Heather Dubrow

Heather explains the motivation and meaning behind her name change.

on May 27, 20120

Lunch with my dear friend Dina Waters was fun to watch. We have known each other for many years and I cherish our time together. She's smart, honest, cares about me, and she gives sound advice. All amazing qualities to have in a friend. I feel so grateful and blessed to have her in my life.

The DMV! I was actually nervous to go there. That trip finalized my name as Heather Dubrow! It was the first time I ever signed that name. Very strange. Meanwhile, they didn't think I was very funny at the DMV. Maybe you didn't either -- but I amused myself. Sometimes that's all that is important!

Telling Terry I had legally changed my name was a great moment. I loved his reaction. It totally touched my heart to see how much it meant to him.

225 comments
bthomps849
bthomps849

Heather, you took your husband's name to show him your love, but lately you have really been cruel to him. You showing signs that the other housewives showed before heading to divorce court.

KelseyC
KelseyC

Heather-

I adore you! I think you are by far the most sane person on this show. I love what you have to say about your husband and your family, and you seem to genuinely care. I sort of have to agree that maybe that wasnt the best way to approach Alexis (although she is pretty weird). Continue to be the honest and charismatic person you are! Its definitely refreshing.

Oklahoma Viewer
Oklahoma Viewer

OK, I already love the cake clip, Heather is right, that cake looks nothing like the lady described. Apparently the owner or rep couldn't convey the design to the cake team either. To hillarious, I would refuse to pay as it is not at all as requested. One it is small and doesn't STAND OUT AS A CENTERPIECE and second IT IS NOT BLACK, WHITE AND SILVER, ELLEGANT AND SPARKLY LIKE DIAMONDS.

Ambygirl
Ambygirl

Well, I may be the first to say, I don't think you were bullying Alexis. You were actually trying to give her some sound advice and be nice to her but it didn't come off the way I know that you wanted it to. Tamra did not help, she just has a way sometimes of sounding mean. I like Tamra and I feel like Alexis has been the one being mean to her! Tamra is just a little defensive because of how Alexis has acted towards her. You are a class act and always a lady. I cannot tell you how refreshing that is!! It makes me as a woman want to strive to be more like you every day instead of letting silly, petty things get in the way. You like to have fun and are a motivating force for many women. I'm so glad to see you helping some of these ladies ' get their act together' so to speak. You are a wonderful influence! Look forward to seeing more from you.

catdog
catdog

Heather You are like a breath of fresh air added to the show. You call it like you see it and in my opinion, you are right on the money. I like your no nonsense way of thinking. Your family and home are absolutely beautiful and I think you and your husband would be a kick to spend time with. I like his quick dry witty sense of humor. He says it like it is as well and you can't get more real than that. I'm glad you joined the cast.

sara k
sara k

I agree with the previous comment that you seem like a class act and was also puzzled that you joined in on Tamara's low rent bulling of Alexis. Alexis is not as articulate, sophisticated or confident as you and as such she comes off as phony at times. Give her a break - it just brings you down to join in on the mean girl stuff. You seem like you would be above that - and don't we all come off as pretentious at times. e.g. calling champagne "champs"? :)

<3 Alexis
<3 Alexis

For someone that claims to have as much class as you, I was really surprised by the way you jumped on the mean girl wagon with Tamra. With all that money you have, you should buy your self some etiquette classes. :)

Linnie01
Linnie01

Your husband is has a great personality. If I were you I would go back to my old friends, these new friends are not true, especially Tamra.

lighthouse2000
lighthouse2000

Heather, I like you on the show you definitely bring some class to the show.However I think you are making a huge mistake when it comes to Tamara .Don't be so gullible she may smile in your face but I guarantee you she is after your husband.She has street game and is a hussler she is always looking out for #1.You may not like Alexis but at least she isn't out trying to get with your husband.Its so obvious Tamara's running game on all you ladies that is except for Alexis.Don't be Scared stand up for yourself and each other.

realhousewifenotinorangecounty
realhousewifenotinorangecounty

Heather, couldn't agree more that you are one of my favorites on this show, yet it is so disappointing you would participate in bullying Alexis. While you seem great about staying neutral and diplomatic about the other ladies, it is confusing why you feel the need to judge Alexis and can't just accept her and her life as different than yours.

