I have been out of commission writing blogs for the last few weeks for a few different reasons (including my extremely busy travel schedule lately) however I have had so many exciting and amazing things happening lately that it's been hard to focus on anything negative. When I see what other Wives are claiming about me on the show or what they "really" think about me when they have told me another thing in person, it sparks emotions and frustrations that creates negativity in my life.
I was finding myself trying to explain the reason why I choose to do something every week in my blog, and the bottom line is that I realized that I don’t have to explain who I know I am or my intentions to anyone. I know my heart, and I know my intentions are always coming from a good place whether it involves my friends or my partner. I have and will never waver from that.
Sometimes I am even willing to risk a friendship for the sake of letting the person know the truth about something they might not be aware of. I would hope a friend would be willing to do the same thing for me. It's not always easy telling your friend or partner something they don't want to hear, but sometimes you have to in order to help them in the long run. Maybe my delivery or timing can get better, but I have only wanted the best for everyone -- including people that I don't even like or get along with per say.
For most of the seasons, I thought you were the most reasonable/understanding one of the "group". I never even comment on blogs.. But after watching everybody be so incredibly mean to Alexis I couldn't help. I feel like of all people, you were honestly the hardest to watch. You've become kind of an immature woman..I just don't feel like ladies act that way. Everybody else really wasn't friends with Alexis so their opinions are just like the opinions everybody has about every one of you, if you find that to be an accurate view/opinion or not. I don't even really like Alexis that much, and definitely agree with some things you all say about her.. But You hold grudges like no other. And she honestly has never showed anything other than love and support on her end of any friendship. She definitely shouldn't have come to the dinner.. But You acted like a teenage girl with a sour attitude the whole time.. Making comments under your breath.. you definitely stopped being friends with alexis because tamra hates her. she seems to bring out a really bad side of you.
I almost choked when you said that you had Alexis's back in costa rica. Youve caught Tamra Syndrome. Its the disease where you think your assesment about everyone else is 100% correct, and you try to convince yourself that your foul action was legit because you shed a few tears over it. Seek help ASAP.
Gretchen - Love you. Please dump that Tamra. She is so jealous of you. Alexis was a real friend. I already let Tamra know how I feel. Seems MANY of us feel exactly the same. All the Best to you and Slade. Been in your position my whole life-surrounded by jealous women! Stay "up" and realize exactly WHY there are Haters.
Gretchen - Amen! Congrats on all your successes and on your budding friendship w/Tamara. I'm thrilled that she finally did step up and apologize to you. Really, that's all it took. The two of you are so much alike and it's heartwarming to see the sincerity that is showing itself in your friendship. Your comment on 'the evil eye', "those are fighting words for Tamara" I thought it was endearing, cute and funny at the same time. You both are very goofy, high-spirited and carefree, but grounded, driven and ambitious at the same time. Good for you and best always.
Give me a break, Gretchen. You more or less stated that you don't want Alexis in your life because of how she questioned your friendship, but the fact of the matter is, you used this as an excuse to break ties with her because you would rather be with the more "popular girls", Tamra and Heather. You know in your heart that they wouldn't accept you into their circle if you were a loyal friend to Alexis. That was evident when you joined in the "intervention". I used to have a lot of respect for you but now I see you as someone that has sold her soul for acceptance by a mean spirited woman and the new rich girl on the block. Alexis should be happy to be rid of you. I won't be watching this show anymore after reading your blog. I'm disgusted.
Gretchen, I have to respect the way you communicate with Slade. I did think it was ironic that you two went to see a therapist. If I recall, that's how he broke up with Jo.
Congrads on your success. G, get rid of the anchor around your neck!! You are old enough to know that love is not enough. When you are trying to feed a baby and pay a mortgage his sweet con words wont mean I thing!! Get rid of him now before it goes any further!! Look to a mans past to see his future. You are smarter than this.
What would be most positive would be to show humility and compassion for your long time friend who deeply hurt and disappointed. Being positive isn't the same as being in denial. I really, really liked you until this season. Seems like you made a deal with the devil by befriending Tamra, who probably only befriended you because Bravo told her to play nicer with popular castmates or be off the show. Eek.
