Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen defends her right to have an opinion and discusses Slade (and her) breaking point.

on Mar 12, 20120

When they said, "How dare a man talk about a woman that way?" I thought what does that have to do with anything in this situation? Are they saying it is OK for them just because they are women to say anything defamatory about Slade's character, but it is not OK for a man? It makes me wonder with that level of hypocrisy, why are they surprised at Slade’s behavior? I mean how much can one person take right? Vicki was just saying this earlier to Tamra "How much can one take?" and Tamra was saying she was going to have a nervous breakdown. Well maybe Slade finally had his moment of "how much more can one take," and had his nervous breakdown. He decided to stand up to the bullying and fight back.

This leads us to the Bunco Party -- whoa what a night! The outfits were outrageous and hilarious. Each of our costumes fit our personalities so well, and the men were such good sports! My limo ride with Alexis was interesting to watch. I did not realize how annoyed Alexis was with Tamra and me becoming friends at this point. I mean you can understand my confusion. I can't seem to please these girls. One minute all they want is Tamra and I to "just get over it" and make amends, then as soon as we finally do, Alexis and Vicki both have such negative reactions to it. I don't know about them but when I forgive, I forgive wholeheartedly, not half-heartedly. I have to just start from scratch and give that person another chance because that is the only way I can move on without being fake about it. If I didn't give it 100 percent again then I would be lying to myself and being phony, that is something I am not and will never be. So if Alexis and Vicki think it's all too fast, I’m sorry, but I didn't do this for them. I did it for my own spirit and healing. However, forgiveness does not mean you have to forget about what was done to you, but if you spend so much time on the "never forgetting" part you will quickly realize that it will block your ability to truly just forgive and move on. I was ready to just move on. Something Vicki and Alexis encouraged both Tamra and me to do.

Ricky pissed me off because I felt like he was trying to start crap when there was not a good reason too. We were all having a great time and I didn't think it was the time or place to try and create drama. Unfortunately, because he didn't want to drop it, the situation escalated when he started to make accusations about things he really didn't know about. Are you guys seeing a pattern here in this circle of friends?

109 comments
L. C.
L. C.

Bravo to Slade for being a true gent with Vicky also I'm in agreement with u that women should support & build each other up,so sick of seeing women tearing each other down. also i love love love u & Tamra as friends. As well as the commercials u two do....Congrats & good luck with your current & future endeavors..... Lucinda

LKB
LKB

Gretchen you are so pretty, you do not need all that makeup!

Julia Lancaster
Julia Lancaster

Gretchen,

I was very happy that you told off Vicki. What you were saying was so TRUE. She said it herself...... "My boyfriend is none of your business." You jumped on it so quick, and you were SO RIGHT. She sure wants to butt her nose into other people's relationships. She has been so rude to both of you. She needs to put her nose back in joint and stay out of your relationship. SHAME ON HER. She was and has been very rude to you and Slade. How was that her business? Wait a minute..... Vicki don't you have an insurance business? Maybe you should stick to that business and not other people's business. That's why you deserve Brooke.

I'm glad you and Tamra have been able to turn the tables and be friends.

Queenbee101
Queenbee101

Gretchen, Out of all the Housewives you are my favorite. I like that you are a true person who is loyal, supportive to those you care for and non judgmental. Both bunko party episodes were definitely intense. I knew the day would come when you would finally have enough and let Vicki have it, and I'm so glad you finally did! A person can only take so much, and as far as you and Slade go you have both put up with a lot, and have handled yourselves as graciously as possible under the circumstances. I'm glad you both defended yourselves. Vicki is a bully and a major hypocrite, and it was time for her to be put in her place. Although I have to disagree with Slade, comparing Vicki to Miss Piggy was a huge insult to Miss Piggy! Lol All laughing aside what business is it of theirs who you are with as long as you are happy? I think that they despise your relationship so much because you are happy and they are all so miserable and jealeous. I think jealousy has reared it's ugly head because not only is your "Love Tank" full (lol), but you have become hugely successful in a short amount of time. It took Vicki years to build what she has, and the others lack it all together. My heart does go out to Vicki and Brianna and I truely hope Brianna will be ok. As for Vicki hitting rock bottom, you reap what you sew and hopefully one day she will see that. Other than her daughters illness, she has brought all her drama on herself. With that said I send you best wishes for even more success. Love your handbags!

Susan S.
Susan S.

