Heather Dubrow

Heather shares her feelings on Sarah and her name-changing party.

on Jun 22, 20120

I am happy to say I am soaking in the sun in beautiful Cabo San Lucas with my family! I'm so glad that school is over and we are enjoying this amazing kick off to the summer! We are swimming, playing charades, running on the beach, drinking virgin piña coladas (kids), fabulous champs (me!), savoring the third Hunger Games book (obsessed), and well, yes, Tweeting. I have to admit, I'm not that technologically adept. I went from the rotary dial to the iPhone. For some reason though, I love Twitter. It's like mass texting. So fun and immediate. Thank you for all of the amazing feedback! I love all of your comments -- keep them coming!

Well, this episode required a little "digestion". . .I'm now ready to discuss.

I was so excited to finally see Tamra and give her a proper congratulations on her engagement! Tammy Sue is getting married! I couldn't be more thrilled. The pictures of Bora Bora were spectacular! I would love to go there someday! (Hint, hint Terry!!!) I know that Gretchen was really excited for Tamra, too. We were all sad that Vicki was not there to join the celebration. Tamra and Vicki have been friends for so long, Tamra's relationship with Gretchen shouldn't preclude them from continuing their friendship.

Dinner with Alexis and Sarah: For the record, no one is mistaking kindness for being phony. That's ridiculous. Contrary to Sarah's opinion (for whatever that is worth) I'm not jealous of Alexis.

Although I do get Botox, my face is not frozen. I happen to like my children to know when I am angry.

304 comments
Prsamuel1234
Prsamuel1234

I completely am on Heathers side on this one. First of all Sarah wasn't invited and then to come into Heather and Terry's house for such a special occasion and to eat the bow of the cake was absolutely rude and disrespectful so clearly while it looked like Heather was making a big deal about the bow obviously it was the significance of the event and I would have thrown her out because of her crazy attitude. Sarah doesn't know how to act like a classy person and Heather you were so gracious enough to tolerate her.

BreG
BreG

So Im catching up on my Orange County and watching the Reunion part 2 and Andy says you made a big deal about the bow....NO you didn't, that was so Rude of Sarah and good for you for throwing her out of your party, I would have done it right away. It was your cake and you're the host and YOU decide when people can have a piece. Don't apologize for being right in your stance....My favorite part is when you tell everyone what Sarah did I loved Terry's reaction....priceless!

sandra01
sandra01

i would have smacked the bitch had she done that to a cake at any event i had however i would have done it away from the cameras lol lol x

jerianne
jerianne

What Sara did at each event filmed was intentional. She likes to push it to the limit and puts on a fake 'naive" act. My special needs students in the mountains of New Mexico have better manners and problem solving skills! By the way, what kind of manners is it to bring uninvited guests without checking with the host first?

deecamp1
deecamp1

Wow...are you bragging? I think yes! Is that what you accused Alexis of doing! Mean girls...get a life

betsy4444
betsy4444

Heather,

Are you so blind or is this your new "acting career"? Tamra and Gretchen's relationship did not preclude Tamra and Vicki's friendship, Tamra did. Your friendship with Tamra makes you, not so appealing. You condone Tamra's rude and mean behavoir while she's beating up on Vicki and Alexis. If you didn't condone it (that's what you would say in defense), you certainly haven't corrected her or stood up for one victim.

 Bragging about your vacation in Cabo San Lucas would be pretentious according to the rules you have given to Alexis. Another thing, stop saying "champs, champs, champs, champs".

sherryberry10
sherryberry10

you came in strong..I was interested and then you just became the mean girl version of Tamra. you do bat your eyes better.. And as a Dr wife you should be ashamed you got him involved or is it that he wanted to be to get more business..it is a long line of bad TV shows for him

ElizabethMC
ElizabethMC

Well gosh darn, Heather, you are just the best!!

Beckymgrey
Beckymgrey

Heather, I'm not one of your biggest fan. I think you should have stepped back a bit for the first time out. That being said, you have a beautiful family, home and life. Those shoes at the reunion...I have put those "Cali" on my  FB and I think that for my Christmas/Birthday I am going to get those Choos. Girl You Rocked the Hell out of those "Cali"!

Mielegirl
Mielegirl

Sorry, you did exactly what Sarah wanted you to do by confronting her about the cake.  Ane, it  was like ants on sugar when all the other "Housewives" immediately left what they were doing and converged on the disagreement.  Don't you ladies have anything important to do?

