Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen is still in shock over Vicki's promise of an apology.

on Apr 17, 20120

Hi Guys!

Well this week was all about "glamping" and it looked like a blast! I was so bummed I didn't get to go on this trip because, believe it or not, I grew up camping! I went to the desert and rode dirt bikes every single weekend and camped in a motor-home or a tent! So this would have been right up my alley!

I also really wanted to go to support Alexis and the trip she had planned but it was three days prior to my performance and I knew I would just be talking the whole time (which is exactly what the doctor ordered me not to do). I could feel tension between Alexis and I brewing ever since I decided to make amends with Tamra and I really wanted an opportunity to talk with her and try and figure out why. I'm sad we never got that chance.

I was disappointed to hear Vicki blame her ill feelings towards Alexis on Tamra. Vicki knows full well she has never been a fan of Alexis and had talked plenty of crap on her. Actually if you remember Tamra and Alexis were friends when they first meet, but Vicki had nothing but mean and judgmental things to say about her (and Jim) and was always in Tamra's ear. Maybe it was the other way around and Vicki rubbed off on Tamra. I didn't exactly hear Vicki defending her new friend Alexis when Tamra referenced her as dumb in the kitchen. Either way if Alexis and Vicki want to make amends I think that is great, I just hope it is for the right reasons.

It's hard to see Heather and Alexis still butting heads. I was hoping this trip might help a little with the tension, but I guess I am not surprised. Heather is just a matter of fact girl and calls it like she sees it. She doesn't really allow you to get away with anything on her watch! But I actually like it when she does it to me, because I like people that just give it to me straight -- even if I don't like what they are saying sometimes. I know she means well, but I can see how the delivery seems strong if you don't know her that well.

80 comments
carmen.rentschler.1
carmen.rentschler.1

I think that Gretchen wears entirely too much make-up.  Her hair is stiff and old fashioned. I like her but I think that she would look so much better if she let herself have a more "natural" look.

lilmouse123
lilmouse123

I congratulate u on saying u like Heather's direct approach and her no 'mincig' the words if she has an opinion. She is one classy lady and has been a truly welcome addition on this show. Yes, she is direct and her delivery might come accross as rough at times, but she is not downright mean and catty as we saw most of u guys behave on seasons past largly due to Tamra and Vicki's acid tongues. In fact, I have seen some truly fab moments between u all when u joined toghether after mud run and had plenty of good natured ribbing and plain fun and laughter (except Tamra, who else), who had to add her snarky remark about Slade when he was discussing his earlier pro- biking experience with Tery. Also the bowling night would've been a blast had u not invited that lush of ur girlfriend who ruined it all for u, but Slade finally saved the day by putting her in her place. Please ditch that pshyco, she's not friend material and she's a train wreck.

SpecialKay
SpecialKay

Gretchen before you make a decision about getting married because of Slade's debt, you should talk with a lawyer. I checked into this before and I was told that ANY debt that occured before marriage DOES NOT get combined together. Each one's debt stays their own. Then when you get married the debt you have from then on is both of yours. It's sad that money is in the way. If you really loved him it wouldn't matter. Money as you well know can be gone in a second, but if you have actually found true love, that's rare. Don't waste time worrying about money. Actually , with all he does for you, don't you think that maybe if you both work on his debt that things would equal out? I'm just saying that if you had to pay someone for everything he does what would that be worth, and the trust, you can't put a price tag on that!! Work together and be a couple, life WILL NEVER go the way you plan it, so live in the moment and be happy!

notfooled
notfooled

love u gret but that caterwallin that you call singing is a no go!!

DowntownOC
DowntownOC

Hey Gretchen, I guess its easier to switch alliances than to stay true to your friends. Got to fit in where ever ya can huh.

Viewerpatti
Viewerpatti

I love you you are a natural wish you could give some of your blessings this way... I live in the real upstate New York a half an hour from Canada. I really want one of your purses but honestly I cant aford it. Would love to have you visit here I am the Aux. Pres. For our local American Legion and would love to have you come here !!!!