Gretchen,this is the first season that i think your a good person!!.Do not marry Slade i would like to see you with someone that will Love you forever and always have your back.It doesn't matter if Slade is poor ,i understand money makes the world go around it helps alot. ,if he would just help out at times that would be great to see.It just feels he is trying to live off on you.He might do alot of things for you but he has had lots of time to get his crap straight ,and so far hasn't changed anything.Stop wasting your time with him.You are such a Beautiful women and many times very sweet.You just want to be loved for you..I also think you telling Alexis what you thought about how she was coming across was good thing..You stood up as a friend to try and show her how fake she has been being .You just know down deep shes maybe not that bad as she acts on the show..Hey i'm giving her to much room,I know .Just hang in there..
Gretchen, You have never been fake and the things you say on the show are real and the truth! I have always said if only you and Tamra could get through all the past hurt, that you two would be unbreakable. I am so glad that you feel that you finally got what you deserved from Tamra and now the two of you can move on. I'm glad you want to be positive and surround yourself with happiness. Take the high- road girl, like you always have! I'm happy for Slade and I knew something great was going to come his way! Congrats! =)
Tamra hates Alexis. Constructive criticism by definition has to come from someone who wants to help you improve yourself. Tamera doesn't want anything good for Alexis. She's been creeping me out this season with her angry obsession with Alexis. Hey, BRAVO, I'm not watching next season if Tamra is still on the cast. Not fun anymore. Depressing actually.
I think you were trying to help Alexis. I love you and Tamra together and I think you're one of the most real housewives. You also were very polite and the only one who remembered that Heathers party was for Heather and not anyone else's drama. LOVE LOVE LOVE YA.
Gretchen, remember what you went through. Just watch your back with Tamara. I have always thought you were the sweetest person and you and Slade are adorable together. Don't let Tamara get between you two. She is a shallow, hateful person. I almost wanted to throw up when you gave her that bracelet. I can't stand her fake crying with no tears. Really Tamara, you need to take some acting classes.
Gretchen what can say..... you seem to have the best heart, beside Vicki in this whole group
I can tell you really care about people, don't be fool by Tamara and her crocodile tears.
Be true to yourself, pursue your career and move forward and if Slate really cares about you a ring does not make a commitment, have him show you by doing the right thing .. tell him to be a man, do the right thing by hie obligations and stop giving you a song and dance about how he will make things right... your a smart women and you deserve the best ... he needs to step up to the plate or dump him.
These people must be watching the show on mute with blinders on. Those of us with common sense know that you were only trying to help Alexis. When it came from you I was Hoping maybe she would listen for a second and put down her perfect mask. I heard you saying that people would like her if she didn't act so fake and prudish. I think you were being a friend. Like I rep,ied to one of the posts, if I had a piece of lettuce on my teeth I'd hope you would tell me. I think you were one of the few people at Heather's party that was polite and fun. You were one of the few that seemed to realize that the party was for Heather, not for them and their drama! Alexis forced the issue that caused the drama and then so did Vicky! Don't listen to all these jealous haters!! You're beautiful and REAL!!!
Wow.. you can't win for losing can you? I think you have tried to be impartial this season and friendly. I think the things you said to Alexis was in her best interest. I am surprised by the comments otherwise. Hang in there and continue to grow.
Love your handbags.. hoping oneday to own one for sure..lol
Gretchen, you have always been one of if not my favorite housewife. I am sad your relationship with Alexis is not doing so well. Please, dont allow Tamra to get between your friendship. It's good that you and Tamra have settled your differences, but don't forget one of the biggest reasons why Alexis and Tamra are not friends is because Alexis became friends with you.
You should try to sit down with Alexis and have a heart to heart. I believe your friendship deserves it and is worth saving.
You are the only housewife that I haven't seen be mean to people, only once have I seen you dish it back and that was to Tamra last season but to be mean just cuz you didn't like someone or the way the other person was behaving toward you I haven't seen you do that you've taken the high road. Sorry about you and Alexis. I think you should have stuck up for her when Tamra and Heather ganged up on her and told them to lay off, get with old girl one on one later and enjoy the trip.
