Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen Rossi vents after Alexis calls their friendship into question.

on Apr 26, 20120

 

Sorry in advance cause my emotions are flowing and I can tell this blog is going to be long! I have a lot I want to address from this episode and am not sure if a blog is the best place, but I’m going to just put it all out there.

It’s important that I address one recurring question right out the door: people keep asking why we all have harsh things to say about one another all the time on the show, and I completely agree because I know it is draining on all of us ladies. However please remember this show is about having an opinion about the others -- good, bad, or ugly. We might all deliver that information differently but at the end of the day, if we choose to be a part of this show we have to have an opinion.

OK, so forgive me in advance for this long rant, but since a lot of you have asked questions about this situation with Alexis I will address all the questions here. First off, no matter what, I am sorry that I hurt Alexis’ feelings because that was never my intention. I will explain my true intentions here. First of all I must say I think Alexis is beyond super sensitive to anything I say or do anymore because of my newfound friendship with Tamra. She claims in this episode that before I was friends with Tamra I would have been a lot more supportive of her, but the truth is Alexis’ own insecurities have caused her to change her thoughts towards me. Before I was friends with Tamra, Alexis wouldn’t have ever questioned my intentions with these kinds of things or be so sensitive. I am confident that I have remained the same person because my past record proves that I have always been honest and straightforward with her and all my friends, even if they won't like what I have to say. It’s just who I am. I refuse to be fake.  

Alexis, on the other hand, clearly states this episode that she would have never told me about it if she got offered the job and if they kept calling her. Well this is the main difference between Alexis and me, and why I have pulled away from her. I am not the kind of friend that sugarcoats stuff or is not honest with you. Friends should be able to tell each other anything. As this season unfolds, you will start to see her take heat for being fake and phony and not telling the truth even when necessary at times. If most of us are experiencing this same thing when dealing with Alexis, can we all be wrong? Isn’t that exactly what Alexis said to Vicki when we all addressed Vicki at lunch in San Francisco a few years back?

163 comments
Brie0923
Brie0923

I think that you sounded like you were proud for her and you are glad she got the gig and you even gave her advice to go get a coach....and guess what? She got a coach haha. But I do not think Alexis should be doing it she always makes mistakes she does not know how to speak clearly, I could go on and on. But overall I think that she is always in competition with people for attention. Like one housewife said, she is not getting attention at home so she wants attention.

M.G09
M.G09

I think overall you ladies need to be a little bit more supportive towards one another. If obviously having opinions is a crucial part of the show I do think there are ways to express those opinions without being disrespectful. I would just like you guys to say what's on your mind but do so in a matured manner. I think jut being mindful that you ladies are all role models not only to your kids and family but to a huge audience that has in a way become your extended family over the years. I think the end of the Costa Rica episo was refreshing to see you girls getting along and having a good time. The show's success is not all about the drama and craziness it is also about women empowering one another, maturing and sharing their lives. There is plenty of TV value in the good times. Sometimes I feel like I'm watching a high school show. I wish you Gretchen all the best and I admire you for your business sense and being smart financially. I think every person has something positive to add so when you think about someone's faults don't forget to also think about their virtues.

QTHansen
QTHansen

Hey Gretchen! I love that you and Tamra are friends now - such a refreshing friendship and it's to bad you both had to struggle to get to that point. If you haven't dropped Alexis yet, you should - I don't say that lightly or to be mean, but I definitely did not see her adding value to your life. Granted, I only see what they choose to show us!! It is tough but my viewpoint is we all only have 24 hours in a day...and you lead a very busy life...you should not waste time on people that do not add something positive to your life. That time would be better spent with others. Oh, and..... Vicki = hypocrite

