Please forgive me if I am a little brief this week, my little baby Collette has been so sick! I have a little time while she is napping right now. . .
First of all, I wanted to say "thank you" to Alexis for her apology. That was very sweet, and I appreciated the sentiment. I realize I am very straightforward, and that can be off putting to some people. I think by the end of lunch we had a better understanding of each other. Time will tell. . .
I think Tamra and Eddie are so cute together! I am proud of Tamra for putting her children first. As I have said before -- you can't play house when you have kids. You need a firm commitment!
Gretchen and Slade's show. . . there were a lot of inside jokes that Terry and I didn't understand. We'd never seen The Real Housewives of Orange County before joining, so many of the references of past 'Wives on the show went over our heads!
I think you would start to grow on me if you didn't brag about every little thing. It also seems that if someone has done something (anything) you've done it and somehow get some weird advice in on how you did it better. I notice you do it a lot in the show.Sometimes we don't see how we really are until someone shows us our faults. Other than that I think your a good fit for the show. :)
I was willing to give you a chance because some of these drama queens need to be put in their places from time to time. I was hoping you'd bring a bethenney frankel vibe to the OC, but you really fell short. You need to lighten up. You are super pretentious and snobby. My husband of 12 years and I are both educated and we are a self made successful couple raising four children quite comfortably on Long Island. The list of our credits and accomplishments is long. I'm unsure if it's all about the editing, but you wear your successes on your sleeve and it's incredibly irritating. Talk of sex/ sex toys makes you squirm? Really? Learn to laugh. Your husband will appreciate it.
Love this season. You actually make the show much more interesting. I like that you are being yourself and not trying to fit in to a group of blondes who honestly I have a hard time telling apart (they act and look like one another). Anyway, looking forward to seeing more episodes. You have a beautiful family and not that this matters but you are the prettiest lady on the show. Thanks for representing us Jewish brunettes in a sea of blondes. :)
You look so much like Stacey that once appeared on Millionare Matchmaker. Are you sure it wasn't you? She also had four kids and was a singer and and actress or so you both say. And both have the deep voice. Do you have a seperate side of your life that you aren't telling people about??? On the housewives you should probably stop being your snooty self. You are with a bunch of classless women so there is not need for you to one up the other housewives.
Heather, If I were you I wouldn't pay any mind to the negative comments on here. It's unbelievable to me that HW fans have complained incessantly, for YEARS, about all the women on all the shows and how they are famous for nothing, have done nothing and we need more interesting people on the shows. Now here you are, more interesting and not a cookie-cutter image of all the others, and you're receiving negative backlash for it. I suspect MOST of the negative comments are from your fellow castmates' camps. I also don't think people quite understand that being a paid, successful actress doesn't always mean that you're a household name. I have a family member who's had GREAT success on Broadway and in music, yet if I told you her name, you wouldn't know her. Doesn't mean she isn't successful....she has the funds and the resume to prove it. Also, people feel you interrogated Alexis about her being a "news anchor"--LMAO--well wouldn't anybody? I mean how confused you must've been, when she said she was an anchor and she clearly isnt'. I would've done the same in order to understand what she was saying. A word of advice: Alexis NEVER makes any sense. There's no point in trying to figure out her pointless chatter. LOVE THE BRUNETTE!
Finally bravo adds some class to one of the housewives instead of adding trashiness. Its entertaining to see Alexis so jelous of you. She has been the orange county snob for so long and next to you she doesnt have any reason to brag about being super mom anymore. Very commical.
Something tells me that the "mirror aspect" of reality tv is going to be good for you. Perhaps hard but good in the end. I agree with many of the other comments that you come off as superficial and like a bully. Why would you prey on the weakest person? Seems odd.
Also, you really need to stop bragging about your long ago past. You were an actress like 10 years ago? And you mentioned that you did stand up comedy? And singing? Honey, you are a stay at home Mom to 4 kids. You are just like former OC housewife Jeana who was an actress and a playboy model except she doesn't go around living in the past and bragging about it. Who cares what you did 10 years ago? It's obvious that your lifestyle comes from your husband.
That is so funny people say Alexis is jealous or a want to be Heather. I think they are opposites. Alexis is fun and bubbly and Heather is serious and exact. HOW IN THE HECK CAN WE SAY ONE IS SMARTER THAN THE OTHER BASED ON 15 minutes of fame every week. What ever ...it shows how stupid people are. I think they are both beautiful and both insecure. But probably in the end will be good friends...lets just watch.
I mostly agree with the blogger Carol on this one. I too do not think Alexis is jealous of Heather. Nope, don't get that catty-ish vibe from her at all-never did. Alexis has all that Heather has although, and I hate saying this but it's true, Alexis is soooooo dumb. I root for her because I think she's a sweet girl and is who she is without being too aware of herself (which is what I love about her) but man, is she dense! Heather, I want to like you. Just take a cue from me as a watcher and try to stop being so aware of yourself and aware of the camera. We Americans are smart and catch that very, VERRRY easily. That is my only complaint if any. Other than that, you're lovely and classy. Wish you well on your new show! :)
Heather , I am reserving judgement on you for alittle while longer but so far I am liking u but please lay off Alexis as u are so far out of her league that u tend to swallow her up so be nice! Bravo...when did this become the SLEEZY SLADE SHOW? Please remove all the wanna-be HouseHusbands from the show or I am afraid I have to let go of this Housewife show too.I stopped watching the Housewives of NJ because of all the stupied crap coming from Melissa & her dumb Husband and Kathy & her sleezy hubby, now the OC is showcasing ...Sleezy Slade way to much...please get him off as he is just way to SLIMY FOR ME.