Gretchen,

Slade did nothing wrong, I give him kudos for keeping his mouth shut as long as he did, one can only take so much. If Vicki does not like what he has to say then she should have never given him a reason to say anything at all - she has been proding him for too long.

In terms of Alexis and Tamra, while I give you credit for trying to be the bigger person and move forward on a more positive note with Tamra, who are you kidding, do you really think a leopard can change its spots in a day? Tamra wants to stop the friction because it is making her look bad. People like you more than her, thats a fact, so for someone like Tamra who needs to feed her ego, why not give up a loosing battle and get on the popular side? Tamra has a clear motive for everything she does and being a good person and moving forward with you is not the reason she suddently wants to forgive and forget. As for the person that had your back for 3+ years, Alexis is not reacting to the fact that you are making amends, she is on guard - probably because Tamra has totally turned against her and now is trying to weight the deck so even you won't stick up for her. Come on, put yourself in Alexis' shoes. Alexis has had your back for 3 years and now you have her back but only cautiously because you suddently don't want to ruin things with Tamra, the same woman who has bad mouthed you for how many years? Lets be realistic, you are smarter than all this, see a spade for a spade. You and Tamra can get along without suddenly being best friends, it just doesn't happen like that in the real world.

Cindy Perry
Cindy Perry

I think people in glass houses should not throw stones. Vicki likes to talk smack about Slade and his child supprt but look in your own back yard. I don't understand why Vicki and Tamara always have to be in Slades business. I don't support not paying child support but when your income changes child support changes. So if Slades income changed and he did not modify child support than yes he probally got be hind. Things happen. Gretchen don't waste you time or engery on these stupid women who want to act like the mean girls in high school. They need to grow up and quit acting like little girls!!!!

Texanne
Texanne

Good grief Gretchen would you get rid of Slade. You can find something better than that!

Viewe039393r
Viewe039393r

girl when are you going to realize tamra only became your friend for her own benefit

Opinion
Opinion

Just one question.....when will you stop defending Slade? He's not worth it!

Sanmar
Sanmar

I can't still understand you are with SLADE he is so immature he is worse than a women he has no respect for women at all !!

Boots88
Boots88

Gretchen,

Why do you put up with Slade? You can do much better!!

Sundance
Sundance

RuthyBooker,

I agree with all of what you posted! Slade talks just like one of the girls and gossips like a girlfriend, I have noticed that since the show began. That is the sign of a man who is emotionally immature and also can't hold down a job and has too much free time on his hands. Gretchen, while I am not a fan of you and your whining, I have to say, DON"T MARRY THIS LOSER, you seem to pick up strays. Get some therapy and figure out why you don't attract secure men.

Desireebella
Desireebella

WOW!? To see Vicki lose it that way? She is not that great a friend to NO ONE, She is pushy, and very aggitated human being..I am happy to see her get put in her place Gretchen, I felt your anger thru my TV!! (HD makes you feel like your in the room haha). Bravo Gretchen. There comes a time a woman scorned by woman like Vicki come out with the claws babe. Do not feel bad, Vicki will hopefully learn not to pick battles with you any longer, watch the tables turn and Tamra will be her next victim, that is why she dumped Gina, for tamra, and well girl get ready its going to be a bumpy season!!

Darlene Earley
Darlene Earley

go gretchen! i'm so glad you stuck up for yourself and slade! i could not believe vicki when she said that her boyfriend was none of your business???? are you kidding me? she is so self centered! all about poor vicki! love the show! you are the best! good luck with your new project!

ashbash
ashbash

Gretchen... You are awesome best BRAVO Housewife.. you crack me up.. to be honest your the only reason i still watch the show. i love how you are so honest and open... i just wish it wouldn't have taken you so long to tell Vicki how hypocritical she is...Keep telling like it is...

Viewer11
Viewer11

I liked the scene of you and Slade in the car, talking about what Vicki said. I saw how much you believed in your partner which is a rare thing. It's obvious that viewers don't think much of him and I didn't like his comedy routine either but he used to be a high achieving person and now he is being kicked when he is down. Vicki showed her true colors when she called you out. She needs to be put in her place. You are right, you dealt with your partners' kids when they went through medical issues even though it wasn't biological. Just like Donn is dealing with Vicki's kids out of the goodness of his heart! Vicki is very self-centered and it seems people around her are more mature. My sympathy to Briana and Grayson.

patty cole
patty cole

Gretchen, just wanted to YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!! Its about time you you told vicki to shouve it! and I would not trust Tamra as far as I can throw her. she is very two faced!!!