Hannah from Portland, OR
Hannah from Portland, OR

I thought that you would be refreshing but you are mean. What is happening to Alexis and her family -- finances -- is happening to the rest of us -- we have our financial troubles and we try to hide it. In all the Real Housewives shows noone else has been ganged up on like the way you, Tamra, Gretchen ganged up on Alexis. After the way you all ganged up on Alexis, I have decided not to watch this show anymore. Mean, Mean, Mean.

Viewer Eve
Viewer Eve

Cat got your tongue, miss perfect? Where's the blog?

lallaw
lallaw

Heather you seem like a class act. Which is why I was so puzzled and disappointed that you allowed yourself to get drawn in by Tamara's thinly veiled bullying of Alexis. Intervention? Nonsense. The first rule to any true intervention is no judgmental behavior allowed. What happened turned into an exercise in mean girls mob mentality. It became cruel and was hard to watch.

I hope you are able to keep your own, true perspective if you stay with this show. Otherwise you will end up playing the "Game of Blondes." Much like the Game of Thrones, if you play you either win, or you "dye."

Michelle44NJ
Michelle44NJ

Heather, I was so happy when you came on the show. I was so happy to see a east coast girl. Well, I read your bio after seeing the last episode in Costa Rico and you are an east coast upper echelon girl and you certainly act like it. I'm a city girl and you are definetely a stuffy suburban girl who thinks they are better than everyone else. Why would you treat Alexsis like that? So, she is not the sharpest knife in the drawer, but I am starting to realize that she is not phony at all. She is really being herself and trying to be as smart as the rest of you, but she is not. Give her a break--making someone cry like that when she had no one to talk to. it's not like she could go home to her husband that night. I'm 44 years old and that just wasn't right. We are all out of high school. I was just starring at the T.V. and talking to myself wondering why I am watching a show go from entertaining to just a bunch of crazy, jealous, back stabbing women. You are so lucky to be married to a plastic surgeon who looks like he adores you. You don't have to worry about money. The economy hasn't quite gotten back on its feet; so, maybe plastic surgery will slow down and you will have to make some cut backs like not going to Costa Rico and feel what it's like to live like normal everyday people which you are not. You are so concerned about Alexsis lying about fiances and so forth. She doesn't have what you have and is trying to fit in. Believe me, Alexsis is not my favorite and never was. But I am just so disappointed in you and Tamra that I just don't know if I can watch this show again. This never went on when Laurie and others were on the show. I hope you never work in the television industry again after the way you act. I can't stand girls like you. Girls from the east coast that grew up in suburbeon areas always think they're better than everyone else. YOU ARE NOT.

kitty cat
kitty cat

In this show, I would hang on dearly to the adage: If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

lily1234
lily1234

Heather, You attack Alexis then you play nice guy the following day with your warm words and fake hug. You seem to be a snake in the grass when it comes to Alexis. How dare you try and fix Alexis's behavior. Why don't you fix your own behavior? You seem so jealous of Alexis. Hey, she may not have the money you have but she has the beauty and that seems to be killing you my friend. If your so smart you should know that you cannot change anyone but yourself. Why don't you work on your own issues and leave Alexis alone. She did nothing to you. DON'T HATE HER BECAUSE SHE BEAUTIFUL.

bravo fan from PA
bravo fan from PA

I think you are a fabulous addition to this show! I laugh out loud @ your "Oh dear's" and "Oh my's" You've gotten quite the education from some of these gals and I find you authentic, smart and very funny!