John-In-Ely
John-In-Ely

Oh! My! God!

 

Sarah ate bow.

 

She is a bow eater!

xxxemxxx
xxxemxxx

Heather Dubrow you were great for your 1st season. Sara was so dam rude to do that with the cake I would've thrown her drunk ass out of the party immediatly you still gave her a chance to get herself together but that was too much for her to understand. She is rude and drunk everytime she appears. Maybe she has a drinking problem?!!. You handled is very well. I wouldn't have been so nice. You all need to cut her off. Maybe someone should offer her Mental Help or AA just saying.

burningeden
burningeden

Maybe I'm just too laid back, but having someone break off a tiny piece of my cake, something I'll be CUTTING APART, just isn't on my list of things to get catty about. Sarah admitted she did it. It's not like she was trying to hide it. If she had taken the entire bow then sure, get angry, but she took less than one inch. I doubt you would have noticed it if someone hadn't told you. I suffer low blood sugar and alcohol makes it worse ... which is why I don't drink. When I start to feel woozy and light headed and bad from low sugar ... I will eat anything in the vicinity that can help me. Your cake wasn't ruined. Even YOU said you didn't like it. I'm not defending Sarah because I do think she came there looking for drama, but pinching off a piece of your precious bow on your ugly cake is not the crime of the century. No matter how much you'd like for it to be. I just find it so sad that mothers who have daughters can treat other women the way you all do. I know it's television and drama runs the show, but the high road can be taken occasionally. This was one of those occasions. Don't sweat the small stuff. Life is so much better if you don't. 

auroilli
auroilli

Heather, I like you,you are a great addition to the cast. But I hate when the men get involved in the drama. I like Terry as well,but don't let him become the new Slade. Slade was not as hateful this season. You and Tamara were wrong to join the conversation between Jim and Terry. Beware of Tamara she is way to negitive. She claims she is happy but, she can't keep her nose out of other peoples faults. Talk to her about loving herself so she can love others. Including Eddie poor guy!

_LGB_
_LGB_

@beedlebop: thanks for making my post shorter; I totally agree! Heather, For all the comments about you're being "fake" -- it's easy to see how you tailor yourself to your audience (the girls) to make them feel more at ease and speak freely. Some may call that two-faced or phony, we in New York call it simply good manners. Which makes it all the more puzzling to me why people do not understand the little white lies that are told every day are not disingenuous, but rather pour oil on the troubled waters of society. As far as Alexis is concerned, I like to think you see her differently; I think you see that there is a goodness and light in her, and how that gets lost under her husband's influence. There's a huge difference between stupid and intellectually lazy; yet it seems indisputable that she has a good heart. I hope you can be a good big sister to her & not write her off; after all, if she wasn't worthwhile, you all would not expend so much energy on her behavior. I hope she learns that when all those around her are yelling "Fire!", it's time to make a note of the exits.

_LGB_
_LGB_

@beedlebop: thanks for making my post shorter; I totally agree! Heather, For all the comments about you're being "fake" -- it's easy to see how you tailor yourself to your audience (the girls) to make them feel more at ease and speak freely. Some may call that two-faced or phony, we in New York call it simply good manners. I must say I am baffled that more people cannot see that the little white lies we tell every day are not disingenuous but rather pour oil on the rusty gears of society. As far as Alexis is concerned, I think you see her differently; I think you see that there is a goodness and light in her, and how that gets lost under her husband's influence. There's a huge difference between stupid and intellectually lazy. But despite her immaturity, I don't think anyone could say she doen't, underneath it all, have a good heart. I hope you can be a good big sister to her & not write her off; after all, if she wasn't worthwhile, you all would not expend so much energy on her behavior. I hope she learns that when all those around her are yelling "Fire!", it's time to make a note of the exits.

bettybooop
bettybooop

you are classy and i do like you. But, Tamara? a friend? come on you are smarter than that... look at her track record with friends.  you and Terry beautiful couple and family.. just keep it classy. Be ware of the Tamara.. not for you at all..

jenanna28
jenanna28

you started off classy...slowly these ladies are dragging you down...run while you still can.. and still have a decent reputation...

mountainclimber
mountainclimber

Anyone else sick to death of the expression "breath of fresh air".  Right up there with "baby steps" on RHNJ.

jotigger
jotigger

I find your sense of humor funny. You are a seasoned actress so you are use to dealing with all types of egos and personality issues. Reality is a loose term for these shows because there is editing and of course planned drama or events. But whatever it is I am hooked. Thanks for coming on board to entertain us. 

