Heather Dubrow

Heather reflects on the Costa Rica trip and Tamra's engagement, and teases her name-changing party.

on Jun 14, 20120

Sorry I haven't blogged in a while. It's been pretty crazy around here! We were traveling (business), filmed the reunion (yikes!), and Terry and I celebrated our anniversary (AMAZING get away with @drdubrow)!

The best news is -- the kids are finally done with school today! Yeah! I love summer! We are taking the family on a much needed vacation next week -- can't wait!

So, about the last few episodes. . .

It's hard for me to discuss Costa Rica because we have just filmed the reunion and I think everyone should watch that and then I will explain my thoughts and actions better. Here is a little teaser. . .

We all actually had a lot of fun despite the tension. I haven't been on a girls' trip since before I was married -- and I rarely leave my children -- so this was a big deal for me to go on this adventure.

I spent a lot of time with Gretchen. We had massages and drinks. I really enjoyed hanging out with her.

95 comments
PomMom@
PomMom@

Wasn't sure if I would, but I do like you. You are just what this show needed, it's fun to watch you and your hubbie interact. I would have gone nuts over the bow too.

ClearSkys
ClearSkys

 After seeing your immature, mean girl behavior towards Sarah in front of all your guests, I kinda wish she would have eaten all the bows off  your silly cake.

wendyd.
wendyd.

Heather- When you watch this last episode and see your facial expressions you are going to be embarrassed. Alexis isn't the only one who needs an acting coach.

Bchhippie
Bchhippie

To AVA1

My heart goes out to you and you very brave daughter.....Hope your post wakes them up and the next time they eat cake they will remember the truly important things in life are family, health and faith.

Rebecca_in_Austin
Rebecca_in_Austin

You are so classy and elegant.  I really love you on the show this season!  You did NOT overreact about the cake incident!  I wouldn't have handled it as well as you did.  I would have thrown her out of the party immediately after she did it.  While I was a bit saddened about the incident in Costa Rica, Alexis wanted to talk about the whole phony thing to begin with and had brought it up herself.  It was not the best situation, but you really had some good points.  It's not like she always has nice things to say about you.  I love how you handle situations without swearing and throwing things, and I love how you and Terry interact.  You have been a great addition to the show and hope you will be back next season!

ava1
ava1

Stop it!  I can't take it anymore!!  You girls need to seriously step out of Beverly Hills...WITHOUT EACH OTHER!!!!  In the past 2 years I've watched my 7 year old daughter suffer through cancer treatment!!  I've been to hell and back a hundred times...I really can't get over the way you are ALL behaving!!  I use to enjoy watching...but now I'm feeling embarrassed.  You CRUCIFIED someone over a cake bow!!!!!!!  REALLY!!  Do you hear that!!  YOU GOT MAD AT SOMEONE OVER A CAKE BOW!!!!!!!!!!  What does it symbolize?  Really?  Your marriage??  I thought it was stronger than that!!  Being gorgeous, happy, healthy, happily married, hot husband, beautiful healthy kids, incredibly gorgeous homes, a career, a view that I only see in dreams...LADY ARE YOU FRICKIN' KIDDING ME!!!!!!!!! You know that Sarah was drunk!  Clearly there are some issues there!!  But the manner in which you all ganged up on her!!  It was AWFUL!!  Yes, I agree it was CLASSLESS to defile your cake!!  I personally, would have laughed!!   If I were in your shoes, MY response would have been , "I have more important things to worry about"!!!  Enjoy your summer!!  My favorite time too...I'll be taking my daughter to chemo next Tuesday (just days before her 8th birthday)....I just hope she feels well  enough to be at her birthday party.  When I asked her what kind of cake she wanted, she said she didn't care!  She was just happy to be having a party!!   

ms.Patti
ms.Patti

Absolutely love your home and your style for the most part.  Do you think that planning Alexis's intervention during a vacation in paradise was appropriate?  Esp. considering it was only a 2 day trip for Alexis.   