HOMER
HOMER

Heather - I love how you fly under the radar and take the high road. I think these girls are too young and wild for you. You are not a therapist as you are trying to be and I think you should really focus on your family. You shouldn't be on this show, you don't fit in. I like you husband, I would watch him over you!

marcias
marcias

Thanks for being the sensible one on this show...in your actions and your clothes. I would give up trying to tell Alexis about her pretentious ways...she will never get it. Oh yea...I loved your earrings that you wore the night of the dinner...can you tell me where you got them?

kpdc12
kpdc12

Very nicely said 'Submitted by Gina V. on June 6, 2012' and totally on point!

maddiejo
maddiejo

overheard between a father & his son. Did you aleast get the point of his comments?

Next, season Tamara will either hate you or Vicky.

Fayeth
Fayeth

Heather, it seems you allowed Tamra to sour you on Alexis before you even met her and you can't seem to let it go. You talk about her at every opportunity when she has done nothing to you to deserve it. I would think you would be more upset with Tamra who dragged your husband into the middle of her argument with Alexis and even exaggerated saying that he said she was the "MOST phoney PERSON HE EVER MET!" If I recall correctly he simply said "phoney." He may know 100 other phoney people, all just as phoney as he believes she is (maybe more) but that isn't the way Tamra put it. She threw your husband in the mud and then drug him through it, but you forgave her immediately yet won't let go of your negative opinion of Alexis who in no way deserves to be treated the way you and (especially) Tamra have treated her.

sandandi
sandandi

Heather, I was excited to see you added to the show. You are lovely and have a lovely family and I was hopeful you would be able to soften Tamara some. Unfortunately, that did not happen. Please understand that I am not a hugh fan of Alexis; however, it makes me cringe to see people gang up on one person, especially one who is not capable of fighting back efficiently. To me it is so obvious that Alexis is insecure and I am surprised you did not see that for yourself. Tamara sees nothing but what concerns her and for some reason Alexis is personal to her. I am getting sick of this show and all the "mean girls". Don't know that I can continue much longer. It started out as such fun.

Lindsay
Lindsay

Heather, Stop attacking Alexis, if you don't like her, stay away from her. If you are as intelligent as you claim to be, why can't you see that Alexis may have serious problems, attacking her solves nothing. Your alliance with Tamara is making you look sooooo bad! I enjoy watching you and your family, but truthfully, when you are around the other women, you turn into a know-it-all!

lallaw
lallaw

Heather you seem like a class act. Which is why I was so puzzled and disappointed that you allowed yourself to get drawn in by Tamara's thinly veiled bullying of Alexis. Intervention? Nonsense. The first rule to any true intervention is no judgmental behavior allowed. What happened turned into an exercise in mean girls mob mentality. It became cruel and was hard to watch.

I hope you are able to keep your own, true perspective if you stay with this show. Otherwise you will end up playing the "Game of Blondes." Much like the Game of Thrones, if you play you either win, or you "dye."

Viewer from Livermore
Viewer from Livermore

Heather, you are a breath of fresh, reasonable, normal air. I think what Alexis may have been trying to relate with regards to her ring was the practice a lot of women have of wearing "falsies" when travelling. Yes, they can be stolen just the same, but the fake is a lot cheaper to replace and comes without the sentiment attached.

LizzLemon
LizzLemon

You were kind when you confronted Alexis. You didn't scream at her or use nasty language. You were being honest and up front about how you felt. I really like Tamra but I don't think her yelling helped anything :(

I think some of the people on this blog need to look at themselves. Saying you shouldn't judge...but they are judging you. Like people have never gossiped atleast once in their life about someone. I enjoy the show for what it is and I don't act like I know you ladies personally. Who knows how Alexis really acts or how any of these ladies really act...the show is meant to entertain and I can say you've kept me tuned in lol.

Mary Jill Schmidt
Mary Jill Schmidt

You are a breath of fresh air! I love the way you & your husband interact. Like two people who are, lovers & best friends. You two truly enjoy each other. That's how it is with my Husband & I. We are going on 30 years ( yes, he's trying to save up enough money for a strand of peals.) & he was, is & always be my everything. I applaud you & Terry!