 

BTW- The bow incident has been the funniest most entertaining drama filled moment on TV lately. I completely agree with you on all counts. Personally if that was my cake at any of my parties, kid or adult I would have; A- Made stupid (aka Sarah)  pay for another cake (just for fun) & B- Ask her and her Escort of a friend to leave. 

Linnie-0711
Linnie-0711

You and Terry are real classy people and you have a great home and family. I would beware of Tamra, she is evil and I think likes being with you guys because you  have everything she wants. She is not a true friend and I am sure one day it will be your turn to be her target.

carolineJB
carolineJB

just want to let you know how much I've enjoyed watching you and Terry this season! Great addition!

PamT
PamT

Heather, I think that you know as well as I do that it was inappropriate for Tamra to sit down on a conversation between your husband, Jim and you.. With all the class you have, you have to know that was none of her business.. They were trying to work out a situation.. They didnt need the help of anyone else.. especially the biggest pot stirrer of the bunch! I want to like you and Terry, but I still am not sure if I do.. You do hurtful things just in what you think is a kinder way... "intervention"

tomcishot
tomcishot

I just love you! You keep it classy and you keep it sane!

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You need to drop Tamra & Gretchen!!

Also, cant your husband speak for himself, you should have stayed out his conversation with Jim!! But then again your husband was such a coward about it, not fessing up & acting like Jim was avoiding the TRUTH, he didnt even get to say anything he asked Terry what he said about Alexis & Terry got all tougue tied & scared looking --- Terry be a man!!! You should have told,Heather it was a conversation between you & Jim & really should have sent the Trash Tamra away!!! 

WVWorkingWife
WVWorkingWife

Wow!!  You may want to reconsider who you invite to your house.  I was just waiting for fur, hair, cake and crystal to start flying!!  A lot of the behavior that night was truly classless.  Not you persay, but I watching the show thinking, "money sure don't buy class!". 

 

I don't blame you for being upset with Sarah.  You know she ate a bit of the cake just to irriate you.  And she deserved to be kicked out for her ongoing drama.  She pretty darn trashy.  Drunk girls should never allow themselves to be filmed! 

 

 

Stay classy Heather!!  You are a level-headed, charming addition to the show.  I hate that Terry got called out for his "phony" comment, but such is life.  That's his opinion and many agree.  Maybe they will get over it in time.  That was most definitely blown out of purportion. 

 

Happy Summer!!

BeccaD
BeccaD

Love the addition of you and Terry!! You both are very down to earth and NOT fake and pretentious as Sarah believes. It was in such bad taste for a grown woman to even touch your celebratory cake.... just baffles me! I still do not understand as to why she was in attendance since she clearly was not invited. The talk with Jim was hilarious!! I loved the way Terry holds himself and speaks the truth, the Jesus Barbie and her sidekick really need to take notes. Congratulations on taking your husbands last name, it is a BIG deal!! No matter what the small minded, uneducated think. It's your party, your day, your celebration and you should be able to do what you want. I loved that you let it go and went about the party only to find a drunken Sarah again in your kitchen bringing the entire thing up again since we know that those who drink too much tend to repeat theirselves over and over...... and then to step OVER the ropes that were blocking areas that people should NOT be.....WOW, now that is ETIQUETTE at its finest!! Again, Congrats and welcome to our homes as well ;)

beth1992
beth1992

You are fabulous and your husband is lovely too. I thought giving Sarah an Oreo was so funny!! She said she had a sugar problem!! What was that all about... if she did then she should have brought sugary stuff with her... although she wasn't actually invited!!!! I was so glad when Slade walked her out the house haha she is so annoying and rude. Well done for keeping your cool Heather! 

DC.RN
DC.RN

Heather~

First your Home is amazing. It literally is what dreams are made of. 

Now, Down and dirty…. Whole heartily, I believe both you and Terry handled the entire bow situation with humor and finesse.