MissMisty
MissMisty

Wow, harsh comments coming in. . . Don't listen to them. Hi Gretchen. I don't know how you've put up with Alexis's as long as you have. NOW I get where Peggy was coming from. I don't blame her one bit for excusing herself from the show. Alexis head has grown big time... Bravo are showing the last couple eppy's and I watched her channel 5 segment (I don't think that's what it's called) but anyway... all I can say is her (let's pray hubby) maybe right, quit that job, that's the ONLY thing I agree with him. And Vicki, I didn't realize how two faced she is, especially at that bunco party thingy. Anyhow, you, Tamra, and Heather are my faves out of the group. You all get along really well. Can't wait for tonight's show. :)

ViewingAgain
ViewingAgain

How can Slade find a job for you but can't get out to find one for himself?

seattlenative42
seattlenative42

Gretchen, I like you but someone has to say it, there is nothing wrong with your voice, it is just that "your voice", you cant autotune yourself hun, that is just what you sound like, noone hurts their voice for months from yelling, (Im sure you can get someone to lie to you and tell you anything you need to hear) or singers would not be able to tour, thier voices would be hurt all the time. Take care hun

Viewersacb bmd
Viewersacb bmd

You are a beautful woman - but a singer your are not. Do not let Slade sign you up for something that you do not want to do. You have got to design your own life and career - not him.

lilmouse123
lilmouse123

OMG!!!!! I think we've all gone crazy taking sides and getting all wrapped up in these pple's drama. I, myself am beggining 2 think I've lost 'my marbles', true. I confess, I watch this show and other HW because it is insanely entertaining but I'll be damned if I allow myself 2 get all worpped up in your assorted madness. The reason I watch u ladies is the same as the reason I take on a cheap novel (the harlequin type) I need 2 let my brain to go 2 pasture every now and then so my brain gets a much needed rest from "true" issues in my life. So, gl b/ches and keep on making me laugh and be entertained. And BRAAAAAAAAAAAVO to Bravo 4 finding u and giving the rest of us a lot of well- deserved fun and laugher at ur expense. Some, (very few), have actually become someone using this platform and kudos 2 those and to the rest, alas, you'll soon will fade in our memory faster than a bad dream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Vios con dio Amigas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FanFare57
FanFare57

Dear Gretchen,

I find you sweet, stunning and semi-smart. However, as far as a singing career - don't quit your day job. When you completed your rehearsal, that choreographer's face said it all. He was shocked at your lack of talent and tried very hard to be diplomatic when he spoke to you and your "Svengali", the Sladester. It was painful to watch you warble and move because you seemed to be unable to do 2 things at once without being emotionally drained. That's Show-Biz.

Lbenoit
Lbenoit

Gretchen,

I really Ike your bubblie personility! But honestly you seem to be such a smart girl & I can't help but wonder why your with slade? If you step back and look at the relationship from another perspective you would see that he's kinda slimey. It appears as though he's riding on your coat tails and is taking advantage of you. If I were you I would think long & hard about getting attached to him. He just drags your down and makes you look very exposed in a cheap way.

sharon from tx
sharon from tx

I JUST LOVE THAT YOU HAVE THE BALLS TO TRY ALL WHAT YOUR DOING, I ADMIRE YOUR ASPIRATIONS AND HUMILITY ABOUT YOUR PURSUITS. YOUR NOT JUST A BEAUTIFUL BLONDE WITH A GREAT BODY ( I CAN SAY THAT CAUSE I'M A BEAUTIFUL AUBURN...NON JEALOUS WOMAN ) SP DON'T DTOP...I KNOW YOU HAVE A FUTURE AFTER THIS TRAMA DRAMA.

BIG DEAL IF YOUR MAN DON'T WORK ( JUST SAYING HE'S NOT PUNCHING THE CLOCK) AND YOUR THE BREAD WINNER..THE WIVES THAT STILL HAVE HUSBANDS ARE LIVING OFF THEIR MAN'S MONEY OR EITHER LEFT THEM WHEN THE MONEY WENT (TAMRA)

EDDIE GIVES THE CREEPS JUST AS MUCH AS BROOKS..AS FOR SLADE, IF YOU LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES YOU THATS ALL THAT MATTERS. IT BOTHERED ME SEEING ALL THE HE'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH, YOU CAN DO BETTER...BLAH BLAH...WHO CAN EVEN SEE THAT IF ITS TRUE WHEN YOU FEEL THE NEED TO PROTECT HIM AND HIS FEELINGS....IF HE'S NOT THE ONE, THATS YOUR BUSINESS.

I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST...HONESTLY YOUR THE MOST MATURE ONE IN THE BUNCH.

