I love you girl. I love your honesty. I love how you always keep it real. I am so happy for the friendship that you and Tamra found this year. Heather is a good friend to you too. Keep her close too. You are such a smart business woman. I am so proud to see where you have gone in your ventures. You will always go far. Jeff would be very proud of you too.

Stay true to yourself always. Follow your heart, but listen to your head too. I know that Slade loves you, but you always have to take care of you. I'm glad that you don't take crap off of these women. I wish you the best in your life always. You have always been my favorite housewife. My hubby's too. He says that your def the "Hottest" and I remind him of you. LOL. I'm not near as hot as you. But I love the compliment. :0)

Gretchen, you are not much of a friend if you let people gang up on Alexis.  She stood by you tooth and nail as you were verbally battered over and over by Tamera.  Have you forgotten that and now you let Tamera do the same to her and you stand there and AGREE with TAMERA?  Gretchen, you have no idea that Tamera sets people up to call out the people she doesn't like and you then chime in and agree.  She did it to Vicki with you, she did it to Heather and Alexis.  Its lime be the friend that others have been to you.  You did't like it when it was done to you, DON"T BECOME TAMERA"S HATE PARTNER.  Look what Tamera did to Jeana but its fine for her to get in the middle of Vicki and Briana's problems?  Don't become a hypocrite.

Tamra: Heather is a wonderful friend. Keep close to her, I don't think that she'll do you wrong. She's truthful, has a good head on her shoulder and will be a great friend to get advise from. Love both of you together. As for Slade, he's cute and you should keep true to you heart and to your instincts.

Gretchen I loved your performance and double kudo's to you for being so brave! You are a lady with many talents and keeping it all pulled together in a shark tank is 1 of your best. I love you refuse to let the other ladies rain on any parade you plan on having. Keep up the great work. Im watching and smiling.

Great blog!!!! Good luck with everything.

I noticed you did not blog about your Pussy Cat Dolls performance. For something that was such a big deal for you and your career, I find that a little odd.

hiya Gretchen, just wanted to say that Tamra doesn't know what really happened between you and Jeff so don't let her dictate to you what was going on in your relationship, that's your business. she probably jealous and just wants to have a part in everyone's business and make a big drama about out. i hope that Slade's issues don't over cloud your judgement of him because he seems like hes trying to do his best with the situation hes in. i would love you two to get married so you can finally be settled, happy and for filled in life.

Im not sure if you live in fantasy land or alice in wonderland...wake up you are not doing justice to yours and Slades relationship. You are saying I love you honey...but...but...but...Love can conquer alot of things but...but...but

I am starting to believe that you and Slade are actually good for each other. Doesn't mean you couldn't find someone with better circumstances, etc. However, you love each other. You're not children and from what I see on tv, there is mutual support emotionally and otherwise. You seem to motivate each other and neither of you seems lazy. Slade seems to push you to take advantage of all your abilities and opportunities and I think you are making him feel more secure, loved and focused. As long as you continue to be open and mature about the realities of his obligations and financial repercussions to yourself, you will figure out a way to be together. Also, I'm glad to see your friendship with Heather developing. She has had a good influence on most of you and is very level-headed, unpretentious and fair.

I agree that Slade showed his vulnerability in this episode. Wishing you two the best!

Gretchen,

Omg really really, you have nothing nice to say about the puppies and princesses party.Is heather your new BFF. Alex is so beauitful and kind I wish her success and dont be surprised she may get a casting call soon, Alex dont let them bring you down

Kudos to you for seeing Slades's efforts as honorable - not pretending to be someone he's not right now. I totally agree! Very brave to be so authentic in such an inauthentic world. His heart and head were in the right place and so are yours! Best wishes to you and Slade and on all your business ventures.

I wish you and Slade all the best.

I love that you are brave enough and stable enough in your relationship that you can wait and he understands. I think the other ladies, minus Vicki, are starting to realize that Slade is someone who makes you happy and is working really hard to make things right with his financial situation. I took on a similar hardship when I got married, but we have been lucky enough to get it taken care of, and it is a part of our past, and something we know we worked together to take care of.

Gretchen, You are doing what is right for YOU and that is all that counts! Hang in there, I am pretty sure you are going to get your fairytale ending. xo

I heard Alexis was offered that Telemundo role first. Just telling you to be straight up honest and a great friend. However, I'm so glad you were able to do it if she couldn't. (Though they keep calling her even now, hoping to replace you)

Gretchen,

I don't know you guys - all I do is watch the show. But what I've seen of you and Slade is really great. You two crack me up and are absolutely adorable! You seem like a great person and Slade seems to truly love you. I wish you both all the best and remember, at the end of the day, it's who truly loves you and who will be there for you.

You rock.. Love Slade.. Love you!! Life is cool and even better now that you FINALLY BLOGGED!!

How can you have kids with Slade if he had a vasectomy? Good luck with that

your so flakey to Alexis, really was that comment necessary? even Tamras was nicer. I guess your need to feel cool superseeds your friendship.