 Where the line blurs, is in the inability to stay out of a semi-private convo between Jim and Teri. I believe you should of allowed them to have their conversation without your or Tamara’s input.   Maybe you wanted to support Terry, being his wife, it was not the best decision but understandable. Tamara however was dead wrong in attempting to take part.  As Sara was the absolute epitome of the American Gypsy meets Tony Soprano, Tamara was a cross between Endora (meddlesome mother in law/ Bewitch) and a typical mean girl.  Though their (Jim and Terry) conversation was taking place in a public venue, if one walks into any public arena and sees two acquaintances engaged in a not so comfy conversation, common decency and etiquette, dictates that if not invited into the conversation, one should stay out of it.  Then to get all righteous and loud, (OMG, he just got up and left who does that) was a bit over the top. Alexis like all of us, has made mistakes. If we all look in the mirror, it is impossible to believe that we will not see things that we could have done or said differently.

 Dragging the Costa Rica debacle out this long is a bit immature on Jim’s part. It is something Jim needs to work out within himself. Why he wants to talk to Terry is beyond me. However, if he doesn’t want to talk about it in the shadow of the cameras, or hang out with the housewives so be it. Tamara is smart enough to understand that she along with Alexis is the catalyst in this situation.

 Everyone talks about being authentic and classy. Well, part of genuine social grace is in understanding that Jim is uncomfortable with the way his wife was and is treated. So the authentic classic social response is to stop hounding Alexis with questions regarding Jim.

I don’t blame you for the way Tamara is acting or for the entire Intervention BS in Costa Rica. I just cannot fathom the why of steamrolling this Alexis is a superficial phony, campaign.  If you don’t like her, then you don’t like her.  But the joint effort in the smear campaign is idiotic.

Honestly Heather, I really admire your sense of humor and resolve. It seems as though it takes a lot to get you flustered. I just hope you can excuse yourself from this tiresome Tamara /Alexis’ showdown. It’s exhausting and  recently, not so comical.

beedlebop
beedlebop

I second the notion that Heather is way too good for the RHOC! BUT if you think about it, Heather is way too sophisticated, articulate and elegant (and fashionable!) to be any California RH and would be a better fit for the cast of NY, where she and Carol can give us--the more educated viewers who are secretly addicted to this friggin show--a reason to not feel so "dumbed down" and embarrassed to watch. Heather, you're not only inspiring as the ideal portrait of a sophisticated woman, but your relationship with Terry gives us single ladies hope that true, lasting love is possible. THAT is what having it all truly means, and it's obvious that you know that. I hope you don't take idiotic comments to heart (they're easy to spot via horrific vocabulary, grammar and spelling--like Sarah's uneducated, sloppy [alcohol infused] writing), and though I hate the stupid "bully" and "jealousy" buzzwords, you are definitely a target for jealousy, as any woman who has such a beautiful life would be.  I'm so glad there's an intelligent, inspiring woman on the show to prove that refinement and big, bright personality aren't mutually exclusive. YOU ROCK, Heather. Seriously.

sarbear89
sarbear89

Your awesome! I wasn't sure about you at first cause you seemed a little stuffy, but the more I saw you this season the more I realized how great you are! You and your husband seem so much more down to earth than you'd think you would be. Good for you, hope you stick with the show

Malibu-Princess
Malibu-Princess

So glad to be represented in the OC.  I get what you mean, it is a bit of culture shock...At times you are the best thing this cast could have had while at other times you talk down to others as if you are their preschool teacher.  I hope we get to see more of the kind compassionate person i believe you are.  Beware of tamra though, as I am sure she will come after you at some point.  Get to know Vicky and Jeanna (even though she is not on the show anymore she's a lovely woman).  Don't let the bossiness get outta hand but when it is your turn to catch hell from Tamra YOU will be the one person who is not afraid of her.  Keep shining shaina meidele

93401angel
93401angel

I find Heather a breath of fresh air and a great addition to the OC. Please teach this haters some class

elliereads
elliereads

Heather, you and Terry are a lovely addition to the cast.  I have enjoyed this season because of you both.  Yours seems like a sweet and loving relationship, and that's nice to see.  Too bad Terry forgot he was being filmed and allowed the word "phony" to escape...his one slip up of the season!

Bravodevotee
Bravodevotee

You are the wittiest, sharpest, and, ironically, the most relatable woman on the whole Housewives franchise. Please, Bravo, bring Heather back next season!

amorenomore
amorenomore

I thought it was hysterical, how you asked the woman who outed Sarah on the whole cake issue, "Do you want some food"?  We have food going around  And why would you involve your other guests like that?  Some hostess...and then you let Tamra get up & fight w/another guest - you should have made her drunk-a** leave!

Beckymgrey
Beckymgrey

Heather I'm on the fence with you but I want to say this: YOUR SHOES FOR THE REUNION ARE THE BOMB(DOT)COM! Go Girl! I'm not a shoe girl but I love those shoes!!!!!!