Have your baby, don't marry Slade, you are smart not to do that. Your concerns are valid and if you do marry him be prepared for what may come down the pike, your worst fears (hopefully not but your eyes are wide open and you can't say you didn't see). Be prepared to provide for the baby w/out him cuz any $$$$ he gets he owes to the other two and I bet he owes a lot. Get a pre-nup to protect yourself
You have always been a great girl since day one on the show. Your personality and style really hasn't changed at all. I think you're the most mature gal of the whole bunch. The ladies could all take a lesson (or two) from you! I also believe that Jeff has been looking down on you and keeping you protected. You're truly special! Happy to hear you are giving only positive things your energy. Stay blessed!!
gretchen you did alexis wrong. and you deserve tamara as friend. so fake . alexis was a very good friend . i hope one day you truely wake up / you should very uncaring to a good friend alexis. i guess you friends dont mean nothing . good luck
You used to be my fave on the show, but this season your were at the bottom of my list. I thought you were more real than that. I am glad that you and Tamra are friends, but that doesn't mean cut of Alexis. If you pay close attention to past seasons, Tamra can only have one good friend at a time. So if she doesn't like someone, than you are not allowed to like them either. Tamra is way more fake and phony than Alexis and she is dragging you into that pool with her. Get back to your old self and I might consider liking you again.
I love the fact that you and Tamra are friends now. I always felt that you two were alike in many ways and that may have had something to do with why you bumped heads. I could actually see you and Tamra being friends for a long time, and you're both beautiful!
Gretchen, I use to feel sorry for you when all the others ganged up on you, now you are one of the meanies! So disappointed in your egging Tamara on, shame on you!
So what if Slade doesnt have a job. House husband is no different than house wife. He is helping you so maybe you should give him a salary and then he can pay his bills. Do you really want him to get a different job and not help you? If you have a baby you will even need more help.
I guess now that Tamra is not bullying you and Slade, you guys feel it's okay to stand by and watch her attack Jim, Alexis and now Sarah. You made a point to grab Alexis's arm and ask her not to put her hand in Slades face, yet Slades hands were all in her space. You've turned out to be a horrible friend to Alexis and even to Sarah just to solidify your shallow relationship with Tamra and with Heather. You need to stay away from the mean girls for awhile and then watch the tapes at everyones reaction to see you all are wrong in how you treat people. I was on your and Slades side with how Tamra was treating you, now I can't stand to watch you two. It's one thing to be friends with Tamra, it's another to condone her poor treatment of other just because she expects you to. Have a spine and mind of your own. No friendship is worth you selling out yourself for.
I am in agreement with others here, you have changed and not in a positive way.. Tamra is poison and I still cannot see how Eddie doesn't see Dr. Jeckyl and Mrs. Hyde. Seriously you are really out of touch and not fooling the people who watch the show... I mean after Jim watks away because recognizes trouble when he sees it, you sit down to gossip about it... So quickly one forgets when they were on the other side of the table... I always have been confused as to how people who have been subjected to the horrors of bullying, but when they are allowed to play with the bullies, they feel the need to bully alongside them... Do you honestly think that the way you felt when it happened to you, wouldn't carry over to someone else who is not the victim??..... No matter what faults Alexis and Jim have, and whatever you feel they should or should not be acting, you are now a bully... Congratulations!!!....
Reality tv is a guilty pleasure and I know we only get to see the edited for ratings versions and the "cast" has no control over what's shown so I've come to this conclusion.... If the small moments that are shown only portray a consistent image, then I believe there is some truth in that person actually being that way. Example: Sarah. Has only been on 3 episodes and every time she's drunk and causing drama. Gotta be SOME truth to who she really is. No? Gretchen, I know she's your friend but soemtimes you gotta let go of some people because just being attached to them taints YOUR image. You keep doing you, live your dreams, don't worry about the tabloids and phony stories and just be happy!
You used to be my favorite housewife. I could never throw my friend under the bus like you. I guess you don 't remember the feeling when Tamra bullied/confronted you in front of everyone several times. You could not stand up for Alexis or talk to her privately? You are not perfect nor Alexis and Tamra is so mean. How could you laugh at jokes Tamra would say about Alexis?Girl, you are not the person I thought you were. Just like Tamra switches up friends every season, Boo she is going to switch up on you. But think of it as a lesson learned. I am so not perfect but loyalty is what I do! You need to learn about loyalty girlie.
How funny. If I had to guess, I'd say Alexis hired some people to post on your blog, lol.
I really hope you are no longer associating yourself with that terrible SARAH.
God please stay away from her. Your choice of company can reflect badly on you. You don't want that. Congrats on your success.
