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A Better Place

Heather reflects on the Costa Rica trip and Tamra's engagement, and teases her name-changing party.

Sorry I haven't blogged in a while. It's been pretty crazy around here! We were traveling (business), filmed the reunion (yikes!), and Terry and I celebrated our anniversary (AMAZING get away with @drdubrow)!

The best news is -- the kids are finally done with school today! Yeah! I love summer! We are taking the family on a much needed vacation next week -- can't wait!

So, about the last few episodes. . .

It's hard for me to discuss Costa Rica because we have just filmed the reunion and I think everyone should watch that and then I will explain my thoughts and actions better. Here is a little teaser. . .

We all actually had a lot of fun despite the tension. I haven't been on a girls' trip since before I was married -- and I rarely leave my children -- so this was a big deal for me to go on this adventure.

I spent a lot of time with Gretchen. We had massages and drinks. I really enjoyed hanging out with her.

Vicki was a bit mercurial. Very emotional. But honestly, with everything she had been dealing with -- who could blame her? I really like Vicki, and after the harrowing rafting experience we are bonded for life!

Tamra is always fun. She is such a daredevil! I wish I had more of that in me! I was proud of myself for taking the risks that I did -- but watching Tamra go upside down on that zip line, jeez! She is a STUD!

Then there is Alexis. We'll cover a lot of this at the reunion, so again I'll be brief here. My general thought is she acts like two different people. I can't sit back and watch someone treat other people poorly. However, there is never a reason to gang up on someone. It wasn't my intention. The message of our dinner conversation was appropriate, and I believe my delivery was in a conversational fashion. The discussion got out of hand. I have apologized to Alexis for that. I am very against bullying of any kind. That doesn't negate the content of what was said. . .

Of course, you will hear more of this at the reunion.

On a brighter note Alexis, Tamra and I had drinks together in Costa Rica, and had a great time. THAT is the Alexis that I want to know. I explained all that in her room the day after the "intervention" dinner (which you saw). I went to her room the next day to make sure she was OK.

Anyway, I feel at the end of the trip that everyone is in a better place.

I'm so grateful for the experience . The hotel (Si Como No) was lovely, as was the food! Yes, Claro Que Seafood. . .still chuckling about that one even if the girls didn't get it.

Moving on to this weeks episode. . .

Tamra and Eddie get engaged! So exciting! What an amazing trip! Tamra called me from Bora Bora, and I was THRILLED for them. Terry and I are fond of Tamra and Eddie. They are great together and we wish them all the luck and love in the world! I get dibs on throwing the bridal shower!

THE CAKE!!! I am so excited for my name changing party! I know this may seem silly, but I'm someone who celebrates life. I love holidays and parties and spending time with my family and friends. This is the PERFECT occasion! So I wanted a fabulous cake to symbolize my new last name.

Timore always has the best ideas,, and Cinderella Cakes make the most beautiful and delicious cakes (BTW, I paid for the cake. This isn't an ad for them; it's just the truth!) I loved the idea of edible diamonds! I was SO excited when I left the shop.

Who knew an innocent trip to the fabulous Cinderella Cakes would start something so big! Wait until you see what happens to the cake! The final two episodes take place in our home. It's going to get crazy -- and some of it is shocking ! Stay tuned!

Finally, I want to say a big HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all the dads, uncles, and grandpas out there -- especially to my amazing husband Terry. I love you Honyi! Thank you for being a wonderful father to our four amazing children!

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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