Lee Smith
Lee Smith

I watch very little TV but if I do I definitely turn first to the "Housewives" shows on Bravo. In all the years I have watched these shows I don't think I have ever commented on anything - in any blog on anyone- but Gretchen I have to say something now - I watched as Tamra bullied you. I also watched as Alexa stood by you. Gretchen- you were my favorite from HWOC - you showed class and the reason I thought you were classy was due to your intense loyalty. This was the character trait that made you truly beautiful inside and out. This is not about Alexis - this is about you Gretchen. Loyalty is a HUGE part of friendship. I don't know how you can even define friendship without it - as you lately seem to try to do. Alexis certainly has her faults - insecurity probably being the worst of them - but I'd rather have an insecure friend who is loyal than the most secure friend who has no loyalty to me! Think about it. Alexis has alot of great qualities that clearly over shadow her faults - she's LOYAL to both friends and family, she's kind-hearted, she's hardworking (evidenced by all the successful things she is doing unlike most of the other women on this show), she's a GREAT mom (no matter what Rosie says to try to be in the "in crowd"- shame on you too Rosie!) and she's obviously smart. This is not about Alexis's character - it's much more about yours and I hope you truly get back on track and show the character that made you truly beautiful when you began this show!

alison (ireland)
alison (ireland)

i love the show and i love the fact that u have always tried to b completly honest keep doing what you are doing , ps i think we r about 12 months behind over here lol x

Sacnfoxbaby
Sacnfoxbaby

I have always enjoyed you, until the recent episodes. You are becoming a little Tamara. Alexis has always been your friend.

Debbie Wise
Debbie Wise

I'm hoping you will be more forgiving of Alexis and her insecurities and imperfections because she seems to be a good hearted person and so are you. I believe she is in a controlling relationship and her insecurities stem from that. I think you are on a different level than the other housewives which I really like that about you. When people show you who they are, believe them. I think intentions are really important, and I believe you have good intentions and so does Alexis. Keep on being you. I think your great. I love your fighter spirit.

JamieKD
JamieKD

Being a friend is not to intentionally try to compete, why would you put her down by saying they called u first but u turned it down bc of your schedule? It's petty. Keeping it from her just shows better tact it's not about sugar coating it's about just being respectful. I can't wait until you and tamra fight again. Also it's just amazing how tamra can be extremely evil toward you and Alexis and your boyfriend but that's okay???. Alexis is being maybe a bit sensitive because she loves your friendship and see that you are acting differs towards her... You are so don't lie!... That's normal. She's not sugarcoating her feelings, she's being honest, saying.. Gretchen hurt my feelings. Shes not saying nything evil like you and tamra do (ie questioning her intelligence, talking about her nose, talking about her husband) Just own up to it. I can see that your frienship with tamra is poisoning your point of view. Tamra is so immature and you're resorting to her low class ways. Be careful.

Fran123
Fran123

Gretchen I adore you, you're smart, funny, beautiful, honest and REAL! You're a great friend just you stand up for yourself and say what you think which is one of the things I love about you the most, I could use a friend like you! Don't let anyone get you down and keep being you, you're amazing, Lots of love all the way from England :)

lilmouse123
lilmouse123

Love u Gretch this season. You've grown emotionally and matured as a person a great deal and thank gor u don't drink as much as u did in the past (hopefully), but especially during live filming. Ur move to make up with Tamra was a very wise one on ur part, and it brought some good drama to us viewers esp. watching Vicki fuming like a rhinosorus when u and tam were together. It sure tickled my fancy. As for ur friendship with Alexis, why not keep and nourish it? Is it because Tamra doesn't like her? That shows that ur not as strong and self confident as u would like us to believe. Lex can be insecure and annoying but she sure as heck did go out to bat 4 u on prev. seasons while Tamra and Vicki bashed ur brains out and spilled enough dirt on you to fill a volcanic crater, and now u don't want to stand by her side? I expected the 'new gretch' to be much more assured and self confident than that and viewers who warn u about Tamra are right on the money- She is and always will be one shifty b/c. Remember, tiger does not change his spots!!! good luck girl, u rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stephanie_Georgia
Stephanie_Georgia

You are my FAVORITE housewife! As far as I'm concerned Alexis is just jealous that you and Tamra have so much in common. Don't change, keep being spunky, funny and gorgeous :)

piperoni
piperoni

You are not a friend.you think your better than some.you need to say sorry to alexis and vicki.you never want to accept responabilty for anything you have done wrong.bravo please print for gretchen.thanks

RealBlueBloodNYC
RealBlueBloodNYC

Dear Gretchen; how can you do anything with Alexis?!?! You are REAL, intelligent, sharp, and funny, another hand, Alexis....poor delusional brainless FAKE and extremely ridicules Alexis.... (who's having a serious complexes with Heather) do you really enjoy her company?!?!?!

