Cast Blog: #RHOC

Bow No She Didn't

Heather shares her feelings on Sarah and her name-changing party.

I am happy to say I am soaking in the sun in beautiful Cabo San Lucas with my family! I'm so glad that school is over and we are enjoying this amazing kick off to the summer! We are swimming, playing charades, running on the beach, drinking virgin piña coladas (kids), fabulous champs (me!), savoring the third Hunger Games book (obsessed), and well, yes, Tweeting. I have to admit, I'm not that technologically adept. I went from the rotary dial to the iPhone. For some reason though, I love Twitter. It's like mass texting. So fun and immediate. Thank you for all of the amazing feedback! I love all of your comments -- keep them coming!

Well, this episode required a little "digestion". . .I'm now ready to discuss.

I was so excited to finally see Tamra and give her a proper congratulations on her engagement! Tammy Sue is getting married! I couldn't be more thrilled. The pictures of Bora Bora were spectacular! I would love to go there someday! (Hint, hint Terry!!!) I know that Gretchen was really excited for Tamra, too. We were all sad that Vicki was not there to join the celebration. Tamra and Vicki have been friends for so long, Tamra's relationship with Gretchen shouldn't preclude them from continuing their friendship.

Dinner with Alexis and Sarah: For the record, no one is mistaking kindness for being phony. That's ridiculous. Contrary to Sarah's opinion (for whatever that is worth) I'm not jealous of Alexis.

Although I do get Botox, my face is not frozen. I happen to like my children to know when I am angry.

Is it not comical that Sarah is saying this while sitting across from her girlfriend who has had more procedures at age 35 than anyone I know? I have never discussed Alexis' appearance or procedures. Its her body and her business.

Interesting that Alexis sits there at dinner, so righteously indignant about her treatment in Costa Rica, but she is perfectly comfortable having a Heather bashing session. Apparently, behind the back is acceptable. BTW, Alexis I've always admitted to having Botox and fillers. There is nothing about me that is "top secret." So, you are slamming me behind my back AGAIN. Also, we worked things out in Costa Rica and agreed to make a fresh start, however Alexis is perpetuating it by riling up Sarah. Alexis could have told her that I went to her room the next day to check on her and make sure she was OK. I didn't see anyone else in the group doing that. There was A LOT more to the dinner discussion than just being phony.

Notice it was Alexis that invited Sarah to my party. Drunk, rude, uninvited, fraudulent, itching for attention, Sarah.

Finally, Alexis, lambasted me for changing my name at this late juncture. I was a working actress when Terry and I married. I had a company, and my name was part of my brand. We both understood the significance of this. This year was the right time to do it legally (for many reasons). If it doesn't fit into the correct set of rules and regulations you live by -- too bad. Then don't come to my party to celebrate.

PARTY! The flowers were amazing. I LOVE The Square Root! Thanks David -- brilliant as always! My wonderful caterer Brian Dobbin designed the whole look of the furniture outside. It was so sexy and cool.

As Brian can attest there was LOTS of food and it was served from the first moment. I also encouraged people to stop by the kitchen for a heartier plate of food if they wanted more than just heavy appetizers. The diamonds in the champagne were fun! You will have to wait until next week to see who gets the diamond! Sadly, the lipsologist I hired wasn't shown (Editor's note: watch the clip below).


I flew in this incredible gal named Jilly who reads lipstick prints! She was amazing!

The CAKE. . .Well, usually they do such amazing cakes. I have to say, I was a little disappointed. I expected the cake to be bigger. The monogram was a little Sweet Sixteen for my taste. We all know I am little particular. However, it's still a lovely cake and it's what the cake represents that is important to me. (BTW, it was delicious!)

Alexis and Sarah in the car: Sarah is clearly already itching for a fight. She wants to get involved (read: attention). She is starting trouble already. Also, no one is hating. I'm so sick of people who think they are perfect, and can't admit their own faults and issues. If they are called out on anything it's all wrapped up in "people are jealous." Yes, that's it. Everyone is jealous.

Back to the party. . .

Tamra and Eddie arrived first! So glad! They were ready to party! Tamra, Gretchen, and Vicki all brought the loveliest hostess gifts. Not necessary, but truly appreciated!

I was excited to have so many of my close friends that night! Lisa, Donya, Jaye, Sarah C., Dina, Ann, and so many more! This was a special night for Terry and myself.

Listen, you may think it's silly that I am celebrating this event. For me, I am aware that life is short, it's important to appreciate and enjoy every little moment. Terry and I are blessed with an amazing, healthy, fantastic family, and a beautiful life. My kids make fun of me because I cry at every event. So, to me, this a moment I wanted to experience.

Anyway. . .

Alexis walks in with Sarah who already looks impaired. Sarah is EATING the whole time, and she is drinking. Hypoglycemia?!? Oh please. She should do a little more research before diagnosing herself at a doctor's house on national television.To Alexis' credit she is trying to watch Sarah's alcohol intake during the party and encouraging her to drink water. Good luck with that.

Side note: Sarah walked past the ropes in my house, which I find unspeakably rude. I roped the house off so people would stay out of our bedrooms and the kids playroom. This was for the protection of my children. However, no matter what my reasons are, it's my home. You are a guest (albeit uninvited) I would think you would try and be respectful. . .but. . .



So, here we go. . .

Sarah ate the bow off the cake?!? Is she insane? A four year old wouldn't do that! It's tantamount to being at a wedding and defiling the cake before the bride and groom cut the cake!