RUTHY BOOKER
RUTHY BOOKER

SLADE IA NOT A COMEDIAN PLEASE MAKE HIM STOP HE IS NOT FUNNY AT ALL DIRT MAKES BETTER JOKES HE JUST TALKS ABOUT PEOPLE LIKE A GIRL. THIS IS WHAT GIRLS DO .NOT REAL MEN. COME ON GIRL WAKE UP ABOUT SLADE HE IS YOUR GIRLFRIEND YOUR B.F.F.NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND. HE GOSSIPS TO MUCH.HOW CAN YOU RESPECT HIM YOU CUTE LIL GIRL. YOU CAN DO BETTER THEN THIS.

Loraine Rose
Loraine Rose

YOU GO GIRL! LOVE YOU! U R SMART! HAVE TO GO BACK TO U.K NEXT MONDAY FOR 9 MONTHS! BUT WILL CATCH UP WITH THE BLOGS. LOVE LORAINE

jennnnnnn
jennnnnnn

Vickie is always woe to me kind of female. Gretchen....You are all that!!!!!! :-) Vickie's unkind character is starting to show on her face, she needs to check that b4 its too late.

klh0226
klh0226

Gretchen, I totally admire how you handled the situation with Slade and his comedy routine. I was also very pleased to see you stick up to Vicky. You are totally right in everything you said. Vicky needs to remember that what comes around goes around. She blasted Slade for the child support issue, then ends up dating someone who has many skeletons in his closet it seems. Also, I get so tired of the "I'm so innocent" routine Vicky is always trying to play. Apparently Vicky's relationship with Brooks didn't start AFTER her divorce. I don't think she is quite as innocent as she wants everyone to believe she is. She needs to get over herself. One more note, I am glad you & Tamra are working on your friendship, however, I think you need to watch your back. I like Tamra, but I also think she gets a kick out of stirring the pot! Keep your chin up & just keep being yourself!!!!

NatalieP
NatalieP

At the end of the day both women are dating men with a "questionable" past. And nobody has the right to talk about anyone's situation period. This is insane and waste of time for both of you. Both men have made/ and or continue to make mistakes..why should you two waste your time fighting about them? Focus on yourselves and what you are doing and stop letting this make you look foolish. Neither one of you should say anything towards each other’s boyfriends since they have both made mistakes (big ones) and it doesn’t matter what Google says you do NOT know the entire story unless you lived it. I hope that most viewers would agree but I for one am sick of hearing about what your boyfriends did, that’s not why we watch the show. I’m embarssed for both of you and your boyfriends- you aren’t displaying your best characteristics or acting like an adult.

R.A.
R.A.

BRAVO Gretchen: It is about time Vicki was put in her place. Everything you said to her was the truth too bad it fell on deaf ears with her. Vicki enjoys talking about everyone elses faults but fails to see her short comgs or her deadbeat boyfriends. Keep speaking the truth. Vicki has been horrible towards you and now she wants sympathy because she is going through a dificult time - one of which is her own making. If she had been a good friend to you, you would be there for her because you are a sincere and sensitive person. I really enjoyed seeing the look on Vicki's face when you told her Slade was none of her business...can you say outch that bites. Actually, she looked like how dare you talk to me like that don't you know who I am attitude...I'm the only one who is allowed to talk to you this way and get away with saying whatever hurtful things to you. Not that what you said to Vicki was hurtful it was just the truth. Please don't cut your beautiful hair

LuvsU
LuvsU

You and Alexis are my most favorites!! You show again and again what a wonderful heart you have! You care truly for others even those who have hurt you so deeply. I am not sure with all the stuff out there if you ever see these posts or read them if you do? But if you love that man? MARRY him when you are ready. Please do not wait on what others may or may not approve of. After Jeff we all want you to be happy!!! Along with that we know as you do how quickly someone can be taken from you. IMO you also would make a wonderful Mum!! You have so much love and joy that shines from you so don't let ugly folks like the Vickis in life stop you from living.!! God Bless and hug Slade for me!!

sbake19
sbake19

I think you are really nice but I do not like the way you handled the whole Tamara and Alexis situation. I would have told Tamara that it wasn't nice to call Alexis nose big. I just hope you don't get caught up in the Tamara's maze and lose your friendship with Alexis. You two are great together

