I would love to know the brand of the tan leather jacket Gretchen Rossi wore to Heather Dubrow's paint party or where I can buy it. Thanks

You and Slade are a great pair. You should stay together. I think you guys make each other happy and you are a good match.

I love hearing how you found your peace and opened yourself up to God. I've have also been doing that as well and let me say it helps a lot. I like how you don't push yourself on people forcing them to be that way but instead using an example in your life to portray how you are bettering yourself as a person.

The more and more you are that way, the less stressful things you use to stress about will be. Keep it up and stay fun!

(you and Tamra make a fun "couple"!)

Hi Gretchen
Look inside yourself to discover that you are a beautiful, talented,. smart and ambitious woman. Unload Slade. He's using you and weighing you down.

I'm sick of you women throwing around the word "Christian" and then turning around swearing, badmouthing, gossiping, lying, living with unmarried partners, getting drunk, etc. I know no one is perfect, but I'm pretty sure Rick Warren would be embarrassed to read this post and think people might get the impression he condones this show and its behavior. Not likely.

i agree with so many other viewers that Slade is not the man for you, I know who are we to judge. But dont see you two working out long term. He is too
needy and you are a stronge business woman. I have a hard time believing him. Hes not the stronge type of man that you need. I dont think that I would let him cook for me either a jar of rague for your posta the the lst episode really that is not classy enough for you sorry. and if you and Slade do deside to merry please get a prenup ! thanks for listening and best wishes. karen in kentucky

Slade's Mom was the funniest part of his 'act'! Her comments and expressions had me Rollin! For the most part those girls deserved every jolt! What goes around really does come back around Ladies!
Seriously though Gretchen, until Heather arrived You were the only true class act on any Real housewife show except for Vanderfab! As for your relationship with Slade let the comments belong to those who write them! This is your life, your heart, your love so follow your feelings only! Jeff is your guardian Angel letting you know life is too short to not share your love with the one you care about most!
Finally I would like to say enough with all of the Housewives using these blogs as advertisement of their business opportunities! Seriously! It makes me more uncomfortable than watching Slade play stand up!

Gretchen - I've always been a fan of yours. You are pretty, smart, and oh so wickedly witty! I generally don't blog but I had to express how ridiculous last night's show was. You were very PC in stating your feelings to Slade as to how his little "show" would affect you and he stated not once but twice that he didn't care. Why are you with him? He's juvenile and immature and he only brings you down. You are too classy to be with someone like him. I know we only see the edits that Bravo puts together but this seems like a one sided relationship and you need to respect yourself more and move on with your life. Maybe he did it to pump up the ratings but he looks like a real prick.

Hi Gretchen! I know you're very busy but I hope you get a chance to read this.

I noticed you've received this same advice from a lot of other people but I felt compelled to say it myself because you seem like such a sweet person who deserves much more than she has in a partner.
It must be so hard for you to hear negative feedback about the person you care about and love but I have to honest here, you have your blinders on (blinded by love?). It is so easy for the rest of the world to see what you don't (and maybe you do) even from the little bit that us viewers witness about your lives.
Slade is not the man for you. It would benefit both of you to go your separate ways. You clearly are determined, hard-working, and focused on your future. And clearly, Slade hasn't a clue about what he wants to do or be in life. It may be best for him to figure that out on his own. But maybe you're willing to go along on that journey with him? My husband and I "grew up" together and built our lives together but we started young, early twenties. Slade should be established as an adult at this point. You have a life completely independent of him, he should have the same.
I wish you all the best in everything you do, you seem like a lovely person. I hope you don't take too much offense getting advice from a stranger!

