Cast Blog: #RHOC

Lay Off

Heather wonders what Alexis was just so up in arms about during the painting party and discusses Terry's jokes.

Before I talk about this week's show, I'd just like to say thank you so much for your comments. Although some are negative, they were mostly positive and encouraging. I never thought I'd do a reality show. It's very strange to be under a microscope, and I really appreciate the support. Please also remember: this was new to us. I hope you all can get to know our family for who we really are, as we got comfortable in this medium. (Side note: I was not in the movie Space Slugs -- that was someone named "Heather Dubow." I'm Heather Dubrow. Check out my page under Heather Paige Kent.)

My dinner with Terry, yes, I know I will get a lot of flak for that dinner, but I like things the way I like them. If you are at a restaurant and paying for a meal, it should be to your taste. However, always be kind to servers and even if you are picky (like me). Make sure you're extra kind so no one is offended!

As for Terry, he is a jokester and even though I do cook he likes to joke about it. . . It can still be annoying sometimes, but he means it to be funny. And for the record, I don't send my food back 90 percent of the time. . .only if it's undercooked, which is why I asked for the thin piece of fish. If it's thick it won't cook through! I mean seriously? Am I really explaining this?!?

Painting party. . .The ladies reactions to my invitation was hysterical. No one seemed to understand or be that excited by the prospect, but I knew they would enjoy it when they got there!

Can you believe that food! My caterer (Brian Dobbin) is amazing and I love that he prepared a healthy and scrumptious low carb meal!

There's a lot I can say about the party, but to me the big deal was about. . .ALEXIS! So, you met me at Vicki's party, we talked for two minutes, I invite you to the painting party and you are ALL OVER ME?!? You want to play with the big girls? Game on. . .

First of all Vicki said "there was no good restaurants in the O.C." Why are you ragging on me and not her? There are some lovely places here, but not as many as L.A., and certainly not like NYC. This is my opinion. Lay off.

Sex shop talk. . .I was not comfortable with this conversation. I barely knew these girls and they were talking about oral sex!!! I made a joke ("I'm married and I don't have to do this anymore.") in the hopes of shutting down the conversation, and Alexis jumps down my throat . Trust me dear, I will be married in 10 years. I just don't think it's appropriate to discuss sex with strangers, especially at a party!

Then while painting, you ask me what my special gifts are, I answered the question (acting, singing, etc.), then you take me to task for it??? If you don't want to know, don't ask!

Terry walks in, and as usual, the talk turns to surgery. Yes Alexis, we know you don't need the knowledge of plastic surgery, you have had enough procedures to know what he's talking about.

Finally when Terry was making jokes about weddings and our marriage, I walked out of the room to shut it down. I didn't guzzle a drink, I had the last sip of champagne in my glass, told Brian that Terry had gone cuckoo, then I came back and tried to regroup. I didn't want to fight in front of new friends. That doesnt make me an actress, Alexis, it makes me an appropriate party hostess! Bottom line: You just met me, lay off. If you have a real issue with me, then we can talk.

Well, one more thing. . .Terry is not off the hook for his behavior. He was doing his usual "vaudeville" routine about our marriage, weddings, etc. I was really embarrassed in front of the girls. He was meeting everyone for the first time! He thinks he is being funny, and it went too far. My feelings were hurt. We discussed it later and he understands how I feel about jokes at my expense. I'm sensitive! He apologized, and, of course, I forgive him. He's a great guy and I love him dearly, but it's always good to work on your marriage and be open and honest with each other.

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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