Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen shares her thoughts on Slade's ring shopping and how this episode made her love him even more.

on May 16, 20120

Ultimately I had to laugh because I know his impatience got the best of him. He wanted a certain ring but he couldn't do that right then so he was trying to figure out how to get the ring he really wanted for me. One thing I can assure you about Slade is that he has too much pride too not to get me the real thing, and our jeweler obviously wouldn't allow him to do that anyways! However he also knows me well enough to know I won't care if it's a ten carat diamond ring or a one carat. Good news is you can always upgrade if and when your financial situation changes later! Kind-of like what my Dad did for my Mom on their 40th wedding anniversary!

I also wanted to say thank you to everyone for the kind comments about me making the right decision about not getting married until some things are worked out. It's a hard decision when you love someone so much, but right now it's the right decision for me. I have worked very hard to get back to the place I was before I got engaged to Jeff. I was financially self-sufficient and a very hard working business woman. I never want to lose sight of that again, because working and having my own thing is truly what I love to do. It makes me feel whole. I lost myself a little when I gave up my career to be with Jeff, so we could travel together and build a bi-coastal lifestyle.

Slade has always supported and encouraged me to continue to go after those dreams and has never asked me to give them up. My companies are thriving, I am getting to do everything I have ever wanted to do and accomplish in life, and I couldn't be happier.
The next stage will be adding a family to my life, and I don't believe you have to be married to start that. Look at Brad and Angelina six kids later and just now they are engaged! LOL!

I am very excited about the next stage of my life with Slade. He is going to make an amazing father to our children -- just like my father has been to me! Was it just me or did Slade and my father remind you of each other in last week's episode? Weird! My parents really do adore Slade and they are excited about the thought of little ones soon as well!

189 comments
worthy1
worthy1

I love you girl. I love your honesty. I love how you always keep it real. I am so happy for the friendship that you and Tamra found this year. Heather is a good friend to you too. Keep her close too. You are such a smart business woman. I am so proud to see where you have gone in your ventures. You will always go far. Jeff would be very proud of you too.

Stay true to yourself always. Follow your heart, but listen to your head too. I know that Slade loves you, but you always have to take care of you. I'm glad that you don't take crap off of these women. I wish you the best in your life always. You have always been my favorite housewife. My hubby's too. He says that your def the "Hottest" and I remind him of you. LOL. I'm not near as hot as you. But I love the compliment. :0)

mutter
mutter

Gretchen, you are not much of a friend if you let people gang up on Alexis.  She stood by you tooth and nail as you were verbally battered over and over by Tamera.  Have you forgotten that and now you let Tamera do the same to her and you stand there and AGREE with TAMERA?  Gretchen, you have no idea that Tamera sets people up to call out the people she doesn't like and you then chime in and agree.  She did it to Vicki with you, she did it to Heather and Alexis.  Its lime be the friend that others have been to you.  You did't like it when it was done to you, DON"T BECOME TAMERA"S HATE PARTNER.  Look what Tamera did to Jeana but its fine for her to get in the middle of Vicki and Briana's problems?  Don't become a hypocrite.

HANNAH G.
HANNAH G.