I read your blog comments and its sad to see what vicki and tamara have done to you... People are still believing all the lies they told.. like you being with another man while engaged.. They talked so much about you that people are still hearing only the negative about you and believing it.. so sad.. you defend yourself and still all the hateful things they said is still all some hear.. Vicki dishes it but cant take it.. and than tries to defend why her man is a deadbeat.. There is no proof about slade (actual proof just gossip from the other ladies) but brook was in jail for his lack of being a father but wait according to vicki there is a reason.. or excuse.. She is not someone I would trust she lies even in her blog and than says but i made a pubic apology for never saying anything about slade... Why would she have to make an apology if she never spoke about him.. I dont know slade well enough to say anything and if he makes you happy than that is all that matters.. I think your a strong woman and know exactly what you want.. dont listen to everyone saying you shouldnt be with slade.. I dont see you having to struggle to make yourself happy with him.. money is important to some but happiness seems to be important to you..

Gretchen, you and Alexis are the only genuine ladies in the cast. I really don't understand why you would want to have anything to do with a foul mouth, classless person like Tamra. She will screw you over, because that's who she is and what she does, so don't act surprised when she does. You are better than that and can't be that hard up for 'friends'. You are being disloyal to Slade by being friends with her, specially after what Tamra and Vickie have said about you and Slade. Also, I was sad for you because Slade showed that his 'revenge' is more important than your feelings or what the consequences are to you. After this, I truly don't see this relationship lasting. If a man is willing to do something he knows you don't want him to do because you know it will hurt you, and he still goes ahead with it, it just shows that your feelings really don't matter. He's now shown you who he is; just like Tamra did, don't be stupid Gretchen, you're a smart lady. Open up your eyes and rethink these relationships.

Gretchen I told you he will bring you down. For a "gown-a _ s" man Slade is such a wimp. Neither Vickie nor Tamara caused him to not get work or have a job. He lost his job before they even said anything about him. Slade is like a snake in the grass. He's going to bring you down if you don't kick him to the curb. He is only out to bring them down and you will fall along with them if you let him keep it up !

Slade knew your concerns of how his comedy thing would affect your standing with the other women, especially how you just made amends with Tamra. You sat there, on the verge of tears, explaining to him your reasons why you didn't want him to do that, and he didn't even care.That right there, makes him appear selfish and unconcerned with your feelings. That's not how a man treats the woman that he loves. If he really loved you, your feelings and opinions would be first on his agenda, and every decision would revolve around you.
So....Why would you want a guy like that? Move on. He is a a selfish opportunist.

Gretchen- - have always loved you, but always wondered why you are with Slade. He has no future for you or himself. You could do soooooo much better!!!! You have so much to offer and he has what????? You should have pitched a MAJOR fit when he did he IMPROV act making fun of you friends. That would NEVER fly in my home with my husband. Did you truly forgive in your heart these girls? If you did, you would never have sat by as timid as you did and let him slaughter them the way he did. You gave him a little slap on the wrist. He's acting like a little spoiled child instead of a MAN. He needs to man up and say their opinion of him doesn't matter.
Please give yourself more credit and let him go and be your own woman. You have too much to offer to be with him.
Forgiveness is healing...

WTF is wrong with Slade! seriously be a real man !!!

Gretchen has FINALLY taken the high road and certainly is more likable, at least to me. Seems to have lost the big huge ego too but I have to agree with the other poster, time to lose the gobs of makeup. She's a beautiful woman and would look so much better a bit more natural.

Gretchen you are such a smart girl and I wish you could find your soul mate. You need someone that completes you and can make you a better person. I don't think slade can do that for you. He has a lot of negative energy and it's hard to watch you two together. I think you would be much happier in the long run if you explored your options now.

Gretchen Dear, WAKE UP ! Get out of that relationship you have with Slade. He is a user, has NO respect for your opinion. He doesn't care what he puts you through and proved it that the night he did his so called comedy regardless of how you felt. If you dump him now it won't be a year before he is with someone else in reality TV. Your just a way for him to stay on TV. He said it in a round about way in his stand up act. HE SUCKS! You are better than that. Aren't you?