Angela21
Angela21

Nope, wrong, it was NOT your place to have that kind of conversation with Alexis -- you barely know her!  Stop making excuses for your bad behavior.  And I love how you're all up in it but sit back and allow that nimrod Tamra to do most of the dirty work.  You brag every bit as much as Alexis, you just say it in hushed tones whereas Alexis and the rest tend to scream it. 

 

You need a vacation?  From what?  Your vacation to Costa Rica?  Planning a party?  Shopping? 

 

And why are you throwing a bridal shower for Tamra?  It seems as if none of you would have any other friends had this show not been created.  That's pretty pitiful and speaks volumes. 

dovey1000
dovey1000

I do not know you of course. However, your representation on this show is one of pettiness and pretention. Please get over yourself before you defend yourself. No excuses, just accountability.

KassieB
KassieB

You are too pretentious for me to enjoy watching you.

NatalieK
NatalieK

I think you handled the Sarah situation very well. It wasn't just that she broke a piece off your special cake, it was the fact she was very drunk/high, uninvited and wanted to create drama around herself again.  Good for you, for handling her with class and getting her friends to 'see her out' . You seem like a great hostess. 

Rhonu
Rhonu

I don't think that you all were bullying Alexis and I agree that your tone was conversatonal. It is also hard for me to be around someone who is always bragging about what they have. But I'm sure Alexis is crying at the reunion.

 

I have to give Bravo a shout out about the new format to post comments; this way i can see right away if my comments will be posted without having to hit post button several time to be sure.

Jeaninemc67
Jeaninemc67

Heather,

 

I like you.  You added a much-needed shot in the arm to the show.  I hope you return next season.  

You had every right to be upset about the cake.  A cake like that is a centerpiece.  For someone to come along and dig their fingers in is not only rude, it's UNSANITARY!  Ya know, I'm not rich, elegant, or sophisticated, but even I know you don't do something like that.   When you are a guest in someone's home, whether it be a mansion or a trailer, you treat your host/hostess AND their home with RESPECT.   PERIOD!

I don't buy the ''sugar problem'' defense either.  A person with hypoglycemic tendencies generally has the presence of mind to carry something with them for such emergencies, and even in the absence of that, I'm quite sure that if she had approached you or one of the servers there, and explained the situation, you or one of the servers would have been more than happy to provide her with something sweet to munch on to tide her over until the cake had been cut and served.  NO, Sarah does not have a sugar problem.  She has a manners problem that is exacerbated by the consumption of too much alcohol.  Haven't seen part 2 yet, but I think that you would have been well within your right to ask Sarah to leave.

I really like you and Terry, and I think your children are adorable.  And your house is fabulous.  What a view!!

Have a wonderful summer, and again, I hope to see you next season on the show.

judyann325
judyann325

heather, i know you meant well, and tamra tricked you into doing this for alexis's "own good."  she knew all along that she was going to make it a free-for-all and bully and attack her relentlessly!  i wish you had stepped in when it got out of hand, and apologized to her for your part in it.  it is my opinion that the whole idea was ill-conceived to begin with...it is not appropriate to demonize someone on vacation, or any time for that matter!  perhaps if it was such a problem, gretchen should have been the one to have a heart-to-heart with her and told her what the perception was.  that is the most that should have been done!  you are quite pretentious in my opinion.  you did go on the camping trip with the girls so this was the second time you went away with them that i've seen.  you made the poor guy at the market feel so bad when you said you had never heard of any of the wines before, and were actually spending time looking for red wine glasses!  who cares what glasses you use on a camping trip!  you were so "offended" when the poor baker wanted to make a fun cake for your party.  everything is all about appearances with you...i would never have a big party to celebrate changing your name.  why didn't you just quietly celebrate it with your husband and tell the girls your good news?  you're very self-impressed and it's not becoming.  i don't know why you associate with these women anyway when you obviously think you're so much smarter and more sophisticated.  you don't belong in orange county and neither did i, because it's so superficial and flashy.  go back to new york to your nice friends where you do have some common ground.

cleah
cleah

I must admit I am so happy she has joined the cast because I love to see her beautiful home so much! Finally someone with real wealth! Most wealthy would never go on a reality show. It would be tacky and  in bad taste. that is why we get all these people struggling and juggling to be rich. But there is a  big difference between rich and wealth! Youcan easily lose riches but wealth is there to stay!