To add insult to injury, she was completely unapologetic. (A forced apology from Alexis doesn't count.)

There was LOTS of food. Sarah was SHOWN eating. This whole thing is nonsense. I don't believe I am overreacting. Drunk, sloppy, crazy, uninvited Sarah was arguing over something she did on purpose in a cry for attention. When I realized how far gone she was -- I tried to give her an out. I encouraged her to take a break and come back. A time out. I have four children. I know how to handle irrational behavior. That's why it seemed appropriate to offer her an Oreo. It was even a Double Stuff. Should have handled the issue.

Funny how Alexis wants me to let the whole thing go after 90 seconds, but we need to talk about cost rica for the next 5 years.

You would think it would end there and Sarah would slink into the corner, embarrassed over the incident. Well, not exactly. . .

To be continued. . .

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Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Lizzie weighs in on Tamra's nickname for her -- and opens up about her body issues.

We have finally made it to the Reunion and I am happy to say I survived my first season of Housewives. . .Well almost. Next week is Part 2 of the Reunion and I have to admit I pretty much left in tears. I am not a large part of this week’s reunion, but I would like to take this week’s blog and focus on female bullying and body image. As women, I think it is our job to build each other up. We are all mothers, sisters, and daughters. There are so many body image issues among young women and I write this blog for any woman who has had insecurities about her body. If it talks to any of you than it will not have been a waste of time.

I am sure everyone is aware of Tamra's nickname for me, "Kentucky Fried Titties." When I first heard her call me this I thought, "Nah, I won’t even give it energy."  It really is trashy and frankly low-class. However, it was a trigger for me and it really touched on something that I had been self conscious of for my entire life. It sounded exactly like the pre-pubescent boys in my middle school P.E. class. "Hey Lizzie, can I get some fries with that shake." The girls would snicker, "Lizzie's sprouting!!" I grew up hearing a lot of derogatory names targeted at my large chest. I was the girl in fourth and fifth grade that cried when friends had pool parties and wore T-shirts over my swimsuit to cover up my chest. My mom's friends would laugh and say, "One day you will love your assets." But I was always self-conscious.

I grew up dancing and cheerleading and finding uniforms and dance recital costumes was always such a struggle for me. I literally thought about quitting just because of my boobs -- I was so self-conscious and embarrassed. Thank goodness I have such a loving mother that made me feel so much more important than that and didn't let me walk away from something I loved because of body image issues. Even when I started competing in beauty pageants the swimsuit competition was a big thing for me to over come. Some mothers assumed my mom bought me implants at 15. My boobs have always been "up for discussion." At Miss Teen USA, I had to have a special seamstress come in and sew cups in my BodyGlove competition suit because I was bouncing all over when I walked. When I competed in Miss USA, I also had to call in a special seamstress to alter my competition bikini top so it fit my little back and large chest. And, as many of you naturally larger chested women know; real boobs do not "stay put." After I moved to Los Angeles to pursue an acting career I found myself victim to my large chest yet again. I would only be called in for "Hot Girl #2" and roles like that. How could anyone take me seriously with these 34DDD natural boobs at age 21? I had a college degree. I graduated top of my class, I was so much more than "Hot Girl #2", or so I thought.


At age 23, I couldn’t take it anymore, I cried enough over being insecure about my body. It was time to do something about it. I talked to my mom and she took me for my first breast reduction. It was the best thing I ever did. I felt free! It felt so great to go swimsuit shopping and to buy dresses that I didn't have to wear a minimizing bra with! I can honestly say it was the best thing I could have done for myself. I am 5'7" and I always had boobs, so one thing I didn't want to do is get rid of them completely. I still wanted to feel like me and keep some of my natural curves. Perhaps going 34D wasn't small enough or maybe I just have incredible growing breast tissue. Whatever the case, my boobs were huge again six years later. I decided to have another breast reduction right before my wedding. I was the perfect size. Not too big and not too small. . .and then I had kids. So, now I have very large boobs again. I will probably get another reduction when I am done having children, but we want more kids so now is not the time. I guess God wants me to have big boobs! So, excuse me everyone for finally embracing my body.

I know some of you are probably thinking, "Oh poor Lizzie and her big boobs." But it was a real thing to me and I think as women we all struggle with insecurities. We have all struggled with body image issues at least one time in our lives. I have always been a big believer in beauty shining from within. Think about it. How many people do you know that have such beautiful personalities that it shines through and makes me them even more gorgeous human beings? How easy is it to overlook an attractive person who is mean and ugly inside? People start looking like their personalities sooner or later.

How does all this translate into adult female relationships? I think there are many similarities. I think it has a lot to do with self-esteem, acceptance, and respect for others.

I am sure there are tons of people that applaud Tamra for her name calling of me, or of Alexis when Tamra coined the term "Jesus Jugs." I see nothing more than a 47-year-old bully when I see Tamra. I see bullying. Tamra didn't just call me a name in a fit of anger. She made up the name and announced in her interview. Later, she announced on Watch What Happens Live. My question is why? Why is she so proud of this name? (Which, I have to be honest, I have heard before, it’s not even original.) What kind of message does this send to young women? I don't have girls, but I have nieces and I would never want to teach them to be "mean girls." This may seem trite, but I always felt sorry for the bully. Why do they act like that? It always seemed like bullies have a difficult time connecting with people in meaningful ways and thus use relationships for manipulation. Look, if we can put someone on TV and afford them fortune and fame for being a bully, we are exalting that poor behavior, and sadly we as a society give it life.

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