Now, the women. I hope & pray that you can show them how to be friends. I have a core group of friends & we would never talk to each other the way they do. I know that drives up ratings but to be so hateful to another person just blows my mind. Good luck & thank you for a refreshing view!

LuvBravo!
LuvBravo!

Terry blurts out a comment about Alexis to Gretchen, Gretchen shares it with Tamra, Tamra can't wait to bash Alexis and repeat the comment. The tale comes full circle and Tamra fesses up to repeating what Terry said about Alexis. Why couldn't you all just apologize about making nasty comments behind Alexis's back instead of bashing her further?

mel@redondo
mel@redondo

Definition of fake- one that puts off airs or material means, that are not reality.

Alexis- puts off an air & hints to the fact that they are more successful at making money than they are. (By the way, has nothing to do with wearing a faux wedding ring, or renting her home.)

Tamra- puts off an air of the fact that she is richer than she is. Tells many lies to a person face, yet in her interview, states the opposite as fact. Hides many faults in her character, yet accuses others of knowing for a fact, that they have the same character flaws of which she possesses.

Heather- puts off airs, to the fact that she is supremely smarter, classier, prettier, than most people, at the same time humbly denying any arrogance in her character, & puts off airs that she has only good character traits, yet many of these traits, she has a moderate awareness of.

All of us can be or have been misleading, or fake, at one time or another. In my opinion, you, & your OC friends, are being hypocritical. It is best to say nothing, of the things you know nothing about! It's also a good idea to try to at least, live the "GOLDEN RULE," as part of your life's mantra, & daily goal, is to be CLASSY! After all, living by the golden rule is one of the many facets of a life lived with class!

Beee
Beee

You should have taken Alexis aside and confronted her one on one, like she said she would rather do. Instead you immaturely insisted on doing it by ganging up on her with Tamra by your side. Nobody wants to be called out on their character and told they need to change by four women at a dinner table. It's called bullying. I'm not even really a fan of Alexis. But you and Tamra are so catty together talking about her and saying things like "she's insecure, is that why she dresses like that?" It just kind makes you both seem jealous. And in the next scene Gretchen and Alexis have on practically the same outfit! you're all over the top materialistic women, this is real housewives for goodness sake! You have an elevator in your house! America is not watching you thinking, oh she is so down to earth. I think you're materialistic, as well as almost every other housewife in every franchise. And thats why i watch, i love watching women with fabulous lifestyles i wish i had. But when you call somebody else out on it, it makes you look PHONY.

vienna tzatcheva
vienna tzatcheva

All the caring you showed is for other to Uh and Ah that You Are So Great. It is about that huge Self you have created and trying to maintain. How do you feel about yourself? Proud?

A_J_
A_J_

Heather ~ in the same manner Alexis tosses out "phoney" comments about fake rings, cars, etc. You have tossed out just as much about your acting career. Maybe Alexis is insecure about her finances and feels the need to keep up with the Jones, the same way the perception of you with acting appears to be insecure. All that you accomplished was a long time ago, and you kicked off the show talking a lot about your history accomplishments as though you wanted America to know you use to be somebody, and you're not just this stay at home Mom, married to a rich doctor. That you had a career and you're a hard worker. Check! You're first scene on the show was bragging to Tamara about your house, give me a break!

Blaidd
Blaidd

Love ya Heather! So nice to see someone with some intelligence on this show. You and Tamra are hilarious. You have a knack for hitting it right on the head. You can run circles around the other girls. Keep it up and I will keep watching the show!

