Sorry I have been MIA for a couple of weeks, things have been just so crazy lately and I have been traveling a lot for work. However I do receive and read all your messages every week through social media and my personal website so thank you for the support and love you continue to show me every week!
I will recap how I feel about some things from the last couple of episodes here:
So grateful Briana does not have cancer! It's one of the worst things as a parent to learn about your child. God knows Slade knows that all too well. Unfortunately seeing this footage reminds me all too well what a hypocrite Vicki is -- again. She was so quick to judge me and say, "Why am I choosing to be on a show when I have someone that is sick in my life?" Yet, once again, when the tables are turned it's OK for her. I just don't get her consistent hypocrisy. Even more so, I just don't get how she can never see it herself. I would never wish what Slade and I have been dealt on any one. However as a human, I do find it difficult in these moments to find empathy for people like Vicki who have been so mean and vile to me when I was going through the worst time in my life when I was losing Jeff. She always expects everyone to stop and feel bad for her, but she has never once shown empathy towards Slade or my situations, only judgment and false accusations. However my parents taught me differently, so I will not treat her the way she treated me back then.
I think taking a helicopter to L.A. was fabulous and very "Fancy Pants" of Heather! She did not let me down! I think it's great that Heather wants to start a business with her friends, but I also know from experience that it can be very challenging. It can sometimes ruin friendships, so you have to weigh If that is worth it. I do however hate how Vicki is always so quick to put down everyone's ideas and never is empowering to other women. Why is that? She has talked poorly about so many of our business ventures; for instance mine, Lynn, Alexis, Jeana (as a realtor), and now Heather. I just find that so discouraging. I believe in lifting woman up and empowering them. You can educate and give advice without being demeaning. Vicki saying "these women just want a place to hang out so they can spend their husband's money" was not nice and unnecessary.
Obviously plastic surgery is very serious and not something to take lightly, because as you can see from Alexis' surgery there are a lot of negative side effects and pain. I am sooo glad I never decided to get my nose done, sinus issues or not. It just does not look fun! I sincerely did not think Alexis needed to get her nose done. I think she looked beautiful before and the bump gave her some personality. I even thought I had convinced her not to do it last summer!
Great blog Gretchen. I agree with you about Alexis and Vicki. Alexis is a very insecure and not-so-bright person. I don't know how she even keeps her job at Fox 5 because she is very unprofessional and never seems to know what she's talking about. Anyway, Slade seems like a very nice guy and he seems to really care about you. Vicki....what can we say about Vicki. She is a true hypocrit and looks like an idiot with that guy Brooks. I was shocked he asked her about her assets and if she's such a smart woman, how come that didn't raise a red flag to her? You, Heather and Tamara are my favorites. You three should stick together. The other two---I hope they are off the show next year.
Gretchen take yourself out of the equation for a minute and look at how it looked to us. A woman you had an argument with at another event is there on the side talking with her friend, the next thing you know the friend comes over to you and interrupts your conversation to confrontationally say "We need to talk?" 1. This woman is not someone you talk to on a daily basis 2. She just left the side of the woman you had an argument with, her friend 3. Now she needs to talk to you
Get the picture? You can't blame Vicki for thinking that you sent Sarah over. Also if you are going to let go of the past and move on, MOVE ON, stop bringing up what Vicki did and didn't do. Don't say you forgive but keep bringing up past things
I thought you did a really good job trying to calm Sarah down last night. I'm glad you and Vicki kept your cool and didn't get into another fight. I was also impressed that Slade and Vicki seemed to get along. And I LOVED the present you got Tamra!
Quit (not quite) talking about Vicki, it is getting boring. She is a hypocrite and usually not the nicest person around but you must have better things to talk about. Love you and Slade!