Good Lord Gretchen, I just watched tonights show and Slade is so ridiculous. He needs to grow up!! Hes acting like a Jr. High Kid getting back at another kid. ANd what makes it worse is that he knows you are trying to move on and put all the bad stuff behind you and yet there he goes pretty much about to sabotage your efforts to be friends with Tamara and the other girls. Thats just not cool at all Gretchen. I think its time you think twice about Slade. He is going to bring you down and you don't deserve that. So I say its time to move on as far as Slade is concerned. He needs to act like a man instead of a kid. Your a woman and need a real man. Good Luck Gretchen and God Bless You

Hello Gretchen, I have respect for you because of the fact you decided to start over and stop holding grudges. Doesn't it feel like a heavy load has been taken off your shoulders??!! Well just wanted to say Good For You but PLEASE tell Slade to stop his whining and be a man. Good Grief.

Gretchen you are great. I love your smile and happy attitude toward things. But I really thing you need to get rid of Slade. He is going to drag you through more drama with the other ladies again. You don't deserve to be treated disrespectfully the way he does. Keep smiling!!

Hi Tamra just want to say I love love love ya! Just to watch you emrace and tolerated your haters make me adore you more. Always be you! Your never fake and I love your spirit! I love watching the OC...it is my chance to hang out with ya. Love your style & charm xoxo

Love you! You are strong, smart, funny and sexy! No wonder Vicki & Tamra have been jealous of you from the beginning! Stay strong!!!

Hi you are my favorite on this show. your like a breath of fresh air, and unlike all of the mean spirited woman you are working with, you can tell your heart is nice. i know you get your feelings hurt many times, but i have never seen you be cruel like i've seen each of the other ones be. you are open and honest, and not a stupid person as so many people like to say. your a woman who knows what she wants and goes out and gets it herself, instead of waiting for some man to give it to her, or buy it for her. no wonder you and vicki dont mesh, she's probably resentful that you are a younger, prettier woman with the same agenda as she has. because vicki is a hard worker, but its her whole life, while her family wanders around aimlessly looking for attention. shes a bad mom, and a bad wife, i felt sorry for don, he was a nice guy, anyways, love to watch you on the show, your a breath of fresh air. have a great day.

you are a very smart woman and i hope you find someone that is up to par with your qualities...i think slade has been a great supporter (emotionally) but I know you can do better. move on already!

Gretchen, I think you are fabulous! You & Slade have such a fun relationship, so I'm really happy things are working out so well for the 2 of you. I'm really glad you & Tamra are getting along- you 2 have always been my favourites & I think it was really brave & admirable of you BOTH to forgive each other & move on to bigger & better things. I'm glad you & Heather were able to move past your initial impression of her, (I'm still not sure if I like her, but if you do, I'm sure I will!), but I definitely agree with you about Vicki. I don't really like her, though.. Can't wait to see this season unfold! :)

It's good that you're trying to make amendS with Tamara and move on. But please understand Slade's take on all of this. He was directly affected by all talk Tamara and Vicki were doing about him and hs child support. So it may take him longer to feel warm and fuzzy toward them, if ever.

YOU CAN DO IT!! How about I go to Kohls for you? :)Some vcioriaus shopping? You are doing great and I think the moments of second guessing are normal. Stand firm. Four months is a huge goal.

Life itiatmes art. No, more than that. Life itiatmes art imitating life. No, wait, the Blood books aren't real life (darn it). Life itiatmes art imitating art. Something like that.

gretchen it's great that u and tamera are freinds just remember to keep your friends close and your ememies closer smart move forgiveness is good but still use your head and watch your back

Gretchen... I get how Heather saying something like that might feel that way, though I do not know what she meant. What is clear though is that you think you are cute and you and Slade think any woman older than you is jealous and wants to be you. Gretchen, get over yourself and quit doing a disservice to women.

Also, what a contradiction about Vicki's dinner. You should not talk and publicly blast her. You were involved with another man while engaged. Period. You know it and most of us know, quit with the bull.