T1111
T1111

When in a tricky situation, as a hostess, I always ask myself,"What would Lisa (Vanderpump) do?".

ava1955
ava1955

Hey Heather,

 

As a viewer of the OC since day one, I do admit I was abit unsure of you when I watched the

promos but you won me over! You and your wonderful husband are so down to earth! Your

home is just beautiful! I have vacationed in the OC and have stayed in Laguna Niguel and I

just love it there. Unfortunately, I'm divorced now and the kids and I haven't been to the

OC since 2008 but I love watching the show and kind of reliving those wonderful vacations!

All the best. PS, my daughter has had the acting bug since she was cast in Annie in the 4th

grade. She is now a theatre major in college!

Dreamer68
Dreamer68

To The New Mrs. Debrow, I absoutly ADORE you! You have such SPETACULAR social graces! You bring out the VERY BEST in the other cast members. I have a confession to make, I was never really hooked on RHOC until you came along. I LOVE Tamera and Gretchen. But Vicki and Alexis are a hard pill to swollow! Broing drama, and their drama is boring! Brooks is DISGUSTING...uurrgghh! You Heather have set the bar for the show now. I love your friendship with Tamera and I hope you'll be around a whole lot more!!!

AirMax98
AirMax98

Heather seems pretty cool man. I know that I would have been much more upset at 'ol girl for breaking that piece off of her cake and eating it. I'm just your typical laid-back guy, but when I was watching that with my wife (and, from time to tie, I actually pay more attention that I pretend I am ;) my jaw dropped. Some people need to re-enroll in elementary aged house training.

JV282
JV282

i think Sarah was inserted to RHOC for pure drama purposes.  Heather, I think you're a good addition to the show and have the class that Luann from RHNY wishes she has!

champagne5511
champagne5511

I don't blame you for the intervention, I blame Alexis...she brought it up then. She didn't want to go talk one on one..So what if she is fake....Who does it hurt but her...You tend to be pretentious...I love your husband!!!! He is so real and so nice..

HANNAH G.
HANNAH G.

YOU SEEM TO BE A GOOD ADDITION TO THE SHOW AND YOUR HUBBY IS A NICE AND FUNNY PERSON. NOTHING NEGATIVE TO YOU. YOU TAKE CARE OF YOUR KIDS AND YOUR FAMILY SEEMS TO MEAN MORE TO YOU THAN FAME. JUST TRY YOU BEST TO STAY OUT OF THE CAT FIGHTS AND STAY THE WAY YOU ARE. GOD BLESS YOU WITH THAT GROUP OF LADIES YOU ARE GONNA NEED ALL THE HELP YOU CAN GET.

OC Deb
OC Deb

I think you've been a wonderful addition to the show. Your friendship with Tamara is great to watch. Ya'll are a perfect ying/yang relationship. You both can learn a lot from each other. Your intentions were good for the intervention but no matter how it had been done Alexis would have taken it poorly. At this point she just can't admit that she isn't perfect.

newportgirl
newportgirl

i love you on the show and as a girl who lives in newport coast, i do think you are a much better representation of newport beach and orange county then the rest of the girls on the show. however, i think that the part you played in the "intervention" in costa rica was horrible. you should have taken her aside and spoken to her individually and there was no reason for you and tamra to plan an "intervention" because neither of you are very close with alexis and interventions are usually planned by close friends and family. ive also noticed that you tend to take cheap shots at alexis during your interviews. perhaps tone that down a bit. just dont let tamra bring you down (shes clearly white trash with no class and a very hateful person). otherwise i think you are wonderful and i love watching you with your family.