When it comes to Vicki you may have to learn how to click the "ignore" button mentally. You have nailed her personality to a T. Yes that whole Brooks thing about asking what her assets will be once her divorce is finalized also set off a warning signal with me too.
you are different this season wheather you admit it or not.you need to re-read your blog a lot of mistakes.i know out of all the oc housewives you always have the highest ratings.that to me should not matter.you have never been my fav. but this season you seem to be more into yourself and stuch up.you can justifie your actions over and over but some can see as you were the one to cut your ties from lexie because of tamra and heather.yes heather calling lex dum again really.yes such class.i thought you had the lord in you like lex.you should learn kindness and go to her church.you talk about her doing the news.yes maybe she needs alittle coaching. but she is much better than you were doing your voice lessions.i would much rather be lex and be silly funny and confident and pretty. instead of being the name calling bullys as some are on the oc.i love that lex does not use fowl language every other word like some.alexis just got cameo on GH did any of you say how proud you were of her.she always had your back.you are not a true friend.hope lex leaves oc wives behind and moves forward.she is the only reason why i watch.lex and vic favs this season.bravo print for gretchen she needs to read and face the truth on what is real.you talk bad about vicki and you wish she would fall again while bowling.real grown up gretchen.you let others name call your friends and do not even stand up for them.go lex and vicki all the way.
My fiance and I love you both, Gretchen and Slade. To us you seem like the only genuine people on the show and I love your honesty and humor!
HeaTher said she didn't invite Sarah-why in the world would you bring her to the bowling party without an invite from the hostess?!
My fiance and I love you both, Gretchen and Slade. You two seem to be the most genuine and honest couple on the show and we both love your honesty and great sense of humor.
Great job taking the high road. Sarah and Vicki both handled the situation badly, but you and Heather were very classy. You also seem like a great friend and Alex needs to quit being to petty. She's always starting something. I also agree, watching her fox 5 segment was brutal. She talked the entire time, cut off her panel, and couldn't even get her names correct. It was absolutely brutal that's for sure. Good job trying to talk her into getting a coach!
Very well stated. All of it. Vicky is nothing but a hypocrite, which saddens me because i used to love her. facts are facts tho and this season has really shown her true colors. This blog was written with respect and class. 2 thumbs up!
I liked you then I didn't like you now I like you again! You always explain yourself very well and even if I don't originally agree with you, you help to make me see another side. Also, you know your relationship better than anyone else so really people should just mind their own business. It would be different if you were showing up bruised or something but that's not the case. As far as your singing, I've heard you before and I think you did a great job. If people don't realize you can damage your vocal cords then they should ask Celine Dion why she limits her talking tremendously so she can sing at her LV shows. Can't wait to see your performance. It's nice to see you and Tamra being nice to each other. As far as Vicki, she's just a nasty piece of hypocritical work. Even Brianna knows, she's all about Vicki, period.
She never asked anyone to feel sorry for her about Briana and she isn't a hypocrite by being on the show because she was signed on to the show when Briana was diagnosed and has been on it since the beginning unlike you. Also, though Briana was sick she wasn't handicapped or stuck in a hospital. She was living her normal life while maybe suffering some which is sad but I'm sure wouldn't want her mom to not be on the show because of her thyroid. You need to get over your vendetta against Vicki geez!
Gretchen, You are such a bright, beautiful woman with so much potential. You seem to have stumped your growth with Slade however. He is blocking your light and preventing you from growing toward the sun. When he showed his sick behavior at the comedy club, I wondered how on earth you could find such an evil spirit attractive. Any man who can do that to women is a man you want run away from as fast as you can.
Gretchen, I too think you are smart, intellligent as well as beautiful and you are so gosh darn likable! I love that about you! SO humble and a lady always! Your parents did a great job raising you because you have got it going on! I must say I did think it a bit odd that Slade dated so many housewives on this show but the two of you appear to be very happy and so supportive of each other. Come to think of it, you two are the only normal couple on the show although I do like Heather and her husband but something still puts me off about him, I haven't figured it out yet but I am sure it will! Anyhow, as long as Slade makes you happy I wish you all the luck in the world he seems to adore you, and it takes the right woman to bring out the best in a man so I guess he has met that woman in you! Take care!
