I hope everyone had a great Mother's Day and spent lots of special family time! The weather has warmed up in California -- feels like summer is on its way!
I was very flattered that Slade asked me to go ring shopping! Gretchen and Slade have been together for over three years and it seems like the obvious next step.
I was a little concerned to hear that Gretchen's dad was not completely on board with the idea of them getting engaged right now, but Gretchen is an adult and can make her own decisions. We had a lot of fun looking at all of the different options, so much bling!
When we finally found the "rock" that was perfect for Gretchen, I was thrilled. Slade threw me for a loop (no pun intended) when he suggested a fake stone. I tried to steer him away from that idea. The truth is, they love each other and, as Slade said, the ring is a symbol. The size of the ring isn't relevant; just opening your heart and making that commitment is the key. I like Slade a lot, and I know how much he loves Gretchen. I was hopeful this would work out.
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Mrs Dubrow you add an element of cool Class, similar to those lovely ladies of the East Coast/NYC. How can you maintain a friendship With these OC girls who are totally self absorbed, Insecure and behave ungraciously in your Home when hosting a lovely party in your Honor. Their toxic behavior is ugly...that's Why they live in the burbs of OC. How do you Tolerate their immature behavior?
Heather. You are my absolute FAVORITE of all the housewives (any season) and Terry is my favorite husband. You two are amazing, down to earth, funny, smart, classy, etc... I hope you guys stick around. You bring much needed fresh of breath air to RHOC, to the whole franchise, as a matter of fact.
I am surprised you like Gretchen. She has a potty mouth and has nothing in common with you. I do really like you and Terry. A perfect add on to this show!
yep, you're my favorite too... and I really like Gretchen also... friendships are built between the most unlikely people. kind of like a friendship I have - one keeps us grounded, and one teaches us to just have fun and live in the moment... we've been great friends for almost 20 years.
I hope Gretchen listens to you. She needs to stop listening so much to Slade. She was so in over her head at the Pussycat fiasco thanks to Slade. If you are not qualified for the job, don't set yourself up for public humiliation.
Heather..I am also the mother of 4..All young..lets discuss the steps in your house. How do you navigate that with young kids that could truly break their necks going down the stairs? "Everyone meet at the top of the steps at 7:00 AM...." Your house is amazing. I am always amazed when I see houses with kids and no toys, no fingerprints, etc..HOW DO YOU DO IT??
You are great! Terry is a great husband.Love your honesty and truth.
Heather you and Terry are a breath of fresh air! That husband of yours is too funny.I almost fell off my chair when he was referencing Sarah and asked "Where does she park her spaceship?"
I think you're an absolute doll and a great addition to the cast. You bring some substance to the show.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE come back for another season - - you are a symbol of calm in choppy waters and I love that. At first I thought you were going to be stuck up, but that is absolutely not the case. I guess I am so used to seeing crazy on these housewife shows that I forgot what real people act like on TV. I love watching you and your husband...he is too funny! I just wanted you to know how great you are to watch on TV and I would like Bravo to keep you front and center in this sea of craziness - - It is greatly needed!!!
I was impressed with the advice that you have given Gretchen and even Slade with the ring situation. Just be careful not to do that to much or when it is not asked for. Carolyn on Housewives of New Jersey has received criticism for doing that. I have alot of respect for her. I hope YOU realize how lucky you are to have the husband that you do. He shows so much respect and wants nothing more than for you to be happy. I love his sense of humor. I have to say that maybe instead of telling him he has drinken to much, by saying no more drinks, JUST BECAUSE he gave his opinion of Alexis, which was true and what he really felt. He is an adult and has a right to make statements to. You have of others. When he jokes and you say it was inappropropriate for him to say that. I guess I don't care for the way it APPEARS that you speak to him, like one of the children, instead of giving the respect back to him that he shows you. Would be more enjoyable to just see you laugh at what he says. My husband and I joke with each other often and would have a great time hanging out with your husband. I have to say that I like that you don't seem to get into the drama or stir the pot. I do agree with your perception of Alexis. I would like to see her off the show. Look forward to seeing the remainder of the season. Take care
Heather, at first I didn't know how to receive you, but after a few episodes I think you're pretty cool. I love how you "handle" the ladies with grace and finesse. It's refreshing. Continue to show the rest of the housewives how a woman of "class" should act. They could some lessons!
Nice to read a blog of yours void of name calling and mean spirited personal attacks directed @ Alexis!!
You are awesome. You bring the "real" in real housewives. You are a freshing breath of cool air. Please don't change. I can hardly take Gretchen now.
What a breath of fresh air you are to the show Heather! You are smart & level headed. Don't let this show or the others change you! Be true to yourself. I love the dynamic between you & your husband! There seems to be genuine love & friendship between you.
Three words - I adore you!! ( and Terry!) I love how you started off as freinds with Tamra ( and remain so) and developed friendships with Gretchen and Slade. Be patient with Alexis, I think you could be a great influence on her. Be wary of Vicki - you have to be her friend and her friend only and if you don't agree with her she will attack you. You and Terry have really rejuvinated RHOC.
Why can't everyone like Alexis and Jim? They seem to always get the shaft...anyway love you and your husband! Great add on to the OC :-)
Love, Love , Love you & Terry! What a challenge to step into this ongoing drama-com and keep your poise and remain true to character. Don't change a thing, both of you's!