Gretchen, you wrote that blog so you wouldn't have to address how mean you, Tamara and Heather were to Alexis. Then you had the nerve to say she was acting fake at the party. I guess you would have liked to see her crying again. I'm so disappointed in you for joining in that bashing. Next time, pick on someone your own size - like Tamara - your new bff.
@LynnfromPA If you had a piece of lettuce in your teeth and kept smiling, wouldn't you want your friends to tell you? Alexis is one of the most shallow, fake, followers I've seen on any of the housewives shows. A majority of watchers see her the same way. The girls were trying to tell her to be her "REAL" self. They were trying to tell her that people may like the real her. She was polite at the party. Alexis is the one who forced the men to talk right there and then. At a party that was for Heather. Everyone was so into their own drama, they forgot what the party was for!
Gretchen, you seemed just as fake to Alexis when you saw her at the party. She did the right thing by being friendly and NOT bringing up the Costa Rica mean girl session. You did the right thing by responding to her in a friendly, cordial manner. It was Heather's party and other stuff rightfully needed to be put aside for the evening. How can you bash her for that??
@Laurielu As you point out, Gretchen is looking for an excuse to justify her treatment of Alexis. We see what type of person Gretchen truly is: she's the girl in HS who joined in the bullying sessions and then made excuses for why the victim deserved the 3-on-1 attack. I remember being the brunt of 1 of these "sessions" and it's not like in the movies. Gretchen will continue to take part because she doesn't want to be the target. That's the true reason for the supposed friendship bracelet... "thank you Tamara for attacking someone else and not me. Please feel to continue to attack Alexis. I will continue to do my part and join in whenever possible and talk poorly about her whenever possible".
I have never been so upset with you Gretchen. You REALLY owe Alexis an apology, I always liked you, but this time you are looking so wrong. But I think you just got sucked into Tamra (mean mean mean girl). That's a shame! The only person that would sick by you truly, and you just squashed that freindship. :(
Congratulations on everything!! Don't give up on Slade, but don't settle for less than you deserve.
You made a remark at Heather's party that you felt Alexis was being fake. Would it be better if she started drama like Tamra did. By the way the bracelet gift to Tamra at Heather's party was probably one of the most fake moments on the show.
I miss the old Gretchen! You used to be so sweet and selfless. Now you tend to be extreemly selfish and put others down to make yourself feel better. There was absolutly no need to tell Alexis that you got the Fox 5 segmant and you would not let it go. That was rude. You also put Slade down on camera to his face and made him feel worthless. When you hurt Alexis's feelings, you decided to spin it all around and make it all about your feelings. That is what selfish people do, they hurt others and when others get mad at your actions, you turn it around to get mad at them for what you did! I liked the old Gretchen
You used to be my favorite, now you seem fake and unhappy. No wonder you and Tamra have become friends...you are becoming more and more like her!
SCmommyThe friendship will not last! Already hearing rumors of discord in that "frenemyship" !They do not really like each other. They just started to despise the previous fake bff's, they just needed new allies for the show. Who would they film with otherwise. Also a great way to get even & stab a friend in the back! Who do you think came up with this mean & nasty mind game move???? LOL, I am sure no one has to guess....
Gretchen, I never thought I'd say this, but I like Slade. And I love the two of you together. I really hope you guys can make things work!
I am enjoying the friendship between you and Tamra. You are like two peas in a pod.
Congratulations on all your success, and I hope you and Slade are able to move forward!
I was impressed by the way Slade tried to handle "the situation" at Heather's party. He's not the one dimentional person that sometimes comes across and I'm really starting to like him.
I love the song and admire you for sharing that Grayson inspired it. I can NOT imagine how hard it must be on Slad and all of you to see a child suffer as much as Grayson has. I enjoyed your blog... if you don't have anything nice to say...don't say anything at all... is a great example that you are setting. My hat is off to you for that. Are your bags still available at ShopNBC?
I am happy for you and all of your success
I didn't care how you have been treated by Tamra and Vicki in the past. I also do not like this new Gretchen that seems to think that because they're talking to her now and including her in the mean girls club that you would treat your friends who stood by you during that time the way you have. All of you at one time or another wants to play the look at me and what I have. Its not ok for Alexis but its ok for Heather. Yeah play the I'm not going to listen to negativity and then the next time they talk about Alexis you can just laugh about it with them. Thats not negative thats just positive vibes.