Texas girl
Texas girl

Heather, What did you really expect to happen by you instigating this "intervention" You my dear as well as everyone on this show are very materialistic. I mean really, if these women had done this to you just imagine how you would have reacted. This is the most revolting behaviour and so unbecoming. What kind of an example are you showing to your children when they see how mommy behaves. As I have blogged to Tamra but Bravo did not post, YOUR CHILDREN ARE WATCHING YOU AND THEY WILL THINK IT IS OK TO BEHAVE LIKE YOU!!. I can see past this saint act you got going here. You owe Alexis a very deep and sincere apology. Shame on you.

amorenomore
amorenomore

Heather, sweetie, if you don't like the way someone is portraying themselves then don't be friends with them. You have no right to tell someone what they need to change about themselves in order for you to be friends with them. The context you sent to Alexis sounded a lot like you. Maybe you left out the part..."you can't be this way, but I can"! You only went to Alexis the next day b/c you KNEW what you & the bullies did to her was wrong! You actually seem the most fake & phony person on the show. Along with your husband...

madmoma
madmoma

Iam very glad you are on the show, it is good to see a person with both money & class. However, didn't care for the way you handled Alexis or your cake both of these should have been handled one on one not in a group setting. Enjoy your summer. Looking forward to seeing you next season.

Viewerpatty
Viewerpatty

Heather, I really have liked you being on the show this season but when I read Tamra's twitter and see you laughing about comments she made about Vicki, it makes me think there is a whole other side to you. You act nice to Vicki but to laugh about a Miss Piggy comment on twitter is immature. Please don't become mean like Tamra did. You are better than that.

indie305
indie305

Tamra will bring you down and bring out more negativity in your life than you can imagine. Take a look at past seasons and see just how nasty she is. And now she turns on Vicki. And soon she will turn on you. It is how she gets attention.

RHWCHDC
RHWCHDC

Maybe Heather, Gretchen and Tamra could do a remake of Mean Girls. Afterall this seems like the only way to try to jump start Heather's acting career.

kitty cat
kitty cat

I do like you personally, but cannot condone what you did to Alexis in CR. There is no call to do that- I don't care how she is acting. You should have taken her aside privately (meaning just you 2) and had a discussion is you needed to clear the air about what Terry said. After all, he did make a comment about her, and that was not nice.

I do believe still, however, that you are overlooking something that is very confusing- why do Tamara and Gretchen get a pass on this one? It's because of Gretchen that Tamara even knew about the comment and then Tamara had to audacity to repeat it (inaccurately, in a far more mean version) to Alexis. Tamara had NO business quoting Terry- he never said what she passed on and didn't say it to her anyhow. Aren't you all being "two people"? As in 2-faced.

I hope you return next season, but please don't become one of the mean girls on this show or I will have to stop watching you. I wouldn't want that to be the case- I like you so much otherwise. This would be a deal breaker for me though.

Happy Anniversary and the best to you and your family. xx

Ren4Bravo
Ren4Bravo

I second everyone else's comments regarding the class and style in which you bring to a show, that frankly was getting boring and the same old thing every season. They need to get rid of Tamara & Vicki. Their 15 minutes of fame is waaaay over. I would like for Bravo to bring in some of your gal pals.

Take everyone's comments about Tamara to heart. She will, step on, run over, or stab in the back that get's in her way. Her language, her personality, and intelligence are so beneath your style. Vicki has just become stale and boring. She is not filling anyone's, Love tank, with entertainment or fun.

I think Alexis is just wanting to fit in and be accepted by you and Gretchen. Unless she is totaling different off camera, she seems harmless to me.

Again, so glad some delightful change has come to RHOC, by way of you and your family. Enjoy your summer vacation. Make sure you blog this summer, so I can continue to live your life style, to which, I have become accustom to. Well, in my dreams at least. ;-)

Brandi Star
Brandi Star

Heather, you were one of my favs on this Show in the beginning of the season. But the last couple of episodes you have turned into that person Id hope you wouldnt have. Which is a mini-Tamra. Misery loves company, and soon enough you will be brought down. I thought you had more class than all, but you proved me wrong. Just because you are knowledgeable and speak well, doesn't make you the best person.

You werent even upset that Tamra called Terry out to Alexis. It's childish, and you would have been on Tamra more. You are all so gossipy! Why do you need to bring others down?

Ren4Bravo
Ren4Bravo

If I may, I second what everyone else has written about you. Your intelligence far out weighs the four blondes put together.