Pam
Pam

Gretchen, I am so glad you and Tamara are friends now. I think Alexis is a very Jealous person and tried keeping you two apart, and now that you are friends she feels very threatened, it is very sad. You are a smart girl and so is Tamara. Alexis is not the brightest person and it shows, she likes to try to impress people, but she is not smart enough and she looks like an idiot when she talks about finances, actually anything that you would use your brain for, and then she goes on and looks dumber. Her husband is very controlling. Well enough of her. I like you much better when your not around her your more positive and I think people will like Slade better too. I think they just dont like the two of you together but when they get to know you without Alexis they will see that you do love Slade and maybe lay off him for the child support thing, Alexis made you guys just look bad for some reason. When people dont like the people you run with they make reasons to not like the people you are with also, so that may be a reason they pick on Slade instead of support him. I think if you and Tamara stick it out the relationship with Slade and the others will get better also except Vicki will then be the negative person to you and Tamara because of Alexis she is not the good Christian she claims to be and Jim reminds me of Jim Jones of the Cult trying to control Alexis. You keep up the good work, without Alexis hopefully.

ViewerinMaine
ViewerinMaine

I think Slade is too involved in your singing. He appears to think of himself as an acting/singing/everything coach, which he is not. I wish he would find something other than "managing" Jo, and now, you. He just needs to lighten up a little - perhaps find something of his own to focus on. He's a nice guy but has to get some other activities in his life.

Kimmy Romero
Kimmy Romero

Omg!! Gretchen I really love how your hair is curled in the episodes and would really live too try too get mine like it. How do you do it??? Especially in the espisode at the Burlesque Club when you dance with PPD :)

Lesleyc(scotland)
Lesleyc(scotland)

Got to say that Gretchen is my fave housewife. Haven't got this series on british telly yet but i cant wait. Am glad that Gretchen and Tamra are now friends because they are so similar which is probably why they clashed most of the time, strong women with strong personalities. As for Vicki all I get from her is that she is very insecure about herself. Jealousy is the main word that springs to mind! I have been watching all series back to back and with each new housewife she just exhudes jealousy, its like she can't stand that there are prettier, happier people than herself! She makes out like she doesnt care when she clearly does and i dont think that can be mistakenly portrayed over so many episodes! She should take tips from her chilled out daughter who, even though she has been going through a traumatic time is still a well balanced individual. Only thing i dont like about Gretchen, and its not even a proper dislike, is that her hair is so damn fabulous and i am so jealous! Keep smiling and cant wait for this season to start! And stay friends with Tamra, you should have been close from the start!

MissMisty
MissMisty

Hi Gretchen! :)

I have to say I enjoy you so much more then when you and Alexis were hanging out last season, (she's very negative). Now she acts like she is so disappointed in you for being friends with Tamra. There's nothing wrong with all of you being close and being friends. That's called change, sometimes it can mean bad but really if we had no change where would we all go or do.

Anyhow I'm getting off the subject, as usual. I talk to much and too fast so I forget what I want to say by the time I finish up blogging. LOL

Oh yeah, I'm really taking a liking to you and (don't freak out now.. LOL) Slade. I see he's trying to mend fences also.:)

So keep it up and I'm rootin' for you and the PCD's, but I happen to think you are very talented and have an awesome voice. Can't wait to see!

piperoni
piperoni

you are not the same this season.it always seems to be about you.you are a drama queen.you barely hurt your ankle.you blame vicki and slade for your sore throat.if you mess up your singing on next show.who will you blame.and you think alexis was drama over her nose.think again .looks like she is going to your show next week.like you were not there for her.get over your self.bravo print for gretchen please.

mederma
mederma

Vickie didn't defend Alexis, i believe her exact words to Tamra were "you can't fix stupid anywhere in the world".

Cort1946
Cort1946

I love this show, it reminds me why I don't keep a lot of female friends. So sad that women, especially grown ones, have to tear each other down to make themselves feel better. Keep it classy ladies.

Wonderland
Wonderland

I just started watching this show believe it or not. I bought seasaon 1 dvd set very cheap and saw Slade. Boy was he different than what he appears now. Then he was a bit snooty and uppity up - the apparent money maker. Now? He is not that at all. Actually I like the Slade I see now. I don't think he was ever rich. But for Gretchen (she sells handbags or something on a shopping network? - and apparently makeup?) and Vicki, it seems no one on this show is actually 'rich'. Oh well, interesting just the same.

OCAlly
OCAlly

Hey girl, I think you are trying to do too much. You don't seem to be comfortable singing. So don't do it. You have plenty going on in your life. Don't turn in to another Bethenny Frankel. She has spread herself so thin , she almost no good to anyone around her. Her marriage appears to be on very shakey ground. But all she wants to do is make more and more money. When is enough, enough to these people?