GRETCHEN YOU ARE THE ONE THAT SEEMED TO BE THE MOST CHANGED THIS YEAR. I AM GLAD THAT YOU AND TAMARA HAVE MADE UP. I WILL SAY THIS NEVER LET YOUR GUARD FULLY DOWN WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE CONTINOUSLY TRYED TO PULL YOU DOWN OR MAKE YOU FEEL LESS THAN WHAT YOU ARE. SHE IS A FUNNY GAL BUT HAS BAD HABITS OF GOING FROM ON PERSON TO THE NEXT TELLING THINGS THAT IS WHY YOU SHOULD BE CAREFUL. OK ALL THE REST OF THE GIRLS YOU KNOW HOW THEY ARE AND JUST TRY AND KEEP OUT OF THE CAT FIGHTS YOUR BETTER THAN THAT. OK NOW ON TO SLADE. I REALLY THINK HE DOES LOVE YOU BUT I WOULD HAVE A IRON CLAD PRE-NUP THAT INCLUDED THAT YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANY OF HIS PREVIOUS BILL OR ANY THAT HE OCCURS WHILE MARRIED SHOULD YOU CHOSE TO MARRY HIM. STOP LISTENING TO ALL THE GOSSIP THAT SOME OF THE LADIES SPREAD WE ALL HAVE A PAST AND WHAT EVER HE DID IS DONE. I DON'T THINK HE WANTS YOU JUST FOR YOUR MONEY BUT HE DOES NEED TO TRY HARDER TO GET A BETTER PAYING JOB ON HIS OWN. IF THE PRE-NUP CANNOT BE DONE IN THE WAY YOU NEED IT TO BE DONE THEN HERE IS MY ADVICE. WHY RUIN A GOOD THING DO THE KURT RUSSELL AND GOLDIE HAWN METHOD. YOU DON'T NEED TO GET MARRIED TO HAVE A FAMILY AND LIVE A HEALTHY HAPPY LIFE AND THIS WAY YOU WILL KNOW IF IT IS YOU OR THE MONEY HE WANTS. IF YOU GO THE GOLDIE AND KURT WAY I WOULD STILL CONSULT WITH A LAWYER AND MAKE SURE THAT WHAT YOU HAVE STAYS YOU AND THEN GIRL LIVE LIKE A MARRIED WOMAN WITH THE MAN YOU LOVE AND HAVE A BABY IF YOU WANT. PEOPLE THAT GOSSIP LIKE THE THINGS VICKIE SAID WAS UNCALLED FOR ESPECIALLY SINCE SHE SEEMS TO HAVE A SNAKE CHARMER ON HER HANDS. THERE IS A REASON HER CHILDREN DON'T TRUST OR CARE FOR THE MAN. I WISH YOU MUCH LUCK AND GOD BLESS YOU AND SLADE.

promam8995
promam8995

If you stay with Slade you will be sorry. Stand up comedy is a gift some people have and Slade does not have it. His gift is business and since he helps you, why don't you just pay him what he is worth?

Viewer64
Viewer64

Didn't you realize how painful all of that would be in Costa Rica with Alexis? Stand in her shoes and imagine being alone to that. Thank God Vicki was kind to Alexis. Tamara and Heather have no problem being condescending and cruel to others. Neither are very sensitive people except to themselves. They may be funny and fun loving but they are not kindhearted. They enjoy their position and power if not through money then through peer pressure. Even if we don't call it bullying then it at least it is cruel, unkind, and high school behavior. Get off the popular girl bandwagon and look at their hearts. Not what they can do for you. Alexis is not a perfect person but she was always there when no one else was there for you in this group. She loved you. She always will. She is hurt by your actions of association with those who are unkind and haughty.

Ren4Bravo
Ren4Bravo

Gretchen , I saw you on Bethenny's show this week. Gretchen, what is wrong with you? Get rid of Slade, he's had so many chances to turn his life and his attitude around. He is sucking the air out of you! He's boring!

When you were on Bethenny's show the other day, I thought, this could be you. You could become a spin off of a HW show. You could become your own brand, you have what it takes. But, not with Slade hanging onto you. It's time, and I think down deep you know that. It's for sure your parents are not crazy about Slade in your life. I am a mom to two daughters. And if either one, had brought Slade home, as a serious consideration for a husband. Eeeeek, ooooh, and nooooo! He looks okay on the outside, but when start unwrapping the package. There's nothing there to build a marriage on. Dig deep inside yourself and listen.

Have a good summer and best of luck to you.

Ampes
Ampes

Dump Slade, not because he is not rich but because he is an opportunist, you are a smart real girl, find yourself someone worthy.

Blink
Blink

Seems like Tamara and Heather are the ones that initiated the attack on Alexis, but by not stepping up for your true friend Alexis, you are the one taking all the heat. I really liked you, but episode by episode as I saw you agree with Tamara and Heather about your friend, I knew you were going to turn on and betray Alexis. I hope you do better at the reunion, because I'm certain Tamara will attack Alexis again.

Seattle Singer
Seattle Singer

I used to really like you, but I think the pain of loosing Jeff ate away the best parts of your personality. It made me sad that you didn't stand up for your friend while she was being ganged up on. You could have spoken privately, friend to friend, about whether you thought their words had any merit. And Alexis was right to cool to you when you befriended satan, sorry, Tamra. That wasn't the choice of someone who could be trusted.

toni rice
toni rice

Hi Gretchen ,

You are on point about Slade not quite ready for the big step like marriage. He has issue he has got to straighten out child support payments and a JOB that will at least support himself. I agree if you were to pass away God for bid where would he live.