Gretchen, you are beautiful, fearless, and strong. I give you much kudos for feeling what he did was endearing. I would have been mortified. I wish you much continued success and hope Slade is actually the man you see and love. I can tell you as a single parent with a special needs child it is very difficult especially when the father is absent and won't pay a dime of child support due to the same alleged situation Slade is in (in my situation never has). Stay smart not to take on that burden which may come to haunt you.

It was a little hard to watch Slade ask the jeweler if he could replace the genuine stone with an imitation stone. I saw a man torn between wanting to marry his gf, but being afraid that the ring he can afford, wouldn't be good enough. It may take him several years to settle his financial affairs. Will you both avoid marriage until then?

You can't say the mean comment and then claim to be the bigger person and above it by saying you aren't going to say it. You just did! And by the way, when you insinuate something, it's basically the same as saying it.

@jack smith - i thought the same thing!!! but i don't think it was a coincidence, i think "didn't get a chance to blog the last 2 weeks" translates into "i was too embarassed to blog the last 2 weeks." but i do want to say, while your singing may not be celine dion or mariah carey, i've heard worse and i thought you did great as the mc/hostess!!! both at the comedy night and pussycat dolls. you have a great personality for that.

The way Tamra treats Alexis is just plain disgusting. She's never done anything to her except defend YOU, and yet Tamra treats her like complete garbage. I'm very disappointed in you for betraying and dropping Alexis as a friend. She did nothing wrong to you either. She should be happy you did drop her because now she knows what type of friend you really are. I used to be a fan of yours, but you have changed. Alexis seems to be the only kind one on the show.

OMG just saw your part in Mia Mundo. I love it! great job!

Gretchen, you have come a long way this season with stabilizing your relationships and I like watching the show. Did you ever think that when the jeweler quoted the different price points on the rings, that if Slade said, "yes" to any one of them, that the creditors would be out your door immediately. The fact that he feels compelled to scrape his money together to get you a ring to show you that you are more then just a girlfriend makes me think that you two still have a lot of serious business to discuss before taking the next step toward the altar. You two need to go on the Suzie Orman show and I am sure that she will tell it like it is.

Gretchen I wish you and Slade all the best. I sure hope things work out for both of you.

Jack Smith- she wrote about the PCD performance in this episode..

You must be a real success to have so many haters. I can't believe some of the blogs on here against you and in support of looney tunes Alexis. She is a lying hypocrite and it makes sense that her and Vickie are friends now.

Gretchen, Have been watching RHOC since the first season, and I think Slade only wants you to be successful so he can see your bank account grow. I'm sorry but maybe the work "opportunist" should be used for him and Brooks! You are so beautiful and smart, but by golly woman what do you see in him? I have to seriously ask does he even have a job besides being a cheerleader for you? Concerned RHOC viewer

I completely agree with your apprehension on whether to marry Slade. You have come to far ON YOUR OWN, to have his financial troubles effect your financial future. I understand your feelings for him and I do think that Heather advice about speaking to a counselor was great advice. I think speaking to a neutral 3rd party tends to make you open up more about the concerns that you hold inside, that you're afraid to share with your partner. Maybe if you two do that, it will make you both understand each others fears without hurting each others feelings. I hope things work out for you two. When it comes down to it, no one can tell either one of you what to do, you have to follow your heart and your mind. I am glad to see that the friendship with you and Tamara is still on a positive. I hope that continues. It appears that Heather can be a good friend to all of you, hopefully she is really what she is portraying to be on the show. I just don't think Alexis is a good friend. She has some major insecure issues and I don't think that is the best person to get advice from. Myself I would distant myself from her. Doesn't mean you can't be civil with each other. Best of Luck to you.

To WDTVH: Vasectomy's are reversible.

Gretchen, Why would you discuss personal issues about yourself and Slade with Tamara? If you are concerned about his debts, and how they could affect you, talk to an attorney, not Tamara or Heather. You seem to want Slade to be your personal manager, but don't understand why he doesn't have any money...do you pay him? Not wise to go into issue like this we people who have not been kind to you in the past!

Hi Gretchen I am so glad to see you and Tamra getting along. I always thought you two would be good friends. I wish I had great friends like you and tamra. I have been married 20 years, and he is alot like Simon. I am not allowed to have friends. Thats okay, right now. I have a sister who is battling stage 4 cancer and I am learning alot from her. Life is to short and If I am not happy I have to move on. I am taking care of her now, but we both hope after 8 months of chemo and radiation I am taking her to visit California. I hope maybe one day I can meet you and Tamra. I'm sure you would like me, I am just like you girls like to drink and have a good time. I know someday, I will have a great man, great friends, and have a great life with my sister. (IN CALIFORNIA). thank you gretchen for your strength, and just being you. I get alot of my (balls) from watching you girls. So keep it up. I am getting more independent everytime I watch you ladies. Love ya

i think that the two of you are good together, but can't blame you for not wanting to get married. i think letting him get his financial issues resolved is the smart way to go. if he is truely sincere in loving you, he will want to do what you feel is in your comfort zone to be secure with him, as you grow together in the relationship. because a person does take on the others financial burdens as well as credit scores. i'm single and have worked so hard to get an a+ credit score . and would never marry again to any one that did not have their act together with finances. everything these days seem to depend on your credit. so hang in there, cos if his love is as he says, he will do for you what you ask.

your problems before marriage are magnified 1000 times when you are married...dont marry Slade...follow your gut, life is to short to settle and you WOULD be settling with Slade.