MauiViewer
MauiViewer

As a 50 plus year old brunette..I really did not want to like you (kidding)..but from that first season, watching you handle the loss of your fiance, you have shown to be a good friend and a smart, class act. Vicky is...well...not healthy, so keep doing what you are doing, I love that you and Tamara are friends because I always thought you two would be so fun to hang with ;-)...I am a mental health professional and you (and Heather) are the most stable of the group ;-) Obviously I only know what I see on TV and this is not an official opinion ;-)..... Good luck, I will keep watching

OhMargaret
OhMargaret

I can not understand why Slade would make fun of a women's weight, after you hurt his feelings about his weight last season. Slade and the ladies had history before you got there. It is old school hurt. You should let them work it out!

bka
bka

Take 5:

Have you noticed that when you are trying with your friendships and trying to be out there an positive that Slade isn't? But when you are screaming and yelling in his defense, when you are cussing her out driving down the road (not saying you weren't right either) that he is smiling and up?

Think about it. That's all.

ViewerDL
ViewerDL

You nailed it.

Vicki wants her cake and she wants to eat it too. I think Vicki has something missing in her brain....because she can dish it out but she can't take it. She says it is okay for her boyfriend to fall behind in child support but it is okay now because he is caught up. So, what makes her think that Slade can't catch up at some point too?

She doesn't want people to talk about her business but she sure likes to talk about other people's business.

I always wonder how Vicki can run a successful business because she really has no common sense.

Viewer90210
Viewer90210

Gretchen, You handled yourself with class and your are awesome. The only thing that makes you look bad is the people you're with! Slade is such a moocher! He makes you look bad, yes Tamra and Vicki's past comments were tasteless and rude, but come one, he's not even man enough to go and address them himself. Correction no one has tried to mend the issue. And i'm sorry but there is definitely a double standard. If that man made such hurtful comments about another woman, wheres the limit? So when you make him mad will he say the same about you? I know my 2 cents mean very little to you, but take it as some clarification or a little knock on your pretty little head. This is why a lot of people can not stand your man.

Tonya B
Tonya B

YEAHHHHHHH for Gretchen!!! OMG Girl!! That had to feel amazing!!!! VICKY totally DESERVED IT!!! LOVE UUUUU

Yahoo Gretchen
Yahoo Gretchen

Slade did what he had to do with no apologizes, Slade back was pushed against the wall with Vicki and Tamara's mouth. She had the nerve to say well he paid his support and is now keeping up with it. I am also sick of Vicki putting so much pressure on Tamara to have her back. This is not elementary school this is life. Tamara is a fool to have you as a friend, a pure fool. Tamara wise up and let that woman go, she will never ever be satisfied, the same way she put pressure on Don is the same way she is putting pressure on you. You are not her keeper, you already have a man. Let her man take up for her, enough already. Vicki grow the heck and up and fight your own battles grow up!

Djb
Djb

Gretchen you are being very messy this season. Alexis has had your back for years while Tamara and Vicki bashed you over and over again. Finally Tamara has decided that she wants to be your friend and you immediately start throwing Alexis under the bus. I have always liked you but what I am seeing is not very nice. I believe in forgiveness and if you feel like Tamara deserves your forgiveness than so be it. But don't forget who has been your friend all these years...

Fan of OCC
Fan of OCC

Grethen you have always been my favorite!! Stay the way you are!!

blm
blm

you did not take up for lex.that is bull.she was a good friend.you are now under tamras spell.you were not a friend to lex at that party.also when you guys were laughing about her chest. you are becomming mean.watch the tape and try to justifie it .you all were wrong.ganging up on one.

Yahoo Gretchen
Yahoo Gretchen

I love you Gretchen I love you Slade, but your woman went off and Vicki has a lot of NERVE and TAMRA they do not own what they have done. Which means they are repeat offenders and will continue on. Tamara is out to make Gretchen look bad and yet again Tamara has not learned her lesson. This oh worry me with Vicki is sickening. Good girl Gretchen it is long over do and if Vicki... never mind because she will not get it!

irishone41
irishone41

Gretchen, I am so proud of you! You don't know me so I know that mean much but I have seen all the pain you have gone thru in the last couple of years and how much you've grown. I lost my husband to an incurable lung disease, he took his last breath in my arms. I wanted to follow him so bad and for the first couple of years struggled to define myself. So I have a unique perspective on where you've been.