Deannamac
Deannamac

First of all....can you please tell me how you apply your eye makeup!! so beautiful!!....seriously! As for Slade; you are doing the right thing. You are merely pushing him to be a better person, work harder and prove it to you. That in turn will make your relationship stronger and his self esteem better. I do caution you on telling him that he doesnt need to work for you. Especially since your own phone message directs callers to call Slade to discuss your business. It seems as though hes a business manager to you and you dont pay him! Or even give him credit! He does have a job......you dont pay him!! Careful not to take advantage of those you love. Im glad you and Tamra are friends again! She was going through some hard times in her life and had some growing up to do. Dont partake in another comunity friend bashing...its above you! Love you!

Michelle L
Michelle L

Gretchen, I have always loved your free spirited personality. Please don't let Slade or Tamara take that quality away from you. I would watch my back if I dealing with those two. Don't throw your friends who have always been their for you to the wolves. You could have said what you had to say to Alexis behind closed doors between just the two of you. You threw her under the bus.

Tallahassee Housewife
Tallahassee Housewife

Gretchen you are a smart woman don't take on some like Slade and his problems just because you think he loves you. Tomorrow these problems will be bigger and no marriage can take this. Fake ring OH NO

SCDP
SCDP

Gretchen,

I watched the Costa Rica intervention twice, and you were Not mean to Alexis. You were very careful to not call her any names, and were very clear on your point - which she completely missed. I have to say, I think underneath Alexis is extremely insecure, and any criticism, even constructive, is going to be perceived as an undeserved, untrue attack to her. She can't hear and process anything negative about herself, so she ignores everything everyone says and plays the victim. Blechhh!

As for "way to have your friend's back", we know you warned Alexis in advance, on the plane to CR, about the "intervention"; that Bravo made it clear they wanted it on tape for the show; and you told her what you were going to say - so it was NO SURPRISE to her. She's a better actress than people realize, and that's not a compliment,

Honestly? I've never seen Alexis take any real interest in you or your life. She is the penultimate "Me" girl. If your friendship heads south, you haven't lost a real friend.

Viewer553
Viewer553

You were angry that Alexis let Vicky enter her room rather than you. Alexis was hurt and disappointed by you, you had no right to be angry. If you were such a good friend and felt it so important to point out her flaws, you would have done so in private a long time ago, rather than be blindsided by a group. You lacked courage, don't blame her. Your intentions may have been out of concern, but Tamara's was out of meanness. Why haven't you all had an intervention for Tamara? Her flaws are pretty big. I guess most of you are scared of her and now you're on her good side, so you feel safe.

Anita Buckler
Anita Buckler

Gretchen, We ladies have to kiss MANY frogs to find our prince... you seem like such a great lady; you deserve so much more than Slade can offer. Forever is a long time... and take it from someone who knows, LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH!!!! All the best...

Exqzme
Exqzme

SO maybe some of the things Alexis does comes off wrong to you and the bully Tamra. Why is it your life's mission to make her feel bad about herself. Nobody believes you are trying to help her by pointing it out. You are just jumping on Tamra's bandwagon so she wont set her sights on you again. Way to have your friends back there. With friends like you who needs enemies.

L.A Native
L.A Native

With a friend like you who needs enemies! I already knew Tamra was a snake too bad you and Heather had to get down in the dirt with her.

bravowivesfan23
bravowivesfan23

Gretchen,

I'm glad you and Tamra are finally getting along. It's good to see she realized that she was way out of line with the things she was doing (and I've always liked Tamra, except for the things she was doing toward you).

When Alexis was attacked (which is slightly a strong word) I was thinking, yes Alexis comes off materialistic and fake and hypocritical. But for Tamra to claim she was being honest and that's what friends do, I was a little confused, because she's proudly claimed that she doesn't like Alexis. I think that you would benefit by sitting Alexis down and tell her how she's coming off and really give her examples. You have footage now from this season. She was like this from the get-go. Showing her how people perceive her may help her to stop looking down her nose at people. Because it definitely seems like she does.

blm
blm

I heard you liked the nicholas sparks movies.shows like that can heal the heart.what you did to a true kind person as you did to lexie will never be justified.i think it back fired and you will some day regret.even tho you would never admit it.print for gretchen R.i hope tamra does not break up you and slade.