MissMisty
MissMisty

Hi Gretchen..again. LOL :)

I have to say that you're the bigger person here. And I thought of Peggy also.

I love what you and Tamra are doing, good for you ladies!!

Tell next time! :)

tty
tty

Gretchen,

You are my favorite on RHWOC.You are funny, butally honest and a very good friend to all the ladies. Even if they are not so nice to you. I love your collections, girl i need to steal your wardrobe. Lol. I wish you all the best.

Mary87
Mary87

Alexis said last night that Fox 5 did not offer you the job. What is the truth?

Delsey Dining
Delsey Dining

I mlike you Gretchen...think your a real sweet girl.

Your performance wiht so little time to prepare was ok.

You looked Amazing...but honey..your voice was off key and you sang it badly...BUT..the crowd loved you for being you..so well done, i couldnt of done it..but then i dont look as amzeballs as you :)

Dont worry about Alexis..i always find her as fake as...shes not real..she talks rubbish half the time and doesnt live by her christian morals or values.

FAKE as Hair Dye she is.

You just carry on being you...good luck

Scottsdale Mama
Scottsdale Mama

would love to beg you to not marry. nothing wrong with being on your own. society has this mandate to couple people. when you marry, since you are in a community property state, you get his bills, your income will be counted as his and if it doesn't work out he will want spousal support. women have better choices now. stay on your own unless you get a solid, non breakable prenup.

Ana Trevino
Ana Trevino

Love you Gretchen keep up the good work. Love the Pink Purse I want one, when will be out on market? XOXOXO

Watching in LA
Watching in LA

I'm not a big Alexis fan, but she is right in this situation. Here's how it appeared; you couldn't stand that the viewers are seeing Alexis being chosen over you, so you had to tell her in front of the cameras they chose you first. I don't doubt they did ask you first and continued to ask you...but just be real. You wanted to make sure everyone knew because of your insecurities. It was just too obvious, no matter what spin you try to put on it now.

cortneyluv
cortneyluv

Gretchen,

I applaud your attitude on this show. You are the most real and my favorite. I do think you deserve better than Slade. Dont let him drain you, pocket book and all.

Much love, CB

Miss Kitty
Miss Kitty

This is addressed to R.N. I am no Slade fan but what he meant was, if you have a job you love then it isn't like work. So he is saying he has loved all of his jobs therefore he feels blessed because he has not had to work, they are a labor of love as they say.

R.N.
R.N.

Slade says, "I feel blessed, I've never worked". You have to be kidding me.

PLHogan
PLHogan

First, Gretchen, you do not owe Vickie an apology. She definitely owed you an apology; per usual, Vickie ruined hers by expecting one from you. That is not how it is done! You apologize for your own behavior, period. She is so insincere.

Alexis is horrible on the the Fox San Diego show. From the way she dresses for it to the things that come out of her mouth. What a stupid choice the show made in her... what the heck? Do they get anything right? It calls their good sense and professionalism into question. I won't watch that show. You should have taken that job.

Wendy Dae
Wendy Dae

Hey Gretchen!! I LOVED the top that you wore to dinner with Heather and Terry. I am looking for something like that for a dinner party. Do you mind me asking where you got it from?

Thanks!

Cindy1963
Cindy1963

Gretchen, I've always loved you because you are very down-to-earth compared to some of the other ladies who put on a facade and act like they are better than everyone else. Kudos to you for your performance with the PCD'S. It took alot to get on that stage and do what you did in such limited time! I think you did pretty good, especially for it being your first time. GO GIRL!! I hope you enjoyed yourself. The only thing I did not like was when Mikey told you that "you didn't need any help from Him (God)." And it was the way he said it and the face he made. I just did not appreciate that comment! I guess to each his own, huh? Anyway, I wish you alot of luck in whatever you do and I hope all goes well with you and Slade. Keep being REAL!!!! Love you.

