want to hide after Slade's disgusting NON comedy routine? You must have a very LOW self esteem to settle for the bottom of the barrel..Dump this LOSER...
Gretchen, Love you but Slade is a creep! You need to dump him. He knew you were trying to mend fences with the girls. Dump the loser he went too far.
Slade's "act" was mean and tasteless. It was disrespectful towards women, and you. You politely asked him to reconsider his material to spare you attacks from the ladies and he totally ignored your request. He did what HE wanted and didn't care about your feelings at all. This is why so many people think he's slime. And why did he have to make fun of Jo? Tamra and Vicki I get, but Jo hasn't been on in YEARS. He needs to grow up and get a real job.
I loved on Watch Whats Happening...Is Slade a housewife? Duh...Yes! He has been on as long as Vicki. And he dotes and totes on Gretchen and the dogs, so he is a house husband. Comedy is normally general in group joking so to be specific was to much. He needs to quit wearing his feelings on his sleeve and man up. Maybe then he will get respect and Gretchens hand in marriage. Men are to be defender, provider, protectors and Slade well he is missing a fruit loop or two in some areas.
Gretchen: You have always been my all time favorite person on the show and quite frankly of ALL the RH shows. I have to agree with one of the other posts, I would absolutely be 100% embarrassed not only with Slades "performance" but with him in general. You are such a beautiful and very intelligent woman and trust me you could do so much better than that child. I understand you care about him but he's scum/mooch/instigator and the list can go on and on. I hope you will wise up.....
First of all let me say I have always liked you. Until slade that is. Now you two have proven my judgement right. He is a childish mean spirited man and beyond anyone I would want to be associated with. Its not just the spiteful nature of his routine (can't call it comedy) its that he didn't even care how you would be impacted, this from a man you clearly support in everyway. He had a platform and he just wanted to punch in the most raunchy digusting way. YOu should be ashamed only that you are associated with him. So don't be surprised when you get painted with the same brush. I am not fond of Vicki or Tamara but what slade did is just without class.
Really Slade? He acted like a high school girl.... a REAL MAN would NEVER do that. Just shows how pathetic and lame he is. You really could do much better..
Gretchen You can't help that you have fallen in love with this guy. The industry he was in is coming back and then some I know I have been doing for a long time. He should be back to work and stop trying to be one of the housewives you don't see the other husbands as much as we see Slade. Please don't get me wrong I love both of you but as long as he is in the show your going to get grief. Good luck with all of your new adventures stay positive and don't get hung up in the drama. Like the other person said watch your back Tamara can not be trusted but I think you already know that.
You really need to learn when to use I and when to use me. Here is a tip: when you want to type "Slade and I" (for example) , leave off the "Slade and" part and see if I or me makes sense.
From what I saw, Slade stunk and should have gotten the hook. I mean his routine was so limited: "being a housewife hunter" on his t-shirt? I made him unseemly while clinging to your coattails. Frankly, he's become a perennial housewife's boyfriend and hanger on of the show. Therefore, he's still a douche bag. I don't see why he's given such an expanded role. If he is a successful comedian as you claim, maybe, he'll go on the road to do his "act" and be away from the show, finally. One can only hope.
A few things I picked up on this weeks episode. I actually thought what Vicki was saying about Alexis was a joke. She was being sarcastically funny. I didn't take it that she was being serious. In all honesty, I get her surprise. When I see someone talk smack and rip that person apart, then she is buying them bracelets and calling them BFF...I would be surprised as well.
Tamra, she has been stirring up the jealousy with Vicki as far as your new found friendship with her. Frankly, I think you should ditch her. You seem more loyal and she seems like the fairweather friend. Who knows...next year she will be buying a bracelet for Alexis.
Slade, I actually was disappointed in him but now that I've read your blog...he must be more than just angry. He was shredded by these women and on top of it, he is dealing with a sick child. I say...good for him!!!
Slade is sleazy and I admire you for wanting to make amends with the other ladies. But, like the other Housewives show, my opinion is -- yawn. Bravo is loosing it's edge.
Hi, I never usually comment on anyones blog but the show last night upset me a bit. First of all I want to say that I completely understand Slades anger towards those who have attacked his character so much. That being said I find it very sad that he has to work through this by retaliating like a 14 year old would. It made both of you look very bad and was so embarassing to watch.
There are so many more healthful ways to deal with anger such as therapy, meditation, exercise etc.. Gretchen I do feel that you should have been firm on setting boundaries on his material and told him the cast is not to be used in the material. You have both sunk to the same level as the others who have acted in such an innapropriate way. You are now no better.