Viewer4044
Viewer4044

I thought it was so nice that you came to an agreement with Tamara...very mature. Now she is beginning to use you and Heather as her snarky monkey assistants! Think for yourself!!

NKS
NKS

Like the other viewers I cannot believe how you guys treated Alexis! You owe her an apology! She has her flaws, like everyone, but to join in and gang up on her seems so unlike you and how you have been in previous episodes. I think you need to figure out who you are and don't let others negatively influence you. Tamara is a mean mean girl, Heather thinks she Miss Refined (excuse me, but my husband is a plastic surgeon too and I am a physician as well but I don't walk around with my nose in the air), and Vicky is just wacky! Your flaw has been that you were supposed it be a good friend and you failed.

faz
faz

hi Gretchen I am a big fan off the real house wife's but i regardless to the rest out all off them you think to much off your self life is short keeping grudges is not worth having you need to grow up and use your senses this is in relation to one off the series off the real house wife's also you need to treat your man wit respect and think off his happiness as your own to but seriously you need to sort your attitude out because one day you will end up on your own and you will realize

Thankyou

theshadowwpb
theshadowwpb

Gretchen, I really liked you from day one until the trip to Costa Rica. Why do you fear Tamaran? What control does she have over you? I thought you were a woman with your own convictions. What cause you to fall right into Tamaran's webs of lies? You love Slade for who is his, why then are you judging your good friend Alexis? If you can't change Slade I think you will have a difficult time trying to change Alexis. Love and having a true friend is to accept them for exactly who they are. Something to think about...

Rebecca wants to hammer it home!
Rebecca wants to hammer it home!

Gretchen, what are you doing ????????????? Tamra is just using you don't you see that .... and i ask you why has she not told slade how sorry she is for all the bad things she has said and done to him .. Why ?? i guess she still feels the same about him,, and you need to watch the show again, she would love to see the two of you break up, to see you unhappy is what makes her happy. i hope you get the binders off before it is to late for you.. watch your back that women has it out for you....

lallaw
lallaw

Gretchen, I have been watching you since day 1 and have always liked what I saw. The first and last time, before just recently, that I ever blogged on a celebrity site was to was to be supportive of you when Tamara had you in her gun site. But this last season, I was disappointed in several of the things you did and said concerning others namely Heather and Slade.

You say you love Slade and that he is good for you. I am happy for you. But have you ever asked yourself if you are good for Slade? You appear to emasculate him on the show. From the "chubba-wubba" comments to your puts downs to him, direct and subtle, about money, ability, and worth. Many are negative. The guy is already depressed. He lost everything and for a man that means he's lost his identity. He follows you like a puppy and sometimes you treat him that way...a stray puppy, not one of your cherished pooches. And then you discuss his "deficiencies" as a man and a provider with any housewife who will listen while cameras roll. Whether you realize it or not, you constantly tear him down.

Ask yourself what do you do to help him re-build his self-esteem and self-worth? If you can't think of 10 things easily that don't involve you paying the bills, do the guy a favor and let him go.

Ruby2
Ruby2

There are just some friends that bring out the worse in people...Tamra is that friend for you. Move away from her...it will help you immensely.

MamaJen3
MamaJen3

Didn't think I'd say this, but "Team Alexis!" Wow! Way to have your bestie's back there!

Mary V
Mary V

Gretchen, please please please think really hard and long about marrying Slade! You are by far the most beautiful of all the housewives and deserve so much better than him. I wish Jeff was still here for you, and I wonder what would he think about Slade? I bet he would tell you that you can do way better than him. I just hope you take care of your own finances and make sure he doesn't have control over them. Maybe a good financial planner is just the thing to help you with them. I just think he is so controlling. Just my honest opinion for what it's worth. Good luck to you hon, I think you might need it.

Dee Pittsburgh
Dee Pittsburgh

Lose Slade and ALexis and the world will by your oyster.