 

lvingloud
lvingloud

Heather,

 

I just wanted to say that I hope to one day have the same class as you. You were truly AMAZING on trying to handle Sarah and her ways for "itching" for a fight. I honestly say that if it was my party, I would have kicked her out long before you did. I am very happy that you decided to join the cast members this year and hopefully the uninvited cast member and uninvited guest (won't say who) is gone for good next season

LolaGirl1981
LolaGirl1981

Prissy, Uptight, Fancy Pants, Honest, ADORABLE!  Love you!

 

 

zihrena
zihrena

Alexis, PLEASE give Tamra lessons on how to cry REAL TEARS??  This girl was so whiny this season, hiding her face with her hands for a long time and, still, NO TEARS!!  Ugh!

Everythingsducky
Everythingsducky

Heather you are my new favorite! What a great addition! Love Terry too! You have class, resist trash talk, and own what you say! I've seen many others claim the cameras don't lie and I believe it. So nice to see you don't have to backstabbing and trash talk in order to be interesting and you still keep it real. Looking forward to the reunion!

vreid860
vreid860

I  think you got a little carried away about the bow bit. You acted like a spoiled little girl. You try to act so proper, but you are failing to do so.

DCAR
DCAR

Heather you are absolutely my favorite and you had every right to be upset about Sarah eating a part of your cake.  I think you handled it as best you could given the situation and maturity level of the person you were dealing with.   She is completely classless and lacks any sort of social graces and breeding.  A 5 year old wouldn't have done what she did. 

 

 Your husband Terry is awesome and such a breath of fresh air, he cracks me up and seems like a really great guy!  He doesn't owe anyone, especially Jim Bellino, an explanation about why he called Alexis fake!  She is fake and Terry is entitled to his opinion!  God knows Jim has his opinions about the others and I'm sure they aren't complimentary.  So get over it you Bible Thumpin Bellino Clan!   Love Love you and hope to see you and Terry next season!  :)

lisa2270@
lisa2270@

I almost checked out of this season as well. I thought I couldn't stand watching Tamra & Gretchen fight anymore & having a new person added could go either way. I'm glad to say you & Terry are a breath of fresh air. When I first saw the house, I admit I judged. Ohhh fancy pants plastic surgeon & an actress wife in NB living a house big enough for Shaquille O'Neil alone. Wow - who would've thought you would've been the best voice of reason?! Watching you guys on the white water rapids in Costa Rica made me laugh til I cried. That was hysterical. Vicki's face & Tamra's dry-heaving was priceless.

 

As for poor Alexis...I can't even feel sorry for her. She's so brainwashed by the Jim Bellino Cult that she can't even chew gum & drink water at the same time (let alone be on Fox Five...). Jim's treatment of her at your party was disgusting. I can understand him wanting to talk to Terry in defense of her, sure, but it was obviously fake. I'm sure he was told by producers to get dressed up & show up, but as soon as the fire got remotely hot, he bailed. I couldn't even imagine people trying to do business with that guy. Some "christian". But I'm glad he looked fancy in his Chrome Hearts eyewear at $1200 a pop.

 

BTW...Sarah-Who?? She needs to be dumped in a big-way. And, if Alexis & Vicki are with her, then so be it :)

MDViewer
MDViewer

Heather, I really like you.  I think you are a very gracious host.  The way you immediately got up and went to Jim and said you were glad he came and offered to get him a drink showed a lot of class and appeared very genuine.  He was a guest in your home and as a host it was your job to make him feel welcome. 

Please, please, please don't change.  I have watched all of the housewives and inevitably over time they tend to get big heads and egos and become extremely unlikable.  Please stay true to who you are and don't become a mean girl for the sake of drama.  Leave that to the rest of 'em.

angelino
angelino

 @_LGB_

Heather is phony.  talking behind someone's back is not good manners.  Didn't you read what she wrote about Sarah and Alexis talking about her in the car and during lunch.  Apparently if its done to her then it is not good manners.  Alexis didn't really say anything bad about her, just laughed along at what Sarah said. What Heather said every single episode about Alexis was mean spirited and catty.  Alexis has shown a lot of class and restraint this season and good for her. 

jcando
jcando

 @Bravodevotee

 I'd like to see the scale you measure witty...sharp...and relatable.... unless you relate to sneaky desparate troublemaking desparate wannabees?