I especially liked the conversation that you & Dr. Dubrow had on your cell phone in your car. So cute & so real! Love watching you both! Take care, Tam.
i agree heather...you bring a calmness to the girls. there not as catty when your around.you are teaching the to be nice to one another and support each other.i love love love your husband!!!! he is very funny. i loved it with hi and tammera!!!he's very nice for being a dr. they usually are not to nice of people.
Heather you are a wonderful edition to the show! I was getting tired of all the petty crazy antics & you brought sanity back to the OC!!!
You only get better every show!! I love watching you. I love how you treated the whole Gretchen/Slade situation. I would definitely want you to be my friend. You are the kind of friend that everyone needs. You are a good listener, a confidence keeper and you support people... VERY WISE WOMAN!! Love you on this show!
I enjoyed watching you help Slade shop for a ring. The editing was not the best, as the clock behind the jeweler read 9:45 when the scene opened and 9:30 when it ended.
You need to give Alexis a chance. Tamra puts the hate in hateful. You all can see how lovely Alexis is, for some that's a reason to be mean to her. Also, she talks way too much, that's another reason that makes it easy to jump on the let's hate on Alexis bandwagon.
You seem like you like to be large and in charge. So, do it. Take the reins and treat Alexis with some respect. Other people will be guided by your treatment of her.
Heather I love you on the show!!!! You and Gretchen are my absolute favorite!!!! So glad you both are growing close and getting along! Tamra is fake and has mean hateful things to say about everyone! Vicky is insane and tries to portray as miss perfect but she is far from it! Alexis is okay she's just a little coocoo at times but she's not such a bad person like tamra says! I love you and terry together ya are definitely my favorite couple and the funniest!
Thank you for calling Alexis on her nonsense. I don't consider it catty in the least; just the truth. Sanity is your greatest gift to the show. Don't let the Alexis brigade here drag you down.
I really like you on this episode. I agree, it is great not to see you bashing Alexis.
I think you two could be friends!
I see can why you would like Gretchen and Slade, pretty much everything about their financial situation is on the table and they don't try to compete with the other castmates, Alexis is always talking about money, how much things cost and all the things that she has, and her WHATEVER YOU HAVE OR WHATEVER YOU DO, I CAN TOP IT attitude is so ANNOYING!!!
I LOVE your husband. So refreshing. Great personality, funny, kind, doesn't seem to take himself too seriously, but takes you seriously. I love it. I am going to show some of the scenes with your husband to my daughters so they will know what qualities they should look for in a partner. Money is great, but not if the guy is a jerk! And really in for miserable with a jerk and no money! Loved your comments to Slade about the meaning of a ring, too. Happy you are on this show!
All the real housewives in the world MUST love you. You give a validity to the thankless job like nobody has ever tried before. I am sorry that you didn't get the part in Canada but glad for you that it worked out for the best. You are a beautiful women with many talents and can do anything that your little heart desires. Kudos to you!!
Heather is like a breath of fresh air on this show! Just the shot of common sense and warmth that it needed. She seems so sincere. I love it when she goes to a restaurant and thanks the staff. She seems so gracious and classy. And her husband adores her. Heather is an awesome addtion to the cast. Thanks so much.
Heather, as if not mentioning Alexis in your blogs is going to erase the HOURS you've spent this season obsessively talking about her. Further, those of us with eyes and ears who have been watching this season can tell you that your posturing in trying to convince us that you are somehow above the drama because you don't mention her in writing, and it will somehow translate into you taking the high road, a la Vicki, is unbelievable.
YOU WILL HAVE YOUR OWN SHOW BEFORE ITS OVER..NO DOUBT ABOUT IT.WOULD REALLY LIKE YOU TO BE RUNNING THE WHITE HOUSE THO...THINK ABOUT IT..GIVE IT A WHIRL.YOU WONT LET US DOWN...
Sooooooo glad you/hubby focused on the positive and didn't bash Alexis. Kind of the old...if you have nothing nice to say, don't say nothing at all : ) I really was waiting for the bash. The idea your giving Slade a chance is great! I like him...see his negatives...but he is a person who has been given a raw deal with the economy. Slade seems to support Gretchen and that is truly how it should be between partners...kudos to him. Tamra sure fake cries when she wants something...like a ring GMAB. Dummy knew her marriage was on the rocks when she did this.
I think you are a great addition to the show. You bring humility where there is none. How ironic, huh? You're real and I hope you can influence the others. You're not one to jump to an opinion, you're fair, honest and carry yourself with such grace and class. RHOC needed class and you brought it. Be careful of Vicki. If you don't agree with Vicki, you're out. The fact that you don't work until midnight every night is three strikes against you in her book. You need to handle that woman with kid gloves. She's a hot mess. Stay sane. The show needs you.
Heather - You are the best thing to happen to this show in a long time! You and your adorable husband are so great together - it is so obvious how much he loves you and supports you - how wonderful! I like that you are good friends with Tamra and Gretchen, and loved that you all participated in the mud run - what fun! It appears to me that Alexis is intimidated by you and will try to "one-up" you as she has done with her other friends, in particular, former cast member Peggy. It really is pitiful to watch her sometimes. I would also keep my guard up with Vicki. She appears to be a control freak who must dominate all of her relationships. It was ridiculous how petty and jealous she was when Tamra became friends with Gretchen. I was also appalled at how she made Brianna's surgery all about her, and how it would affect her, not her daughter. Anyway, I would just be careful around her. I hope you continue on the show; you are a delight to watch!
Heather, Love you and your family. Keep up all the positive vibes. Such a great addition. Oh, and love your home.