Dublin123
Dublin123

Gretchen, now you should be able to see what being a friend with Tamara can bring. She's a bully who uses "honesty" as an excuse to beat up on people, and can, with her tactics, bring you right into the bull pen with her. When you made the decision to become a friend again with Tamara, I couldn't believe it. Also, when you attempted to talk to Alexis that night, you didn't try to make her feel better but Vicki did so Alexis allowed her to stay. Now, which of you was the true friend? I don't condone Alexis speaking of herself as she does either but she isn't hurting anyone but herself. It's none of your or Tamara's business and you had no right to gang up on her. Shame, shame.

mary shepherd
mary shepherd

You are my favorite and you are not only "beautiful outside but beautiful inside". I think Alexis needs to grow up. You said nothing wrong that night at dinner to my way of thinking. Always be the "nice person that you are and don't let others tear you down.....You should be in movies {like a Sandra Dee}movie or "Debbie Reynolds". Guess you now know I'm a grandma and I would want my granddaughter to be like you! High five!

Lindsay
Lindsay

Gretchen, Wake-up, how would you feel if the situation had been reversed and you were the one being ganged up on by the other women? Alexis has stood beside you, by adding your two cents to the attack, you stabbed her in the back. Also, Tamara will stab you in the back in a hot minute, watch out! I think that you and Tamara act like mean "B's" when you get together, you don't have a true friendship. Be very careful, she's working a wedge in between you and Slade.

ASL-Chicago Style
ASL-Chicago Style

Gretchen, You are a friend to Alexis, but as a viewer Alexis only thinks about herself and her family. With all that is going on Alexis has yet to ask you what is going on with you and your issue's with Slade. You had a lot on your mind so you went to talk to Heather, and I'm glade that you did. Heather give you some real insight and she left you with something to think about. I read one viewer comments and I could not believe that she had the gutts to say, if you love the man then take on is baggage, pay his child support do not marrie him and live blessed and happy, that viewer is what my gramdma would call is A-DOOR-MATT-WOMEN.........just walk on me "but" love me tonight, you don't have to work, I will handle everything, that is not a REAL MAN he is what gramdma calls -WELL-K-E-E-P-E-D. For some reason Slade, wants to get married A-SAP even after all the discussions that you and he has had regarding his baggage, debt, etc., you have ask him to take care of this for the past (3) years and he has not, he blames you for him not proceeding to handling his problems. At this point he cannot afford to buy you a decent engament ring, he wanted to purchase a FAKE, the jewler explained to him they dont do FAKE rings. My question is, WHY SLADE WON'T HANDLE IS BUSINESS? WHAT IS THE RUSH TO GET MARRIED? From what I see........... HE IS HIDEING SOMETHING.

LfromBAMA
LfromBAMA

How did you TRY to make the Bash up on Alexis about you? You sat there agreeing with Tamara-who has bashed you since day one and Alexis stood by you.Heather-who has her head so far up Tamara's butt she has fart breath,put your 2 cents in like she had wronged you, then start crying after she leaves about her being your friend and hated to upset her(like it wouldnt)to top it off you knew they were planning to confront Alexis and didnt warn her.Honey,you have proved over the seasons you are ALOT of things but a friend to Alexis or anyone on the show is not one.

Kim D
Kim D

I just want to know where you got your hat from????! The fedora with the black brim underneath!!! I've been looking for it everywhere!!!!! Please please post where you got it. Thanks!!!

kimROB
kimROB

GRETCHEN,

YOU HAVE 2 BIG THINGS AGAINST YOU. YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO PICK MEN OR HOW TO BE A GOOD FRIEND. AS YOU GROW OLDER YOU ARE GETTING TO BE LIKE THE TWO WITCHES TAMRA AND VICKI. YOU HAVE BEEN AROUND THEM TOO LONG.

Judy Bunch
Judy Bunch

Gretchen, you have a good head on your shoulders. Keep it up. Just stay real and don't take things personally. It's always about other perceptions. You're doing great! As long as you see Slade moving forward with financial issues, then there's promise. But be sure to monitor your internal gauge every now and then to make sure it's all going right.

akellim
akellim

love you on the show! so glad you and tamara made up. i think you are a real and great person, and absolutely beautiful!

Shepherd Lady
Shepherd Lady

Gretchen, remember you can fall in-love with the wrong person. Your partner should bring out your good points. What you don't like about them now, ask yourself can you live with it, because those faults will get more important to you, once you are married, if you can't accept them.