I hope you guys can find a healthier way to deal with these emotions. The things that were said were incredibly cruel, and it never makes it ok to be that mean just because someone else lowered themselve to that level.
If Slade was trying to do something independantly from the show i feel like he shouldn't have done housewife jokes and should have shown us a different side of him (a side that doesn't revolve around the show) and he would gain more respect that way
Please don't tell me you actually took that act on the road?? Have you two no shame?? Embarrassing!! Actually, what am I saying?? look at your taste in men- of course you have no shame (or common sense it would seem!!)
1. Slade is immature and unfunny. I would not hire him if I watched him from the beginning. I understand if he has no $$$ he can't pay the same child support, but he is riding on your coattails as he does with all the housewives and he hasn't really tried with his son to get ANY job or move closer.
2. Yeah, V is hypocritical. Both about Slade/Brooks and about Tamra.
3. Yeah, Tamra was mean. But I think she is taking the higher road than you are because she apologized unequivocally without expectations from you. AND you have never taken ownership of your own contribution to the situation. Even in your first season, you never took responsibility for your drinking behavior while engaged; your fibs about the other man in your life (all documented) and how T had to deal with his calls to her/court cases... This was not a one sided problem. Take full responsibility for your part.
I do applaud you for not wanting anymore conflict between you and Tamara. I hope your business contiues to grow and Slade finds his independence from you. I think calling him you b###h is just not good. Take care and do unto others what you want them to do for you.
Gretchen, I've always been a fan of yours! But please think twice before turning your back on Alexis, she has always been supportive of you......unlike SOME of the other ladies! *ahem* I see nothing wrong with you wanting to make amends with Tamra, but you can have more than one friend...you know?!
Gretchen: I am not going to lie that more often than not I am not a huge fan of yours. With that said though, I do feel sorry for you. You are a very intelligent and beautiful girl who I feel is being placed in a combative situation because of the turmoil between Slade and the ladies. As you and I both would understand that often a dig that is warranted is that. However for Slade to have no regards to the situation you will be placed in because they have hurt his feelings is self-centered. I wish that you would have told him to either zip it or he was on his own. You are very direct and able to hold your own with the other women I feel you should do the same with Slade. I will admit Slade makes my skin crawl but out of respect for the ability to choose, I wish you well with him.
I have always liked Slade and felt supportive of him. After seeing this "so-called" comedy act I have changed my mind. He needs to apologize to you, the other women and his mother. Slade one piece of advice: Your mother knows you and when she says you aren't funny - believe it! She is outspoken and can always tell you the truth. God help us if you choose this as a new career!
First of all, Vikki and Tamra are way better friends than you think. It was obvious by their interactions in the kitchen. OF COURSE Vikki was joking around about her new friendship with Alexis ... and, of course, Tamra knew that. When you're really good friends, you can joke around like that and the other person knows what's going on. I also DO NOT think Vikki is jealous of you and Gretchen. I just think she's shocked at the flamboyancy of your new friendship. I would be too. It's like you both are back in high school giving friendship bracelets and doing the whole BFF thing. To Vikki, it just looks ridiculous and she was making fun of it. After all the things that Tamra has said about you, I highly doubt she thinks you too are truly BFFs. So perhaps she is annoyed by the superficiality of it all? So I wouldn't be so quick to call her jealous. I don't think it's that at all. She's simply annoyed. And I would be too.
SLADE NEEDS TO GET A LIFE... OTHER THAN THE HOUSEWIVES HE IS THE ONLY MAN IN ALL THE SHOWS IN ALL OF HOUSEWIVES HISTORY THAT GETS SO INVOLVED WITH THE LADIES NO OTHER GUY IS LIKE THAT, HE NEEDS A LIFE AND A JOB....
You're right. Just because Slade has an issue with your friends, it doesn't mean you can't stay on course to mend fences. Best of luck! I'm beginning to respect you. Keep up the good work staying true to yourself.
PS....don't marry slade!
Hey girl! I understand why Slade is upset with the women. I do. I feel he is deserved an apology for the child-support thing. But...the comic thing was low and immature. It made him look so bad! Plus, can't he be successful without involving RHOOC? I hope for your case he can. I am pulling for him cause I like you. I also like Tamra and I am soooo happy you guys are trying to mend fences because I bet you guys could have so much fun together. Sorry to say those things about Slade cause I know you love him, but it's just my opinion from looking in. P.S. You have a hot body!
I really want to like you. You are always my favorite until Slade arrives. I feel like he really diminishes the value of your brand. His jokes were mean spirited, not funny, juvenile and tastless. Being incendiary doesnt make someone talented. You would be so much better off with out him! Are there no other single men in Newport Beach, seriously... He's awful