You own your life girl! You don't put up with crap and you FINALLY stand up yourself.

Keep going, stay true to yourself and you will continue to have good things happen

CyndyD79
CyndyD79

Gretchen, You for sure are my fav on all of the house wives. Well you and Caroline. Vicki though she's going through stuff still needs to mind her business. Gretchen stay strong. America sees the truth even though she can't. Good luck with your acting. You are talented.Slade don't listen to Vicki if you are such a dead beat you'd be in jail. Therefore you can't be a dead beat. My ex is a true dead beat pays nothing and has no relationship with my oldest. I now have an amazing hubby now who is a great dad to both girls. Next time tell Vicki a relationship means more then money any day of the week and she has no clue what your relationship is with you're children.

SarahKf
SarahKf

I think, woman to woman, you are fabulous. What is your workout regimen or any diet secrets that you keep?

D.Gaillird
D.Gaillird

Gretchen, one word of advice, drop Slade! You don't have to be the ride or die girl when your not married. No real man would EVER go so low as to get on the level of talking about other women because of he says/she says. Get your man in check girl or like I said, drop that dead weight. Who turns 40 and decides they want to be a comedian that gets no laughs seriously??

addyson
addyson

Doesn't matter what any of the ladies have done .... Slade . TOTALLY OUT OF LINE AND NOT FUNNY

TECNTUC
TECNTUC

Gretchen!! You could have ANYONE!! Why would you stay with someone that, and it's true, doesn't work, mooches off you, rides your coat strings for fame and is HATED by everyone!! Hope you wake up SOON!! Love you, girl!

Ray85021
Ray85021

Go Team Vicki!...lol...Slade AKA Slime needs to just stop...honestly, you think things would have gotten that heated it he wasn't there? Gretchen needs to wake up and just cut him off her payroll...lmao!

Viewersacb bmd
Viewersacb bmd

Love is blind....and unfortunately your eyes do not see what many of us do......Slade is using you and he is riding your coat tails. Slade not not a comedian. If you were not so successful and were not still on the RHOC, I doubt that he would still be with you.

You have got it all - beauty, brains, drive and more. You can do it on your own.

Slade stirs the pot, big time and tosses you in the middle. A real man would never to that to his partner.

However, all you said about Vicki is so true she needs to leave and clean her own "house".

shortstopper
shortstopper

Oh Gretchen... you and Slime Slade were made for eachother! I hope you are together FOREVER!!! Best of Luck-your gonna need LOTS OF IT!

tjrenee
tjrenee

Gretchen, I certainly hope you ask Vicki if she plans to leave the show, as she thought you should when your late fiance was sick, since her daughter is now sick, possibly sick with cancer per her words.

Housewife fan
Housewife fan

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise...you are beautiful, smart and really down to Earth...but I think deep down you know it. Definitely the product of a great family!!! As far as Slade...I personally think you could do better, however, all of us at some time or another have fallen for someone who isn't right. Hopefully it will work for you...but again...you could do so much better!!!

misspriss0341
misspriss0341

Gretchen: I want to say how proud I was to see you finally go off!!! I found myself wanting to punch Vickie in her face after the 80's party...it definitely seems like to me that Vickie can dish it out but she CANNOT take it.

Stay strong! You rock!!!!!!

SoFLaGaL
SoFLaGaL

Gretchen,

I'm sure it must be difficult for you to have been in a situation where you were trying to mend relationships while having to hear your partner, Slade, continue to rant about past comments from some of those people. One of the things I've learned in life about people is, that often times, their opinion/judgment of someone is made up at the very beginning and may never change. That seems to be the case with Vicki & Tamra. Although I think their voicing such negative opinions as often as they have is just rude, I think you're ability to be rational and smart enough to move forward in life should be your approach in helping Slade figure out how to move on from it. I hated his comedy bit and felt him targeting Vicki & Tamra with a retaliation was boring and childish. Sure they were bullying him in the past but come on, shouldn't Slade be the adult and ignore the stupidity. The whole thing made him look small and classless. He made me feel like he is riding on your coat tails and needed something from your circle in order to be successful with his so called comedy sketch. He may want to do alot of things in life but comedy should not be one of them. He mother is great and was trying to be honest with him but he didn't hear it. Poor guy! Wish him well and all the best to the both of youse!

Sandy G.
Sandy G.

You are great and super nice to everyone! Vicki tries to tear down anyone who isn't her little puppet. Keep holding your head high.