Gretchen,

You have ALWAYS been my favorite housewife... How I would love to be in your friend circle because we have so much in common... Anyway, My hubby and I always watch the show and he absolutely loves SLADE!! People should not judge until they walk in someone else's shoes... I wish you the most continued success and I can't wait to see what you do next... Love ya Gretchen... My Inspiration..

DON'T TRUST TAMRA! I know you are too smart for that. I think you are just playing the game to see what she is up to. :)

Good luck with everything. I wish you happiness and love!

Please get to know Heather. I think you two would really have fun, and I believe you both are really nice and have a great heart!

Maggie - I saw this story on fooabeck and I can't stop crying and rereading it. How blessed you all have been to have Ali in your lives. Praying for you all.

It is great to hear that you are doing so well, and that Slade is doing so well! I am glad you are one of the housewives because you are working hard to achieve your dreams and that is inspiring! In some ways it is interesting that you and Vicki are not better friends, you are both incredibly hard working, intelligent, and loyal people. Maybe one day you will be able to break bread together and see the best in each other. It is great to see you on the show each week.

hi Gretchen

I think you are a wonderful lady for what yoy are doing for breast cancer i have terminal breast cancer and i want to thank you for everything you are doing in live in the uk and i am going to try and buy one of your bags to help other people with cancer thanks again

sally

Gretchen

i think you are a great lady , dont trust Tamara she is a user and just likes to be in the lime light she thinks she is the prittest house wife well she is not you are just take care of you and forget everyone else .

Drop Slade because you can do bad all by ytourself.

Gretchen, I continue to love you and not have a bad word for you. I believe everyone on the show owes Slade an apology and a hug. Slade was not my fav on the show in the beginning. I could not STAND Jo!! Maybe that is why. I do like him very much now. I think he is hilarious! I hope things work out for you and Slade.
I believe, and have made the statement to the other HWs on their blogs, that Slade ex-wife used Tamara and the show. Why would ANYONE believe HER? Go figure. Slade was BROKE and did everything he could do to make up for not having cash to show his love for his children!! Also, Slade is amazingly courageous! He faced off on the last reunion show; right in the snake pit. He spoke for himself extremely well. Tamara could not take the sense he was making and left the set. I saw the light dawning on her face when Slade was talking, just before she walked off. Then called the EX. oh how weak She was definitely USED! I know her feelings have had to change after that and I hope she apologizes to Slade.

Good for you Gretchen ! It takes a tremendous amount of courage to forgive and let live. But please dont resist speaking your mind , your comments crack me up!

Hi Gretchen,
Heather is a fine actor and I have seen her in many, many roles.

Gretchen! Love you!!!

1. Look at Eddie...He's looking at you!

2. Trust only Vicki and Heather. The others ( especially Tamra) are so jealous!

I like you a lot and think you can be down to earth. I wanted to comment on your Blog about Vicki and her dinner party. It was rude for everyone to make comments. If you had thrown a dinner party and everyone made comments wouldn't you be offended? Simple fact is everyone should have just kept on talking and lightly nibbled but not said anything negative. Now your comment about her reaction was out of line as well. You have no idea what happens behind closed doors when it comes to a marriage. If she wants to have people over and talk about her boyfriend and serve cuisine from his area how is that disrespectful? Her and Don are separated.. So its not disrespectful. You need to work on not being negative or slinging negative comments. The Blog about Vicki's dinner party was out of line. You were wrong for opening your mouth about the food. So don't make excuses or sling mud because you then contradict yourself in the paragraphs you wrote before that. Also it didn't feel good when they were flinging mud a few seasons ago about you taking a vacation while Jeff was in the hospital. They didn't understand what was going on in your personal life and slung mud. Now you are doing the same thing.. Shame Gretchen your mother taught you better than that. Rise above it and be happy.