You had me at hello ;--) I am in agree with you on this weeks blog. Having said that, DROP Alexis NOW! Drop her like a bad habit, I think you are a Better friend to Her, than she is to You. I have faith you'll see what I mean..afterall you are a smart & intelligent woman
Alexis is incapable of being a friend because she appears to be too selfish/thinks that everyone "wants to be her, which really means she believes that she is superior to everyone else. G, don't wast your time.
wow..this is my first time responding to any of this..guess that makes me a virgin.haha:} i completely agree about vicki. i didnt have problems with her the first few seasons as far as her as a person. im not agreeing with her actions in the past. i believe she is a hard person and it is not appealing. she can have a career and love and family without being so hateful. she treated don like crap and also the cast members. gretchen you are so sweet and adorable. you are the most real on the show actually out all of the housewives. please do me a favor. i used to enjoy alexis but she has changed so bad she is just negative and nasty. i hated tamra last season i hope this she is being for real because she seems to have had awake up call. live your life sweetie. vicki is full hate for some reason we may not never know why. she needs to leave the show and get her life straight. live yours you are doing great. love out to you and slade.
I am glad you were able to blog this week, Gretchen. 1.) Because I enjoy reading your blogs and 2.) Because you addressed some things that I noticed in the last episode. I have so much to say in response. I think I'll write my comment person by person.
Vicki- I'm not a fan and never have been. She has double-standards. Tamra described her perfectly to Heather when she said you can't say anything to Vicki. I had DVRed the show and rewound it when I was SURE I saw SLADE help Vicki up and then watch her commentary dissing you and him! Seriously? He was the only one who cared enough to help her up and she still bad-mouthed him. Her own boyfriend didn't even come to her aid.
Sarah- I may not be a Vicki fan but for once I was actually taking her side when it came to the way Sarah was acting around her. Sarah was being nuts. Maybe it was a bad combination of drinking and a bad day, but she shouldn't have come to her blog to justify her insane behavior.
Alexis- I feel like she is struggling with the fact that she is jealous of your friendship with Tamra, but she can't admit it because everyone knows that jealously of that sort is immature. When I saw you visit Tamra in the hospital I was expecting to see a blog from Alexis bringing that up and talking about how she felt hurt you went to see Tamra right away but not her. And now knowing that you tried to see her and they said she wasn't up to it, it just so weird. Even though I think Alexis is acting crazy, I still feel sad for your friendship. I think it is something you all can fix if you can just find a way to really discuss what is going on. It could be that Tamra was still being very mean to Alexis this season and since you were starting a friendship with her Alexis felt betrayed by default (even if you didn't specifically do anything against her).
Gretchen..do I have some things to say to you. Honey, I know that you put that crazy friend of yours up to approach Vicki..you and Slade were a part of that. Girl, the only thing you have going for you that I agree with is Vicki's boyfriend..he scares me also. Don't worry I will not say anything about Slade at all because I know you both care for each other. But, Slade has a mean streak about the other women and you are going right along with it. Should be interesting.
I agree with you - I don't know why everyone has such negative ideas about Slade. I have watched him since Season 1 and I liked him then. I thought he was too good for Jo and kept saying he can do better than her. Who gives a crap if he dated Laurie. We all date people what are in our geographical locations or circles. Its not like it was some big love affair.
Gretchen: You're absolutely right about Brooks. There IS something about him that should worry Vicki but she's so hungry for attention that she's missing the signs. This boy is up to no good. When I watched him asking about her finances I cringed. Please implore Tamra to talk to her about it. I think she's in danger of being taken advantage of. She needs to be warned and maybe Tamra should seriously talk to her.
Love you this year as I did last year!
Gretchen, You are a great girl and although we all have our "moments" I think you are a smart cookie. Everyone knows that Vicki is nothing more than a narcissist, and you cannot reason with someone like that so just don't stoop to her level. :)
wow how far down the Pussy cat dolls have come for you to headline. incredible..people are right do not give up your day job.