Cynthia C.

72ChevyGirl
72ChevyGirl

What ever happened to your pink Harley???

My opinion of course
My opinion of course

Gretchen - I'm sure it's a bit of both, honestly. I'm sure your attitude towards her has changed a bit, and Alexis has also been a bit insecure and thus, changed her attitude towards you, so you're reacting to each other.

SharonC.
SharonC.

Gretchen, hold your head up high girl. You are WAY more patient than I am. I would've stopped my friendship with Alexis ages ago. I realize that being on television and in the spotlight can produce some "fakeness", and that's ok but Alexis seems to always want to "one-up" her friends which is wierd to me. And it's even weirder that she would even go there with Heather. Obviously, Heather has the most money, she just doesn't feel the need to tell everyone what she has. Well, at least not on camera. Alexis should be more grateful for the blessings she has instead of trying to seem like she has more.

mbeth
mbeth

Sweetheart, while many of your comments and opinions are true of Alexis, you shouldn't have brought up your offer of her job. In my opinion, THAT is what was snarky. I mean, even if you didn't mean for it to be, you have to understand why it would come across that way. It seemed very jealous and juvenile of you to do. She had such nice things to say about your performance in Vegas. It is quite a shame. I too am very blunt and honest by nature, but your have to realize, that sometimes it's better to just keep quite. Noone was asking your opinion or to lie etc...It would have been best to keep your mouth shut on that one, really. It's great to be honest, but there is a fine line between honesty and bitchiness. Best of luck to ya.

Barb Malloy Viewer
Barb Malloy Viewer

I feel you were justified for suggesting a coach for Alexis! How can she not see that fact when she watches herself! The truth hurts sometimes! I applaud your honesty! True friends respect honest opinions!

Hooksett housewife
Hooksett housewife

And she said...so I said. Remember she did this so I felt this. Your blog is so insane I'm a little dumber for reading it.

Lisa Marie
Lisa Marie

I love this new Tamera/Gretchen union. You too are so funny. I love tell it like it is girls. Keep it up. Feel good shows are so much better then some of the trainwrecks on TV. Thanks!

PS Blog already.

Happy
Happy

Vegas was bad....omg your friends did not tell you the truth...

Entertained1234
Entertained1234

I thought it was funny when you were on Watch What Happens Live and Andy asked you to sing your first song and you could not remember it. That was hilarious!!! Thanks for the laugh.

AmyW in Cbus
AmyW in Cbus

Gretchen, You've been my fave for years but I don't think you are being a good friend to Alexis. Allowing people to talk negatively about her behind her back and not defending her is not cool at all. Alexis has always been an extremely loyal friend to you. I don't feel you are giving her back the same friendship in return these days. All Alexis was looking for was a little reassurance that even though you are friends with Tamara, she's still your good close friend. Why couldn't you give that to her? Is that too much to ask of a friend?

myahouse#1
myahouse#1

Gretchen- I think you had very constructive criticism for Alexis as far as fox five. Probably shouldn't have mentioned your offer from them "first". She had VERY nice things to say about your pussy cat doll experience, which was a tad lacking due to your voice problem. I do think you would have done better with out the voice problem though! You two are more alike then you think. Stay buddies! You can never have enough of them!

Carolyn L
Carolyn L

Hi gretchen, I was hoping that vicki apologizing finally woman up to her actions and then she expects to apologize back??? who does that??? for the longest time vicki was always talking about taking the high road, that was not the high road. that goes to show that vicki has not changed and probably never will wich is very sad. And don't give up on alexis she was there for you when the ladies were not so nice towards you. I enjoyed the mud run.

LauraAM
LauraAM

love you girl! Great job in Vegas. Your Pussycat dream came true! For people who do not understand the concept of the microphone you were using, you were fab! And a true artist lives up to their performance whether it is Acapella, long mic's, and etc. Congratulations. Please ask Alexis why they lie so much if they claim to be christian.

Susie I.
Susie I.