Gretchen,
You have been my fave since the moment you were on the show. You remind me of one of my dearest friends. One of the prettiest girls outside AND inside that I know. It's rare to get that combo. lol. I understand why you forgave Tamra and you are completely right for doing that. PS don't let everyone pressure you into children. It's up to you to decide if and when you want to do that. Not everyone has to have kids. I don't and I'm very satisfied with my life.
Take care and keep being you!

Gretchen,
So glad you've kept your sweetness and sunny attitude through being entangle with these women. I know you'll give Heather a chance and find the good in her - you know what it's like being thrown into the cougar's den! I love that you stick by Slade and don't let others influence you, I love that you are trying to forge a friendship with Tamra after how awful she's been to you, and I love how you are like the Energizer Bunny - you just keep going and going! Keep it up, pretty girl!

Hi Gretchen,
I think from this group of women, you, Vicki and Tamra....u r the only one who is not shallow and materialistic. what i noticed throught the shows is Tamra and Vicki always attacked u because u r a natural beauty and not a plastic surgery doctor made up person. I like also that u r very down to earth person with a nice personality. Tamra a very weak person with no personality who lets Vicki to told her what she needs to do, etc. Vicki of course the person who likes to be the leader of the pack and when somebody new comes have to do what ever she says....and if u dont do it....well ur days r count....Vicki thinks everything in life is about $$$ and materialistic things...i guess the tough lessons she learned is than her $$$ and pathetic bitchy attitude didnt get her a good marriage with her puppet Don and a healthy life to her daughter... I wish her daughter get well and beat all the cancer, etc....

Gretchen, I don't believe you for one minute in your makeup with Tamera. This is a way to get at Vicki and you are hurting two of the people who have supported you this whole time, Alexis and Slade, in the way you went about it. You knew they wouldn't believe you as to why, or you would have told them what you have told us in your blog. You have been the favorite of mine on the show up til now, but have really disappointed me in the way you have handled this. You will be sorry down the road as Tamera is a sick person and I'm concerned it will either rub off on you or will hurt you in the end. She is a user of people and when she can't use you anymore, she will dump you as she did Vicki, then she will attack. I'm speaking to you as I would speak to my daughter and I can only hope I am wrong as I wouldn't want to see that happen to you as you are still my favorite, but have made a big mistake in the way you have gone about this. You need to rethink the hurt you have inflicted on Slade in the way you handled this and make some amends to him immediately as Tamera has done so much to hurt and humiliate him. You will loose him in the end if you don't.

wow i could've used some cliff notes on your blog - it was so LONG! just had to skim through

- glad you were enlightened about forgiveness - being angry takes a lot more energy!
- really enjoying watching you and tamara - it's important to leave the drama behind and just have fun! thought your visit to the sex shop was great!

For Gretchen:
I wish sooo badly that I could talk to you. I am a Southern woman and also a Christian. I just want to tell you a little of my story and maybe it can help you in your decision of marrying Slade. I married straight out of high school at age 17. Later learned the hard way he was an abusive alcoholic. We had a beautiful baby girl and when she started school I decided we had to get out of that situation. I had been married for 10 years. He gave me a very hard, scary, afraid for my life time. Later, I met another man, and I watched him and I knew before I even went to the movies with him, that he was a great guy. My daughter not trusting men at all. Even now she is married with 3 children and I still think she has a trust problem. Anyway, I dated this man for 10 years before even moving in with him, and then after living together for another 10 years we got married. But we waited so long that I can't give him a baby and that is one thing I will always regret. Gretchen, I think you would both be wonderful parents. Don't let anybody rob you of your chance of being a Mother. It is the best time in both your lives. Listen to your heart and not to what other big mouth nosy people have to say.

Thanks,
janis12

You have been my favorite since you came on this show, and i enjoy seeing you and Tamra get along. You both have such a quick and witty personality some much more enjoyable watching you get along then fighting.