Gretchen you have become my favorite housewife! You speak your mind and are honest with your feelings. I have never posted on any of these blogs…but I just couldn’t take it anymore!! I feel your frustration when it comes to Vicki. It is like talking to a wall!! I too have had people in my life that have been quick to judge my choices. But if I dared to say anything to them about similar things in their lives…WATCHOUT! You are definitely right about Vicki…she is a hypocrite!! I have always tried to see all of your sides since I don't know any of you personally, but there is no denying stupid! I know it is hard to not defend yourself or your loved ones...but at this point it’s like trying to reason with a stump. Anyone with a brain can see through her “high and mighty” attitude. Keep doing you and be happy :)
PLEASE POST BRAVO
Why are ALL your Blogs focussed around Vicki? I remember last season and she was the one who DID show compassion to Slade at the Reunion. She also didn't say negative things about him at the reunion, as Tamra did! What version of history are you recalling and more importantly, why are you SO CONSUMED with posting negative things about Vicki! You look like the bully hereand certainly there is no 'high road' that you are travelling on!
It's either you, you, you or Vicki, Vicki, Vicki, or Slade, Slade, Slade. It sounds like you are trying to CONVINCE us!
You go girl! What does a consultant mean? I work with consultants but they are finances consultants, IT consultants, etc. What is he a consultant for??? That is so sketchy!
Interesting how you can say "I believe in lifting woman up and empowering them" while putting Vicki down at the same time. If you were truly being the bigger person and rising above it all, you wouldn't spend so much time slinging dirt.
I 100% agree with you on your Vicki points week-to-week. That said, I think you should just stop even bothering wasting your finger strokes on her and pointing out her hypocrisies; it just feeds her more to retort with nonsense. Hopefully this posts, mine never do.
Gretchen-I have to say that I am a fan. I admire how authentic you are, even if it is a situation that requires you to deliver some hard-to-hear feedback. I think the audience makes judgements based on certain scenes that Bravo chooses to show and you may not always come out looking sweet. However, if you look at all of the seasons as a whole, I don't think many can deny you are honest, loyal, intelligent, and give everyone a fair chance. I have always taken notice when you can compliment someone's actions even if you are in the midst of a "hate" relationship.
You are the best! I'm not sure why you are defending Slade. It is obvious that you both are so well suited for each other. He may have been with other "housewives" but really he is nice guy and it shows. I haven't read these comments through the past weeks so I guess people keep telling you to be weary of Slade. I always like you both together, it feels comfortable and loving. Vicki is in her own world, don't worry, we see her hypocriticalness each show...I just laugh and laugh. I mean sometimes I don't know how she can even keep a straight face when she is blasting someone about something and then turns around and says it is okay for her....hahaha. Too funny. People like that are never going to see their ways, we see the truth Gretchen. Also I feel very uncomfortable with Brooks, it is just toooooooo everything. Creepy in a way. I know they showed that question he asked about her money for drama...but really....WHO ASKS THAT!!! Omg ......what are you going to get? Wow....I hope he doesn't hurt Vicki...or take her to the cleaners...because I would like everyone to have love but I hope Vicki is watching how creepy he is. Love you Gretchen, keep up the good battle...I hope it gets easier for you with Vicki...come to some kind of truce.
You Rock!! And yes Vicky is a Hypocrite, she sould watch the past episodes of OC to see just what a Hypocrite she is.Woul'nt the box set make a great gift to give her?
Gretchen, Yes I did notice that it was Slade who came to help Vicki to her feet at the bowling alley. By the way, where was her boyfriend Brooks, in the restroom? I can't believe he did not go rushing over to her with a card or something when she was sitting there on the lane after she fell! Boyfriend or not, I can't believe he would be questioning her about what she will be getting from her divorce. I found that whole segment very disturbing also.
YOU ROCK!!! Yes Vicki is a Hypocrite. she should watch the past episodes of OC to remind herself. Would'nt a boxed gift set of the OC be a great gift for Vicki?