Heather, Hmm...maybe I am missing something here, but I DON'T think you come off as a snob. I think you're damned if you speak up and damned if you don't on these shows! If you speak your mind or talk about your lives, you're termed, "pretentious." If you're quiet and laid back, like Camille was this season, you've "changed for the camera's..." You have a lovely (beyond lovely) lifestyle. Are you not supposed to share that with the viewers? As far as past accomplishments, why should you not be able to give us your history? I find you refreshing to a cast that was getting stale/boring.
As far as Alexis goes, in my opinion, that woman is so jealous of you that she can't see the forest from the trees. There's also the whole issue related to intelligence, which Alexis falls short on EVERY TIME she opens her mouth. And yes, I do think we as viewers can determine her level of intelligence from what we have seen. She comes off as inarticulate, uninformed and unintelligent. That may not be kind, but it's what I see anyway. There are too many topics she doesn't understand.... She's always shaking her head in this ridiculous manner (no worse than Vicki) when she doesn't get something that's said. If the conversation is related to beauty, her children, her life, her "job" she's comfortable. She's no match for you intellectually and that's where her drama with you will be this season. Her body language and eye rolling (along with some of her questions related to your past endeavors) have already shown that much. She does NOT like secure, beautiful and intelligent women.
Loving your addition to the show and the way you ask questions to understand people. Someone throws out a half-truth and you ask a question . . . you don't jump on the 'anchor' wagon. Good for you.
BTW, I LOVE your husband's sense of humor. I still chuckle about the comment that he found his yamika next to the Kowakasi. Hysterical! My kind of humor and I can see how after you hear the same pun a hundred times it's worthy of the eye roll.
OMG! I've watched Alexis (shudder) do her double speak, never making sense or taking a stand and I will be thrilled to see you hold her Jesus Barbie feet to the fire. So glad that you're on the show! In one way we are alike...I can't stand stupidity!!!
Heather, I love you on the show! You add such a balanced sense of normalcy to this group...must be the East Coast in you!
For someone that is so prim, proper and above it all, you coulnd't wait to tell Tamra about Slade's.....bit. I certainly wouldn't want to be the one to tell someone something that is sure to hurt them. You weren't approaching her as a friend to tell her there is something she should know, you presented it as GOSSIP. Even Miss Manners would say that is a no-no. So get your nose out of the air.
Heather first hope your baby is feeling better....... truly. I loved how you told Tamara about the comedy act, I didn't see it as gossip at all. I loved your advise, kill em with kindness to stop the madness! Good advice. If it was presented any other way i would say Gossipy but you did it with great advice and out of friendship. For someone to say you were starting something is just wrong. If someone did that to a friend of mine out of friendship I would of done the same thing. There is a Girl Rule and not telling your girlfriends about this kinda stuff would of been wrong. I still like you on this show!
Heather- You almost had in your blog being kind to Alexis when she apologized for her behavior. But, the "time will tell" comment just confirms that you are the insecure one this season. Picking on Alexis and asking her high-brow questions that you know she probably doesn't have the answer to (no offense Alexis) is just petty and mean. You're no Rhodes Scholar honey and being an "actress" that no one can identify with doesn't quite give you the Mensa membership card of the bunch. Considering how loyal Alexis is- You might not want to alienate her so fast.
Heather, one person has already read my mind. You are on the wrong housewives show. You are a shoe in for the RHOBH. That being said, you now will unfortunately have to begin the painful process of "dumbing down" to be able to survive these women. Alexis is borderline illiterate and dumb as a rock. She is terrified of her own shadow and it is so obvious how intimidated she is of you. She would become a buddist if she could walk in your shoes for one day. You are everything she would kill to be. The problem is she is so under educated and clearly has no experience in a cultured society as she acts like a two year old. Please try to jump ship over to the RHOBH so you can keep your brain cells alive. You are truley a class act, wonderful wife and mother that is comfortable in any social gathering.
Did anyone else notice that Sarah didn't answer Heather's hello at the comedy show? I know Sarah is a bit strange but that seemed intentional.. hmmmm.
I too agree, you should have been on BHs. You gave Tamara some good advice. I like that you don't talk behind anyone's back. You tell them exactly what you said, and how you truly feel. These women are not use to that. They are a bunch of backstabbers.
I know you were just trying to be tactful and smooth things over, but I would hardly call Slade's diatribe comedy.There was nothing funny about it. It was a completely humorless rant. The guy's a loser. The mullett he wore at the party actually suits him. ( I'll bet he had one in the 80's) You, on the other hand, looked beautiful and really nailed the Palmer girl look. Can you believe they didn't even know who Robert Palmer was? I hope you can survive this. I'm afraid you're a bit sophisticated for these girls.(understatement) How you will keep yourself from being bored? The only things they talk about are their looks, their petty fights, Jesus ( Alexis) and sex (in a coarse and classless way). I'm glad you're on the show, but I doubt if you'll ever really feel comfortable with them- you're just on a different level.
Heather clearly has a superiority complex and is an unkind person. She cannot reconcile her disdain for those she deems disdainful and/or unintelligent with her ridiculous need to appear sympathetic. Pathetic excuse for a human being if you ask me... Or maybe she's just putting on for the cameras, she is an "actress" after all.