The advice everyone has given you on Tamara, take notice! I don't know if you ever watched the show before you became a cast member, if not, it should be a requirement for new cast members, that they do. Before aligning yourself with Tamara take a peek at her, in action. Tamara, is rude, crude, and will walk on, or stab anyone in the back that gets in her way. You are way to elegant and classy to be associated with her.

I'm thrilled you're on the show, I wish they would get rid of Tamara & Vicki and bring in some of your gal pals. Tamara & Vicki's 15 minutes of fame must come to an end, their boring.

Hope you and your family have a great summer vacation. Make sure you blog this summer. I need to be kept, in the life style, to which I have become accustom to, living through yours. ;-)

ViewerDaisybu
ViewerDaisybu

You my dear are a breath of fresh air. Keep it real love your hubby and your beautiful family.

mom in ks
mom in ks

Heather, I think you are a nice addition to the show. It's fun to watch how you are so condescending to your acquaintences and stage interventions to let THEM know how materialistic and pretentious THEY are. I am amazed at how you and your husband (who is DYING to be on the show!) talk and gossip about the other women. You truly have married your best (girl)friend.

NewGirl
NewGirl

I think you've brought a lot class to the show this season, most of the time. I think the misstep was in Costa Rica. The conversation felt mean-spirited. Maybe the reunion will clear things up, but that episode was hard to watch. Women should support other women and I don't think that conversation could qualify as support.

Sam64
Sam64

I love that you say "oh dear.". it is appropriate for so many situations those ladies put you in. LOL.

stephinPA
stephinPA

Love you, Heather!! OMG...I can't wait to see the finale! I laughed sooo hard at the clip of you telling the ladies, "That girl Sarah broke the bow off my cake and ate it". You are great!

ViewerTiki
ViewerTiki

LOVE YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND , CLASS !! IT`S REFRESHING TO SEE TRUE LOVE !!

Syl Gold
Syl Gold

"Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? The only proper response to that gang bang was an apology. What happened in Costa Rica was clear. The nips and jabs at Alexis led the group into mob behaviour with Tamra taking the ugly lead. It felt a little like Lord of the Flies. You say Alexis is like 2 people. Only 2? Most of us are like a committee of 12. You obviously have many resources/security that others don't and setting yourself up as a judge is unbecoming. I expect more from you because you are one of the "chosen". I don't mean that in a sarcastic way but in the way it was meant--namely to be responsible and to point the way.

edward r murrow
edward r murrow

either you want to be kind to a person, or you don't. IT IS THAT SIMPLE.

Oh-Em-Gee
Oh-Em-Gee

 @ClearSkys " I kinda wish she would have eaten all the bows off  your silly cake." That right there shows what kind of morals you have. 

BND32
BND32

 @ava1 I am so incredibly sorry to hear about your daughter.  My prayers are with you and your family.  Your trials and challenges certainly do elevate above the petty, obnoxious, shallow lives we watch on majority of reality tv.  Thank you for bringing "reality" back to earth.  May God be with all of you.

dovey1000
dovey1000

@ava1 All good thoughts and best wishes for your daughter.

Babs12345
Babs12345

that pretty much puts it in perspective,now doesn't it !!  God bless you and your daughter - my daughter was diagnosed at age 10 and was in chemo for 5 years - she is now 29 ! So I can certainly identify with what you mean.

dovey1000
dovey1000

@Alycat9705 You make an excellent point about her selective behavior filter.

dovey1000
dovey1000

@judyann325 I agree. She comes across as very pretentious, but is very offended if anyone else does. In most circles that is called having a double standard; Heather seems to have many of these.

TupeloHunyntheLou
TupeloHunyntheLou

 @Dreamer68  Yes,  we saw just how socially graceful she was.  We saw her not only gasp at the idea of Sarah eating the bow off the cake but gather a whole entourage to approach her on the subject, making a scene out of it.   A graceful hostess would have thanked  the woman who brought to her attention and then taken Sarah aside and expressed her feelings....it was a flipping bow.....for a stupid over the top pretentious party for something she should have done when she first married her husband...or at least when she had her first child.    Heather is more phony than she claims Alexis to be. .