Gretchen, you are the funniest and the most beautiful of ALL the housewives anywhere. You must know that Vicki is soooooooo very jealous of you. thats it. period. You and Slade seem to really enjoy life together and only the two people in the relationship really know what is going on. Find some peace in that truth and try to ignore the haters! I love your laugh by the way, it always makes me laugh.
Gretchen - you are the most sane, mature person in this group of women. Everything you have said in your post is on point, especially about Vicky. If there is one thing that is intolerable is a hypocrite that can never see themselves in the mirror. Keep up the good work and ladies - leave Gretchen alone - she knows what she is doing. Keep calling Vicky out - maybe one day she will get it!
Gretchen, if you can forgive Tamra for evil ways, you should be able to forgive Vicki. I know Vicki can be so quick to judge someone, but that's her. She is getting old and set in her ways. (but doesn't excuse the ignorant comments she made about you). I was proud of you for being the bigger person at the bowling alley. You should check your friend, Sara, about sticking her noise in something that happened recently. You should be careful on how you select your friends.
Peace, Georgia Peach
Love you Gretchen. I think you are the only real person on any of these shows. I love you an Tamra together, but dont trust her. I can see her backstabbing you and as for Vicki- forgot her. She will never see her own fault.
You are my favorite! Love reading your blogs! Love your insight! Glad you and Tamra are working out! Keep it up, girl! I like Slade! I liked him from the beginning! You can see a good person from the start.. I saw that in you!!
Loving you this season, Gretchen. I think the real side of you (and Slade) is starting to come out. I love that you work your butt off, make mistakes, and can laugh honestly at yourself. You have a very forgiving heart and I like that you are always trying to see the best in people and give multiple chances.
Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be "right". Your elaborate justifications and cases against those you perceive as opposing you don't redeem your character.
Gretchen I agree with you. You are your own woman and can make your own decisions in life and in love. Vicki has selective amnesia, bottom line. All the things that she has accused you of and Slade of, is exactly what she and Brooks are all about. She tries to sugar coat all her wrong doings and deeds. She was still a marrried woman when she started seeing Brooks, I don't care how you slice it, she was married. I think the problem with Vicki is that she is jealous of you. You are everything she is not and was not at your age. She wears her skirts/dressess too short and she shows way to much cleavage for a woman her age. You dress very tastefully and you NEVER ever look sluttish which is a true compliment to you and your parents. People go on and on about you and Jeff, but what I say is this. Nobody but Gretchen and Jeff know what kind of relationship or arrangement they had. You took care of him and I didn't see Jeff as the kind of man that would want you to mourn your life away. I believe he saw your vitality and strength. As for your friendships, Tamra is who she is is. She is raw and edgy and she is comfortable around you because she can be herself. She can be playful, funny and just witty. Alexis...well she has to have the spotlight. That is a very insecure woman. She is jealous of your talking with Tamra and wants you all to herself. She was always in competition with Peggy about everything and anything. Alexis should know this...Jim is HER husband and as her husband, HE is supposed to be the one to divulge the knowledge that he and Peggy went out before. It is not Peggy's responsibility...Peggy told her husband Micah, Jim was supposed to let Alexis know. And to say that Peggy was stalking him, come on!!!! They had a 4 year friendship before Alexis found out and Peggy and Micah would go out with Jim and Alexis, they were invited into each other's homes. Alexis is going through life with blinders on. Gretchen keep up the good work, you are on a mission to have your brand and I wish you nothing but the success. As women we should always empower and encourage one another, this is a male dominated world and women should be together as one! I guess Vicki wants to always be the one who says "I work, I don't have time for cooking parties!"
I'm truly tired of all the jabs about Alexis and her intelligence, including by you in this blog, her supposed friend. Alexis may not always communicate her ideas in a way that is "camera ready", but she is kind and considerate to others. Since when are these characteristics less valuable than being fake and always saying everything in the perfect and proper way? You can't possibly compare her to friends who aren't on TV. She has a right to question your friendship because of the way you "play up" to the cameras. You do what you have to do to stay on TV, even selling out a friend like Alexis in attempts to please the public.