"T" New Bern, NC
"T" New Bern, NC

Thanks for coming to small town America. I wonder how you and Slade liked little New Bern?? Your so much bigger than the Housewives show. Don't get me wrong, the girls are great and all the drama makes the show addictive, but you are actress material. Now that you made the appearance for Sparks, he should cast you into his next book film. Good luck and much success in your life & hope to see back in New Bern soon!!

Karen1
Karen1

I must say I am really over hearing about the Pussycat Dolls. I can't believe Bravo has carried this on for so many episodes. We get it Bravo she yelled at Vicki and can't sing!!!! Jeesh!!!

Joana needs your help.
Joana needs your help.

Gretchen, I think you are the best one on the show, it don't matter what anyone says about Slade its what you believe that matters, I don't condone you in any way for finding love again, you went through really tough times with Jeff when he was ill and I know he would want you to find love again. I think Slade really does love you and he is not after anything else, I think you look perfect together. I wish you all the best for both of you. xx

Linda Duff
Linda Duff

I cannot believe the comments I am reading. It's a reality show folks! They are in it for the drama! I lived in Orange County for 18 years and I love this show! BUT, dont take everything so seriously. Get a life! Everyone on this show has their own agenda....I see it all. Survival of the fitest. Hope you all calm down and see the show for what it is. Life in Orange County, California among a group of 40 something women, trying to make it work. Love you all. Good luck!

St. Louis Viewer
St. Louis Viewer

Gretchen, I love you! I love that you are friends with Tamra, I love you and Slade too. I don't think you went to the "mean girls" side. You made a new friend. You are really sweet. And the girls owed you an apology! I am glad you got it.

Mary87
Mary87

I like you the best, however, you still owe Alexis an apology for the way you acted.

jb5513
jb5513

Gretchen--I'd wait and see if you get an apology from Vicki in person.

Lindsay
Lindsay

Gretchen, I think your stressed about being placed in a position in which you are not comfortable, and that's completely understandable. You're trying to do in a very short time something that will take months, and it's having an affect on your overall health. It isn't worth it, just step back and do what you can, stop trying to conquer the world!

FanFare57
FanFare57

I think you're adorable and reasonable. However, the more you defend Slade, the less I can appreciate him. Other than living with you and managing your every move and schlepping your stuff, what is his job/career? Oh, yeah - he's a self ascribed "comic". And how's that working out for him? Face it. He treats you like his prized pig to gain entry into any entertainment industry thing. Without you, he'd have zero cache to maneuver himself on to the HW show.

Gracie Lane
Gracie Lane

I have never been a huge Slade fan, but I have to say that this season he is coming around and I'm seeing such a different side of him. I'm glad that he is able to participate more with the girls and the group now. You can tell that he really loves you!! I really think he is a great guy for you!!

Carmen Velasquez
Carmen Velasquez

Gretchen you are a grown woman and you can be friends with Tamra if that is your choice. I would respect you more if you continued to be a great friend to Alexis. I have friends who dont like each other and its understood that they are not allowed to put the other down in my presence. Im gld you understand Heather but how are you ok with her calling your friend Alexis stupid and fake. Are you really that desparate for acceptance that you would allow someone you justmet to put down and degrade your friend. I always like you in the past but now I dont like who you are becoming.

Ohio
Ohio

I disagree with you about Heather. Heather asks probing questions to alexis NOT STRAIGHT CALL IT LIKE IT IS QUESTIONS. Alexis was being honest saying they are renting maybe because they have not found what they like in houses yet. Or they are working on their credit scores, and finances who knows but Heather just keeps asking a million questions to Alexis like isn't that a lot of cars for 2 people to have. You call it direct I call it RUDE. Heather's motives are always so sneeky. Plus did you see her talk down to Vicki about the firepit. Yes she got the directions but the way she said it made me so embarrased for her. I have two college degrees and many rich friends but they do not act like her. People with real money do not carry on the way she does. Most people these days are educated come on Heather!!

Noyoudidntgirl
Noyoudidntgirl

So now you go as far as agreeing with Heather on her shots at Alexis... WOW! Harmful and hateful behavior is now called "giving it to her straight".

Shame on you! Never thought you'd allow Tamra to influence your thoughts that quickly. Maybe when Heather starts to "give it to you straight" by calling you names you'll bow out and hide in the corner in full agreement with her.

Horrible move. Alexis does not deserve you turning on her like that. I'm embarrassed for you.

Keepitrealgirl
Keepitrealgirl

Gretchen,

Very disappointed in you. If Alexis was the one who decided to make amends with Tamra, you'd be beyond butt hurt about it.