Barbra Klein
Barbra Klein

Your my favorite !! Don't change and don't let Tamara change you , She only around you because your a winner! But Tamara is still jealous of you and your relationship! Don't let her break you up!!

Karmaisabiotch
Karmaisabiotch

Gretchen, You were a disappointment this week in terms of your friendship with Alexis. Alexis may have some undersirable personality traits but as a real friend, you dont participate in a mob style intervention. No one ever feels good about that. As a real friend you should pull her to side and speak to her in private and then back her up when everyone else jumps on her at the same time. You of all people should know how it feels to be attacked by the girls. Tamara is a bad influence. She snakes up that putrid nose of hers and manages to always be the one behind the mob mentality groups. You were wrong on this one Gretchen. Just think back to the last two reunion shows. Remember how you felt when they jumped on you? Who was in your corner? Alexis or Tamera?

Katie R.
Katie R.

Gretchen i have always liked you! But after watching the latest episode of you girls in costa rica it was disappointing to see you not really have Alexis's back after shes always had yours. I just wonder if you hadnt become friends with Tamra if you would have. I hope you and Alexis can get past this, and just dont forget when people have been there for you. You just need to remember what it felt like for you when Tamra and Vicki constantly attacked you and Slade, they said ALOT of mean things about him, its great you have forgave Tamra, but dont forget how it did make you feel, and Alexis always defended you and Slade. But im very happy for you and Slade, I actually love him for you, who cares if hes not the richest man right now, he loves you and thats clear. The other women need to mind their own business and not worry about what Slades doing or not doing. Im glad you never let them influence you on that situation, and continute to not! Cant wait to see your new handbags! i really really really want one!

viewer222
viewer222

All you need to do is remember when you had to keep your letter posted on your web site for over a year just to try and do damage control because of Tamara evil tongue. You know you dont have forgive everybody, you can forget them instead. So when you see Tamara tearing into Alexis again I guess you just thank your lucky stars she not after you right? You already put Vicki in her place you just needed to do that with Tamara long ago. There is something about Tamara that is just so damaged its just bad energy I would think.

TNC
TNC

Viewer 777 Gretchen explained in one of her previous blogs why she didn't immediately go and see Alexis. Alexis told her she wouldn't be up to having her visit the day of her surgery and then the next day Jim told her not to come. The day after that she had business meetings so she went the next day. I'm so tired of everyone turning on G just because she says something that Alexis doesn't like. That doesn't mean she has turned on her. Should Gretchen just be fake and tell her she's the most perfect person there ever was for people not to think G has turned on her?

Viewer OK
Viewer OK

Gretchen, if you were a true friend to Alexis you would have told her how you felt in private , 1 to 1. Why wait until the mean girl (Tamra) decides to confront her and join in. This girl did not start acting the way she does overnight. If you felt this way all along you should have shared your concerns with her in private, and accept her for who she is. By you joining in and attacking her with some of the other ladies comes across as if you did not have her back. That is what a true friend would do, I just saying....

fruitloop7879
fruitloop7879

I love your sunglasses in the episode in Costa Rica! It's the second episode of it, when you four ladies are at the beach. They're a pair of gold aviators...I need to know who makes them so I can pick up a pair!

zandra
zandra

Gretchen, you have alweays been my favorite, but use your head, Tamara is not your friend. Don't forsake Alexis's friendship for Tamara, watch your back.

The Watcher
The Watcher

You are a pretty lady and I don't think you are mean spirited, but you should be ashamed that you sided with the two mean girls, Tamara and Heather, gainst Alexis. Tamara attacked you, then Vicki, now Alexix and you went along with her. Shame on you Gretchen! Tamara has no sensitivity to other people's feelings. Tamara is not a good friend to anyone. She citicises everyone for having feelings. Simon dominated and criticised her and she is now scared by it. Can't you see through her? Don't throw away your true friends for Tamara, because Tamara is no one's true friend.

dianne.burke@gmail.com
dianne.burke@gmail.com

 @mutter I completely understood what you were saying to Alexis, you were giving some constructive criticism, HOWEVER, you should have pulled her aside from all the other girls, since she is closes with you.  What you did made it seem as if you were ganging up on her with the others.