Alexis needs to put her big girl panties on! You handled that conversation in a manner that was comfortable for you. If Alexis had problems with it, she should have spoken up. And another thing...Alexis was upset you didn't visit her sooner after her sinus surgery. Good Lord! She wasn't on life support!

rosey15
rosey15

Gretchen I think Tamra is turning a new page in her life. (Out with Simon bad) In with new life. Who care what others say about your friendship. The only mean girl on this show is Vicky, Alexis is all about memememememe!!!! Alexis does lye alot there is some thing that is just not right with her. . how many house have they gone through and She's the one who put Lynn down for all her hardship in life. EVERYONE HAS Hardship in life you face it and move on.

Aloha808
Aloha808

You looked AWESOME, but sounded AWEFUL.

hulali
hulali

I think you need to put the shoe on the other foot. Alexis was excited to show you her video because it was something new she was trying and she wanted to share it with her friend. Just like you were excited to sing with the Pussycat Dolls and wanted to share it with your friends. How would you have felt if after the show she approached you and said they asked her to perform but she turned it down and was glad you got it? You made Alexis feel second best with something she was really proud to have done, and it was mean spirited. I agree you should have told her, but in a different setting when she wasn't so excited about her first big interview.

LibbySLATE
LibbySLATE

Gretchen, I have always been a Gretchen fan, still am. I can’t figure out the support for Alexis, except to say it’s a pity respect, and the fact that she’s Christian. I’m Christian, and I was so excited that there was a woman willing to say the word Jesus out loud. But then as I’ve watched her judge others, and really not be in reality AT ALL, I have a hard time staying in the room when she comes on. She is never going to have a talk show host career, come on, and that’s sad. If she would stop trying to tell us all how wonderful she is, and perfect, perhaps we could maybe see it a little, but currently, she’s got my sympathy vote, poor thing. YOU have it all Gretchen. You could host any segment on any network, and she knows that, perhaps that’s it. What I’m trying to say is I completely understand why you are pulling away from Alexis. She’s draining,one wrong move… She dumped Peggy because she didn’t reveal everything she knew about herself and Jim, and then gets mad at you for revealing everything you knew about FOX5. There’s her hypocrisy again, she never makes sense. It’s like trying to listen to a five year old justify their actions.. She terminated a friendship over withheld information…Of course then you were going to tell her all you knew. She’s just not real, ummm,” quick”, is the kindest term I can think of. As far as Slade goes, I do believe you love him. And it’s no one’s business who you want to commit the rest of your life to. I don’t think you stole him from Joe like people have tried to say, after all, she had him when he was filthy rich, draped her in jewels, pampering and a fabulous lifestyle. If anything, Jo had the best years of Slade, and you took the leftovers,, that’s true love.

kwhatev
kwhatev

I think you're making a mistake investing so much hope into the friendship with Tamra. It seems like you follow the old rule of keeping your friends close, but keep your enemies closer. Tamra will turn on in you in a heartbeat & she has a mean bark. I think Tamra's a fairweather friend & she has an ulterior motive with you. Alexis, on the other hand, though she may be competitive or insecure(which I honestly cant blame her on the insecurity part because of this 360 turn w/ Tamra) she is pretty harmless. Bringing up the fox5 segment as originally being yours would be tough in any presentation. I understand Alexis' defense towards your delivery. It would be hard to hear that from anyone... how would you feel if the Pussycat Dolls approached Alexis first & she turned it down & then she told you that she was happy they picked you as seconds for the gig. It's harsh no matter how it goes down. I wouldn't give up on Alexis as a good friend though.

ymborras
ymborras

Wow, your blog is filled with low blows and excuses! You just lost me as a fan:(

mrspenc
mrspenc

If you know someone is insecure and asks for support, why in the world would you tell her something to make her feel more insecure? Friends just don't behave in this manner. I'm really sick of the degrading put downs towards Alexis, the target this year, just like I was when you were the target.

MoabDaaavid
MoabDaaavid

The Moab Desert Bear says....."Heck Yeah"!! You looked and sounded splendiferous! You knocked it out!

GMomma2
GMomma2

I can't believe how you just sit back and also talk about your so called friend Alexis with the other girls, especially the new one aka Heather "I know everything, because I'm really the Jack of all trades" HW. I guess you are taking the bait and selling your soul.