You are beautiful, smart, independent which are great qualities that every good man is looking for and Slade is not independent he is dependent on you for security financially and personally, he is a little boy in a mans body and you should be dating a man in a man's body. Even his mom does not want him to marry because of HIS issues not because of you...she is truly looking out after you.

Learn from your first marriage and go to counseling to find out why you pick the same kind of man over and over.

Do what your heart tells you to do...But love is not all...you can not marry someone who has not found them self...take it slow..P.S LOVE THE PUSSCAT SHOW...

Hi Gretchen I could not stop myself from writing to you on this blog as I don't like writing comments and all. But I have to say that I really feel for you - in the last episode, saw that how you want to have kids and settle down in your life, but given the circumstances, have to wait. All I want to say is that God has the best plans for you and you won't even realize how God will materialize them for you. Just keep going with your spirits high. I scrolled through your handbag collection and loved them but they were sold out, I think I am little late as always :) Best wishes to you and yes love can be blind but marriage should be with open eyes and FULLY functional/thinking brain. All the best.

I read your blog and I have always LOVED you.. EVEN when ALL, and I MEAN ALL the other girls disrespected you. Then along came Alexis.. WHO LOVED YOU and brought the REAL you to the forefront, because you could finally BE YOURSELF because someone was THERE for YOU!!! And NOW, this is how you repay her? Because she was a bit hurt by what you said because you are "real"?? Give her a little break. What happened hurt her, but she got over it and LOVES you. She supported you.. the ONLY one who DID. She made SURE you were protected and ALWAYS stood up for you and NOW you repay her by making her look stupid!!! Don't do that Gretchen. Be patient and a friend to her as she was to you! Sure she has to be a bit fake, her life is VERY hard!! I have lost respect for you and I don't want to purchase your products anymore!! It's like you are in high school and are finally accepted by the popular girls and you are leaving your REAL friends behind. It's a sad commentary of you Gretchen!! And as much as you want to try to reason it away--- YOU ARE WRONG and you have NOT been a friend to someone who WAS SO TRUE TO YOU!!

Love you! You are by far my favorite on the show. I am just wondering if you touched on the subject of Alexis claiming you were not asked in any way to do that news segment on TV. She went out of her way to tell everyone you were lying so I wonder where the truth lies. If you were asked to do it before her, I would hope that you would post the proof somewhere so she would shut up once and for all. I totally believe you but for her few fans, it would be great to have them eat their words.

the comment before is so true.gretchen you can try and justifie it all day long.but what you have done to alexis is un-real.some day you will look back and be sorry.you say you changed and need to forgive.tamra is still friends with vicki.and you hate vicki.but now since you have tamra. alexis is out.she will do well. this has upset some viewers.out of all the oc wives we thought there friendship was true.

I think your new friendship with Heather is a great thing she definatly seems level headed and can help guide you through whatever. I have to say I like the fact that you and Tamara are getting along better. I don't think you have turned your back on Alexis but seriously I would have to plug my ears everytime I was around her if I were u. I like the direction of the show and I think if Vicki can't get it together she needs to say good bye to the show cuz its all just stupid and the fact she is standing up for some unknown man is as low as it gets. Hang in there keep going like u are.

Gretchen, I love the the show and have grown to love watching your segments on the show, but it pains me to see you with Slade, and how you just can't see what we all are seeing. You might let him know he could check Wal-Mart or a pawn shop for a ring-that jewler was totally not happy with him. He is still trying to live a glamorous lifestyle and live that through you, but he has caviar tastes on a beer budget.

Gretchen, I wish you all the best . I have been trying to buy one of your purse's forever .I hope everything works out with you and Slade .

Gretchen, I am very proud of the woman that you have become. In today's society, with so many un wed mothers, It's ok to be a successful, beautiful mommy, It's not like you dont have the support of your partner, you have one of the best partners, Slade loves you, you know that, he knows that we all know that. Slade reminds me alot of my husband. My husband is so in touch w me, he knows whats going on in my life before I do. We've been together for 7 years, I cannot remember my life before him. anyway good luck to you, NOW GO GET PREGGERS.

Your perfomance on PussyKat DOlls was GREAT! I commend you for working thru it even tho you had lost your voice and were not back to 100%! I truly appreciate the woman you have become....maturity becomes you! Just dont give into Slade cos his financial problems will become yours if you dont make him clear them up! Keep it up girlie....I know he loves you but love comes in many shapes and sizes and forms....just be wary.

You're a smart girl. You know that Slade's issues are long term and not likely to go away overnight. You are beautiful and young. If you chose to break up with Slade (which though it would hurt you because I know you love him, would be the wisest thing to do) you wouldn't be alone for long. I'm sure another great, rich, fantastic guy would take his place in a hot minute.