Rose T
Rose T

I truly am a Bravo fan and had always loved the original RHOOC. For a long time I was a fairly religious viewer. I don't watch much TV considering my schedule but I always made time and set that DVR for this show. However, over the past few seasons it hadn't been the same OC I had once loved so much. Something was desperately missing from the whole group dynamic. THANK-FULLY you have now come on. Guess they needed a strong, intelligent, humble, gracious and truly classy NY woman to set this show and these woman back on track. I love that you have come on. I'm sure making the choice to broadcast you and you're families life, as well as opening the doors of you're home for all the world to see perhaps may have been a difficult decision, but I just want to say Thank You. You appear to be an extremely admirable, gracious and loving mother with a very supportive husband. I wish you and you're family nothing but the absolute best and again want to say Thank You. I'm finally tuning back into the housewives on the West Coast and just like I had during the earlier seasons I'm LOVING the show once again. XoXo

B J
B J

Well Heather, I think the only reason you are on this show of classless ladies is that you want a career in show business, can't figure out how to get back in it so you go on this OC program to play a part. You pick on other cast members for the same reasons you have money and spend it on over expensive things because you can. Being a sidekick of Tamera's shows me that you enjoy her company, like to talk about others and hurt people just to hurt people as you have a very successful husband and money is NOT a worry like it is to most people in this country. Give yourself a short breath of fresh air, get away from Tamera and THINK before you open your mouth. Give some compassion for a change.

kpdc12
kpdc12

Seriously, you and Tamra should read Alexis' blogs from so many viewers for a little "intervention" of your own. CR was your's and Tamra's feelings . . . .two people on their thrown of judgement. So many viewers have comments about you both and your behavior. If you felt so strongly that Alexis needed to know how you felt/how she comes across, then the same should be true for you and Tamra. Go read just a few of the so many responses to the episode and know that your high opinion of yourself is not shared by many of the viewers. Bravo take note please. This episode was uncalled for!

Uk viewer
Uk viewer

You have been married all this time had all these children and now when you are on a show where you are getting air time under your married name do you decide to change your name at long last .... Seriously you did this for love you did it as no one nows who the heck you were are people really not seeing this for what it is. Also the whole you just want people to be authentic to poor Alexis you are married to a plastic surgeon for goodness sake your whole life is supplemented by people who do not want to be authentic just think before you jump on that band wagon . You really have backed the wrong horse in this race you have made yourself and your husband not look all that great Paul from the Beverley Hills show has never been rude in that way about another woman .

been watching forever
been watching forever

I love you on this show. You are the voice of reason and you are so funny! You have a vary good sense of logic wen dealing with the other wives. I enjoy watching your style when handling gossip. You shut things down! You always have something to say that explains why another woman is acting the way they are - you never jump to conclusions! I love you on the show!!!! And you are pretty darn silly and down to earth but have high standards.. love it!

cheekygirl
cheekygirl

Heather,

Alexis was right to call out Terry if he was speaking ill of her within her earshot. If he didn't realize she could hear him, he found out soon enough.

You and Tamra plan an intervention with Alexis in Costa Rico. At dinner that night, you repeatedly bated Alexis on whether Jim would be going to Terry's get together. Alexis FINALLY admits that it's related to what Terry says. You THEN say "well, since you brought the subject up...". Talk about being fake!

Tamra has repeatedly said she is not Alexis' friend and I believe she has proven that on many occasions. You certainly don't know Alexis well enough to call her friend. Why do you think you are qualified to have a public intervention with her? Oh, that's right... in the name of HONESTY!

If you wanted to explain yourself to Alexis, do it in private (and then KEEP THE CONVERSATION PRIVATE!!!!!!!). If you felt so justified in speaking to her, then there would be no reason to have backup.

Stay away from Tamra. You are starting to stoop down to her level.