Not only you can't seem to understand that but your blogs for the past two episodes have been full of Alexis hate. Not cool. Whether she fought your battles or not doesn't mean she wasn't a friend to you. She was there for you through and through, and now you're throwing her to the wolves. Not cool, we can all see Tamra's influence in your line of thought and it's sickening to say the least.

Lastly, you're NOT perfect not guilt free. You have made many mistakes in the past and have told many shady stories, so don't go acting all innocent only because some people are taking a higher road this season. Do NOT act like you're so mighty, it does not become you.

You've treated Slade like crap in the past for gaining some weight, no mercy whatsoever. You've embarrassed yourself many times in public and your friends who were there for you are now mere tools to strengthen your friendship with fake Tamra. Watch out, wake up and cut the drama. You're way over your head this season, I kind of miss humble Gretchen who gets that it's ok to mess up once in a while as opposed to constantly point fingers at others.

Other than that, best of luck with everything. Hope you come back to your senses, and do not allow poisoning tongues and hateful behavior influence your thoughts.

Hopps
Hopps

Be careful with Vicki and Alexis. Not to be trusted.

DoneDoneDone
DoneDoneDone

Gretchen, Love love love you, you are my favorite but if you can blame Vicki and a shouting match you had with her a week or two ago, then that means you are officially in the 'can't sing category'. Whitney used to you yell at Bobby all the time and she had platinum albums and grammys. I do hope you still had fun doing the performance.

Hey
Hey

Why is Alexis bashing you for being friends with Tamra in her blog? Drop the dumbo...she can only be friends with one person at a time and you just did not live up to her standards and expectations. She is so much better than all of you and claims to be above the drama, she just does ot need you anymore. Let her be friends with Vicki...we all know how that will turn out. Hopefully she will leave quietly.

Jillian Garcia
Jillian Garcia

Gretchen you are awesome and I really enjoy watching you on the Real Housewifes of OC. You are unique, keep up the good work! :)

flayman
flayman

You are adorable, my only comment to your post is I don't think Vicki had a revelation about Jeff, I think she is just standing by her man and realizes how she treated Slade. There are so many more apologizes coming from that one there is not enough room to list them all. Just keep doing what you are doing. You are delightful to watch.

Oh No You Didn't!
Oh No You Didn't!

Gretchen, you're my favorite. Stay the way you are and don't turn mean and evil like the rest, especially Viki.

TNC
TNC

Monica C, Go back and read gretchan's blog from last week. She explained that she asked Alexis if she wanted her to come visit the day of her surgery, but Alexis said she probably wouldn't be up for it. She said the next day when she called Jim said alexis wasn't up for it. On Wednesday Gretchan had work committments, and so she went on thursday to see her when Jim allowed her to come over. Alexis seems to be a very high maintenance friend and if things aren't done the way she wants them done then she doesn't consider that person to be a true friend. The world doesn't revolve around Alexis even though she believes it should. Just thought I would let you know that Gretchan did explain this in her blog last week since you were chewing into her about not being a good friend to the al mighty Alexis.

RealityChecker1
RealityChecker1

Katie in Ct I totally agree with you. She has never come right out and said where she stands but it is obvious in her blog that she has gone over to 'the dark side.' It's awful funny how she's been able to attend every event EXCEPT Alexis' (who was very understanding about it). I gotta ask Gretchen...do you really think Robin asked you for your VOICE? Really? Really? She asked b/c you are a beautiful girl and you can pull a big audience.

How do you NOT see that EVERY interview Tamra has is focused on taking jabs at Alexis? Why do you make excuses for Heather judging someone she hasn't taken the time to get to know?

Sarahsally
Sarahsally

Love you Gretchen, you really are amazing. But you had to admit,you can see why people aren't as easy to like Slade. He really does need to get his own life. The fact that he has time to follow you around is really sad. Please talk to him, tell him to go get a job, tell him to start being a man. I really hope you don't marry him -- he does seem nice, he does have alot of great qualities, but you need someone who can take care of you, not you take care of them.

Jennifer14
Jennifer14

Tamra your a lil into yourself this season, I used to like you alot & felt bad Tamra and Vicki used to be mean to you! Now you have sided with Tamra and Left Alexis to the curb. Makes you wonder where your LOYATIES are!!!! Bad Friend and Conceited.

NANAB57
NANAB57

Gretchen. I love you and the way you handle yourself. Alexis needs to be off the show. SHe is boring, CLASSLESS and a number of other things to long to list. I have NEVER met or seen someone who is so full of themself but does not have a clue as to what is going on around her.