Eva from Sunny California
Eva from Sunny California

Heather, I like you. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes and without all the viewers telling you, you know by now what a mistake you made in the way you handled Alexis in Costa Rica. We all recognize you as a smart, classy and polished women, with that said wouldn't you be more effective by teaching Alexis how to be a graceful person? Wouldn't you be more effective speaking to her in private on a one on one basis. Embarrassing another human being brings no value to the world. We the viewers can see that Alexis is a work in process. Why are we so determined to fix everyone? Why can't you take her under your wing and teach the valuable lessons that life has taught you? That would be what God, Jesus or Buddha would want from you. It is often said that when we lash out at people it is because we see in them things about ourselves that we don't like. Alexis has some personal growth that she needs to go through but we all do. Alexis is not a personal favorite of mine but I think she and all people deserves to be treated with respect and dignity. She came from a small midwest town and is trying so hard to fit in with you gals. That is so obvious to the viewing public surely you can see that as well. Surround yourself with people that can treat you kindly and do the same in return. I am blessed to have women in my life that applaud my successes and hold my hand when I am down. BRAVO please post this!! Kindness makes this a better world to live in. I think we the viewers are smart enough to appreciate people living well and striving to be better human beings.

Team Heather
Team Heather

LOVE you, LOVE Terry!!!!!! Was about to give up on all the RH shows because of no classy, smart, likeable women, and then you arrived and saved the day! Thank you for being the breath of fresh air that you are. Hope you and Terry stay around for a long time.

LfromBAMA
LfromBAMA

I dont see of the negative personality traits you have,so quickly judged Alexis of having.She may use the wrong words-news anchor instead of special segments reporter,or maybe tells too much of her personal,financial business and shes really not understanding what shes trying to explain but I dont see her as phony, or trying to be one upping or being better than anyone.You have been on the show one season,and in maybe what six scenes and have lead in the bashing of her from the get-go.Your snap judgements of Alexis or anyone one on the show is totally inappropriate as a new comer and only creates snap judgements of your character.For instance,it appears you dont think for yourself,can be led by the nose from the one who has the worst attitude and biggest mouth-not to mention a business dipper.Also all you have done is brag about an acting,singing,comedy career you have and I heard of you.Seems like the personality traits you speak about Alexis are your own.

Jelly Bean
Jelly Bean

I can't help to think that blogs written to you about Alexis are blogs that are coming straight from her or her "peeps." You are right, she doesn't seem very "cerebral" and should tone it down a bit. I enjoy watching you and Terry. I think you both are genuinely good people, very grounded, and positive role models not only to your family, but friends and viewers. Keep up the good work!

Kat Doherty
Kat Doherty

I love watching you on the show, wasnt sure at first, but you seem to be the grounded one! too much drama, screaming, crying, back stabbing , well it IS a show i guess lol-- but its nice to have a quieter, classier one in the bunch ! Others may not like you because you are more intelligent, more calm, or you dont talk about vaginas, or boobies all the time but please, some of us are over 35!

T-Girl
T-Girl

Heather, I thought you were a class act when the show started. Please stay away from Tamara, she is trailor trash and bringing you down with her. You should have talked to Alexis in private. Tamara is always bullying someone. She is a mean classless person and starting to wear off on you. Better be careful she has had everyone gang up on every single person on the show not to mention she has had no ones back for very long Guess who is next.

bclvnv
bclvnv

Heather, next time you go the "ladies" houses, look for wheels under their homes, they're nothing but trailer park next to you.

Lisa B
Lisa B

What you and they other women called an "intervention" in Cabo is actually what most people call a bullying session. Exactly who was the moderator? All I saw was a bunch of grown up women ganging up on another. I like you but a word to the wise, watch out for Tamara. Every season she she pits one housewife against the other and has made enemies of best friends. Last year Gretchen was was bullied by Tamara and Alexis stood by her the whole time. Now Tamara all of a sudden becomes best friends with Gretchen and turns her against Alexis. You may think Tamara is so great now, but that could change very quickly. Just saying.

CarolinaFan14
CarolinaFan14

At first I didn't think I'd like you, but after a few episodes you have become one of my favorites. I think you always confront situations with calmness and class. You always know the right thing to say. I wish I could be like that! Glad you're a part of the show!

kpdc12
kpdc12

Excellent post 'NotreChâteau' and good for you to include the bunco scene in which Heather was condescending & untruthful (as viewers could witness) to Alexis about Terry's blatant mockery.